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Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by webgenius(m): 2:57am On Oct 31, 2010
He is the chauffeur,that's why he is standing by the ferrari.He wants you to understand that!!!!! grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by kabukabu50(m): 3:50am On Oct 31, 2010
webgenius:

He is the chauffeur,that's why he is standing by the ferrari.He wants you to understand that!!!!! grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

Child please,have yourself a cup of these, nizz, utz cool
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by marabout(m): 6:51am On Oct 31, 2010
At Carmelia,

Of course it is possible!
Most of us do it daily especially at work. You respect your nasty boss or get fired. You tolerate him/her or leave. You understand his/her attitude cos that's the way he/she is.

But from experience, love is helpful. But longterm, you need to understand, respect and tolerate. It doesn't matter how much you love someone, they will have some habits that piss you off sometimes. That's just because nobody is perfect.

Those butterflies in your belly in the early days are not enough to single-handedly sustain marriage.
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by finemocha(f): 7:41am On Oct 31, 2010
i think in marriage people should be patient wtih each other, and understand each other. So in other words yes understanding over love.
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by buccaneer7(m): 9:17am On Oct 31, 2010
God is love and God is the undefinable nature which predates our existence. Just allow yourself to flow(for love is in us), thats love. But love will never exist because we have have class,pride,greed name them,  So we adopted an alternate which is understanding.

Did i miss anything?  grin


Love is the air we breath, the foood we eat, love is everything beautifull thing we see. if you love your beautiifull pet you can love your sister and if you love your sister then you can love your wife. Let it flow.

YES COME WORSHIP WITH US AND LEARN THE MYSTERY OF LOVE. grin grin
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by Orestik(f): 12:03pm On Oct 31, 2010
@kabukabu50
u are just a clown grin grin grin
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by Frandey: 2:43pm On Oct 31, 2010
Well in marriage understanding comes first love is just name giving to a game plays by genders to another,respect is another key role in marriage not L.O.V.E
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by room702(m): 4:12pm On Oct 31, 2010
marriage nowadays is based more on understanding each other
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by kabarka(m): 5:25pm On Oct 31, 2010
jennifer:

love is nt enough cos understdin is d only ting dat keeps marriage goin.e.g your spouse is a talkative/has this bad habit dat u dislik:even lf u luv her/him u'll stil feel bad or pissd off each time she/he displys dat xter bt because u hav an understdin dat this person is like this,

Nice one Jennifer,all the time we try to change others which is wrong,we have to change ourselves in relating with others for every situation.THAT IS WHAT YOUR MAKER CAN DO FOR YOU.

And let me ask one question:what is the source of understanding? is it not LOVE?
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by MaiSuya(m): 7:40pm On Oct 31, 2010
kabarka:


And let me ask one question:what is the source of understanding? is it not LOVE?

You do well for that kweshun!
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by adaphik(f): 12:02am On Nov 01, 2010
Abuloma80:

OJ2010

It is tolerance/understanding and not love.
Love may take you into marriage but tolerance/understanding sustains the marriage, this much i know from my 7yrs of marriage experience.



No two ways about it other than what above poster has said. The unmarried look towards that, and the married maintain that if you have been doing

so, if not start [color=#006600]"TOLERANCE AND UNDERSTANDING". Love plays it roll at bringing you together and once married you sustain the companionship

through tolerance and understanding. I give God the glory that is much I achieved from my 29yrs of marriage.[/color]
Thank u OJ. Understanding sustains it. Love takes u into it. Absolutely true.
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by loveth(f): 12:35am On Nov 01, 2010
Pls dear,Love ought not to be script out entirely cos u can't tolerate or understand someboby u dn't love.
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by chelseabmw(m): 1:00am On Nov 01, 2010
Both, Understandin is the bedrock of love, Fidelity nd trust shud nt be left out.
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by Busybody2(f): 2:20am On Nov 01, 2010
For me it is;

Loyalty

Friendship

Instinct/foresight cool
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by akwaowoudo(m): 7:17am On Nov 01, 2010
Marriage isn't compulsory; if the love and understanding (if at all existed) for your partner fails, go back home!
Comparing the two _understanding and love; understanding conquers all.
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by Irk(m): 7:45am On Nov 01, 2010
I will say both are essential and desideratum to any marriage. Its love that brings them together and its understanding that makes them tolerate each other.

Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by vizion: 8:46am On Nov 01, 2010
understanding is very important but love enables one to put the understanding into action.


for example,

a yoruba woman marries an efik man, the fact that she understands he likes eating his naitive soup is not just enough to make the marriage last, it is the love she has for him that make her go out of her way learn how to cook his native soup. it is this love that makes her sacrifices her time an energy that would help her marriage work


It is the false definition that we give to love that makes us think understanging is above love

P.s.
LOVE CONQUERS ALL
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by jarkbauer: 9:37am On Nov 01, 2010
they did not truly love themselves in actual fact.
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by Nobody: 9:52am On Nov 01, 2010
Irk wetie be that one na
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by funcy: 10:52am On Nov 01, 2010
though LOVE<UNDERSTANDING N TOLERANCE IS PART OF IT but it is the lord that showeth mercy.
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by mediatrix8(f): 11:27am On Nov 01, 2010
LOVE is always associated with UNDERSTANDING, if there is no LOVE there will be no UNDERSTANDING, smiley
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by mecuryf(f): 12:40pm On Nov 01, 2010
tolerance
respect
fear of GOD
well i really dont know abt the love part cos most people dat are still married are doing it to save face grin
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by microgint: 1:30pm On Nov 01, 2010
Love conquers all.
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by MOORCHMOORE(m): 5:49pm On Nov 01, 2010
THIS IS A CASE STUDY OF "COMPLETE & FINISHED MARRIAGE".

WHEN YOU MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON, KNOW YE THOU ART "COMPLETE".

BUT WHEN YOU MARRY THE WRONG ONE, KNOW YE THOU ART "FINISHED" OR MARRIAGE AZIZ
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by MOORCHMOORE(m): 5:50pm On Nov 01, 2010
THIS IS A CASE STUDY OF "COMPLETE & FINISHED MARRIAGE".

WHEN YOU MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON, KNOW YE THOU ART "COMPLETE".

BUT WHEN YOU MARRY THE WRONG ONE, KNOW YE THOU ART "FINISHED" OR MARRIAGE AZIZ
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by miky007: 8:51pm On Nov 01, 2010
garbage in garbage out dats wot u get wen proper counsel is not tkin b4 runin' into mariage.

many swim in d river of lust and calls it love. a beg i can't shout !!! grin lol
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by prettyuc: 9:11am On Nov 02, 2010
Both are essential in a fruitful marriage
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by sofymoore(m): 2:40pm On Nov 02, 2010
the tolal gurd for marriage is love. it is in this true love that u will find tolerance and understanding. this true love make u do anything for yr partner like jesus did for us.
Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by akossyy: 1:27pm On Nov 03, 2010
in marriage when there is love, understanding comes in,

Re: Is Marriage Really Based On Love Or Understanding? by fahteemah(f): 11:38pm On Nov 03, 2010
For me i'ld say its love of which love is equal to understanding + respect + the grace to bear through challenging times -because it is not just about understanding one has to have the capacity to live with what he or she understands.

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