faithscharms:


Hmmm who is biodun?is that a good thing or bad thing?

Christopherrrr:


Bro, no one is deceiving me. I know of this tradition right from the day I was born till now. It's just so unfortunate I happen to be a victim of it. I know of a family in my community too that their father made the mistake from a far distance community with more than 20-25yrs gone before it was discovered. Him and his entire household was sidelined from all other family dealings to the extent it affected his daughters getting married to people around. They took succor from outside the state as the case was then. It's just the inter-marrying that's the case but can be involved in every other dealings.

Christopherrrr:


Please advise a brother because I'm in a deep state of dilemma.

Zikora1000:
if you are looking for someone that will give you peace of mind. come, let me show you one. her only fault, she is over 6ft tall. but nice shape humble and very pretty too.

KraticKratus:


As everybody is now sleeping with everybody, I think 90% of people in Nigeria are already Osus.

henryobinna:
what will the government or NGO really fight?

there's nothing ot be fought here.

the government or NGO won't force his parents and entire community to attend his wedding neither will they force his parents to bless them, not even force the family to accept the girl.

The guy can go on and do court wedding and church wedding if his church is cool with his parents not partaking in it. But traditionally, he and his family (plus kids) are not recognized... The father can refuse to let him into his house or anything concerning him, so what will the government and NGO do in such case?

Some of you who are none Igbos or do not have knowledge of the thing will just be giving advice uppn advice on a subject you lack information of. The truth is nobody can stop him from marrying the girl if he so wishes... At the same time nobody can force others to accept/recognise he and his marriage(family as well)... I don't know how marriages are done in other parts of Nigeria but in Igbo land, it goes beyond the few hours of ceremonies...


By the way, the Osu thing has spiritual repercussions, strangely enough nobody made mention of it here.

I will only advise the OP to go ahead if he's a devoted Christian(because of the spiritual repercussions) and if he's ready to damn the social consequences(family, community etc etc)


Other wise, just do what you know is right. By the way, marrying her sef right now based on her good conduct and love does not determine what she'll turn into tomorrow... people change... love changes.


Good luck with whatever decision you decide to go with

UIA04:


Stop with the insults.

Prince harry was only able to marry her because

1. She has a white father and a mixed raced mother. Their children will technically white.

2. The crown allowed it.

This occurred after the tumultuous marriage between Charles and Diana , Harry's parents.

Do you know how many past British princes and princess had to sacrifice their love before today?


Op's children, neices, nephews , father, mother, and grandchildren automatically become outcastes for his choice.

This isn't something that goes away in 5 years.

It's a terrible tradition.

Christopherrrr:


Everyone is using our colonial master and western world as reference. People that damned what so ever consequence. Are our people willing to embrace it to the fullest?

faithscharms:


Hmmm who is biodun?is that a good thing or bad thing?

Slimsly100:



Bruh that's in Enugu state, they don't really take those things serious like IMO state. Dem carry am for head like dada o

flowx:


You means those winkles lap and her old fingers...?
Evening market!
Cc
Faithscharms!

KraticKratus:


As everybody is now sleeping with everybody, I think 90% of people in Nigeria are already Osus.

UIA04:


Stop with the insults.

Prince harry was only able to marry her because

1. She has a white father and a mixed raced mother. Their children will technically white.

2. The crown allowed it.

This occurred after the tumultuous marriage between Charles and Diana , Harry's parents.

Do you know how many past British princes and princess had to sacrifice their love before today?


Op's children, neices, nephews , father, mother, and grandchildren automatically become outcastes for his choice.

This isn't something that goes away in 5 years.

It's a terrible tradition.

michealdeco:
the OSU Caste system is a scam brought by the White men to distinguish between people who refused to serve them and those that agreed to serve them

Personally I don't believe in that rubbish and it can never be a thing stopping me from marrying

Just educate your parents and go ahead no single thing will happen to you


OSU is a scam

Leemekzy:
Had the same problem also.

Zikora1000:
if you are looking for someone that will give you peace of mind. come, let me show you one. her only fault, she is over 6ft tall. but nice shape humble and very pretty too.

Zikora1000:
if you are looking for someone that will give you peace of mind. come, let me show you one. her only fault, she is over 6ft tall. but nice shape humble and very pretty too.

Mrshizzy:


You just said it all, most people here don't really understand this OSU thing......if it were a cross you would carry alone, I doubt the tradition would have lasted this long. And the spiritual repercussions of a thing, no one mentioned that, just shows that most people commenting here are not informed. No NGO or government can solve this issue.

The real issue lies in the spiritual aspect......even with the strong hold of Christianity in Nigeria, traditional beliefs still hold sway.

OdenKelechi:

We all are

Enemyofpeace:
you dey mind me? I just wan make her head swell up small, make she too feel like a human bean

OdenKelechi:

They should receive sense

Christopherrrr:


The only known repercussion is the idea you're alone and can't be involved in any family dealings or association. They can't call you their own and remember no one is an island. Damning the consequences is a very brutal one as the case may be. They're quite magnitudinous. It's quite fair if it was a mistake than being fully aware and venturing into it. It's indeed a dicey one!!

AwkaetitiBabe:
Until married though. Once u got that ring, u no longer available.

Derea:
Christopherrrr sorry to say this but you're a coward. Either that or you're not ripe for marriage. Go and grow up first.

OdenKelechi:

Exactly!!