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How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Bossjakande: 6:59pm On Jul 03, 2019
A woman plays many roles in her life. She is a daughter, a wife and a mother. Every woman obviously wants to be a good daughter, a good wife and a good mother too. She has to give lots of love in order to be all these ‘goods’. But just love is not enough to be a good wife. Some skills and qualities are required to be a good wife and of course for a healthy marriage. My advice to all the housewives is to be a good wife and then expect your man to be a good husband! Also it’s easy to be in unconditional love in the earlier stages of a relationship but to continue your relationship with the same spark in the later years you need to do a lot of things. I dedicate this article to all the married women out there! Here are the qualities that a good wife must have.
10. Quit Nagging
There is a proverb that a nagging wife annoys like a constant dripping. I absolutely agree with that. Who doesn’t get annoyed by nagging? Nagging and complaining constantly may create an unwanted rift in your relationship. It can also become a vicious cycle forcing him to avoid you. This will definitely complicate the things between you and make them worse. How do you expect him to like you if he feels personally attacked by your nagging? Nagging doesn’t work, so just quit it. Ask him nicely and I bet that he’ll definitely consider what you are saying. Remember that a good wife doesn’t nag!
9. Look good, Charm him
Most women believe that it doesn’t matter how they look after marriage. But the truth is it definitely does matter. Married women tend to gain weight, become fat and lose their shape. Ladies, you have to take care that you look attractive even after marriage or else men can find their own way! So it is necessarily important that you captivate all his attention only on you. This will definitely keep him from cheating you. Husbands really love good looking wives. They will do anything to please them!
8. Be Unpredictable, Surprise him often
Even though there is an issue as to whether being unpredictable is a good thing in marriage or not, according to me it just spices up the relationship. Relationships get boring if they are too predictable. You just have to take care that the unpredictable things you do are not disturbing! Surprising your husband with thoughtful gifts every now and then, special candle light dinners or even special romantic nights with you playing the seductress will help you grab his attention! Even small surprises like making his favourite snack or dish once in a while will do. You can also come up with some creative ways of surprising him. The central idea is to give him the thrill of surprise and remember that men like surprises too!
7. Organize the house, be a good maid
Keep your house clean and organized. The healthy atmosphere you create in your home will lift his mood. Come up with innovative ideas to make your home a peaceful place for him. Don’t ever feel burdened doing all the chores. It’s not a bad idea after all. Make him dependent on you by doing all his chores. He’ll surely miss you and think about you when you are not around! Let’s be reminded of a quote in this context “A wife is a friend first, a lover second, and third and probably most important, a maid.”
6. All the positive qualities
A good wife is pleasant and she is not rude. To be a good wife you must be warm, kind, affectionate, caring, understanding, positive, obedient and friendly. You should also be responsible, reliable and give him confidence to do anything. All these qualities will make your husband comfortable around you. When your husband returns home after a hard day at work a warm welcoming smile will make his day! You have to possess all these positive qualities. You have to be loyal and support him both in his success and failure. You should be at his side especially in times of hardship. Most important of all respect your husband and you’ll definitely get back his respect!
5. A Guy needs his Space
You must accept that your husband has a life other than you. There are other people too in his life like his family, friends and workmates. He also has his hobbies, interests and passions too. Don’t stop him from having this other life. Give him his space. Let him do whatever he wants to and this will make him love you more. One straight point is that an interfering wife is so irritating. Don’t interfere, don’t irritate and he’ll love you back!
4. Sexual Intimacy is important too
If a guy is not met with his sexual needs it can be reflected in his mood. If your husband is frustrated often the reason might be that his sexual desire is not being fulfilled. One of the reasons why most marriages fail is because of lack of exciting sexual relationship! According to a research the reason why most men cheat is mostly physical whereas for women it is emotional! Make your husband happy in bed. The best way to satisfy your husband is to think in his shoes and give him what he needs.
3. Don’t hide your love
As you may know hiding your love is of no use. Don’t withhold your love. Express it to him. He’ll definitely appreciate that. Join in his activities and spend as much time as is possible with him. Complement and praise him very often. Small gestures are enough to show your love. Remember the special days in his life, celebrate every small occasion in a simple manner that he will enjoy and get unique gifts for him as a token of your love. Bring joy to him with these small but unique ideas and he’ll never forget the special moments and memories you create.
2. Be open with your feelings
A guy will trust you only if you open up to him. Be honest with your husband. Trust him with everything. Don’t keep any secrets from him. You can earn his trust this way. Relationships succeed only if there is mutual trust! Make it compulsory to talk to him daily about how his day was spent. Listen to what he says patiently and understand his feelings. Remain calm if any difficult discussion arises and try to sort it out. Assure him that you are there for him. Good communication will strengthen your bond!
1. Compatibility
There are many personality traits that attract you and your husband to each other making you both compatible with each other but they may not hold up over time. And if this dissimilarity arises you can’t suddenly call yourselves incompatible. You should understand that compatibility isn’t something you have but instead it’s something you make. A good wife takes care that she doesn’t grow apart from her husband. She makes herself compatible with her husband. You must be wondering how this can be achieved. The answer is simple, by improving your relationship skills you can get along better with your husband. This includes making compromises and solving your conflicts. You have to tolerate the burden of being bored and dissatisfied. Remember these lines “A perfect wife is one who doesn’t expect a perfect husband”. Create compatibility and eventually you will become soul mates!
You may be having doubts whether this will work out or not but trust me, these things that you do for him will not go unnoticed. In fact these will increase his love for you and even inspire him to do things for you. Also most of the things mentioned in this article are not just mere ideas of a writer. They are the opinions of many experts brought to you in a presentable manner that you can understand!
www.jakandeola.com
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Bossjakande: 7:03pm On Jul 03, 2019
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Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by donbachi(m): 7:07pm On Jul 03, 2019
Tell them to stop dragging us into their pasts.
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by czarina(f): 7:09pm On Jul 03, 2019
Another nice blog from the boss. smiley

More grease to your elbow and may your ink never run out.

Cc:OKNM
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Bossjakande: 7:11pm On Jul 03, 2019
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Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Bossjakande: 7:13pm On Jul 03, 2019
donbachi:
Tell them to stop dragging us into their pasts.
nice one.if I marry woman so long u can born dont tell me about ur past and disgrace me. see timi now is in pains pple are mocking him
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Sirjaycares(m): 7:16pm On Jul 03, 2019
Nothing
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by czarina(f): 7:16pm On Jul 03, 2019
Bossjakande:
nice one.if I marry woman so long u can born dont tell me about ur past and disgrace me. see timi now is in pains pple are mocking him
So, even if she's in pains over her past she shouldn't tell you about it?

Why is she your wife? sad

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Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Nobody: 7:26pm On Jul 03, 2019
czarina:
Another nice blog from the boss. smiley

More grease to your elbow and may your ink never run out.

Cc:OKNM
Our generation is blessed to have him grin grin
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by czarina(f): 7:30pm On Jul 03, 2019
0KNM:
Our generation is blessed to have him grin grin
Gaskiya!

I can't even begin to imagine how our world would have been without boss. He has changed a lot of pole in the rooms embarassed
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by AmazonTopaz(f): 7:37pm On Jul 03, 2019
shocked shocked shocked
Is it just me or Jakande's sentences abi na tenses are readable.
It seems the ban made him improve on how he types tongue tongue

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Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Nobody: 7:37pm On Jul 03, 2019
czarina:
Gaskiya!

I can't even begin to imagine how our world would have been without boss. He has changed a lot of pole in the rooms embarassed
This lady... cheesy cheesy cheesy You are a clown hahaha grin cheesy grin cheesy
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Bossjakande: 7:41pm On Jul 03, 2019
czarina:
So, even if she's in pains over her past she shouldn't tell you about it?

Why is she your wife? sad
hmmm u have a point but dere are some things I dont want to know by telling me will only cause more problem see when I finally married 1st thing I tell my wife is wateva she has done in past shd remain in d past if she sex a lot or abort let her not tell me so long she can Still have kids for me. no pains she can go thru if I really love her my love will destroy such pains
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Bossjakande: 7:43pm On Jul 03, 2019
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Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Bossjakande: 7:45pm On Jul 03, 2019
AmazonTopaz:
shocked shocked shocked
Is it just me or Jakande's sentences abi na tenses are readable.
It seems the ban made him improve on how he types tongue tongue
hahaha u enjoy as I got a ban.dats life dear we all try to improve. am beta than I am yesterday. ask urself are u beta?
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by czarina(f): 7:47pm On Jul 03, 2019
Bossjakande:
hmmm u have a point but dere are some things I dont want to know by telling me will only cause more problem see when I finally married 1st thing I tell my wife is wateva she has done in past shd remain in d past if she sex a lot or abort let her not tell me so long she can Still have kids for me. no pains she can go thru if I really love her my love will destroy such pains
Deep!
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by AmazonTopaz(f): 7:53pm On Jul 03, 2019
Bossjakande:
hahaha u enjoy as I got a ban.dats life dear we all try to improve. am beta than I am yesterday. ask urself are u beta ?
The bold is none of your concern smiley

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Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by AZeD1(m): 7:56pm On Jul 03, 2019
Bossjakande:
Every woman obviously wants to be a good daughter, a good wife and a good mother too.
The fallacy of generalization.
Not every woman wants to be a wife.
Not every woman wants to be a mother.

Bossjakande:
A guy will trust you only if you open up to him. Be honest with your husband. Trust him with everything. Don’t keep any secrets from him. You can earn his trust this way.
This is coming from the guy who says the wife should hide her past from him?

Bossjakande:
A good wife takes care that she doesn’t grow apart from her husband. She makes herself compatible with her husband. You must be wondering how this can be achieved. The answer is simple, by improving your relationship skills you can get along better with your husband. This includes making compromises and solving your conflicts. You have to tolerate the burden of being bored and dissatisfied. Remember these lines “A perfect wife is one who doesn’t expect a perfect husband”. Create compatibility and eventually you will become soul mates!.

Relationships are a two way street and you can't force compatibility, you can only lie to yourself.



The author has a lot to learn about life and logic.

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Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by desvi: 7:57pm On Jul 03, 2019
another useless advice from a jobless transgender

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Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Biglittlelois(f): 8:07pm On Jul 03, 2019
I have a problem with the "be a good maid", why use the word "maid" undecided the wife is suppose to be a help meet not a maid.

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Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Nobody: 10:46pm On Jul 03, 2019
Bossjakande:
A woman plays many roles in her life. She is a daughter, a wife and a mother. Every woman obviously wants to be a good daughter, a good wife and a good mother too. She has to give lots of love in order to be all these ‘goods’. But just love is not enough to be a good wife. Some skills and qualities are required to be a good wife and of course for a healthy marriage. My advice to all the housewives is to be a good wife and then expect your man to be a good husband! Also it’s easy to be in unconditional love in the earlier stages of a relationship but to continue your relationship with the same spark in the later years you need to do a lot of things. I dedicate this article to all the married women out there! Here are the qualities that a good wife must have.
10. Quit Nagging
There is a proverb that a nagging wife annoys like a constant dripping. I absolutely agree with that. Who doesn’t get annoyed by nagging? Nagging and complaining constantly may create an unwanted rift in your relationship. It can also become a vicious cycle forcing him to avoid you. This will definitely complicate the things between you and make them worse. How do you expect him to like you if he feels personally attacked by your nagging? Nagging doesn’t work, so just quit it. Ask him nicely and I bet that he’ll definitely consider what you are saying. Remember that a good wife doesn’t nag!
9. Look good, Charm him
Most women believe that it doesn’t matter how they look after marriage. But the truth is it definitely does matter. Married women tend to gain weight, become fat and lose their shape. Ladies, you have to take care that you look attractive even after marriage or else men can find their own way! So it is necessarily important that you captivate all his attention only on you. This will definitely keep him from cheating you. Husbands really love good looking wives. They will do anything to please them!
8. Be Unpredictable, Surprise him often
Even though there is an issue as to whether being unpredictable is a good thing in marriage or not, according to me it just spices up the relationship. Relationships get boring if they are too predictable. You just have to take care that the unpredictable things you do are not disturbing! Surprising your husband with thoughtful gifts every now and then, special candle light dinners or even special romantic nights with you playing the seductress will help you grab his attention! Even small surprises like making his favourite snack or dish once in a while will do. You can also come up with some creative ways of surprising him. The central idea is to give him the thrill of surprise and remember that men like surprises too!
7. Organize the house, be a good maid
Keep your house clean and organized. The healthy atmosphere you create in your home will lift his mood. Come up with innovative ideas to make your home a peaceful place for him. Don’t ever feel burdened doing all the chores. It’s not a bad idea after all. Make him dependent on you by doing all his chores. He’ll surely miss you and think about you when you are not around! Let’s be reminded of a quote in this context “A wife is a friend first, a lover second, and third and probably most important, a maid.”
6. All the positive qualities
A good wife is pleasant and she is not rude. To be a good wife you must be warm, kind, affectionate, caring, understanding, positive, obedient and friendly. You should also be responsible, reliable and give him confidence to do anything. All these qualities will make your husband comfortable around you. When your husband returns home after a hard day at work a warm welcoming smile will make his day! You have to possess all these positive qualities. You have to be loyal and support him both in his success and failure. You should be at his side especially in times of hardship. Most important of all respect your husband and you’ll definitely get back his respect!
5. A Guy needs his Space
You must accept that your husband has a life other than you. There are other people too in his life like his family, friends and workmates. He also has his hobbies, interests and passions too. Don’t stop him from having this other life. Give him his space. Let him do whatever he wants to and this will make him love you more. One straight point is that an interfering wife is so irritating. Don’t interfere, don’t irritate and he’ll love you back!
4. Sexual Intimacy is important too
If a guy is not met with his sexual needs it can be reflected in his mood. If your husband is frustrated often the reason might be that his sexual desire is not being fulfilled. One of the reasons why most marriages fail is because of lack of exciting sexual relationship! According to a research the reason why most men cheat is mostly physical whereas for women it is emotional! Make your husband happy in bed. The best way to satisfy your husband is to think in his shoes and give him what he needs.
3. Don’t hide your love
As you may know hiding your love is of no use. Don’t withhold your love. Express it to him. He’ll definitely appreciate that. Join in his activities and spend as much time as is possible with him. Complement and praise him very often. Small gestures are enough to show your love. Remember the special days in his life, celebrate every small occasion in a simple manner that he will enjoy and get unique gifts for him as a token of your love. Bring joy to him with these small but unique ideas and he’ll never forget the special moments and memories you create.
2. Be open with your feelings
A guy will trust you only if you open up to him. Be honest with your husband. Trust him with everything. Don’t keep any secrets from him. You can earn his trust this way. Relationships succeed only if there is mutual trust! Make it compulsory to talk to him daily about how his day was spent. Listen to what he says patiently and understand his feelings. Remain calm if any difficult discussion arises and try to sort it out. Assure him that you are there for him. Good communication will strengthen your bond!
1. Compatibility
There are many personality traits that attract you and your husband to each other making you both compatible with each other but they may not hold up over time. And if this dissimilarity arises you can’t suddenly call yourselves incompatible. You should understand that compatibility isn’t something you have but instead it’s something you make. A good wife takes care that she doesn’t grow apart from her husband. She makes herself compatible with her husband. You must be wondering how this can be achieved. The answer is simple, by improving your relationship skills you can get along better with your husband. This includes making compromises and solving your conflicts. You have to tolerate the burden of being bored and dissatisfied. Remember these lines “A perfect wife is one who doesn’t expect a perfect husband”. Create compatibility and eventually you will become soul mates!
You may be having doubts whether this will work out or not but trust me, these things that you do for him will not go unnoticed. In fact these will increase his love for you and even inspire him to do things for you. Also most of the things mentioned in this article are not just mere ideas of a writer. They are the opinions of many experts brought to you in a presentable manner that you can understand!
www.jakandeola.com
The cost of all these qualities is 10million per month o. Even proverbs 31 woman did not do all this orishirishi. I cannot be a Gucci dress and my husband will be bathroom slippers.

Many men of today aren't worth all this stress. he'll still cheat anyway,so why bother.

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Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Nobody: 10:49pm On Jul 03, 2019
AmazonTopaz:
shocked shocked shocked
Is it just me or Jakande's sentences abi na tenses are readable.
It seems the ban made him improve on how he types tongue tongue
Lol, i noticed it too

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Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Nobody: 10:55pm On Jul 03, 2019
I'm just waiting for Mrs Jakande aka sisisio*** to comment grin
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Nobody: 10:56pm On Jul 03, 2019
funmisticqueen:
Lol, i noticed it too

Mrs Jakande Dom carry am go Adult evening classes na, what do you expect? cheesy

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Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Nobody: 5:52pm On Jul 10, 2019
0KNM:
Our generation is blessed to have him grin grin

sad
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Nobody: 5:58pm On Jul 10, 2019
Guest007:


sad
Oi! You good?
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Nobody: 5:59pm On Jul 10, 2019
truthsayer009:
I'm just waiting for Mrs Jakande aka sisisio*** to comment grin
You mean sisisioge?
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Nobody: 6:12pm On Jul 10, 2019
0KNM:
Oi! You good?

lost my contacts undecided

I need a chin wag grin
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Nobody: 6:15pm On Jul 10, 2019
Guest007:


lost my contacts undecided

I need a chin wag grin
How did that happen?
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by sisisioge: 7:01pm On Jul 10, 2019
0KNM:
You mean sisisioge?

Apparently, you have no fears! Be very guided! In fact, may your next asheweewo steal your ATM, wallet and Phones! Dan iska!

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Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Nobody: 7:22pm On Jul 10, 2019
0KNM:
How did that happen?

New phone and I never backed up...
Re: How To Enjoy Ur Husband In Marriage. by Nobody: 7:30pm On Jul 10, 2019
sisisioge:


Apparently, you have no fears! Be very guided! In fact, may your next asheweewo steal your ATM, wallet and Phones! Dan iska!
I fear only God. Get that straight Mrs Boss J

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