feodan:
@ Omhor wats ur view concerning dis issue ?

omhor:



The story is a very sweet one, my advice is the OP should date her for like a year and see if she will change or not. 100% is inevitable so as change which remains constant. So OP should study her type of person, friends, family, her past life, her spiritual life and so on.... After these he can now propose. Marriage is a forever thing, he has to pray over it too, I mean deep prayer and fasting, marriage is not easy like that, if you're in you're in, I know what am saying, by personal experience. Wish good luck D:

kernniejay:
Your bestie should not just jump into conclusion that she is the right one for him. He must be sure that he is not been led by mere sentiments and emotions, and not because the girl has brought a turn around to his business. He must have the inner conviction that she is the right one for him. Even at that, he must take his time to nurture a pure, non erotical relationship to study her closely and know more about her circle of friends and relatives. If there is no red flag and all coasts clear, he can pop up the big question. Nothing is wrong in marrying your staff if you are sure of where your marital journey will lead.

omhor:



The story is a very sweet one, my advice is the OP should date her for like a year and see if she will change or not. 100% is inevitable so as change which remains constant. So OP should study her type of person, friends, family, her past life, her spiritual life and so on.... After these he can now propose. Marriage is a forever thing, he has to pray over it too, I mean deep prayer and fasting, marriage is not easy like that, if you're in you're in, I know what am saying, by personal experience. Wish good luck D:

PrimadonnaO:


As if she'll be his sales girl forever.

Dudeweedlmao:


Of course not but 7 years with someone like her can strengthen hia financial situation.

Exodora:





Since they both felt same they are good to go no much talk. And if he had wanted an erotic relationship as you stated he would have long ago before now. First the way she relate with people '' customers '' not everybody can no matter how you tried to hide your character and secondly after the visitation of her home , he must have seen something there that attracted him more .

Dudeweedlmao:


Of course not but 7 years with someone like her can strengthen hia financial situation.

PrimadonnaO:


Why would someone be a sales girl at a Sharwarna joint for 7 years for God's sake!

SavageBoy:


who's dis old farm tool


pls can someone remind me d name of the old farm tool I'm talking about here

virgoquin:


What's the meaning of that advice you scribbled there at the bolded.

Op if you know what's good for you don't heed to that kinda advice

Luiz1:

No he already got his wife, so he won't marry u

SavageBoy:


who's dis old farm tool


pls can someone remind me d name of the old farm tool I'm talking about here

VULCAN:
From your looks the cost of maintaining you will force both shops to close down within a year.

Dudeweedlmao:


What about 5 then?

ellalina:
My male bestie confided this in me too. He is also a Nairalander.



I run a sharwama and agent bank outlet for over 3 years and it’s been a good business experience for me expect trust issues with my sales Girl. I have sacked over 6 girls in space of 2 years for attitude and fraud related cases.

One of the days when I have to stay at the shop because my sales girl did not come to work, a young lady walked in with her CV. She said she saw my vacancy outside, I collected her CV and went through it. She is a 22 years old ND holder who studies communication.

I asked her why she would not return to get her HND. She replied that she wants to continue at the National open university where she can work and learn.
I have her 1 week trial and that is the beginning of good things in my business.

She is so consistent, All customers I mean all of them always leave a good remark about her and why they keep coming back. When ever I return from my office to the shop, I notice how people keep giving her tips and she declares it everyday but I don’t collect it from her. Sometimes she makes up to 5K daily in tips.

Fast forward 1 year, I have taken another shop and expanded my business. I cannot remember the last time we recorded shortage in the shop. My business has become so profitable that Am thinking of quiting my job to expand the business as my salary is like 20% of what the shop now makes for me.

To reward her, I picked interest in her education, I bought her the direct entry form at the open university and she has started.

These days I noticed she has suddenly changed towards me. She doesn't ask how my day was, she avoids me and don’t look into my face when we talk. I was really worried because I have grown fond of her. I have admired her as a lady but I maintained a professional relationship.

There are times I want to ask her to follow me to events and outings but I keep controlling my urge. She called that her mum was sick so she would not be available. I decided to surprise her by paying her a visit, she could not believe her eyes when she saw me at her door step with a bag of provisions in my hand. I greeted the mum. The woman prayed for me a lot before I took my leave.

On getting home, I could not understand myself anymore. My experience at her home further boost her interest in my heart. I could not sleep that night so I picked my phone to chat with a random friend online. I saw Lucy was online too. So I called her at about 12:30 am. I asked her why she is not asleep. She said she has an emotional support that has been bothering her for days. I tried to convince her to tell me but she declined, I figured it’s about a guy although I never saw her with a guy or call one at work.

I told her I was worried too and she is the cause. I told her how she has been of immense blessing to my life and how I wish she would play a bigger role in my life. She went silent. She later hung up and turned her phone off.

She called in the morning to apologize for cutting the call. By evening, I was back at the shop. I opted to drive her home but she refused. This was very unlike her so I insisted. As we approached her neighborhood,I parked under a roadside tree. I asked her to open up to me what the issue with her was.

To my greatest shock, Lucy confesses that I was the cause of her issues. I went quiet for a while trying to figure out what she meant. I asked again how am I the cause, at this moment her eyes were laden with tears Lucy told me she could not stop thinking about me and can’t control herself around me. She said she is confused because the feeling she is having for me get her scared.

While I sat and steer at her, I knew I felt exactly THE same way for her. This time I was the quiet one. I just drove her home and back.

I am 29 and she is now 23 going to 24. I have a job and a good business. Why can’t I marry her.

She has helped me grow my business. She is adorable and well trained. I want to ask her to marry me any moment. I am strongly convinced that we can grow together and build a good business network.

What do you guys thing. Is this a wise move?

joylegacie7:
awww love in the air
so emotional...................
wish ya all the best.......
;[i][/i]D

Exodora:








Spit for local man.
You think a good marriage is determined on how long you court right , grow up please. Her past life , spiritual life that is because you don't know that people change.
What about the young man here who caught his virgin girlfriend that he deflowered before he left for the city with his courses . What would you also say about some pastor wives that sleeps around .
A pastor who is an impotent but the wife was not aware about his impotency and she had three children for him from different men , being that the pastor was inquisitive about the out come of the children he took them for a DNA test , there he finds out that his wife has been sleeping around and yet she preaches in the church but she those not have the shame to confess to her pastor of a husband now the marriage is about to crash.
There are many homes that started well only to end badly we just need to the right thing and ask God for guidance that's all.

feodan:
hope u're enjoying urs, ? Becuz u emphasized on prayer so much

ellalina:
My male bestie confided this in me too. He is also a Nairalander.



I run a sharwama and agent bank outlet for over 3 years and it’s been a good business experience for me expect trust issues with my sales Girl. I have sacked over 6 girls in space of 2 years for attitude and fraud related cases.

One of the days when I have to stay at the shop because my sales girl did not come to work, a young lady walked in with her CV. She said she saw my vacancy outside, I collected her CV and went through it. She is a 22 years old ND holder who studies communication.

I asked her why she would not return to get her HND. She replied that she wants to continue at the National open university where she can work and learn.
I have her 1 week trial and that is the beginning of good things in my business.

She is so consistent, All customers I mean all of them always leave a good remark about her and why they keep coming back. When ever I return from my office to the shop, I notice how people keep giving her tips and she declares it everyday but I don’t collect it from her. Sometimes she makes up to 5K daily in tips.

Fast forward 1 year, I have taken another shop and expanded my business. I cannot remember the last time we recorded shortage in the shop. My business has become so profitable that Am thinking of quiting my job to expand the business as my salary is like 20% of what the shop now makes for me.

To reward her, I picked interest in her education, I bought her the direct entry form at the open university and she has started.

These days I noticed she has suddenly changed towards me. She doesn't ask how my day was, she avoids me and don’t look into my face when we talk. I was really worried because I have grown fond of her. I have admired her as a lady but I maintained a professional relationship.

There are times I want to ask her to follow me to events and outings but I keep controlling my urge. She called that her mum was sick so she would not be available. I decided to surprise her by paying her a visit, she could not believe her eyes when she saw me at her door step with a bag of provisions in my hand. I greeted the mum. The woman prayed for me a lot before I took my leave.

On getting home, I could not understand myself anymore. My experience at her home further boost her interest in my heart. I could not sleep that night so I picked my phone to chat with a random friend online. I saw Lucy was online too. So I called her at about 12:30 am. I asked her why she is not asleep. She said she has an emotional support that has been bothering her for days. I tried to convince her to tell me but she declined, I figured it’s about a guy although I never saw her with a guy or call one at work.

I told her I was worried too and she is the cause. I told her how she has been of immense blessing to my life and how I wish she would play a bigger role in my life. She went silent. She later hung up and turned her phone off.

She called in the morning to apologize for cutting the call. By evening, I was back at the shop. I opted to drive her home but she refused. This was very unlike her so I insisted. As we approached her neighborhood,I parked under a roadside tree. I asked her to open up to me what the issue with her was.

To my greatest shock, Lucy confesses that I was the cause of her issues. I went quiet for a while trying to figure out what she meant. I asked again how am I the cause, at this moment her eyes were laden with tears Lucy told me she could not stop thinking about me and can’t control herself around me. She said she is confused because the feeling she is having for me get her scared.

While I sat and steer at her, I knew I felt exactly THE same way for her. This time I was the quiet one. I just drove her home and back.

I am 29 and she is now 23 going to 24. I have a job and a good business. Why can’t I marry her.

She has helped me grow my business. She is adorable and well trained. I want to ask her to marry me any moment. I am strongly convinced that we can grow together and build a good business network.

What do you guys thing. Is this a wise move?

Jacqueline22:


Lol was only kidding tho

raphroye:
You better marry her fast before one random guy pops up and snatch her from you

omhor:



Life can never be the same for everybody same goes with marriage. Marriages can never be the same, there are ups and downs in marriage, bitter and sweet part in it too. There are some people that vowed to still get married to their spouse in their afterlife and some will say they they can never have anything to do with their spouse as long as they live. We've seen one week marriage that ends in a disastrous way and 70 years marriage still waxing strong. So because it's not possible for someone somewhere does not mean it can never be possible for another. The pastor's wife you mentioned is quite different from another pastor's wife who stood by her husband against all odds, and now she and her husband are proud parents of twins(a boy and a girl). Just like the way you end your statement mine will be I pray that OP's marriage start well and end well.

Exodora:








That is my prayer for Op too. But saying that they should date for at least one year is what am totally objecting to. A good marriage is not measured by it longevity of years or months rather built under God's grace , mercy and love. Not because your are a pastor nor is it by how prayerful you are is by God's grace.



This suppose to be your answer in the first place. Not talking about worst marriages to discourage and confuse the OP. All he needs is advice.

omhor:



Prayer is the key my brother. If not for prayer........I think you know the rest