A friend of mine has been dating this guy for some years now and recently they've been talking about settling down and getting married. The problem is that the guy is not financially capable of funding a wedding not to talk of starting a family. However, he has plans to invest in a business but does not have the money as it is capital intensive in nature.

Now he insists my friend must help him get the capital as a show of love else he won't go ahead with the wedding plansand he's giving her an ultimatum - If she doesn't try to get the money, he'll break up with her!

My friend could get the money if she tried but she thinks it's not her place to do so. She also concerned about his ability to go an extra mile in getting what he wants. He appears to be someone who relies on luck and miracles to make it in life!

As much as she loves and cares for him, she's not willing to be blackmailed into taking care of a man!

I dont' know guys, what are your views

let her run as fast as her legs can take her. how would her bringing the money becme a requirement or he breaks up with her? if he needs help and she can help him, there is nothing bad about that but for him to blackmail her,

iyatrustee:

let her run as fast as her legs can take her. how would her bringing the money becme a requirement or he breaks up with her? if he needs help and she can help him, there is nothing bad about that but for him to blackmail her,

Well in his defence, he thinks she's not being helpful! He says he wants a woman who will be willing to help him when he is in need and if she's not willing to do it now, what's to say that she will do it in future

Lmao

Guys sef

@ Sinie how u dey?

Ujujoan:

Lmao

Guys sef

@ Sinie how u dey?

I'm fine dear

hmmm sounds like a lazy man to me.

@Sinie wat do u mean by helpful? Is dis how 2 ask 4 help 4rm sum1 u claim 2 luv by blackmailin her. Wat is he doing himself about d situation?Wont it be beta 4 both of dem 2 put their heads 2geda & figure out a way instead of him resorting to dis cheap & shameful approach. He even went as far as giving her an ultimatum *hisses* na government work? Abeg make she fashi d guy,no be by force.

andromida:

hmmm sounds like a lazy man to me.

yep

no

In my opinion, this guy is straight up wrong for putting that kind of pressure on his woman. Then to give her ultimatum if she don't fiance him then he going to leave her.  If she has the money and it won't put her into a financial bind, then I would do it. But since you stated she doesn't have the money and will have to borrow from someone else. Then he should understand that she does not have the money to give to him.

But to put conditions on "love" is NOT real love. Love is unconditional. And by him saying that, he is putting conditions and boundaries on his love.  I would say, she may need to rethink if this is someone she wants to marry anyway. Because who is he to make her prove her love for him by going into further debt just to marry him. She is willing to accept him as is and love him despite him not having anything to bring to this relationship. Then for him to throw a low blow like that, that's selfish, mean and careless in my opinion.

OK Poster.

Hmmm this real funny, get the money or no deal girl!! Lmao,

sinie:

A friend of mine has been dating this guy for some years now and recently they've been talking about settling down and getting married. The problem is that the guy is not financially capable of funding a wedding not to talk of starting a family. However, he has plans to invest in a business but does not have the money as it is capital intensive in nature.Now he insists my friend must help him get the capital as a show of love else he won't go ahead with the wedding plansand he's giving her an ultimatum - If she doesn't try to get the money, he'll break up with her! My friend could get the money if she tried but she thinks it's not her place to do so. She also concerned about his ability to go an extra mile ingetting what he wants. He appears to be someone who relies on luck and miracles to make it in life!As much as she loves and cares for him, she's not willing to be blackmailed into taking care of a man!I dont' know guys, what are your views

Tell your friend to show him the exit door quick, he is a disgrace, why must she be given an ultimatum? If he can't afford to start a business then he should get the money from his family.

It's impressive and cool to know, there's actually someone who loves and, thinks at same time. Some of us have been fools for too long. 
Your friend is on the right track.

1- How much of a man is he, if he can shamelessly DEMAND money from his woman? It doesn't even end there.  . . . He gave her a condition- I'll marry you, only if you give me the money. Like, ehn?
He must really think your friend is desperate and needs a man in order to live long.
If I were your friend, even if i had the intention of helping him, for giving an ultimatum alone, he wouldn't get a dime. 

2- I don't even think any lady that cares about the financial well-being of herself and her kids would settle down with such a man. One who relies solely on help from other people. A man is not a man simply because he has a tail . . . .Prove to be one.
When one thinks of a man the idea that comes to mind is that of a strong
[financially included], decisive, hardworking character and not a sissy who sits at home with T.V remote in the hand, chewing gum and waiting for wife to ''help'' him.

I just feel like smackin the helly sh*t out of that Moda F**ker. what a lazy di*k head, so he don't even give a damn if the babe goes prostituting to raise him the cash. I assure u there no LOVE here, , Hijo de puta, que hombre puede hacer esto? I'm just mad @ this guy!!!

She should run faster than Maurice Green ooOO

Inked_Nerd:


Se habla Español?

Si, hablo perfectamente el español and you?

sounds like your friends is desperate to settle down. i suggest she look for a man that wont take advantage of her feelings but seriously, if she can raise the capital she should. afteral, it the bullshit called LOVE

There's nothing wrong with helping your husband or wife to be if you are in a position to do so, but the last thing anybody should fall for is blackmail, they always come back, it is not the kind of foundation that anyone wants to build a marriage on, tell her not to start what she cannot finish, a word is enough for the wise.

md4real:

sounds like your friends is desperate to settle down. i suggest she look for a man that wont take advantage of her feelings but seriously, if she can raise the capital she should. afteral, it the bullshit called LOVE

Inked_Nerd link=topic=539910.msg7040970#msg7040970 date=1288371371:


No, Spanish needs tons of work .

At least u can understand something.

Yeah, I can understand some things .
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[quote][/quote] I can assist u enhance in ur spanish,

Wow,wish i was multi Linguist too.