Drabeey:



You don't smell what you won't eat. Why ask her out when you detest her



Drabeey was Here

Did he say he detest her?

Are you married to every girl you ever dated?

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

If you are Igbo don't, I say don't ever take that job, many mum can be mean, its not gona be easy to run!!! Free yourself from that shackle

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

Better refuse the job and break up with her. Don't waste anybody's time. Don't know why you would date someone you are not into or even accept to be introduced to the parents of the girl without intention of marriage

crackhouse:
U take the job and gradually withdraw your closeness to the family. Don't be too attached to her daughter.

[.Kids advice.Do diz and waka with basket/tyre from Akwa ibom to Abuja.From Abuja to Kogi.From Kogi back to Abuja. From Abuja to Kebbi .Grom Kebbi to Adamawa.From Adamawa to Cameroon.No time.

Take the job & time will decide whether you should marry her not. When you get to the bridge, you'll know how to cross it.

Accept the job and be a walking corpse

Don't take the job if you won't marry her...
Save yourself from future disgrace and karma..

Any mother in law that can pull strings to change your life has the ability to pull strings that will render you a vegetable on life support. Thread carefully.

Don't take the job...speak your mind...let there be no terms and conditions!!! JEHOVAH JIREH WILL PROVIDE!!!

Dillusionist:
Why waste her time dating her when you know you wouldn't marry her? Very wicked things.

I tire oh, to the extent of having a good relationship with d mother and probably the family, please guys don't go too far if you are not sure.

Quality20:
it's OK u accept it. One of my former neighbor, a strong Muslim guy from Auchi, Edo state who used to remind us of prayers even got a lady like that together with a job and also got converted .So urz isn't much my guy, just close ur eyes and marry her, u will b ok

bikonu.. he should not marry out of pity, forever is too long to endure. since he has done d mistake of getting d family involve even if he doesn't like the girl.. he should just back up

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

Why don't you want to marry her what's wrong with her character or attitude?

rowland545:
how did ur brother end up??



Did he end up worst than u


Buharidin

Nna eh people get mouth die hey Jesus

Why requesting for pounded yam when you know that you don't want to pound yam ❓

frozen70:
Why requesting for pounded yam when you know that you don't want to pound yam ❓

Because pounded was the only food available at that time.

truthsayer009:


Because pounded was the only food available at that time.

OK
Deal with it

just look for another job and another girlfriend.

Don't accept the job since you don't like her, you regret it in the end if you did not marry her.

laycon77:
Take the job, build your cv, save alot and take the next step...

Best and most realistic advice yet

bLacKGoLd3:
Normally, I wouldn't respond to a thread of this kind, but the responses, which I'm sure is from devout christians, devout muslims, ethical atheists/agnostics and godless moralists, is quite sad.

First off, you get into a relationship with zero plans for marriage. Not trying to be a moral judge here, but I would have respected your choice more if your girlfriend was aware too. She clearly has feelings for you and most likely looking towards the future with expectations, hence her getting the mum to help out with this job. Sadly, you have no feelings for her and most likely only need her to keep your bed warm.

Now, the mother has pulled strings and probably played an ace reserved for family only, not knowing it's all a sham!

Let's even forget about the job for a second. Have you ever thought about how your girlfriend would manage a breakup? What about the mum/family who may be also be scathed from the breakup? How is this case any different from 'wicked Nigerians' who deceptively get married to ladies for green card? How are you any different than Yahoo boys? Don't you all serve the same gods - mammon and your belly!

Sadly, lots of Nigerians on NL are cheering you on. Tomorrow, same idiots will cuss at Politicians and brand them as thieves, but isn't it the same game of deception? Play along or deceive the people until you get what you want. After you win the elections and have your pockets full of cash, you can always assuage their bleeding hearts with bags of rice or cows.

The game is the game, right?
As I'll always say, a wicked people deserve wicked leaders and a land filled with wickedness, which is why Nigeria is the way it is today.

Young man, a good name is better than a sack of gold. Search your conscience and do the right thing.

First sensible post on here.


At bolded if you all cannot see that the job is tied to her daughter's future then many of you really are children writing waec and jamb. Cos an undergraduate will see it clearly as his mind is matured enough to understand the game.

The op himself is aware that the job is tied to marriage so he can look after the girl he doesn't want to marry. Very funny.

I am going to be blunt here, if you know you won't marry that girl better dont take the job, I see some people advising you to take the job to boost your cv and run. Those are clowns and have no idea how the corporate society works particularly if the field is specialised.

If you wont marry the girl better dump her now or at least let her k ow what's up. Women ( a girl and her mother ) dont do this just cos the dick is good. It's for the future.

If you try to chop and clean mouth here, you will remember hell has got nothing on the fury of a scorned woman. The love that was used to get the job will turn to hate that will be focused on retarding your progress.

On a side note how on earth did you get to meet the mother of a girl you're sure you aren't going to marry? Or even enter conversations with

ahahnow:


Better refuse the job and break up with her. Don't waste anybody's time. Don't know why you would date someone you are not into or even accept to be introduced to the parents of the girl without intention of marriage

They may be playing boyfriend girlfriend in the background, but once it gets to know my family if you aren't serious you better stop there.

oga..9ja now,na i sabi person dem dey use gt work,accept d job,play a middle man game..while playing it try nd save money..cos wetin u no like 4 her life fit show wey u wan borrow usain bolt leg...
Note:
.Work no dey
.she go see sometin in u before she go introduce u to her mom
.she loves you
.change is constant bro

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

Picture of the lady let ascertain if your decision is universal acceptable , my brother it is better to marry the lady and the job than to leave her and be scouting for job....all women are the same,marry the one that her family can support you.

state your intentions clear, define or redefine ur relationship with her, if her mum is getting u d job just bc she thinks u are her potential in-law, decline the job stating the reason.

Take the job, settled down on the job and later allow her to commit an offence which u will use to discard her. You can even set a trap for her.

frozen70:


OK
Deal with it

Isn't that the reason OP asked.

How does he deal with it?

zeenaman:
I don't love her.

Ramanto:
Lalasticlala, what advice do you have for a bother?

I got to know her under an unclear circumstance. I saw her just once at an event, we exchanged contacts and that was all. There is distance involved that's why I didn't get to know she's not what I want on time

Then why are you still dating her? If you get the job through her mum's connections, those same connections can be used to throw you out of that same job later, by the time you break off with the girl.

armadeo:
On a side note how on earth did you get to meet the mother of a girl you're sure you aren't going to marry? Or even enter conversations with

Very good question. How did he allow the relationship to go so far, when he knew he had no intention of settling down with the girl??

frozen70:


OK
Deal with it

Deal with wetin? Will his slave pound the yam

Abeg, tell him to starve joor!

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

Pls give me her mobile number and let me call her and tell her that you are playing with her life oooo and that you are not ready to marry her.... I will then refer her to this thread..... She is reading it now.... She knows your plan already.... continue... is okay.

It is what you call your dog that it will answer.
Take the job. It doesn't matter whether u marry her daughter or not. Marrying her daughter is second event that will come after taking the job.
No one survives this world alone. Corroborate with people to achieve success
that is my philosophy of life