MrBrownJay1:
Low self esteem African women...doing what they do best to stay married at ANY cost

MrBrownJay1:
Low self esteem African women...doing what they do best to stay married at ANY cost

Mayflowa:


MrBrownJay1, I have known you on nairaland for more than 10 years. We are both intelligent. I know exactly what you are inferring immediately you mention African women. I wanted you to see the other side of reasons.

African women have ties to their husbands and find it strange to leave them. It is cultural. Don't tie it to esteem or economic woes.

ednut1:
old papa youngie go marry

ednut1:
Low self esteem women with no hope say this

MrBrownJay1:


Bro, because of that tie that these women have to their husbands, they are being abused and treated like trash, and sadly, many are so desperate to" stay married" that they would accept much more than just being OPENLY cheated on.

Give me another word for low self esteem and I would use it in this situation, but these desperate women can't be having a very positive view of themselves, while being treated in such a way.

A man openly does NOT respect his wife and if she accepts it then we have to call it for what that is.
NO man can cheat on his wife then turn around and say he RESPECTS her. Makes no damn sense.

Toks2008:


For your mind I dey single shey! If you are a lady come n let me make you a concubine.

felaismyhero:
with due respect,judging from her status and her successes,i think she has more hope than a non descript like you.if nairaland never existed,i doubt i would even ever hear your comment.so yeah,she has hope!

Orodje:
God bless u sis, if u leave your marriage coz of say your man cheat na oturugbeke u be coz every richmen out there is a cheater you haven’t seen him yet doen’t mean he doesn’t cheat. Only 95% are faithful.

Na poor man be faithful man just try get money first and see if you won’t cheat

Mk12:

low self-esteem is better than those who leave him and become bitter like Toto dick

MrBrownJay1:
Low self esteem African women...doing what they do best to stay married at ANY cost

MrBrownJay1:
Low self esteem African women...doing what they do best to stay married at ANY cost

obowunmi:


Until they get HIV and DIE

ednut1:
Low self esteem women with no hope say this

Toks2008:


Any woman who leaves a her husband cos he cheats on her is only looking for a lane excuse to leave the man cos most men cheat..but only few do it with respect for their wives.

MrBrownJay1:


There is a huge difference between a bitter woman and a low self esteem one.... but the major point is that the bitter woman can at least look at herself in the mirror proudly every morning, while married woman certainly can't. ... OR better yet, bitter woman is in charge of her own destiny, while married woman could unknowingly catch any deadly disease any minute and be doomed.

Toks2008:


And who is safe from HIV?

This is the most laughable excuse ladies give.

Except they will never make love without condom with any other man in their life again then this excuse go make sense.

Pattypatt:
I won't leave him too, rather will give him a packet of condom and also concentrate on my career and kids, a busy woman does not have time to chase her husband around.

MrBrownJay1:
Low self esteem African women...doing what they do best to stay married at ANY cost

MrBrownJay1:


There is a huge difference between a bitter woman and a low self esteem one.... but the major point is that the bitter woman can at least look at herself in the mirror proudly every morning, while married woman certainly can't. ... OR better yet, bitter woman is in charge of her own destiny, while married woman could unknowingly catch any deadly disease any minute and be doomed.

Mk12:

bitter women that stab others to death in frustration?
or the ones that end up committing suicide after spending all her free time wishing that a man should at least consider her worthy of sharing his bed?

my guy, life is not as black and white as you read in the media

MrBrownJay1:
Low self esteem African women...doing what they do best to stay married at ANY cost

MrBrownJay1:


Pls by all means, tell us all how great it is for women to be miserable and treated like dirt in marriage...

No matter how you look at it, staying married to a cheating disrespectful husband ain't no better than leaving his sorry aass. Sadly in Nigeria, women view marriage as a "do or die" mission, and would probably stay even if that man has children with their underage maid.

jaxxy:


There are men who cheat discreetly bt still respect their wives and family. It’s wrong yes bt Marriage isn’t a mere relationship and I don’t think u just get up and leave just because he cheated. If that was the case we wud have lots of broken marriages littered everywhere in both past and present generation. It’s also depends on ur philosophy about marriage.

Toks2008:


And who is safe from HIV?

This is the most laughable excuse ladies give.

Except they will never make love without condom with any other man in their life again then this excuse go make sense.

osemoses69:
you get sense so

Mk12:

Jay z actually cheated on Beyonce many times and she did not leave her marriage so I don't know how you keep shouting Nigerian women as if they are not same everywhere

felaismyhero:
rubbish! if we must achieve your kind of equality,then we would need to scrape marriage; then we become like goats; just Bleep and go!(i see western societies becoming like this!)because it's not possible to have two heads in any organisation,situation... the leader in a family could be male or female; most time though it's the male.

MrBrownJay1:


The fact that most African men cheat certainly isn't a reason for anyone to accept cheating, FAR FROM IT.... all women expect their men NOT to cheat and to be respected. The minute a man does cheat, he sends a clear message that he has absolutely no respect for his wife. Any sane woman would leave this disrespectful unfaithful untrustworthy human being, and only a very desperate woman would stay in such marriage...

Sadly, because marriage in Nigeria means "being happy" (even if you are the most miserable person on earth), many will cheaply accept any rubbish from their husbands OR marry any donkeys out there, in order to be/stay married at ANY cost.