Martinez39:
It came out crude because its a truth you don't want to hear. Hope you follow my advice.

No because you chose to misinterprete me and commented brashly. Thats why it sounded crude. You carried the whole sandra and miseducation matter to a thread that has no business with it like everythings a gender war? And you twisted it to suit you. Didnt i write that i was immature to create the account and snoop. But im human not a saint i want a reason why he would act that way. Not that i would go on asking myself whats wrong with me. I dont like arguing with you. You must always be RIGHT even when you arent.

Martinez39:
If you were a guy, my response would be the same. I am an apostle of equality.

Yeah sure.

Pharaoh4rin:


What kind guy is he? Does he read books/novels a lot? (I've a reason for asking though).
Any, don't conclude just yet. Be sober...

No. I read, he doesnt.

benjamina96:
ewo tuni loved like HELL?! you love hell ni

is was passionate.

Abfinest007:
I'm not confuse oh maybe ur bf is

I will change the heading. Happy?

superlanny:
do you need my candid advice?

Okay?

I need someone to help me summarize OP's points

SirDelight:
I need someone to help me summarize OP's points

I love him. Sent a love message, as usual. He replied 5hrs later that im stupid and he has been cheating. I asked him why he would say that. He denied the messages then got angry. I asked him if he wanted to breakup with me. He said yes. (i gave him enough time to explain)
i moved on but couldnt completely because my first bf broke my heart without a reason (i knew he wasnt cheating, he later confirmed it) i snooped around,creating a fb account. He poured out all his feelings saying i misinterpreted him. Im wicked and so on. He broke up with me because he didnt want to be the source of my unhappiness. I gave him the chance to say it was a test.

Blackivy27:
Martinez39 You are twisting things with the aim of sounding smart, which you arent..
You send your gf a stay well message for her well being out of love. 5hours later she sends you a message that you are stupid and she's been cheating on you. Then she denys it and gets angry when you ask why she did it. You decide to let go to let things be. But you are human. You want to know why your first gf, the only one you have love treated you that way. You act like i did. And rather she states that you are the one to blame. That you misunderstood her. What was misunderstood if i should ask? I begged him. Told him i was crying but he got annoyed and i asked the only question i could, do you want to break up with me? Was that wrong.

This is my problem with you. Stop being childish by looking for explanations. If someone is no longer interested in you and not serious, close that chapter of your life and move on. Move on. Not matter what he did, bottom line is that he is no longer with you. Grow up and move on. Man up and move on. Gosh. Even your story isn't firm. I am done.

Martinez39:
This is my problem with you. Stop being childish by looking for explanations. If someone is no longer interested in you and not serious, close that chapter of your life and move on. Move on. Not matter what he did, bottom line is that he is no longer with you. Grow up and move on. Man up and move on. Gosh. Even your story isn't firm. I am done.

That should have been your initial post. Not calling me confused like i had no right to be. According to him he still wants us to date. His best friend called me yesterday asking me to talk to my ex. Thats what made me do what i did to confirm. He claims he still loves me but i was wicked that i misinterpreted him.

Blackivy29:
That should have been your initial post. Not calling me confused like i had no right to be. According to him he still wants us to date. His best friend called me yesterday asking me to talk to my ex. Thats what made me do what i did to confirm. He claims he still loves me but i was wicked that i misinterpreted him.

You are confused. You story is twisting like a serpent and I am getting more confused. I wonder if you are not adding and subtracting to erase your faults I pointed out. As I have said, grow up and move on. You still need some maturity as you clearly don't when to call it quit. Anyway, there is no need continuing this discussion. You will stubbornly maintain, no matter what, that no fault is yours and that you are not childish. Have a nice day.

Martinez39:
You are confused. You story is twisting like a serpent and I am getting more confused. I wonder if you are not adding and subtracting to erase your faults I pointed out. As I have said, grow up and move on. You still need some maturity as you clearly don't when to call it quit. Anyway, there is no need continuing this discussion. You will stubbornly maintain, no matter what, that no fault is yours and that you are not childish. Have a nice day.

I understand you completely.as the girl, i must be at fault. No other way. Even if i post snapshots of the chats, im still at fault. Point them out to me you wont. Excuse the guy, that you will. Im take this bias post as an advice. That i should move on. Thank you. Goodnight.

[quote author=Blackivy29 post=82870460] He was my first bf that i loved like hell.

Certainly he won't be you last
Wake up and face the reality of life

Blackivy27:
Would you call her stupid and say you have another gf when earlier she sent you love messages?

I'd think it was stupid of her to have popped a question or instigated the opposite of what she actually wanted.
Nevertheless, we can still be back together if she comes out plain

[quote author=Chrisokifo post=82877262][/quote] i know. In fact, despite his excuse, i feel better. Im dont have that nagging feeling to know why he hurt me again. Even though he blames me. He's not worth it. All those tears.

Blackivy29:
im angry please. This isnt a laughing matter. I will start reading them now.

Read Psalm 23 six times a day, you’ll forget about him.

Same thing happened to me when I mistakenly fell for a girl in the past(still don’t know if I fell or if I manipulated myself, the latter is worse though).

Bottom line: Read Psalm 23!

Psalm2423:


Read Psalm 23 six times a day, you’ll forget about him.

Same thing happened to me when I mistakenly fell for a girl in the past(still don’t know if I fell or if I manipulated myself, the latter is worse though).

Bottom line: Read Psalm 23!

cant

Blackivy29:
I understand you completely.as the girl, i must be at fault. No other way. Even if i post snapshots of the chats, im still at fault. Point them out to me you wont. Excuse the guy, that you will. Im take this bias post as an advice. That i should move on. Thank you. Goodnight.

Martinez39 is actually right. Asking a person to breakup with you is a demand which people won’t say no to. Only a fool will say no to something like that. Don’t get me wrong there.

When you ask someone if they wish to breakup with you, or something similar, it signifies that you’re already tired of the relationship, but wish for the breakup to be a matter of mutual desires. Now you went back to beg. It’s not bad, the human mind is the brain’s worst enemy. Just delete your mail profile, or give one yahoo boy make e convert am.

You’re probably a teenager (not meant in an insulting manner, doesn’t matter though), that’s why you wish to be showed love. Mend your heart and move on, or isolate yourself socially. The second option can destroy a chance for future relationships, but eliminates the possibility of heartbreaks.

damtan:

I'd think it was stupid of her to have popped a question or instigated the opposite of what she actually wanted.
Nevertheless, we can still be back together if she comes out plain

You didnt answer my question though. I think he's just like that. Before we started dating, there was this other girl he liked. Later as we began liking each other, he would say he still liked her and he liked me. Then he would say he doesnt like her and he doesnt know how to tell her. Then if i ask him if he still had feelings for her, he would say yes again. He wants love but not the reality of it.

Blackivy29:
cant

You don’t need to be a Christian to do that

Psalm2423:


Martinez39 is actually right. Asking a person to breakup with you is a demand which people won’t say no to. Only a fool will say no to something like that. Don’t get me wrong there.

When you ask someone if they wish to breakup with you, or something similar, it signifies that you’re already tired of the relationship, but wish for the breakup to be a matter of mutual desires. Now you went back to beg. It’s not bad, the human mind is the brain’s worst enemy. Just delete your mail profile, or give one yahoo boy make e convert am.

You’re probably a teenager (not meant in an insulting manner, doesn’t matter though), that’s why you wish to be showed love. Mend your heart and move on, or isolate yourself socially. The second option can destroy a chance for future relationships, but eliminates the possibility of heartbreaks.

i get him. But he came out from no where and insulted me first. Im crying, ask him if he wants to end things cause he said he had a gf.

Psalm2423:


You don’t need to be a Christian to do that

Maybe. My problem is, would you put your relationship at the edge when everything was perfect? He insulted me from no where, said he was cheating. When i begged him not to hurt me he got angry and said im confusing him. I had be hurt before by another guy i liked but had to give up. I felt betrayed again. Should i have killed myself. I told him i cried when he told be earlier about another girl he liked (i had a crush on him then) his response was that how was it his business. I needed to know if he wanted to end things.

Psalm2423:


Martinez39 is actually right. Asking a person to breakup with you is a demand which people won’t say no to. Only a fool will say no to something like that. Don’t get me wrong there.

When you ask someone if they wish to breakup with you, or something similar, it signifies that you’re already tired of the relationship, but wish for the breakup to be a matter of mutual desires. Now you went back to beg. It’s not bad, the human mind is the brain’s worst enemy. Just delete your mail profile, or give one yahoo boy make e convert am.

You’re probably a teenager (not meant in an insulting manner, doesn’t matter though), that’s why you wish to be showed love. Mend your heart and move on, or isolate yourself socially. The second option can destroy a chance for future relationships, but eliminates the possibility of heartbreaks.

Just let her be. You know the way women argue, they are never at fault.

Blackivy29:
Maybe. My problem is, would you put your relationship at the edge when everything was perfect? He insulted me from no where, said he was cheating. When i begged him not to hurt me he got angry and said im confusing him. I had be hurt before by another guy i liked but had to give up. I felt betrayed again. Should i have killed myself. I told him i cried when he told be earlier about another girl he liked (i had a crush on him then) his response was that how was it his business. I needed to know if he wanted to end things.

For me, yes! Seeing people hurt gives me joy sometimes. You dated either a sociopath, someone who didn’t love you, or a heartbroken fellow looking to fill his void. Don’t date any of these persons except the first one . Actually avoid the first one with all thy resources. Plus, you unintentionally played reverse psychology on him. Asking someone not to hurt you, is actually asking them to hurt you. Don’t play reverse psychology. Plus, men are wired differently from women. We’ll always chase a hard-to-get person (manipulate in my case), and not one who behaves like an insect in a spiderweb. You showed emotions and it killed you. Don’t show emotions.

Martinez39:
Just let her be. You know the way women argue, they are never at fault.

She must be reconfigured today o .

@Psalm2423 trust me i have learnt my lesson. My problem is im 16yrs old, i have an issue with my first bf and instead of martinez39 to advice me like an adult, he's being rude and excusing the guy. You just pointed out my fault and i accepted it. He didnt do that, he was blaming me for feeling hurt, like he himself is some man of steel with an iron heart and im stupid for being emotional and trusting some guy. He even brought the whole miseducation matter here as if im sandra. And he calls me immature. I respect that dude but right now he's behaviour is a puzzle. To think he was the one who created a thread joking that he was inlove.

@Bravethetruth hi! Checked your profile. You are new here on nl?

Blackivy29:
@Psalm2423 trust me i have learnt my lesson. My problem is im 16yrs old, i have an issue with my first bf and instead of martinez39 to advice me like an adult, he's being rude and excusing the guy. You just pointed out my fault and i accepted it. He didnt do that, he was blaming me for feeling hurt, like he himself is some man of steel with an iron heart and im stupid for being emotional and trusting some guy. He even brought the whole miseducation matter here as if im sandra. And he calls me immature. I respect that dude but right now he's behaviour is a puzzle. To think he was the one who created a thread joking that he was inlove.

Martinez39 is a man of steel though, and you’re weak for showing emotions. You’ll understand why I said that after sleeping over it. Just delete your male fb and move on. You’ve been gamed or possibly manipulated. Now you know that men are always at the top of emotional games. I can help you get over your feelings relatively quick if you want, but you’ll need to recite Psalm 23 first before I’ll start .

Blackivy29:
@Psalm2423 trust me i have learnt my lesson. My problem is im 16yrs old, i have an issue with my first bf and instead of martinez39 to advice me like an adult, he's being rude and excusing the guy. You just pointed out my fault and i accepted it. He didnt do that, he was blaming me for feeling hurt, like he himself is some man of steel with an iron heart and im stupid for being emotional and trusting some guy. He even brought the whole miseducation matter here as if im sandra. And he calls me immature. I respect that dude but right now he's behaviour is a puzzle. To think he was the one who created a thread joking that he was inlove.

I am not excusing the guy. I never excused the guy. Stop lying. The guy is irrelevant to me. Whether he is wrong or not, the main issue is that he is on longer interested in you so you have to move on. All that matters is that you become mature enough to know when to call it quit, move on and stop looking for explanations. Hehe. I never blamed you for feeling hurt, I only blamed you for not having the maturity and humility to move on and call it quit.

So you are sixteen? Interesting.

Psalm2423:


She must be reconfigured today o .

I still believe in love but good guys are rare. I can manipulate if i want, thats not an issue and even with guys i know letting them know you love them can be a mistake but this guy was different. I felt i didnt need to take control because he was sweet and i didnt want to hurt him. God! Ive been played at my own game. He used the baby card on me.

Martinez39:
I am not excusing the guy. I never excused the guy. Stop lying. The guy is irrelevant to me. Whether he is wrong or not, the main issue is that he is on longer interested in you so you have to move on. All that matters is that you become mature enough to know when to call it quit, move on and stop looking for explanations. Hehe. I never blamed you for feeling hurt, I only blamed you for not having the maturity and humility to move on and call it quit.

So you are sixteen? Interesting.

Im moving on. Happy?
why is it interesting?

Martinez39:
I am not excusing the guy. I never excused the guy. Stop lying. The guy is irrelevant to me. Whether he is wrong or not, the main issue is that he is on longer interested in you so you have to move on. All that matters is that you become mature enough to know when to call it quit, move on and stop looking for explanations. Hehe. I never blamed you for feeling hurt, I only blamed you for not having the maturity and humility to move on and call it quit.

So you are sixteen? Interesting.

No manipulate her cause she young o . No scatter mama love life future.