im a zim lady and hve bin dating this adorable nigerian guy who is in S.A. We hve bin dating since Dec last year and i hve undying luv fo him.Well the problem is he is so possessive ,jealousy and he doesnt want mi to befriend any male counterparts especially my Zim BROS AND SISTAZ he jus wants mi to be Clingy On him and i hve to inform him of my whereabouts he juss wants to be wth mi all the tyme.And he wants mi to answer my phonecalls in English and nt my Native Languages Shona Ndebele.Its really getting out of hand ,we dnt stay togetha i stay wth my Sista based in S.A.

I feel he is hiding smething maybe his girlfriends or whateva of wch he claims he doesnt have one of wch i knw its a blatant lie.As a woman i shld stand my ground and not be tossed around like some KID.

I do luv him bt he is really stressing mi.N/L im in dire need of ur advice,

you two need to sit and talk this over and if he is not willing to work things out abeg take a hike

he doesnt want you talking in your Native language?he dosent want you close to any of your male friends?

la madre que le pario

if you feel he is not worth your love,my dear please back off gently

He seems insecure in the relationship. let him know that u'r there for him. Or he may just have complex problem

chines4:

He seems insecure in the relationship. let him know that u'r there for him. Or he may just have complex problem

I'm with u on dat point.

well dear lady from my experience naija man are a differnt breed all together, an it takes a certain women to handle the lot
try standin ur ground and it will be u he'l be standin on soooooooi suggest u shud date zim guys, they none for they submissive nature
GOODLUCK with this

he doesnt want you to ahng out with friends. . .

You think he has other girlfriends / wifes . .

With regards to this relationship, Both of you are insecure.

Better to cut if off and start off with someone who will give you peace of mind.

You believe that he's hiding his girlfriends and yet, he always wants to be with you. It just doesn't tally, don't you think? Why don't you just oblige him so you can reduce your insecurities by half, huh?

Lol @ isolate

Cos u said like u've been given the treat.

Inkie thank ur stars that u included the girlfriends' part cos i was getting ready/warming up to bombard u wif theories.

@op

You need to speak with him and tell him you can't follow his 'rules'. Your family/friends come first before any other. . .bcuz they are the ones you'll run to for advice/help when there's a major misunderstanding.

tialundra:

im a zim lady and hve bin dating this adorable nigerian guy who is in S.A. We hve bin dating since Dec last year and i hve undying luv fo him.Well the problem is he is so possessive ,jealousy and he doesnt want mi to befriend any male counterparts especially my Zim BROS AND SISTAZ he jus wants mi to be Clingy On him and i hve to inform him of my whereabouts he juss wants to be wth mi all the tyme.And he wants mi to answer my phonecalls in English and nt my Native Languages Shona Ndebele.Its really getting out of hand ,we dnt stay togetha i stay wth my Sista based in S.A.I feel he is hiding smething maybe his girlfriends or whateva of wch he claims he doesnt have one of wch i knw its a blatant lie.As a woman i shld stand my ground and not be tossed around like some KID.I do luv him bt he is really stressing mi.N/L im in dire need of your advice,

What are u still doing with a Nigerian if you have this view about Nigerians https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=536869.msg6991262#msg6991262 ?

^^she seems confused

elbereth:

^^she seems confused

You are right there.

justwise:

What are u still doing with a Nigerian if you have this view about Nigerians https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=536869.msg6991262#msg6991262 ?

She's a joker !

run,

poster ---

im sorry but i find you very annoying, All you do is post about how naija men prefer zim women, how naija men hate zim men,
You are obssesed with naija men and to me it looks like you need to see a shrink,

Im personally married to a man from nigeria but im not obssesed and i dont start billions of threads about nigerian men dating zim women etc, I would have married him even if he was from zim or white because i fell in love with him as a person not his nationality,

Some of us come here to learn more about nigerian the culture,economy etc, because since i have half nigerian kids i feel its my duty to teach them the nigerian part of their heritage,

@poster  There is one mistake people make and that is thinking that they can change people. This guy WOULD NEVER change!!(except God above changes him) and from the sound of things it can only get worse. So your option is simple, if you can live with his character (and the possibility that he may become abusive in future) then go ahead but if not, then for your sake kindly drop him like he is hot else your next posting would go thus "My Husband Sent me to hospital because I greeted his friend "

^^^^ very true!


@ OP,

you complain about how nigerian men are violent, possessive, have horrible & disgusting accents, and how your men are better. yet you're sticking with an insecure naija guy. i think you are obsessed with naija men, take zimbabwean's advice and get help. in the meantime, i suggest you date another group.