I gave my girl my phone on her request( my mistake).She discovered a recorded telephone conversation btw me and another girl and she got angry,up till now I'm still begging her but she maintained that it's all over,pls l need advice.The worst part of it is that the girl I talked to on phone is more or less a dream cos l have not seen her,I just saw her phone nos in a mag and decided to holla at her.

Kenecee:

I gave my girl my phone on her request( my mistake).

It wasn't a mistake, far from it. It was your girl's special miracle from above

Kenecee:

She discovered a recorded telephone conversation between me and another girl

Why in the whole widest world will you be recording the conversation, are you an agent of the FBI, or you want to claim you record every phone call you get on your phone?? puh-lease!!!

Kenecee:

and she got angry,up till now I'm still begging her but she maintained that it's all over

She got angry?? ooh, dearest me what a shock . . NOT! What were you expecting?? a hand-shake and a clap on the back?? not your lucky day mr.

Kenecee:

I just saw her phone nos in a mag and decided to holla at her.

In a mag? yea right
See where your holla'ing got you, lol

Kenecee:

The worst part of it is that the girl I talked to on phone is more or less a dream because l have not seen her,

Its not the worst part at all, its the "juiciest" part. Why would you have a girlfriend and want some other girl to cloud your dream??
Swear you wouldn't plan to see her if she fixes a date and time??

If you say NO, why then are you calling the girl?? Are you a phone-operator?? LMCAO

Kenecee:

l need advice.

You need advice?? Don't you think its a Lil bit too late?? You really should have asked the "honourable" Nairaland users what to do with the phone no. you got from the mag
Its unfair that people have their fun one on one, then come to us when its time to pay the dues

And no, Its not for jokes that we have a saying as you make your bed, so shall you lie on it lol agin ooh

Honestly, with heart crossed would you have forgiven her if the tables were turned?? Do not lie, whatever your answer is, I wish for you as well.

If No, you're finished ooh because then i hope with all i owe, she doesn't come back. Next time when you see phone numbers in mags, your heels will be touching your neck

If yes Then i hope when the sun goes down, and she's calm , she finds a place in her heart to forgive you. If it takes a while and she doesn't come around, surprise her with something, make her smile, when she starts smiling, i'm sure her heart will open up for you again

Eitherway, keep away from numbers in mags They're expensive (in your case your long-time-struggle relationship) Not worth it!!!!!!!!!

Cute-ass, you are so mean,sometimes in our lives we normally have side attraction but the truth still remain that I love my gal and is ready to do anything to bring her back but she is very far from me cos of that incidence.But can you throw awaay four yrs of r/ship just like that.Besides my phone records conversation authomatically untill the memory is filled up.

some guys sha, na wa
So u expected your g.f to pat u at the back,hug you or wot?! Not e'ry girl will take such jackshit from a guy. If i were to be the girl,i will almost kill u.
Cute-ass,nice analysis jare.

at poster ,U should be able to reset your phone Mr.Dreamer so that your phone would stop recording all your conversation(which kain phone be that sef)

nana:

Cute-ass,nice analysis jare.

@ Kenecee

What i dislike is when someone reads half of a post sent to them. Of course i have to be mean analysing it Cos what you did was bad, you just can't expect me to cheer you to do it again, do you? You have to tell the person the raw truth, then find a solution to the problem.

We are bound to have side attraction?? and you expect your girlfriend to sing praises to that?? Comm'on she's human,  not even you would appreciate your girlfriend talking to some other guy in the name of "side attraction"

Put yourself in her shoes, I know i would have been furious. But like i told you earlier, you be the judge, if you would have forgiven her then I pray with all my heart you be shown the same mercy.

If you really love her like you claim, give her some time but don't cease in showing her how much you care and are willing to go any length to prove to her that she's the one you love. Don't give up, I'm sure she'll come around. Girls are sensitive, and you did hurt her feelings. And bruise her pride because she obviously thinks she isn't good enough any longer. Make her see she is all you want . . With sincere efforts from your side, believe me she'll come around

But please while you're at it, I hope you're not justifying your actions towards her, because that will defintely not solve the problem. I wish you luck, yea we're human and capable of doing mistakes but dearie always think of the consequences and if they're worth it!!!
Keep us posted

Stil on my bended knees but she still maintain that it's over btw us,too bad for me cos I love her very much.She said her annoyance is that I lied to her by tellin her that I dont have any girl friend while I am nursing a plan in my mind.So u see,my problem now is whether she loved me b4 cos to me I cant see any good reason why she should break up our relationship over such a flimsy reason.

cute ass think abt it,just dont be bias in ur judgement.some guys are caught red handed by their girl friend wit another girl but at last pardoned talkless of telephone conversation.I am lamentin cos l love my gal and aint happy abt the situation of things now.After all ,if there is no sin there wont be 4giveness.

@ Kenecee

Believe me i get what you'r saying, and i wish you get a second chance. But that's one thing with love, you should give your last to be questioning free, Cos what i see as "no biggie" might be a large deciding factor for someone else

Yea, in your heart you know you love her, but she isn't in your heart. She believes what her own heart is telling her. It was just a phone conversation?? What prove does she have that it was just that??

Some guys are caught red-handed with some other girl and forgiven?? You never know, she might have forgiven you for that but not capable of getting this one past her.

You call it flimsy?? Well i think that's part of the problem because you're yet to take a course on human feelings to stop defending yourself.

Does she have trust problems?? If yes, then that might have a say.

At this point there's little anyone else can do about the situation, try talking to the friends of hers that you get along with, they might help convince her it was a "flimsy" mistake. She is in control of it all, you know her well enough, so you should be in a better postion to know how to make her see reasons with you

I hope she gets over it soon, if not, you have my deepest sympathy but experience they say is the greatest teacher. Now you know what not to do in your next relationship!!!

Curiously, what exactly went down in the conversation, if you can put that down to us, then we might have a better look at where the problem lies

It's simple if you're going to allow your girl to access your phone or even suspects she does it behind yo bk then make sure their is nothing provocative or discriminating on there!
I have so many questions regarding yo short post:
Why the hell would you record a convo with a girl u've never met.
This girl's no was in a mag, Playboy or similar, phone intimacy?
B'cos what could have been so bad about it that yo girl breaks up with u knwn u've never met?

_{The mind buggles}

IBDat:


Why the hell would you record a convo with a girl u've never met.

Well he want to listen to it when his masturbating

B'because what could have been so bad about it that yo girl breaks up with u knwn u've never met?

He be # mumu have ever came across to

IBDat:

Why the hell would you record a convo with a girl u've never met.

If you read upwards, you'll see where he said his (super) phone records every phone conversation

This is from our beloved poster:

Kenecee:

Besides my phone records conversation authomatically untill the memory is filled up.

And this is the amusing answer from a sister lol

nana:

at poster ,U should be able to reset your phone Mr.Dreamer so that your phone would stop recording all your conversation[b](which kain phone be that sef) [/b]

Well he want to listen to it when his masturbating

From studies,it was proved that guys get turned on by what they see and not by what they hear thats why u get hard when u see a half dressed lady,but if u masturbate just b/c u listen to a female and perhaps ur own voice,then i think u are abnormal, shi ke nan.

@cute ass
The content of the conversation is just the same thing when u are introducing urself to somebody u just met,no "i love U" stuff,just introdution only.Her analysis is as follows,
1.How is she sure that I didn't plan to meet her somewhere?
2.why do I have to waste my credit and time on her if I dont care for her?
3.That the girls voice sounds very romantic,meaning that she is already in love.
4.Is she the only girl on that mag,why did I choose to call her?

Of all these questions,no 2 is the only one I could not answer cos there is no answer to it.then another thing is when the girl asked me this:"kene u dont even know me,u have not seen me, u dont even know if u are going to like me if u see me,I mean my complexion",then I answered ,"colour and height means nothing to me"I bet thats what upset her most.But believe me I did the call just for the fun of it and was never serious.

cute-ass:

If you read upwards, you'll see where he said his (super) phone records every phone conversation

This is from our beloved poster: And this is the amusing answer from a sister lol

LOL - i missed that completely - super phone indeed!

@Omo Eko - girl it be lik say me n u are on the same page

Kenecee:

Well he want to listen to it when his masturbating

From studies,it was proved that guys get turned on by what they see and not by what they hear thats why u get hard when u see a half dressed lady,but if u masturbate just b/c u listen to a female and perhaps your own voice,then i think u are abnormal, shi ke nan.

O'boy you'd be surprised how many guys are indeed into that very thing it's called phone intimacy

But in the spirit of being compassionate you've obviously broken the trust yo girl had in you, not only that but u also maintain it's a flimsy reason to break-up a 4 yr relationship but u also need to consider it from her point of view. That conversation was obviously some-what xplicit and by all indication u portrayed that u wasn't happy/satisified with yo current relationship and willing to give it up for someone u've never met. _{shaking head}
- At this moment yo best option is give yo girl some time to cool off (not too long thou)
- After this period try and get together with her and assure her how much you are hurting without her
- Ensure she realises that it wasn't as though u were indeed being dishonest, hiding/nursing any plans in the back of yo mind, as u even gave her yo phone at her request knowing what was on there.
- Assure her that it was just a moment of boredom and curiorsity that got the better of u and it's not something u do on a regular basis or ever before
- Let her know that u are not prepared to allow her to throw away yo 4yr loving relationship over a phone call
- Tell her how sorry u are and how much u miss and need her
(try doing these while u are up close with her and look into her eyes with complete sincerity, holding her hands as well)
If that doesn't work, the girl was looking for an xcuse to break-up the relationship!

_{Needless to menton that u need to turn off any auto-record facility yo super phone has or down-grade handsets}

cute-ass:

If you read upwards, you'll see where he said his (super) phone records every phone conversation

Plz don't blame the phone for his action because he recorded the conversation just to listen to it later on.

The phone just not just record it by it's self you have to do the setting to do that

IBDat:

LOL - i missed that completely - super phone indeed!

super phone my ass , abi is the first one that has a recording phone

@Omo Eko - girl it be lik say me n u are on the same page

yes oh my brother because this boy recorded it for a purpose

O'boy you'd be surprised how many guys are indeed into that very thing it's called phone intimacy
If u are turned on by just listenin to ur own voice,u need a check up from neck up, cos u are not normal.phone intimacy is far from it my dear.
But my sincere thanks to u for ur advice,l really appreciated it.I ll give it a trial.
@omo eko
the problem with u is that u dont seem to know much abt phone softwares,if u are in doubt here is the tips,
if ur phone is equiped with application installer,then try and go to people that downloads these softwares into phones,they'll give u whatever u want ,u can aswell ask of call recorder.
@all my real guys out there,
I've already uninstalled the software
My gal promised to listen to me but she said it's not a guarantee
I'm goin to follow ur tips IBDat.U seems to have acquired a PhD in things of this nature.Wish me luck my guy,,,,cos I love that gal

Kenecee:


@omo eko
the problem with u is that u don't seem to know much about phone softwares,if u are in doubt here is the tips,
if your phone is equiped with application installer,then try and go to people that downloads these softwares into phones,they'll give u whatever u want ,u can aswell ask of call recorder.

You think we be dense phone just don't record people conversation like that, you have to do the setting before it does.

LMAO - Omo_Eko u no give up on this boy? Kenecee - Good luck brah and remember don't accept NO as answer

u are very lucky, if it was my girlfriend she would brake that fone.
that was foolish mistake.

IBDat:

LMAO - Omo_Eko u no give up on this boy?

Nope am never a quitter but i know his lying

Ol boy beg the girl now? thats if u love her sha oooo . But theres no big deal in giving your girl your phone with or without contraband theres always a way out as long as you can stand the heat. I she really loves you , she should know that she is the original copy of your love and not the fotocopy. And remember this , chicks really dig guys who can appologise [with style] it gives them something to gossip with their friends about , shes not really angry just pester her .

yes! since, infact she is with it right now.