YOU WANNA PUT SPARKS IN YOUR SEX LIFE?,JUDITH IS HERE TO HELP!.

Need a few specific suggestions? Here are a few products you can add to the bedroom to heat things up:
Whether it's romantic, raunchy, or somewhere in between, these tried-and-true tricks will instantly make your sex life ~hot~ again.

1. THE WAY YOU INITIATE SEX SHOULD BE CHANGED

Maybe you are denying your partner or coming on too strong. Avoid criticizing each other and stop the “blame game.” Mix things up to end the power struggle. For example, distancers may want to practice initiating sex more often and pursuers try to find ways to tell their partner “you’re sexy,” in subtle ways while avoiding critique and demands for closeness.

2. LET THE TENSION FLOW

Our brains experience more pleasure when the anticipation of the reward goes on for some time before we receive it. So take your time during pre-intimacy, share fantasies, change locations, and make sex more romantic.

3. RUB EACH OTHER DOWN BUT DON'T GO ALL THE WAY

Dare your partner to strip down with you, give you a massage, then let you return the favor without doing the deed. There’s something about a forbidden fruit that makes us want it more — kind of like when you are suffering through one of those juice cleanses and all you can think about is food. Okay, so it’s not really the same, but close.


4. SAY GOODBYE TO THE BEDROOM

Instead of waiting until you are both in bed and ready to pass out, shake things up by having sex in a different place. The kitchen counter is a nice atmosphere to fill your donut with cream. And there’s nothing sexier than a clean and shiny countertop.
Maybe there’s a nice clearing in your back yard or you’ve always wanted to straddle your partner in the long chairs on the deck. Ask them to meet you outside, and slip into your favorite night gown with nothing underneath. Easy access is key and the excitement of getting it on outside will take your orgasm to the next level.

5. USE intimacy gadgets

intimacy gadgets are great. Especially if you want to spice things up. There is literally a intimacy gadget for everything. For him, for her. For his penis, for your clitoris.

Using intimacy gadgets during pre-intimacy is great for getting each other hot and bothered before sex. They can also be great instead of sex and during sex as well.

But like I advise with all of the tips you read here: if you solely rely on intimacy gadgets, then things will inevitably start to get boring and routine.
A good way to view intimacy gadgets is seeing them as a spice, not the main course.

Over the coming weeks, I will be adding a section on which intimacy gadgets work best and how to use them.
6. YOU CAN TRY SILENT SEX

Maybe you’ve already mastered this one because of your building’s paper-thin walls. Maybe not. Either way, challenging yourself and your partner to silent sex can be even more exciting than the full-volume version. Without the usual noises, you’ll have to pay attention to your partner’s other physical cues, and that close attention could be really hot.

7. TRY WATCHING PORN TOGETHER

“You aren't watching because you want to get turned on by someone hotter,” says House. “You’re watching it because it's hot to watch others get it on. When you see them licking, biting, teasing, sweating, talking dirty ... suddenly you'll feel turned on, too. (Plus, you might get some ideas as to new moves to try.)”

If actually watching porn together seems like a daunting proposition for either of you, you can also give this pro tip a go, notes House: Try listening to porn without actually watching it.

In addition to giving you the erotic thrill of hearing sex sounds (moans, gasps, and “Oh, God, yes!”) — without having to look at the porn stars themselves , it’s also a sneaky way to improve at dirty talking, according to House.

“This is one of the best ways to learn how to dirty talk! Turn on a talk-heavy porn, and turn the TV or computer around. Then, turn off the lights.” she says.

“Now you and your partner will just repeat after the [performers’] voices. This gives you permission to say dirty, nasty, limit-pushing things that you never had the courage or inclination to say before. But once you get those words in your ears and hear them come out of your mouth, you have broken that barrier, and you can now introduce them into your regular routine.”