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Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by seyenko(m): 8:34pm On Jan 10, 2020 |
It's time to man up and stand for yourself johndan103: Background I am 28 years old (will be 29 on the 18th Oct) and I am ready to go the family way. I have a lovely girlfirend lets call her Hauwa, she is 28 too (will be 29 March next year) and is emotionally matured and ready to settle down too, but the problem is my mom.
Statement of Problem My mom gets irritated when I tell her i am ready to marry. She keeps hoping i dont get married soon saying i am ungrateful for all the care she has shown me. I have a Job and i have promised to do what I should do. But she said i must not marry the person i love. She has rejected every lady I have brought home. In fact she has never approved any relationship I have ever been in. Every lady i date is either a prostitute or a low life according to her.
More Details She wants to match make for me. She is always talking about her friends daughters, so last year i tried to reason with her and allowed her to send me her choice (this was before my present relationship). She sent the lady's number and i contacted the lady. Very rude lady who thinks being a medical student is the best thing that has happened since sliced bread. We didnt gel at all cos i feel she's too slow and not my type of woman, she also wasnt digging the match making thingy. The lady eventually told me she is in another relationship and i felt relieved. I told my mom and she said theres another medical student (daughter of another friend) of hers.
My Point of View I am tired of her trying to match make me with her own opinion of the best choice for me. I love this lady I presently am dating to the moon and I cant see myself leaving a matured, humble and independent woman for another slowpoke i dont even know.
My mom has said if i go ahead I wont have her blessings in the marriage and that i have been jazed. I used to think moms will be happy that their son wants to start a family but mine has made it harder for me. I know parents want the best for their children but this is a tall oder for me.
Hauwa's Point of View Hauwa is already feeling rejected about the whole saga and has asked me to keep peace with my mom. She says she undestands moms are protective. She handeled it well with maturity. I delibratelty asked her to visit my mom from the begining of the relationship so that they can familiarize with themselves but my mom wont accept her. Hauwa is saying it will be difficult emotionally for us if our relationship and marriage is not accepted.
Mom's Point of View The first reason my mom gave is that Hauwa is Igala while we are okun (i have introduced my mom to an Okun lady in the past she said our village doesnt marry from Yagba, I also introduced her to another youruba lady she said the lady parents are not together so she wont keep a home). The second point my mom raised is that the lady is financially independent, makes money and drives a Jeep. (I have asked Hauwa about her financial status and I am convinced runs is not not her way cos she has elaborated on how she affords her lifestyle and its genuine).She also asked for the 4million she loaned me before I talk about marriage which I will. I asked her if she wants cash or a car and she said a benz. My plan is to get her an SUV before end of the year so i can focus on settling down next year. I am very lonely and tired of bachelor life. I want to settle down and start have kids not sleeping around like a fuckboy.
Family point of view My family is very educated and well travelled so i dont understand why this issue is coming up. I am already processing visa for Hauwa cos i cant keep breaking my heart by ending relationships at her command just to to make her happy. My dad is neutral but he wont want to offend his wife so he might try and reason with her. My sisters have said they will support my chioce but I shouldnt complain if I make the wrong choice even tho my mom will try to convince my siblings not to give me any kind of emotional support.
My Question What are the repercussions of going ahead with the marriage plans?? Has any man successfully gone against their moms wish and turned out happy??
NB: No one can change my moms mind, not my dad, not pastor, not her sister. on one because she will convince them she is right and tell them I am lying, that she has never rejected anyone except this person. Please I dont want to give the impression that my mom is a bad person cos she has trained me in the right path and I have never lacked because of her. She is also very supportive and has provided everything and more at all times for all her children.
Please be kind to us cos im sending the link to Hauwa to read matured peoples opinion.
Cheers |
Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by Noblefirstlady: 12:14am On Jan 16, 2020 |
johndan103: Hi, I disliked your comment initially and it looked like you were attacking me. But it turns out you were the only right person in over 24,000 views. I have learnt from this experience not to post one's personal life online or expect to get the best answer. majority might be wrong.
Hauwa and I have gone our seperate ways. We are on good terms I hope. The good thing about the breakup is that my mom didnt play any role in it. Her influence didnt even affect the seperation.
What let to the seperation is that I found out that Hauwa likes girls too. Yeah you read that right. Well I cant deal with a woman who swings both ways.
I dont want to assasinate her character cos she's a nice person inherently but i cant deal with Lesbianism. I guess independent women are prone to such feelings. I had to move on unfortunately.
As for my mom, I have introduced someone else to her and she loves the lady to the moon and back My sisters love her too. The lady family love my family and I too. I am happy and everyone is happy.
I really loved her but love alone doesnt sustain a relationship. I hope she finds a man that can deal with a Lesbian. And I'm sorry I couldnt deal.
I didnt want to bring up this issue again because I got a lot of backlash when it went viral, even tried deleting the post, but I couldnt. I am now replying you cos you are the only person who saw the future and gave the accurate advice amongts thousands of people who viewed the post.
I feel I am now on the right path with the right person and we are getting all the support that an intending couple should get
Thank you.
I wish you the best of luck in your new found relationship. It's better everyone in your family accepted your lady this time. You would be happy, she would be happy, most importantly everyone in your family is happy. And now you can have your peace of mind. Cheers, I pray it all ends in praise. |
Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by yunqdady: 7:51pm On Sep 29, 2021 |
johndan103: Background I am 28 years old (will be 29 on the 18th Oct) and I am ready to go the family way. I have a lovely girlfirend lets call her Hauwa, she is 28 too (will be 29 March next year) and is emotionally matured and ready to settle down too, but the problem is my mom.
Statement of Problem My mom gets irritated when I tell her i am ready to marry. She keeps hoping i dont get married soon saying i am ungrateful for all the care she has shown me. I have a Job and i have promised to do what I should do. But she said i must not marry the person i love. She has rejected every lady I have brought home. In fact she has never approved any relationship I have ever been in. Every lady i date is either a prostitute or a low life according to her.
More Details She wants to match make for me. She is always talking about her friends daughters, so last year i tried to reason with her and allowed her to send me her choice (this was before my present relationship). She sent the lady's number and i contacted the lady. Very rude lady who thinks being a medical student is the best thing that has happened since sliced bread. We didnt gel at all cos i feel she's too slow and not my type of woman, she also wasnt digging the match making thingy. The lady eventually told me she is in another relationship and i felt relieved. I told my mom and she said theres another medical student (daughter of another friend) of hers.
My Point of View I am tired of her trying to match make me with her own opinion of the best choice for me. I love this lady I presently am dating to the moon and I cant see myself leaving a matured, humble and independent woman for another slowpoke i dont even know.
My mom has said if i go ahead I wont have her blessings in the marriage and that i have been jazed. I used to think moms will be happy that their son wants to start a family but mine has made it harder for me. I know parents want the best for their children but this is a tall oder for me.
Hauwa's Point of View Hauwa is already feeling rejected about the whole saga and has asked me to keep peace with my mom. She says she undestands moms are protective. She handeled it well with maturity. I delibratelty asked her to visit my mom from the begining of the relationship so that they can familiarize with themselves but my mom wont accept her. Hauwa is saying it will be difficult emotionally for us if our relationship and marriage is not accepted.
Mom's Point of View The first reason my mom gave is that Hauwa is Igala while we are okun (i have introduced my mom to an Okun lady in the past she said our village doesnt marry from Yagba, I also introduced her to another youruba lady she said the lady parents are not together so she wont keep a home). The second point my mom raised is that the lady is financially independent, makes money and drives a Jeep. (I have asked Hauwa about her financial status and I am convinced runs is not not her way cos she has elaborated on how she affords her lifestyle and its genuine).She also asked for the 4million she loaned me before I talk about marriage which I will. I asked her if she wants cash or a car and she said a benz. My plan is to get her an SUV before end of the year so i can focus on settling down next year. I am very lonely and tired of bachelor life. I want to settle down and start have kids not sleeping around like a fuckboy.
Family point of view My family is very educated and well travelled so i dont understand why this issue is coming up. I am already processing visa for Hauwa cos i cant keep breaking my heart by ending relationships at her command just to to make her happy. My dad is neutral but he wont want to offend his wife so he might try and reason with her. My sisters have said they will support my chioce but I shouldnt complain if I make the wrong choice even tho my mom will try to convince my siblings not to give me any kind of emotional support.
My Question What are the repercussions of going ahead with the marriage plans?? Has any man successfully gone against their moms wish and turned out happy??
NB: No one can change my moms mind, not my dad, not pastor, not her sister. on one because she will convince them she is right and tell them I am lying, that she has never rejected anyone except this person. Please I dont want to give the impression that my mom is a bad person cos she has trained me in the right path and I have never lacked because of her. She is also very supportive and has provided everything and more at all times for all her children.
Please be kind to us cos im sending the link to Hauwa to read matured peoples opinion.
Cheers How far? |
Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by Biglittlelois(f): 9:59pm On Sep 29, 2021 |
johndan103: Hi, I disliked your comment initially and it looked like you were attacking me. But it turns out you were the only right person in over 24,000 views. I have learnt from this experience not to post one's personal life online or expect to get the best answer. majority might be wrong.
Hauwa and I have gone our seperate ways. We are on good terms I hope. The good thing about the breakup is that my mom didnt play any role in it. Her influence didnt even affect the seperation.
What let to the seperation is that I found out that Hauwa likes girls too. Yeah you read that right. Well I cant deal with a woman who swings both ways.
I dont want to assasinate her character cos she's a nice person inherently but i cant deal with Lesbianism. I guess independent women are prone to such feelings. I had to move on unfortunately.
As for my mom, I have introduced someone else to her and she loves the lady to the moon and back My sisters love her too. The lady family love my family and I too. I am happy and everyone is happy.
I really loved her but love alone doesnt sustain a relationship. I hope she finds a man that can deal with a Lesbian. And I'm sorry I couldnt deal.
I didnt want to bring up this issue again because I got a lot of backlash when it went viral, even tried deleting the post, but I couldnt. I am now replying you cos you are the only person who saw the future and gave the accurate advice amongts thousands of people who viewed the post.
I feel I am now on the right path with the right person and we are getting all the support that an intending couple should get
Thank you.
Wow really sad to know you separated from Hauwa and the justifiable reason, I hope you you're married now. 1 Like |