Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / New
Stats: 3,206,416 members, 7,995,686 topics. Date: Wednesday, 06 November 2024 at 02:20 PM

Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry - Religion (3) - Nairaland

Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Religion / Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry (25611 Views)

Bishop Abioye In Winners Chapel's Jet Enroute A Mission Trip / Bishop David Abioye: "Don't Vote For People That Value Cow More Than Life" / Bishop Oyedepo And Bishop Abioye Visit Ile-ife, Osun And Kinshasha Congo (2) (3) (4)

(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (Reply) (Go Down)

Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by Nobody: 6:40pm On Jun 21, 2019
Angelfrost:


Let's desist from misconstruing simple statements, shall we?... Regardless of culture or demography, what business does a grown man without a financial backbone have getting married, and starting a family?.. Would you bless your daughter's marriage to a man without a good income or source of income?...

Everything is not about feminism or sexism... It's just common sense.
thank u oo
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by Sonnobax15(m): 6:41pm On Jun 21, 2019
This is one reason i don't qo to church any lonqer...these niqqaz who call themselves pastors won't stop puttinq unnecessary pressure on quys!...lax lax,the crime that quys commit just to meet up with the need of such brainwashed ladies would be preached aqainst in their pulpit...lemme repeat this as a christain,90% of niqerian churches na scam!...*spit*

1 Like

Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by Sonnobax15(m): 6:44pm On Jun 21, 2019
jchioma:
That's good. Women need to up their game.

If a man cannot provide for his woman, however little or much, base on his standard and condition,
please RUN!
lax lax,I hope this mentality of yours won't compel you to be at shiloh 2030 cha
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by Johnson5258: 6:51pm On Jun 21, 2019
Sir, i humbly request we look into this holistically, he said ''commitment'' meaning- the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc. it doesn't matter whether you have it all but still show concern not that a man will be stealing his wife money to drink & sleep with prostitute while she is away working out for there love and defending her home while the man is keeping side chick, it's a different case if he loose his job. A woman who foot the bills in the house is the same as the woman called a widow and can never be happy all the days of her life regardless of the love. He is even fair by mentioning domestic bills, when a woman is the anchor, then she is prone to attack, especially when her boss insist she sleeps with him and she has no choice against her will but such treat doesn't so much befall men, the woman is nothing but a miserable woman. Am not married but am not an advocate of woman footing the bills but i agree with splitting and supporting formula. if you agree with this this point kindly like and if otherwise, share. #womendeservesgoodlife.
SageMK:


What nonsense is this?
How is it wrong for a woman to foot the bills?

It's this kind of mentality that promotes the “my money is mine but yours for the family” idea amongst women.

As a woman, if you settle back and allow your husband to foot everything in the house, you must submit totally.





Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by bluefilm: 6:51pm On Jun 21, 2019
Idiotic pastors everywhere.

Always playing to the gallery just to satisfy his female audience.

Who doesn't know that finance is a very big issue to be considered in marriage?

But the question then is, what have this pastor and other charlatans like him contributed towards ensuring that employment is created so that men (and even the women themselves) will be gainfully employed?

Nothing.
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by StUriah(m): 6:56pm On Jun 21, 2019
I tire for this Bishop o! Wetin na?

Financial or no Financial commitment, individual differences come to play whenever decisions are to be made concerning marriages. I have seen women that sponsored their spouses' education and even went further to secure jobs for them, and even contributed more resources to have befitting wedding with them. I can tell you categorically that they are happily married with grown up children today. Not all men who are financially handicapped are worthless and ungrateful as you may think.

Take your advise to financially independence ladies who are still single at 40 and see if they would listen to you pastor. Aunty Linda even try to buy love but for her unserious lover, she would have been married by now.

It will even interest you to know that Nigerian economy provides better job opportunities to women than the men folk. Men has to double their hustle to meet their needs these days. If you are not into shady dealings like yahoo, yahoo+, kidnapping, smuggling, robbery, stealing, gigolo and the rest, to have a better standard of living might be a joke unless God just favour you.

God favour? Yes, I mean. I remember how my brother's wife helped him out of poverty. The woman happened to be a cashier in one company and she been working in that company for about 10 years. My brother was a Branch Manager in one of the popular insurance company but what he earns at the time was nothing compares to his wife. When the madam who owns the company decided to permanently leave the country to canada because all her children and grand children are permanent residence there, she just transfered her multi-million naira business and some properties to my brother's wife as a compensation for her commitment and loyalty. As i write now, my brother his building his second duplex at ikotun. They now use their own private cars though living a moderate life.

3 Likes

Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by luminouz(m): 6:57pm On Jun 21, 2019
BluntBoy:


Which makes it bad advice.

How should a man show commitments financially before marriage?

The Bible is quite conservative when it comes to dating.

I was a little less conservative by even discussing terms such as love and respect.

I will take it that Abioye wants to be more accommodating by considering the modern trend of dating and financial commitments to somebody you are not responsible to under the laws of the land and church.

Even at that, it is still bad advice.

At bolded being the bone of contention, I agree...
Being a big spender sends the wrong message to some women,after a time,everything becomes the issue of bills

1 Like 1 Share

Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by Hedonisst: 6:58pm On Jun 21, 2019
What does "financial commitment" mean according to Mr Pastor? He should have explained better..

But the fact is that this over monetisation of everything about men's suitability puts women at a disadvantage. For every financially stable guy, and let's say for every ONE guy that makes plus or minus a modest N5m annually, there are thousands of women jostling for his attention because he meets their unreasonable criteria.

Okay, so you're a high class babe. A graduate of Unilag and you work in one decent firm, and you're reasonably exposed. So you think you deserve a guy with a minimum of the above-mentioned standard. But the problem is that even the low class girl from Ajangbadi with incomplete WAEC, who is still struggling to write JAMB or doing secretarial work in a one man company somewhere, is also your competitor, looking for the same guy you're looking for. Her only 'qualification' is her fine face, or nice shape, or bustiness, or yanshiness, or whatever else that adds up to the feminine appeal that is the major thing that Nigerian women have to offer Nigerian men! Your degrees and job experience matters little to most men who meet your lofty criteria. Forget what they say. That's the truth. At the end, they just want to have a sexy thing with a good character beside them,. Certificate gbakwa okwu.

So with this wide net of 10,000 girls (poor or rich, graduate or uneducated) to one 'suitable' guy, how will this disequilibrium resolve itself?

Entitled women go suffer well well for this Nigeria. It is happening already. I know exactly what I'm talking about.

8 Likes 1 Share

Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by koyyess: 6:59pm On Jun 21, 2019
This is the truth.

You have to be delusional to reason otherwise.

Reality will teach you.
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by Johnson5258: 7:02pm On Jun 21, 2019
sir, the way we see things is most times the exact way it appears to us. so many times opportunities strikes our ways but ignorance and negligence wave them away from our path. Problems are less when the duo gets it right from the scratch but only if we want to be lazy. Am a man and not yet married but when you hear some disgusting stories, you will be shocked. Imagine a man resigns from his job because he was angry and also after all his wife has a good job. Hatred is a catalyst, that is why victims make greater achievement that the pampered ones, yes the economy is harsh but you have to give all what it legally demand. The man of God hasn't said something bad, it's the same advice you will give your child too when you become a mother or father. Note: Attack the man and not the church because God doesn't leave his enemies unpunished.
Sonnobax15:
This is one reason i don't qo to church any lonqer...these niqqaz who call themselves pastors won't stop puttinq unnecessary pressure on quys!...lax lax,the crime that quys commit just to meet up with the need of such brainwashed ladies would be preached aqainst in their pulpit...lemme repeat this as a christain,90% of niqerian churches na scam!...*spit*
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by toluwa1(f): 7:07pm On Jun 21, 2019
Awwwnnn.....thumbs up to my pastor....
No marriage for a lazy man....
A woman can assist quite alright, but the man too must not be lazy too .....

1 Like

Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by Zz2020: 7:18pm On Jun 21, 2019
Website

Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by troy20(m): 7:23pm On Jun 21, 2019
virgoquin:

lol don't mind them.

Between submission and oxygen I don't know which one they find more important grin

Well give me submission and take your oxygen. Who oxygen help
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by kense88: 7:32pm On Jun 21, 2019
Stupid man, has he condemned the government for unemployment. Instead of encouraging women to assist there husband financially (Considering how hard things are in this country), he is here mounting pressure on men. Does he want them steal ?
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by OGHENAOGIE(m): 7:33pm On Jun 21, 2019
some these teachings are so illogical...at this Age so a man is financially ok and marry and something happens finance node the woman should run abi... what happened to love and mutual respect or is there anything wrong if a woman foot bills in the house...
anyway let everyone believes what work for him or her...naso some people say person wey de earn 50k no supposed marry like say na everyone de earn millions...nonsense
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by Nobody: 7:41pm On Jun 21, 2019
Auntie feminist and sister gender equality activist...
Una food don done. Jesus kpoo ekwensu oku
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by akaahs(m): 7:43pm On Jun 21, 2019
SageMK:


What nonsense is this?
How is it wrong for a woman to foot the bills?

It's this kind of mentality that promotes the “my money is mine but yours for the family” idea amongst women.

As a woman, if you settle back and allow your husband to foot everything in the house, you must submit totally.





No matter how pain u are, there is elements of truth in it. It is a sign for ladies to look out in a relationship
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by Nobody: 7:43pm On Jun 21, 2019
Zz2020:
Website
what's the model of the laptop on that picture??
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by gidjah(m): 7:46pm On Jun 21, 2019
SageMK:


What nonsense is this?
How is it wrong for a woman to foot the bills?

It's this kind of mentality that promotes the “my money is mine but yours for the family” idea amongst women.

As a woman, if you settle back and allow your husband to foot everything in the house, you must submit totally.





so sorry for you and those ignorantly liking your silly imbecilic rants. Do you have a problem with grammatical comprehension? Some of us here can be of help .you find a young man who us not financially responsible and dutifully committed ,can you allow your sister or daughter to go into a Union with such a one sir ?he has good grammar and very impeccable and clean too but dosent have any great plan for him self only wish wish and wishes ... Never go for such a man

1 Like

Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by KorrectGospelTV(m): 7:47pm On Jun 21, 2019
He has a point
More grace sir
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by goodnewsbabe: 7:48pm On Jun 21, 2019
https://www.nairaland.com/5257655/army-bans-sale-petroleum-products
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by gbagyiza: 7:51pm On Jun 21, 2019
SageMK:


What nonsense is this?
How is it wrong for a woman to foot the bills?

It's this kind of mentality that promotes the “my money is mine but yours for the family” idea amongst women.

As a woman, if you settle back and allow your husband to foot everything in the house, you must submit totally.





In as much as I like n respect pastor Abioye messages, I don't think this teaching above is right. Women r referred to as help mates in marriage. So, I don't think is a sin for a woman to shoulder d family expenses when she is financially above the husband. Husband n wive r one united body in christ, reason the Bible say they should separate from their parents n live as one. How will a woman feel when her husband is struggling financially n she refuse to render help to him when she is buoyant. A respected n God fearing woman will help her husband with all that she has in other to build her home.
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by Aladdin1(m): 7:55pm On Jun 21, 2019
nonsense and abioye.was their baba oyedepo not a very poor man b4 and when he married his wife?. people who got rich from church business and from donation,tithes,seeds& offerings from poor church members would be spewing rubbish from their mouths.these are people who mostly had no business,family wealth or highpaying jobs b4 their stumbled on ministerial wealth which is gotten through deception and deceit.
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by Nnemuka(f): 7:57pm On Jun 21, 2019
Joromi12:
she has a child. There are several single rich babes in my office looking for guys to marry. The office guys are going for nysc or younger grads. No crime in a woman being bread winner abeg. After all woman did not work during the creation of marriage
toh may your daughters feed a man they call husband alone.
May your daughters get married to broke men in their 20s and feed their husbands grin after all women above 30 with stable income are evening newspapers abi grin
Amen to my prayers
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by lyndaway(f): 7:59pm On Jun 21, 2019
You are so right sir, am a living witness what you can't change in courtship you can't change in marriage shikene

1 Like

Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by Nobody: 8:04pm On Jun 21, 2019
Nnemuka:

you may your daughters feed a man they call husband alone.
na abroad she go dey. Even jobless pple get benefits lol
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by bigstan11787(m): 8:06pm On Jun 21, 2019
SageMK:


What nonsense is this?
How is it wrong for a woman to foot the bills?

It's this kind of mentality that promotes the “my money is mine but yours for the family” idea amongst women.

As a woman, if you settle back and allow your husband to foot everything in the house, you must submit totally. [b][/b]

It's ovious you don't read to understand.. You just want your voice to be heard on nairaland otherwise the meaning is crystal clear and audible to the deaf..
WOMEN, PLEASR RUN AWAY FROM ANY MAN THAT WHO DOES NOT WANT TO BE FINANCIALLY RESPONSINLE IN A RELATIONSHIP. RUN AEAY FROM MEN THAT IS ONLY SAYING I LOVE YOU BABY BUT WHEN IT COMES TO MONEY HE KEEPS DEAF EAR EVEN WHEN HE HAS IT





Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by Nnemuka(f): 8:07pm On Jun 21, 2019
[
Re: Bishop Abioye: Any Man Who Doesn't Show Commitment Financially Not Safe To Marry by Gerrard59(m): 8:09pm On Jun 21, 2019
gidjah:
so sorry for you and those ignorantly liking your silly imbecilic rants. Do you have a problem with grammatical comprehension? Some of us here can be of help .you find a young man who us not financially responsible and dutifully committed ,can you allow your sister or daughter to go into a Union with such a one sir ?he has good grammar and very impeccable and clean too but dosent have any great plan for him self only wish wish and wishes ... Never go for such a man

What SageMK simply means is: the moment the modern Nigerian lady expects her husband to be the major financial provider in the family, then she should be submissive. Nothing like do the chores or help in the kitchen. The man provides, she submits. As odd as it sounds in this age, that is the result from having the man as the major financial provider.

He who pays the piper dictates the tune.

2 Likes 1 Share

(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (Reply)

Igbo Names Of THE ALMIGHTY GOD / Why Are Pastors And Their Wives Called Daddy And Mummy? / Pastor Noah Abraham Hypnotised Our Children, Set Them Against Us — Parents

(Go Up)

Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health
religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket

Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10)

Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 57
Disclaimer: Every Nairaland member is solely responsible for anything that he/she posts or uploads on Nairaland.