Timih:
Thank you all for all your inputs,i truly appreciate.
I've talked to him this evening, I asked him questions. He was trying to lie and do some sorts but I found my way in.. He said its not his first time of touching the girl's breast and she too do touch his pen.is sometimes. I was seriously down when he said this. He said more than thrice. I asked him why he didn't tell me or his mum, he said did day he wanted to tell me I was on call and mom was busy also then later mom called for night prayer. I was like, you could have told me still but I guess he's was afraid or ashamed to talk because I always give him attention when he calls me.
Well, I have talked to him like a son and brother, I've told him the implications of what he did and how bad it is,I've told him that he should report anybody that touches his manhood to me. He was close to tears though but I didn't threaten him throughout our conversation.

I've changed his plans, limited TV, more time with me, siezed his ball (still have some toys with him) and I'll have to make him spend more time with his books.. Hopefully he will change.. He was kind of relaxed I didn't beat him though

I haven't informed my wife about anything cos she's also faced a lot .. I seriously don't know how she will react and I don't want her to bounce on the maid, I just looked for something to make sure the maid goes and I've called the person that brought her that she's done here. I didn't even talk to the maid. I don't want to let anger take a high toll on me.. I just left her.

When they pick her up tomorrow, I'll tell her ward about what she did. I'll also take him to school tomorrow and tell his teacher talk to him and watch him too.

I pray he change...thank you all.. May God keep us and our children safe

Aidejay:
Beating him will solve many things I assure u
Okay don't beat d young man but punish him at least don't let this thing become a thing out of control a little correction is needed here and there
Alright alright I don't like beating but seriously u need to do more like punish both of them together so they understand that it's a two way street they both eired.

Timih:
I'm very disturbed now

This might be long

I don't know if he's the one assaulting her or she's the one doing so.. I don't even know what is going on

I got back from work, went to the bathroom and when I came out, I saw my son entering a room. He was calling her name and entered. I've been suspecting something like this so I used the opportunity to peep. I saw my son sitting close to her, putting his hand across her neck, this time she was giving a faint smile while putting her palms on her face. Later the boy went to her back and started squeezing her breast from behind. Mehn.. I'm sad, shocked, bad.. Everything. I called him and I pretended not to see anything, why? I know if I react, I'll severely deal with him and that won't change anything because he's been poisoned already. I feel like I've failed as a father already.

He's 7 turning to 8,the girl is 14. I seriously don't know what to do about my son, in fact I can't eat to think well. I'll be sending away the girl though but I'm sure that won't stop my son from doing things. Especially in his school. I'm afraid of anything that may happen.

First time I noticed a strange relationship between them, i called him, talked to him about not showing his pen.is to anyone, to keep himself covered and all sort, asked him questions about anyone touching him in any manner and he said no. I asked him about his friends in school.. He named 8 of dem and 2 of them are girls.

I've failed as a father. My wife is not yet back but when I tell her, she will beat the boy and that won't change anything. I don't know where I went wrong. The maid bathes the boy, dresses for him too. Maybe that's where the issue lies. My wife just gave birth and that's why we employed a maid to help her and take care of the house till the baby is old enough.

I don't know where he got it from, I've stopped my wife from watching movies on dstv anytime he's with her.. She only watches redeemed channel and maybe news then when he's asleep, she face her movies. She asked why and i said there was a day I came back from work, and the way he greeted me was very strange... Normally, I relate with him as if we are age mates.. I can say my guy, how u dey na and he replies with daddy, I just gentle... Just normal guyman things but this one is totally different and no one needs to tell me he got it from the movies.. No one.

Maybe I have to take charge of bathing him

He's a very smart boy.. Very very smart and that's my fear.. And for him to be exposed to this has duely affected me.

Please help me.. Abuse me, curse me.. I don't have a choice.. Just help me

Pardon my English pls.. Just help

PinkHealthGroup:
Nigerians are absolutely nuts. The maid is '14" years old! You are dealing with teenager, a baby turned into "maid" due to poverty. If at 14 she is molesting your 7 year old, she qas probably molested herself.

Think about it. A child in their early teen years has no business being your maid. Yourself and wife should collaborate to help each other out. You could have learned to bathe your son instead of hiring a child to do your duties.

I feel bad for your child because he is 7. You or his mother hitting him means nothing. The child needs care, vigilance so that he does not repeat that behaviour outside your home. Show that child love and caution him gently. Hitting him will only add to damaging his self concept. You have the power to mioud your child Now!

DameB:


God bless you for pointing this out

Timih:

I'll do that... The fear of his smartness is what I have to overcome

Timih:

She's not... We didn't have maid before.. We just employed this maid because she just gave birth and we just relocated few months ago....our plan is when the baby is old enough, the maid will go.. The maid's work is limited

Timih:
I'm very disturbed now

This might be long

I don't know if he's the one assaulting her or she's the one doing so.. I don't even know what is going on

I got back from work, went to the bathroom and when I came out, I saw my son entering a room. He was calling her name and entered. I've been suspecting something like this so I used the opportunity to peep. I saw my son sitting close to her, putting his hand across her neck, this time she was giving a faint smile while putting her palms on her face. Later the boy went to her back and started squeezing her breast from behind. Mehn.. I'm sad, shocked, bad.. Everything. I called him and I pretended not to see anything, why? I know if I react, I'll severely deal with him and that won't change anything because he's been poisoned already. I feel like I've failed as a father already.

He's 7 turning to 8,the girl is 14. I seriously don't know what to do about my son, in fact I can't eat to think well. I'll be sending away the girl though but I'm sure that won't stop my son from doing things. Especially in his school. I'm afraid of anything that may happen.

First time I noticed a strange relationship between them, i called him, talked to him about not showing his pen.is to anyone, to keep himself covered and all sort, asked him questions about anyone touching him in any manner and he said no. I asked him about his friends in school.. He named 8 of dem and 2 of them are girls.

I've failed as a father. My wife is not yet back but when I tell her, she will beat the boy and that won't change anything. I don't know where I went wrong. The maid bathes the boy, dresses for him too. Maybe that's where the issue lies. My wife just gave birth and that's why we employed a maid to help her and take care of the house till the baby is old enough.

I don't know where he got it from, I've stopped my wife from watching movies on dstv anytime he's with her.. She only watches redeemed channel and maybe news then when he's asleep, she face her movies. She asked why and i said there was a day I came back from work, and the way he greeted me was very strange... Normally, I relate with him as if we are age mates.. I can say my guy, how u dey na and he replies with daddy, I just gentle... Just normal guyman things but this one is totally different and no one needs to tell me he got it from the movies.. No one.

Maybe I have to take charge of bathing him

He's a very smart boy.. Very very smart and that's my fear.. And for him to be exposed to this has duely affected me.

Please help me.. Abuse me, curse me.. I don't have a choice.. Just help me

Pardon my English pls.. Just help

ichidodo:
Well, this is a fine kettle of fish...Clearly, your son has got a wild streak in him and with the heavy proliferation of 'porn' themes in our civilization today,including, a willing partner in your maid who doesn't know better. This has turned in to the 'mosquito perching on the scrotum' situation thus you must thread carefully here. Because any hasty and careless move here will definitely f**k a lot of sh**t up...that of scarring a 14 year old for life and turning your kid into a scheming well hardened sexual predator and a budding paedophile like Pastor Fatoyinbo of Coza.This is the point where you call in the specialists...child psychologists......who can equip you with the required tools to mentor these unfortunate souls out of their unforeseen predicament.

LadySarah:

Send her home immediately,have a Sex Talk with your son. Change your Dstv pg settings to his age range and lastly pray for him.

genq:
I don't mean to gloat over your son's misfortune but this is what happens when a mother leaves the raising of her children to outsiders. Let me guess your wife is too busy to take care of the kids right? Because shes a "modern working class woman".

Go and ask women abroad how they manage to work full time and still raise their own children without househelp. Unlike these ones in Nigeria who after just one child, they can't do chores again. House helps are then put in place to assume the duties of a wife and mother.

Your son is one of many children out there suffering the consequences of these lifestyle choices.

crazygod:
Dude e be like say u wan spoil d boy. Na naija u dey o not abroad. By the way, how can an 8 year old boy not bath himself

webincomeplus:

Your comment made absolute sense until the point where you mentioned names. It was absolutely not necessary for your message to be understood. And your mention of the Pastor's name indicated that you're absolutely sure that he's guilty of the rape accusation.

Well, I'm also more inclined towards the fact that the accusations are true. But then, I won't blatantly mention his name as though I'm absolutely sure - because it remains a possibility, albeit a remote one, that the accusations are lies.

And just so you know, I'm a Muslim (before someone thinks I'm a COZA member or apologist).