...Men Have Pains Too....

A woman said to me, 'It took me years to really know that men cry too. I took my husband for a super human. I see him leave the house everyday and come back providing for us. One day as I have left the house and he was at home, I remembered that I needed to take something along, I turned back and headed home. As I got home, I tried going through the back door which was closer to the window of our room. I heard my husband crying like a baby asking God to help me get a job so I can help him fend for the family. He has never complained to me before but that day, I broke down in tears realizing that my husband has held much of his pains alone"

A young married lady went to her mother and complained that her husband has not always bought things she wanted from him. The mother asked her, 'How many of those things have you bought for yourself?". She stayed quiet and said, 'But he is my husband?". The mother replied her, 'Have you ever found out the things your husband wants you to buy for him?".

Men always try to hide their pains.

A woman was invited to preach at women conference and as she was preaching, she asked all the working class women to stand out. They humbly did. And she asked them, 'When you get your salary, how much do you give to your husband as a seed?". Before your money gets to anywhere else, the priest in your life which is your husband should get something from you. Even if he is a rich man, sow seed in his life. Sometimes, we women don't know that our husbands need something from us".

Men can be financially broke and pretend to have everything.

Most men are married but they have lonely life. Sometimes, ask your husband out. Men are not always busy as women think.

You have to understand that your husband has pains and needs too. Don't judge him by things you want from him.

Men also have emotional needs and problems. Men still cry for love.

GOD bless you for this write up

I think I have learnt a thing or two about my future husband. Thanks.

Nice one, but if only some of them here will understand....

Nice one

Marry a lady who loves you as a human being and not your pocket.

Weldon op

Stoicism.

This thing called stoicism is the thing men have adopt, that have made it difficult for women to be able to relate with men's pain.

Stoicism, defined as the endurance of pain or hardship without the display of feelings and without complaint is the female equivalent of "nothing", or "I'm okay", though, she is not socially vilified if she expresses emotions, and men and society are always ready to assist her reach a solution to whatever problems she encounters, feminism is an example of that. For men, your problem is yours to solve alone, and ostracized if you complain.

Who remembered the scene of "guardian of the galaxy 2"? Drax was sitting still, reminiscing about his late daughter that was killed by Ronan. His emotions, pains, and revenge was bottled up that mere looming at him, you'll think he is fine. Then Mantis, the girl who had the power to feel peoples emotions by touching them touched Drax, and immediately, burst into deep tears. She could feel the pain Drax was passing through, all bottled up as if nothing happend. Mind you, Mantis doesn't cry often, and she didnt cry when he felt the pain of Thanos, after he lost his daughter Gamora.

That scene explained the reality every single man on the planet understands, and it is that men have learnt to bottle up their emotions, that has made many women assume men are superman, and quick to call men who expresses their emotions as weak, not man enough, and potentially loose attraction towards him. Perhaps, the curse laid down by the creator, in the garden of Eden that the man will toil the ground and sweat before affording his meal is still ever present.

In every statistics, from the one punished more for same crime, imprisoned, doing the most dirtiest and fatal jobs, die earlier, the family workhorse, rewarded for doing instead of being, war death etc, it is the men that are at the bottom. But somehow, stoicism has made men accept this reality and not complain, why working their way out of whichever predicament they find themselves in.

Only if women have an idea of male suffering, only if.

pansophist:
Stoicism.

This thing called stoicism is the thing men have adopt, that have made it difficult for women to be able to relate with men's pain.

Stoicism, defined as the endurance of pain or hardship without the display of feelings and without complaint is the female equivalent of "nothing", or "I'm okay", though, she is not socially vilified if she expresses emotions, and men and society are always ready to assist her reach a solution to whatever problems she encounters, feminism is an example of that. For men, your problem is yours to solve alone, and ostracized if you complain.

Who remembered the scene of "guardian of the galaxy 2"? Drax was sitting still, reminiscing about his late daughter that was killed by Ronan. His emotions, pains, and revenge was bottled up that mere looming at him, you'll think he is fine. Then Mantis, the girl who had the power to feel peoples emotions by touching them touched Drax, and immediately, burst into deep tears. She could feel the pain Drax was passing through, all bottled up as if nothing happend. Mind you, Mantis doesn't cry often, and she didnt cry when he felt the pain of Thanos, after he lost his daughter Gamora.

That scene explained the reality every single man on the planet understands, and it is that men have learnt to bottle up their emotions, that has made many women assume men are superman, and quick to call men who expresses their emotions as weak, not man enough, and potentially loose attraction towards him. Perhaps, the curse laid down by the creator, in the garden of Eden that the man will toil the ground and sweat before affording his meal is still ever present.

In every statistics, from the one punished more for same crime, imprisoned, doing the most dirtiest and fatal jobs, die earlier, the family workhorse, rewarded for doing instead of being, war death etc, it is the men that are at the bottom. But somehow, stoicism has made men accept this reality and not complain, why working their way out of whichever predicament they find themselves in.

Only if women have an idea of male suffering, only if.

When i was younger, i hated my dad for been poor with a little support from my mum.
But now am an adult and married and i realized what my dad passed through.
I had to postrate and begged him last month for all i did when i was small.
I ate my humble pie

"I heard my husband crying like a baby asking God to help me get a job so I can help him fend for the family. He has never complained to me before but that day, I broke down in tears realizing that my husband has held much of his pains alone"

Are you sure this happened in real life? As far as I know, in a situation like this, the woman will act as if she didn't hear or witness what just happen. In fact, some will hiss and begin to resent the man because they think he is weak and his mates are providing for their family. These b!tches have no soul.