What do you think about boys and dating?

The world will be a better place if so called adults get in touch with younger ones, relate with them, share experiences with them and give them solid advice.

Secondary school students or teenagers who are dating are just wasting their time. Dating is a ‘modernized’ word for courtship, which is a relationship that leads to marriage. Therefore, it means that if you are not ready to marry that girl or that boy, don’t date.

Two major things that go through a male teenager’s mind is sex and money, but sex is the major thought. That is when their bodies begin to develop and hormones begin to somersault. Then, when they see a girl, they develop feelings that they erroneously call ‘love’.

Only God knows where they learn to ‘toast’. They ‘toast’ the girl and when the girl agrees, sexual thoughts begin to form. Love letters and love pinging begins. They stop focusing on their futures; they stop reading;and they stop respecting females and their elders. What can they offer girls? House? Cars? Security? No, only sex!

They get tired of the girls, dump them and find another. They will never think of what will happen if the girl gets pregnant suddenly. They never think about HIV/AIDs. They continue their sex adventures until they get married. They break a lot of hearts.

They will send love text messages, but they don’t really know the meaning of love. They get influenced by movies. Dating is for the matured minds, not for those who should still be building for the future. Dating is for those who are ready to marry those they fall in love with.

SEX IS NOT LOVE

“Sex is not love. If sex is love, prostitutes would be happily married.”

Have you noticed that that some guys don’t like dumping girls they haven’t slept with? If you are dating and you haven’t introduced the person you are dating to your parents, then you are deceiving yourself. If you hide your relationship from your parents, then you yourself know that what you are doing is wrong.

How many teenagers and secondary school students can introduce their girlfriends to their parents? They know their fathers will beat them up.
I know a lot of guys who dated girls in secondary school and they are not together now. Check around. Give kudos to young people who dated in secondary school and are still dating now. It is very rare.

DATING NOT FOR BOYS

Dating is not for boys. Forget the nonsense about love. There is a thin line between love and lust. If love exists between a boy and a girl, only prayers, understanding, loyalty, and dedication can make the love stand. Do teenagers have loyalty? Do teenagers have dedication? Do they have understanding? Are they responsible? Dating is for matured minds.

A matured mind will not double-date. A matured mind will wait till marriage before have sexual relations. A matured mind will not make decisions that would be dangerous to others. A matured mind would date to marry. A matured mind would know the difference between love and lust. A matured mind will not date just because his friends are doing so. The most heartbreaks on earth are caused by youths. The rate by which they break hearts is at the speed of light.

That is why we have baby factories. That is why HIV is spreading fast. That is why youths have become relationship breakers before they get married, and ultimately, divorcees after wedding.

Summarily, boys and teenagers, dating is not for you. Forget the nonsense of the Hollywood movies where teenagers have sex anyhow. Wait till you are matured in all respects of life. Wait till you are ready for marriage before dating. And even then, another battle begins.

SOURCE: https://opinionsandstories.com/boys-and-dating/