I discovered this site and wish to pour out my heart,to get some relief mentally.
Married but now after going through events of past months can't but feel cheated.How can The hubby put so much pressure knowing my condition at that time,suffering a loss and then less than 3mnths after you bring up the marriage talk.
At that point,i must say i had this fear of going to die,i was down and so agreed and parents got involved,but looking back to these i realized i was cheated,feel cheated,infact these thoughts are making me behave irrationally towards myself and him,for no reason i sometimes dont even want to see him and find myself in pains..i don't want to fall into depression..,i am finding it hard to forgive him and his family..

Seems like you’re typing in a hurry

So you basically feel you were manipulated into marriage because you were at a vulnerable state in your life?

Well darling, we need to start taking responsibility for our actions I’m so sorry to tell you this. As sad as you may have been, you’re not 5 years old and you know what marriage entails. I think you were simply not ready which is fine but if you have an understanding husband then try to communicate your pain with him. Your loved ones want the best for you so stop pushing them away it will only make you feel worse. Don’t be harsh on yourself as healing takes time. If you can’t talk to them then try counselling but remember the only way to get better is by helping yourself first. Crying all day and feeling regretful will not change anything.

You need to talk about it with him, get over how you feel and be a good wife to the person you pledged your love to. Regardless of how you are feeling now, I am sure you didn't get married under duress or at gunpoint.

So please stop frustrating yourself and that young man and making him feel guilt for marrying you at the point he did. You can either suck it up and decide to enjoy your marriage or quit. But just make a decision and put your husband and yourself out of misery.

So sorry about how you feel but the fact remains you are married

I think you need closure. Do let your husband know how you currently feel. I pray he is matured enough to handle this and also make you the center of his world. With this you tend to feel relaxed in the marriage and your journey to marital bliss officially kickstarted

Thanks,i appreciate the Advice..

Please if leaving will cure your depressed mood then by all means leave. Life is too short to spend it wallowing in self pity and regrets. Even if you were forced at gunpoint or bundled like an involuntary psyche patient to the looney bin, you are sane enough to discern what you want now. Take a break to process your thoughts and life then decide if you gonna quit or continue.

Cheated of what? Are you trying to say you still wanted to explore?? Hian! Madam biko there's nothing out there. Concentrate on you marriage and make the best out of it.