Homguy:
I really think you are only being used. Propose officially and she will turn you down.

Kapeter:
op, don't mind all the mumus saying you should leave her. They are prolly teens who doesn't know left from right yet. Some women just naturally love the feel of been taking care of, that might be her case, like they love the feeling that their man is taking care of them rather prolly something just to boast of. Buh if you you think you are not comfortable about this, i think you should talk to her about it since you two are already talking marriage so it won't affect your home later after marriage. Women should be a helper, remember? So talk to her about it and you can know what next to do from her response.

Korllami007:
Chai see how dem de use person head de play ping pong.

pocohantas:


He should marry her. A man is the head of the home. He has to start learning how to be the head...not head of fish

Helada:
Wait Oga.... Are you asking for permission to continue paying... Cos I am not understanding......

oloriLFC:
No. Some women sha, not all

Belafonte:


So, men are allergic to being taken care of? This is a hot load of hogwash. Anybody who listens to this will end in perdition.

clems88:
they all have that mentality

Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions.

Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official.

I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.

Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!

EastGold:

Swear sey women never use your head before!
No be you be this.

Ahmed0336:
What are you still doing in that relationship? OP kindly walk away she's an extortionist.

Where are these feminists on nairaland at

spiritedtete:



Are you married?... is this the best you can do to your brother?

Get wisdom ... somethings are better left unsaid.


To the OP.

You are cage with affection and glorifying "your-self ego"

My brother you are about to marry wrong... obviously from your write up, you are hardworking... you need a woman who will complement you. Not the one who will put you under pressure.


Don't not marry that lady... if you want to know what happiness and fulfillment is in marriage.


Some people are better as Just Girlfriend! Or even baby mama. Not as live in companion.

Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions.

Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official.

I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.

Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!

LordKO:
@OP

Discard her and look elsewhere for a sane woman - actually, you've been a slave to your longings all this while, strive and conquer yourself. She's both egoistic and egotistic, her kind of woman is a perfect definition of toxicity, irrespective of her financial standing, and she'll remain a toxic woman even if you're to assume her and all her lineage financial responsibilities.

And don't allow anyone to gloat and guilt trip you into thinking that there're no financially emancipated women who're independent and submissive - that's, if you're bent on marrying only a woman who's financially emancipated. Submissiveness is a product of good attribute (sane moral and psychological health), something small-minded women can't possess or give - the same way small-minded men can't possess or give love. It doesn't depend on richness or poverty - it's a product of class that money can't buy, the ethical class.

In fact, the more successful a sane woman (or man) is, the more ethically sound she'll become - it's only a small-minded woman who will become contentious in particular and more toxic in general after achieving little success. The real success isn't loud and toxic, it's humble and invigorating.

Kapeter:
no matter what the world(most esecially feminists) says, it will always remain women to be taken care of by men while women help men. That's how God created the world. They are already talking marriage, that small thing shouldn't separate them. The op doesn't seem to have any other problem with his fiancee except that, so should that now tear them apart when they can easily talk it out? If the lady is deliberately doing that and not for her ego or any other meaningful reason then the op can dump her and find a replacement as it will seem she's only unsing op.

Esthered:
How can you engage an empowered woman with an entitlement mentality? She ought to be your partner and not impose her bills on you and if you weren't in her life, won't the rent be paid. Have you tried talking to her about it and how you're financially stressed? Does she truly work and earn as she claims? Some of us believe that his money is ours and mine is mine but when my baby needs support, I make sure he doesn't lose sleep before I render help as a woman was created as a help meet. If she poses other good qualities, raise your concern now and seek for improvement if she's willing to learn. If you go on without improvement, you'll age quickly, fall ill in your later years because you were bearing the burden of your woman, children and her family. This is why women outlive men sometimes. I'll like to grow old with my man. All the best in your decision making.

Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions.

Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official.

I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.

Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!

Offpoint:
Keep paying her bills Mr. 'Bill Gates'

She earned more than you and you pay her bills... wonderfool

Kapeter:
so because of little thing as this the op should dump thelady abi even though they have no other prob in a world filled with so many flawed ladies, hun?

He's getting tired ofthe habit, he's starting to reason it's unwise hence reason he needs advise, isn't it better to talk to her woman about it and that will promp his next step?

Yet you asking if i'm married, i don't know if you are either, buh i guess when your wife exhibit some certain habit you dislike, you'd just wake up one day, go to court and file for divorce without talking to her about it? Isn't it same that applies to someone you are planning to get married to?

Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions.

Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.

She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official.

I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.

Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!

Headlesschicken:
Run bro,I repeat Run, A wise man once told me that no woman is in love,they r all after something... Never tell a woman u want to wife her,no matter how wonderful she is, always keep her guessing... Buh u guys would never hear...Once Dem gv una small t0t0 una go begin misbehave...