If Your Christian Spouse Divorces You, What Is God’s Will For You Now?


Many women and men write into the ministry in heartbreak letting us know that their spouse, who claims to be a Christian has left the marriage and wants a divorce. This is a very difficult, fearful, frustrating and challenging time for people, especially since they got married thinking they would be married to their spouse for a lifetime commitment.

Many of these Christian people wonder if they should remarry and start all over again, mostly because they do not want to be alone for the rest of their life. But remarriage is not God’s plan for a man or woman whose spouse has divorced them. It is unfortunate that so many “so called” Christian spouses are not behaving very responsibly in the marriage that they started. All I can say is they are VERY confused about God’s purpose and plan for marriage.

I realize that sometimes in marriage it just doesn’t work out because a spouse continues to commit adultery, or walks out of the marriage, or is adamant about a divorce. If a spouse demands a divorce and or trespasses against the marriage repeatedly, it is of my firm belief that they have been misinformed in the Christian church about God’s plan for marriage

What Does God Think About Divorce?

God hates divorce and says so in scripture. "For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away..." —Malachi 2:16

"Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." —Matthew 19:6

In the few instances where a spouse truly does not want to work on the marriage and insists on a divorce, what can you do? Just let them go. Do not undermine your faith or beliefs because of an unbelieving spouse. Your only recourse at this point is to just let your spouse do what they feel they need to, hoping that one day they will come back to God. They have a hardened heart and do not know that divorce is not God’s plan.

Scripture talks quite a bit about divorce and lets us know that God designed marriage as a permanent relationship. The problem is many couples go into marriage with the wrong attitude. They think that marriage is going to solve their problems, or make them happy, or they think they can change their spouse but these things are not realistic. We must be prepared for a lifetime marriage and seriously know what God’s will is BEFORE we get married.

Can My Spouse Divorce Me if I Commit Adultery?

In Matthew chapter 5 Jesus explains what marriage “used” to be like before Him, in the days of old. Moses made a law that allowed men to divorce their wives if they gave them a certificate of divorce. God did not tell Moses to enact this new divorcement law; he just went ahead and did it because he felt he had too. Unbelieving husbands were throwing their wives out into the streets, literally.

Now in the New Testament, Christ says the days of old are no more: “It hath been said, whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement. But I say unto you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery. (Matthew: 5:31-32)

Does this mean that if a spouse commits adultery it is ok to get a divorce? As much as the churches would like to believe and preach that divorce is ok if a spouse commits adultery, the study on it shows otherwise. If you look closely at this scripture it uses the word “fornication” not “adultery”. ”Whosever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery. Matthew: 5:32

What is fornication? Fornication is when you are not married yet—it is sex between two unmarried people. Doing more research on this study it shows that Jesus was talking to the Jews about the permanency of marriage. It was the custom back then for Jewish couples to be called husband and wife that were betrothed (engaged), which according to custom was almost like being married. But they had not consummated the marriage.

So the scripture is talking about couples who are not yet married, but are only betrothed. You could put away your betrothed wife or husband, if they committed fornication BEFORE the consummation period but not after. Jesus was letting them know that marriage is a permanent commitment.

God Takes Marriage Very Seriously
Yes, God takes marriage very seriously and for good reason, it is the symbol of the relationship between Christ and the true church. In fact we are to glorify this example of Christ and the church with our marriage! It is not a contract that can be broken like men do with contracts today. There is no dissolution of marriage no matter what either party has done in the marriage. But, here again, if the unbelieving spouse insists on leaving let them go. It would cause much ado to argue, fuss, and fight with someone who is adamant about leaving the marriage. Pray for them and perhaps they will come to their senses sooner rather than too late.

“But if the unbelieving depart let them depart. A brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.” (1 Corinthians 7:15)

Understand though, that just because you are “state” divorced from your spouse does not however mean to get remarried. It is God’s will for the Christian man or woman whose spouse divorced them to remain single and do God’s work rather than jump into another marriage. In fact remarriage is not even mentioned in the bible because in God’s eyes you are still married to your divorced spouse. So then you are not really single and available, and if we want to please God we should strive to do his will and serve him in whatever capacity that He has gifted us with.

“The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.” (1 Corinthians 7:39-40)

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@ Masogemstones, STOP TWISTING the holy Scriptures..
Christ says the
days of old are no more: “It hath been said,
whosoever shall put away his wife, let him
give her a writing of divorcement. But I say
unto you, that whosoever shall put away his
wife, saving for the cause of fornication,
causeth her to commit adultery. (Matthew:
5:31-32). Compare Matt 19:3-9.

Jesus APPROVAL of divorce is NOT debatable...

The Greek word "PO.RNEIA" in both Matt 19:9 and Matt 5:32 refers to ALL kinds of sexual activity OUTSIDE of marriage... whether fornication, adultery, lesbian, homosexual etc.

(Greek Po.rneia is the root of English word 'pornography').

Anyone who leaves his/her lawful spouse already has someone else to fill the vacuum.
The innocent spouse should gather the vital evidences & lawfully obtain a divorce & set him/herself free for remarriage... 1 Cor7:15.

No be sin, if the divorce is Legal.

But It's a sin if a spouse married another person while he/she is NOT legally divorced from the previous marriage.... it carries serious consequences....

Divorce is the last option on the table when a marriage is beset with crisis... such as chronic infidelity..

Janosky:
@ Masogemstones, STOP TWISTING the holy Scriptures..
Christ says the
days of old are no more: “It hath been said,
whosoever shall put away his wife, let him
give her a writing of divorcement. But I say
unto you, that whosoever shall put away his
wife, saving for the cause of fornication,
causeth her to commit adultery. (Matthew:
5:31-32). Compare Matt 19:3-9.

Jesus APPROVAL of divorce is NOT debatable...

The Greek word "PO.RNEIA" in both Matt 19:9 and Matt 5:32 refers to ALL kinds of sexual activity OUTSIDE of marriage... whether fornication, adultery, lesbian, homosexual etc.

(Greek Po.rneia is the root of English word 'pornography').

Anyone who leaves his/her lawful spouse already has someone else to fill the vacuum.
The innocent spouse should gather the vital evidences & lawfully obtain a divorce & set him/herself free for remarriage... 1 Cor7:15.

No be sin, if the divorce is Legal.

But It's a sin if a spouse married another person while he/she is NOT legally divorced from the previous marriage.... it carries serious consequences....

Divorce is the last option on the table when a marriage is beset with crisis... such as chronic infidelity..

I most humbly will tell you that Divorce is not Biblical. We as Christians must hate all that God hates. The Bible Said in Malachi 2:16 "For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously"... In Revelation 2:15 , Jesus Commended a Church for hating what he hates "So hast thou also them that hold the doctrine of the Nicolaitans, which thing I hate".. So we must hate all that God Hate.

However, if and when marriage union is grossly abused either through sexual unfaithfulness nor domestic violence... the offended can seek a separation through a divorcement.

Jesus Gave the full explanation in Matthew 19:3 -12(King James Version)

[b]3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?

4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not

9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.

11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.

12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.[/b]

Points To Note:
1. Divorce is not the part of Gods PLan for marriagevs 8..but from the beginning it was not )

2. Divorce is always a product of unrepentant and unforgiving heart.( Vs 8. Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives).

3. You are free to Divorce... But you are not free to marry another person. You can only Remarry your first spouse. or simply wait for He or She to die. (Vs 9)

See 1 Corinthian 7:10 and 11.

10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:

11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.


Also See Verses 39 and 40.

39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will;
only in the Lord.

40 But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God
Only Death can separate Marriage Spirit Soul and body. Government peppers can separate the body, but not the soul and spirit. Since
Marriage is a Spiritual Union and covenant, No government document can separate it....ONLY DEATH.

Romans 7:1-3.

1 Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth?

2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.

3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.

So if i have a spouse that has threatened to kill me,i should still stay in the marriage.

Masogemstones:



I most humbly will tell you that Divorce is not Biblical. We as Christians must hate all that God hates. The Bible Said in Malachi 2:16 "For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously"... In Revelation 2:15 , Jesus Commended a Church for hating what he hates "So hast thou also them that hold the doctrine of the Nicolaitans, which thing I hate".. So we must hate all that God Hate.

However, if and when marriage union is grossly abused either through sexual unfaithfulness nor domestic violence... the offended can seek a separation through a divorcement.

Jesus Gave the full explanation in Matthew 19:3 -12(King James Version)

[b]3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?

4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not

9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.

11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.

12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.[/b]

Points To Note:
1. Divorce is not the part of Gods PLan for marriagevs 8..but from the beginning it was not )

2. Divorce is always a product of unrepentant and unforgiving heart.( Vs 8. Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives).

3. You are free to Divorce... But you are not free to marry another person. You can only Remarry your first spouse. or simply wait for He or She to die. (Vs 9)

See 1 Corinthian 7:10 and 11.

10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:

11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.


Also See Verses 39 and 40.

39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will;
only in the Lord.

40 But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God
Only Death can separate Marriage Spirit Soul and body. Government peppers can separate the body, but not the soul and spirit. Since
Marriage is a Spiritual Union and covenant, No government document can separate it....ONLY DEATH.

Romans 7:1-3.

[b]1 Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth?

2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.

3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.

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Don't be more Catholic than the Pope.
Man is not God.

A lot of people have died staying in toxic marriage.
I lost a family member to domestic violence last month...the husband is in detention, while the children are without parent to cater for them