I have a problem of sorts that I would really like some advice on. I have discussed this with my friends and they have labelled me a home wrecker and have said what I am doing is extremely wrong. However, I just can’t seem to see the major issue here, bedside the fact I could end up hurting my sister if she finds out what I have been doing - I have been sleeping with her husband.

You see, I am a twin and have a great relationship with my sister. We were the best of friends growing up and we get along really well and I love her. She was always more outgoing then me and always seemed to get all the guys we both liked. It used to annoy me, but I learned to live with it and coming in second best wasn’t always that bad. We look exactly the same, (I have even been told I am more attractive), but she has a more outgoing personality and seems to draw guys toward her.

Now before you try and immediately condemn me, I will have to give you some background information in an attempt to justify my actions. I met her husband a few months before her and immediately fell for him. He was smart, funny, attractive and an all-round decent guy. I really thought about pursuing a relationship with him because he was my ideal guy and I could imagine a future together. However, when I introduced him to my sister she shamelessly flirted with him even though she knew I had feelings for him and basically threw herself at him. To cut a really long story short, he fell for her, they dated for a few years and now they are married.

Now here’s where the next issue comes into play. One weekend when my sister was away at a conference I went over to their house to drop off some things of hers that I borrowed. Her husband seemed down or stressed so I stayed to talk with him. We ended up having sex which was mostly initiated by him and it has happened three more times since that night.
I know I am supposed to feel bad or guilty but I feel like I am getting back what was originally mine in the first place so I am finding it hard to feel sorry for my sister. He also said he didn’t consider it cheating because I was her twin and it was basically the same person.

Now I just wanted some advice on whether I should continue this relationship with him in the hope he will eventually leave her for me and I will finally get what is ‘owed’ to me, or should I go against my heart and cut off contact. Should I tell my sister? She will be devastated, but a part of me wants to come clean, but for the wrong reasons. If I do tell her, it will be like a victory for me as it will be like I have won so to speak by getting what I wanted, even if I had to steal it from her. I hope that doesn’t sound too evil.

So I want to know if you think it is cheating because we are so similar - as was his justification? And is it justified because I met him first?

I would appreciate any advice because it’s eating away at me.

Please what are your feelings about this girl's actions?

Let go,4get u eva met him n had anyth 2 do wit him,if he leaves ur sis 4 u def he is gonna leave u 4 anoda

Really don't know what else you want to hear. You (or she?) told your story and gave judgements yourself. And by God, they are the right ones. You're a cheating hootchie gurlie and hell yeah, you're evil. You're an evil cheating hootchie. And of cos you do know what they say about evil people eh? They ALWAYS get their comeuppance. I hope this eats you completely away.

Girls ,Girls Girls, Dont know the advice i should say,Wat would she have done if reverse is the case?

What do you want to hear from us? to advice you to continue stabbing your twin sister at her back? Something tells me you are doing this on purpose to get back at your sister, because you felt she took the dude from you~

The best advice i can offer is for u to stop takin wat belongs to ur sister, let d man know ur not in for that again. Ask God to forgive u nd pls pls dont tell ur sis cos dat will cause war nd just wait for ur man cos ur sis husband is not. Good thing she is married so u can get all d attention u need.

Go get your man and leave your sister's husband alone.

pls,cont.fucking ur sisters husband,since U R ha twin,both'f R d same.Do both'f U bear xactly d same name? hmmn! DaDaHiDaDaDaRoSaah!!

pls,cont.sleeping wiv,

tales by moonlight

Do u really want to hear the truth, if u are, then I must tell u, u are nothing but a backstabber, a cheat, and more annoying, a b***h.
How in God's name will u even sleep with ur twin sister's husband, dont u have any shame at all, a ense of guilt, u loved him first, so what?
Please, find a better life, that is not life, and u waiting for him to leave ur sister and marry u, as if u are a gold is really annoying, apologise to ur sister even if u can't tell her, just llok for a way to ask for forgiveness from her and get a MAN for urself, UR SISTER'S HUSBAND IS NOT UR PROPERTY, HE BELONGS TO URSISTER, TILL DEATH WILL THEY PART

afrobaby:

Do u really want to hear the truth, if u are, then I must tell u, u are nothing but a backstabber, a cheat, and more annoying, a b***h.
How in God's name will u even sleep with your twin sister's husband, dont u have any shame at all, a ense of guilt, u loved him first, so what?
Please, find a better life, that is not life, and u waiting for him to leave your sister and marry u, as if u are a gold is really annoying, apologise to your sister even if u can't tell her, just llok for a way to ask for forgiveness from her and get a MAN for urself, your SISTER'S HUSBAND IS NOT your PROPERTY, HE BELONGS TO URSISTER, TILL DEATH WILL THEY PART

babe you said my mind except for the name calling? i cant believe you did these in the name of getting back at your sister,

@poster.please leave your sis husband alone,what you did was wrong;you coulda stopped him if you wanted.
How did the s*x feel?you have now savoured what your sister enjoy's.
How doe's it really make you feel,victorious or cheapstak?
If your sister's hubby don't believe in s*x for the sake of it then he must be seeing you now as a loose babe.

I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH INK_NERD AND IICE AND ROCKTATION.

I don't condone attacking people or putting them down but I have to be honest as I was reading your post, I was utterly horrified and all I could think was 2 WHORES having at each other sexually.  You and the husband.

HOW DARE YOU!

You have issues - serious ones

Go to God - learn him - he will love you and help you IMMEDIATELY!!!

yep me too, 100% with inked nerd, that's completly true!!! plus, that girl must be crazy just to begin with,

This girl is just plain stupid if you ask me. . . If the guy really wanted her he would have asked her out regardless of her sister's flirty ways

and now dat the twin clinched the guy, shez sleeping with him and surely not because she still feels anything for this guy but just to get back at her twin

she can go on sleeping with him since she feels no remorse and is even justifying her despicable act. mehn to think they are twins how nasty

what you are doing is wrong you know it from your heart hence you are seeking advice

both you and the husband are wrong you aint a home wrecker becoz you never had one the husband is a home wrecker he is wrecking his home

as for you, you are just a slut you got no boundries