I have been dating this lady for a while now for years, long story short we are at the point we are both struggling to gain a stable job. But money is not the problem we don't have financial issue though we've had to be broke once in a while.

The main gist we quarrel everyday these days we get to disagree on so many things, nobody is accepting to be at fault and most of all she act irritated once we have these issues, she avoids my call. I don't know if I am too possessive but she seriously do not respect me. She always point out that I am not her spec she just fell in love with me, she doesn't see me manly.

I want something permanent with this lady should I end this now or it is just premature mind set.

Please nairalanders your opinion I need to decide

Isaacnj:
But she seriously do not respect me. She always point out that I am not her spec she just fell in love with me, she doesn't see me manly.

This is enough reason for a reasonable man to opt out from such situationship.

She told you point blank that you are not her spec, does that not mean anything to you? Haba bro.

jospepper:
She told you point blank that you are not her spec, does that not mean anything to you? Haba bro.

But she claims that she still loves me, that she is just telling me. That she fell in love and she knew what she needed was in me not in physic

Isaacnj:
I have been dating this lady for a while now for years, long story short we are at the point we are both struggling to gain a stable job. But money is not the problem we don't have financial issue though we've had to be broke once in a while.

The main gist we quarrel everyday these days we get to disagree on so many things, nobody is accepting to be at fault and most of all she act irritated once we have these issues, she avoids my call. I don't know if I am too possessive but she seriously do not respect me. She always point out that I am not her spec she just fell in love with me, she doesn't see me manly.

I want something permanent with this lady should I end this now or it is just premature mind set.

Please nairalanders your opinion I need to decide

Please continue with d bus taking u to gombe,meanwhile ur heading to lagos dont tell driver to reverse oo,,continue going to gombe

jospepper:
She told you point blank that you are not her spec, does that not mean anything to you? Haba bro.

As simple as that statement is our friend is still asking to continue or not.

My advice is that you should not leave since you don't have the sense to decipher your place value in the life of that lady.

drmikeadams:


Please continue with d bus taking u to gombe,meanwhile ur heading to lagos dont tell driver to revise oo,,continue going to gombe

Come clean I don't get

Isaacnj:


Come clean I don't get

please leave that lady asap

I can not totally rule out that she has made positive impacts in my life we enjoy each others company. Jus that she acts weird when we fall out

Isaacnj:





But she claims that she still loves me, that she is just telling me. That she fell in love and she knew what she needed was in me not in physic

how can you love someone and not have respect for them? I feel love and respect go together.

Both of you are struggling to get stable jobs and you expect the lady to be lovely and happy, com'on bro.
It's obvious the girl is frustrated by both your financial conditions and women aren't designed to handle certain pressures.
Try and get a job or acquire a skill to make ends meet. Love and poverty never mix just like oil and water.

Opt out immediate effect.

J111333:
Both of you are struggling to get stable jobs and you expect the lady to be lovely and happy, com'on bro.
It's obvious the girl is frustrated by both your financial conditions and women aren't designed to handle certain pressures.
Try and get a job or acquire a skill to make ends meet. Love and poverty never mix just like oil and water.

Are your saying all would still be attributed to money. So if the money starts coming we will be cool

Common op dont give up ooo, she must succumb. You are the man here

Isaacnj:


Are your saying all would still be attributed to money. So if the money starts coming we will be cool

No, it's not all about money but money is the head of any household. Hardship can change a woman, trust me.
No matter how good a wife is today, the day she becomes the breadwinner of her home especially when the man is not making enough efforts, she will change. Your girl is still that lovely girlfriend you used to know, it's just that lack of good means of livelihood is gradually taking her into depression but you're not aware of it yet. Women are easily prey to bad effects of hardship and failures.

She always point out that I am not her spec she just fell in love with me, she doesn't see me manly.



You're stupid, sorry

Isaacnj:
I have been dating this lady for a while now for years, long story short we are at the point we are both struggling to gain a stable job. But money is not the problem we don't have financial issue though we've had to be broke once in a while.

The main gist we quarrel everyday these days we get to disagree on so many things, nobody is accepting to be at fault and most of all she act irritated once we have these issues, she avoids my call. I don't know if I am too possessive but she seriously do not respect me. She always point out that I am not her spec she just fell in love with me, she doesn't see me manly.

I want something permanent with this lady should I end this now or it is just premature mind set.

Please nairalanders your opinion I need to decide

please dump that lady. No one should be with you dur to condition or out of pity

What else do you want naa she already told you that you are not are spec which directly or indirectly says you are just an assistant boyfriend, BTW wats with guys on NL acting like dis like babes don finish for naija or something?

Isaacnj:





But she claims that she still loves me, that she is just telling me. That she fell in love and she knew what she needed was in me not in physic

What's love?