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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by MYDEBBY(m): 12:57pm On Sep 23, 2019
I mean your advises are lowering my BP because your advises are wonderful.

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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by Sonfethopia: 1:29pm On Sep 23, 2019
MYDEBBY:


I hear you able boss,I have started it already,this morning she called demanding I send her my daughters fees but I told her I will send the money directly to the school,I even told her I will change the girls school,by taking her to her grandmother to school over there before she will influence her negatively.

Good move
Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by JasonBoss: 1:42pm On Sep 23, 2019
Although it's been years back. But after i broke up with a disrespectful she leech( Wasn't easy) but with time i healed

Now I'm more better, stronger nd wiser. Emotional feelings or any of that shiit don't affect me anymore. I can be all lovey dubby wit u now nd if u wanna change by thinking u got me, trying to manipulate me with feelings, hahahahaha, I'll kick u to the curve and tell u it was a scam from the beginning. You self ain't gonna know wat hit u.

And if you wanna come rip were u don't fucking sow by coming to ask me for cash, fucck it, u gonna be wasting your time cos not even a shitttty dime is gonna touch ya hands.

It's a big shame the only thing them Redpill lady got to offer is sex, which they use as a tool for manipulation. Same seeex u enjoyed.


Buddy count your losses and get the fucck out Asap.. You got nothing to loose but she does.

Be emotionally secured and free and i tell u, a lady will neva hurt u no more.

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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by boxer022(m): 1:51pm On Sep 23, 2019
My brother before I proceed with my advice, I have an important question to ask you. Are you the person training her in school? If yes then you made a nasty mistake. She has been influenced by her friends who are not yet married to forget about you and move on with her life. How is your work or business going, are you making enough money or not. My reason for asking is that her friends may have told her to leave you since you don't have steady income and go with another guy who according to them has more money than you and may also be younger or older than you. You said you have done the traditional wedding and awaiting white wedding. I need you to do something. I need you to discuss this issue with your family and kindred telling them everything, standing your ground that if the lady is insisting on leaving the union, they should collect back the dowry paid on her head from the family and also collect your child from her. Look for another beautiful girl that will love you for who you are and not what you are.

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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by Modernist: 3:04pm On Sep 23, 2019
Nigger dump her, she not interested in you.

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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by JONNYSPUTE(m): 3:22pm On Sep 23, 2019
MYDEBBY:


I hear you able boss,I have started it already,this morning she called demanding I send her my daughters fees but I told her I will send the money directly to the school,I even told her I will change the girls school,by taking her to her grandmother to school over there before she will influence her negatively.
.. Wonderful move. Don't back down on this.

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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by MYDEBBY(m): 3:35pm On Sep 23, 2019
Lamanii22:




Someone is already deceiving her.... I'm not saying you're perfect o... But with all of the sending of money and provision you're doing..., you're really trying oo... Yoruba people would say " ori e fe je iko"(she wants to receive knocks on her head)... Which means she wants to embrace suffering...

Boss I no doubt you,thanks I even saw one guy as I stated.
Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by MYDEBBY(m): 3:36pm On Sep 23, 2019
JONNYSPUTE:
.. Wonderful move. Don't back down on this.

Thumbs up brotherly.
Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by MYDEBBY(m): 3:40pm On Sep 23, 2019
boxer022:
My brother before I proceed with my advice, I have an important question to ask you. Are you the person training her in school? If yes then you made a nasty mistake. She has been influenced by her friends who are not yet married to forget about you and move on with her life. How is your work or business going, are you making enough money or not. My reason for asking is that her friends may have told her to leave you since you don't have steady income and go with another guy who according to them has more money than you and may also be younger or older than you. You said you have done the traditional wedding and awaiting white wedding. I need you to do something. I need you to discuss this issue with your family and kindred telling them everything, standing your ground that if the lady is insisting on leaving the union, they should collect back the dowry paid on her head from the family and also collect your child from her. Look for another beautiful girl that will love you for who you are and not what you are.

Bravo my senior colleague,thanks for you superb counsel,sincerely it is her friends that are unmarried that deceived her.but after all my spendings and she did this to me,she must regret the tears I shed pleading to her.Thanks once again.

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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by MYDEBBY(m): 3:48pm On Sep 23, 2019
JasonBoss:
Although it's been years back. But after i broke up with a disrespectful she leech( Wasn't easy) but with time i healed

Now I'm more better, stronger nd wiser. Emotional feelings or any of that shiit don't affect me anymore. I can be all lovey dubby wit u now nd if u wanna change by thinking u got me, trying to manipulate me with feelings, hahahahaha, I'll kick u to the curve and tell u it was a scam from the beginning. You self ain't gonna know wat hit u.

And if you wanna come rip were u don't fucking sow by coming to ask me for cash, fucck it, u gonna be wasting your time cos not even a shitttty dime is gonna touch ya hands.

It's a big shame the only thing them Redpill lady got to offer is sex, which they use as a tool for manipulation. Same seeex u enjoyed.


Buddy count your losses and get the fucck out Asap.. You got nothing to loose but she does.

Be emotionally secured and free and i tell u, a lady will neva hurt u no more.


Jasonboss you are really a boss indeed,a million thumbs up for you.in fact when I noticed the change in her character I told her she was manipulating me.
Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by MYDEBBY(m): 3:55pm On Sep 23, 2019
Lalasticlala
Obinoscopy
Mynd44

Pls do the needful for me.

Situation report the mum of my wife called me to ask why I did not send the money of my 4yrs old daughters school fees as my wife demanded this morning,I told her that I will be changing my daughters school,or probably if I will pay will transfer it to the school account directly.
She then said while I am coming for the meeting at the village this weekend I should carry them along in my car,this is what my wife refused when I was suggesting to do so,but now the mum is pleading I come along with them in my ride. Should I adhere? Thanks all.
Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by MYDEBBY(m): 4:07pm On Sep 23, 2019
Sonfethopia:


Good move

Thanks brother
Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by ManuelNate1: 4:15pm On Sep 23, 2019
MYDEBBY:
Lalasticlala
Obinoscopy
Mynd44

Pls do the needful for me.

Situation report the mum of my wife called me to ask why I did not send the money of my 4yrs old daughters school fees as my wife demanded this morning,I told her that I will be changing my daughters school,or probably if I will pay will transfer it to the school account directly.
She then said while I am coming for the meeting at the village this weekend I should carry them along in my car,this is what my wife refused when I was suggesting to do so,but now the mum is pleading I come along with them in my ride. Should I adhere? Thanks all.

Oga, yhu seem too weak for my liking. Yhu stand advantaged in this matter... This is the ryt time to let those ingrates (fiancee plus her parents) knw dah yhu re a man and not a fucking weak ass niqqa dey ve taken yhu to be all along. Fucking tell dem No... yhu cant take them along in ur car. Tell dem ur car is faulty... Dah d shock absorbers are very very bad... ur vehicle cant accomodate more dan one person which is yhu, d driver. Let dem fucking find their way out to the venue. Those kinda ppl dun deserve anitin nice from anibody. Let those fucking deir daughter make provision for a vehicle for them to use.

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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by MYDEBBY(m): 4:55pm On Sep 23, 2019
ManuelNate1:


Oga, yhu seem too weak for my liking. Yhu stand advantaged in this matter... This is the ryt time to let those ingrates (fiancee plus her parents) knw dah yhu re a man and not a fucking weak ass niqqa dey ve taken yhu to be all along. Fucking tell dem No... yhu cant take them along in ur car. Tell dem ur car is faulty... Dah d shock absorbers are very very bad... ur vehicle cant accomodate more dan one person which is yhu, d driver. Let dem fucking find their way out to the venue. Those kinda ppl dun deserve anitin nice from anibody. Let those fucking deir daughter make provision for a vehicle for them to use.

Manuelnate you too much a million handshake for you jare, I don't know why I am too soft minded,but someone too has just given me this same advise you give here,I swear I no go carry them and I go tell her as she is coming she should come with my daughters belongings cos she won't live with her in school again,rather she will stay with her grandmother.

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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by Zubi10(m): 5:06pm On Sep 23, 2019
LilMissFavvy:
Most women would be happy to marry the man they once had a child for, so if she is doing otherwise, it means you have been a bad partner. You mentioned that she brought up your past deeds. You cannot control her like a robot, accept her dressing, or let her be.If you wish to keep her, then change your character for the best.
You're just been wicked ....what rubbish talk is this??
Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by MYDEBBY(m): 5:31pm On Sep 23, 2019
Tastyme:
You still refer to her as your "wife"? Anyways, its obvious you really still love her and that love will be used to manipulate you, by both her parents and her. You can take her in your car, for the sake of your innocent daughter. Again, it really makes no sense to expend twice on the same journey with the same destination. But the true test of your manliness will come from your ability to do this and still stay aloof. Women tend to take a man they feel is at their beck and call for granted. Hers is compounded by the fact that she has a pawn - ur daughter. You need to focus ONLY on your daughter and look past dis lady. I'll bet she's in her early twenties. Unfortunately, we no dey too get sense at dat age and so hardly even recognize wat we really want. But don't be her fool. Make her know your interest from this point is your daughter, nothing else. You cant force love, if she says she dosent want you anymore, let her go! She'll most likely regret it in future, but it'll be her loss, not yours. Also, be careful not to let her parents manipulate you to go back on any decision you take on your relationship with their daughter. If they fail to talk some sense and instill some discipline in their daughter, then its their problem not yours. The decision to take your daughter to her granny is a good one. Let her stay there for now it'll make you less vulnerable to this lady till you sort things out better.
Finally, in all these, dont forget to live! Make the most of every opportunity, meet new people and open yourself to love again. Life is too short to let anyone steal your happiness.




Tastyme what of if I get emotional in the car with them and loss control,I appreciate your wonderful advice.she has really manipulated me but its enough of my mumurity and humility. Never again!!! This time around at least I dedicate my stand this time around to my late father,mother and brothers.Thanks.
Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by Apination(m): 5:57pm On Sep 23, 2019
MYDEBBY:
Dear Nairalander I greet you all.Pls I need candid advice,I have dated my wife for over six years with an issue,and now that we have done traditional rites and about to climax with white wedding she is giving flimsy excuses that she is no longer interested in me.She is currently in final year and has drastically changed in her dressing and attitude towards due to influence of friends in school. Often I do report incidences of her recent poor dressing to her parents after cautioning her she will channel the grievances to me.The recent one made her so angry that she started recanting all my past mistakes which she and her family are aware of and have resolved since now using it as an excuse against me that she is no longer interested. She kept mute for over two weeks due to anger yet I still transferred money twice to her but up till now she did not acknowledged it,only for her to send text that she need money for our daughters school fees.I then decide to visit them off campus where they stay yesterday with lots of provision yet she could not say a common thank you.While I was still making peace with her asking her to forgive me for whatever wrong I have done to her by reporting her to her parents,promising not to do so again,a guy knocked the door,and she went out after the guy I asked a relation who was there who was the guy and he said he is my wife's friend,I quickly followed them on citing me the guy diverted after their discussion about me.when we then entered the house I asked her who was the guy and she said that's not my business. I kept quiet.after a while I called her parents to tell them the situation of things that their daughter said she is no longer interested they now asked us to come down to the village to see them this coming weekend.I know things are not alright somewhere and as such I need straight forward advice on what to do.pls no insult just help out.Thanks
Pussy ass nigga, begging like a bitch undecided

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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by JONNYSPUTE(m): 6:00pm On Sep 23, 2019
MYDEBBY:
Lalasticlala
Obinoscopy
Mynd44

Pls do the needful for me.

Situation report the mum of my wife called me to ask why I did not send the money of my 4yrs old daughters school fees as my wife demanded this morning,I told her that I will be changing my daughters school,or probably if I will pay will transfer it to the school account directly.
She then said while I am coming for the meeting at the village this weekend I should carry them along in my car,this is what my wife refused when I was suggesting to do so,but now the mum is pleading I come along with them in my ride. Should I adhere? Thanks all.
.. You should also cut off all the allowances you used to give her.Let those people deceiving her take over.Your only interest from now should be your daughter's welfare.
Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by Jayso1234: 7:37pm On Sep 23, 2019
LilMissFavvy:
Most women would be happy to marry the man they once had a child for, so if she is doing otherwise, it means you have been a bad partner. You mentioned that she brought up your past deeds. You cannot control her like a robot, accept her dressing, or let her be.If you wish to keep her, then change your character for the best.

This poster is making sense. You have not told us her grievances against you. Most women would be happy to marry the father of her child unless he has a major character flaw. I doubt it is simply a school fees/money issue. If you really want to work things out, you should find out why she is no longer interested.

Also, it seems you have no problem criticizing her dressing. Do you ever praise her dressing or any other thing about her? If you only criticize, she may not feel valued and have lost interest because of that.

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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by LilMissFavvy(f): 7:56pm On Sep 23, 2019
My dear.. ...i drop my views and off I go. He may have done something wrong. Imargine him reporting the girl repeatedly to parents during courtship, one wonders what will happen after marriage.
Jayso1234:


This poster is making sense. You have not told us her grievances against you. Most women would be happy to marry the father of her child unless he has a major character flaw. I doubt it is simply a school fees/money issue. If you really want to work things out, you should find out why she is no longer interested.

Also, it seems you have no problem criticizing her dressing. Do you ever praise her dressing or any other thing about her? If you only criticize, she may not feel valued and have lost interest because of that.
Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by Nobody: 8:07pm On Sep 23, 2019
MYDEBBY:
Dear Nairalander I greet you all.Pls I need candid advice,I have dated my wife for over six years with an issue,and now that we have done traditional rites and about to climax with white wedding she is giving flimsy excuses that she is no longer interested in me.She is currently in final year and has drastically changed in her dressing and attitude towards due to influence of friends in school. Often I do report incidences of her recent poor dressing to her parents after cautioning her she will channel the grievances to me.The recent one made her so angry that she started recanting all my past mistakes which she and her family are aware of and have resolved since now using it as an excuse against me that she is no longer interested. She kept mute for over two weeks due to anger yet I still transferred money twice to her but up till now she did not acknowledged it,only for her to send text that she need money for our daughters school fees.I then decide to visit them off campus where they stay yesterday with lots of provision yet she could not say a common thank you.While I was still making peace with her asking her to forgive me for whatever wrong I have done to her by reporting her to her parents,promising not to do so again,a guy knocked the door,and she went out after the guy I asked a relation who was there who was the guy and he said he is my wife's friend,I quickly followed them on citing me the guy diverted after their discussion about me.when we then entered the house I asked her who was the guy and she said that's not my business. I kept quiet.after a while I called her parents to tell them the situation of things that their daughter said she is no longer interested they now asked us to come down to the village to see them this coming weekend.I know things are not alright somewhere and as such I need straight forward advice on what to do.pls no insult just help out.Thanks
The advice I'll give to you is to quit reporting her to parent. You a grown man, deal with ur problems accordingly. Importantly never force a woman to stay with you. Give her a breather if she get sense, she retrace her steps.
Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by Nobody: 8:11pm On Sep 23, 2019
LilMissFavvy:
Most women would be happy to marry the man they once had a child for, so if she is doing otherwise, it means you have been a bad partner. You mentioned that she brought up your past deeds. You cannot control her like a robot, accept her dressing, or let her be.If you wish to keep her, then change your character for the best.
My prayer right now is that God should keep me away from people like you.

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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by Nobody: 8:11pm On Sep 23, 2019
MYDEBBY:


Tastyme what of if I get emotional in the car with them and loss control,I appreciate your wonderful advice.she has really manipulated me but its enough of my mumurity and humility. Never again!!! This time around at least I dedicate my stand this time around to my late father,mother and brothers.Thanks.
Lol. Calm down. Are you temperamental? See you need to start acting like an alpha male o.

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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by Nobody: 8:13pm On Sep 23, 2019
Jayso1234:


This poster is making sense. You have not told us her grievances against you. Most women would be happy to marry the father of her child unless he has a major character flaw. I doubt it is simply a school fees/money issue. If you really want to work things out, you should find out why she is no longer interested.

Also, it seems you have no problem criticizing her dressing. Do you ever praise her dressing or any other thing about her? If you only criticize, she may not feel valued and have lost interest because of that.
And you blatantly ignored the part where he talked about the guy that visited her.

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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by Nobody: 8:14pm On Sep 23, 2019
MYDEBBY:


Manuelnate you too much a million handshake for you jare, I don't know why I am too soft minded,but someone too has just given me this same advise you give here,I swear I no go carry them and I go tell her as she is coming she should come with my daughters belongings cos she won't live with her in school again,rather she will stay with her grandmother.
Remember an innocent kid is in between all these. You guys should go for the family meeting and lay ur cards on the table. If she insists on leaving, let her go. You'll die prematurely if u keep a lady who actually doesn't wanna be kept.
Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by enuk80(m): 8:39pm On Sep 23, 2019
I will advise you to live the woman immediately. She is not a good woman. She will turn you to trash if you continue with her. The best thing like everyone one has said above me is to move on with your life. I will also advise you to take custody of your daughter(s) so as to look after her (them). Your children don't need to be influence by your ex wife attitude. Let your ex wife be and move on with your life. This is part of life and you are not the first to go through this challenges. She is ungrateful and trying to manipulate you with your past.

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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by slimay(m): 8:51pm On Sep 23, 2019
Shame the devil. Leave her first so she won't tell the story of her breaking the relationship
Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by MYDEBBY(m): 9:22pm On Sep 23, 2019
Zubi10:
You're just been wicked ....what rubbish talk is this??

Ask me oo how can my wife dress provocatively in my absence for what? A girl from a good Christian background, but in school like Jezebel even after I have spoken one on one with her that other men may take advantage of her dressing and talk to her anyhow.

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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by MYDEBBY(m): 9:25pm On Sep 23, 2019
Apination:

Pussy ass nigga, begging like a bitch undecided

I accept the insult but remember the soul has no rainbow hath the eyes no tears. Meekness is not weakness.The tears of a warrior has repercussion.my tears did wash my soul and all the charms and manipulation she has used on me I am now free IJN

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Re: Advice Needed My Wife Wants To Abandon Me After All These Years by MYDEBBY(m): 9:29pm On Sep 23, 2019
JONNYSPUTE:
.. You should also cut off all the allowances you used to give her.Let those people deceiving her take over.Your only interest from now should be your daughter's welfare.


Thanks my senior,I have started doing that she thought as usual I will send the fees of my daughter to her account as usual but her brain reformat when I told her am changing my daughters school or better still if I will pay I will pay directly to the school account.

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