lol, well is pu ssy free?? Cos its the girls own she doesnt spend a dime 2 have it, if not why would recharge cards, gifts and stuffs be free since the guy giving it spent his money 2 get it??

[s]even Jesus is only free if you have 'direct access' to Him (i.e. pray at home alone or with family). If you go through any 'middleman' (pastors, churches, whatever) you'd pay thru your nose for Jesus. [/s]

@aca77 u need to change your church if they are requesting for money but really u guys are  .

Beync:

@tellwisdom, i shud swear for u? it doesnt worth it. i mysef help people irespective of gender hence is within my reach and i dont espect anythin in return rather i espect the receiver to extend to others.

shud women also pay in kind or cash to  all these morally bankrupt Mds who want to hav hav them sleep with before they wud be given the job they are due for?


u bashin on gals for not getin free sex, how cud u when u go to sex market to patronize, else if u have issues not meetin your gf's demands go talk it over and stop lamentin

I can tell u have attitude problem; why would u want to swear for somebody because of argument

TELL ME WHY I SHOULD BE SPENDING MY HARD EARNED MONEY ON SOME LAZY ABLE-BODIED GALS WHO ARE NEITHER MY SISTER, MY RELATIVES, MY GF, NOR MY WIFE FOR NOTHING WHEN TEY AV PARENTS, UNCLES & BF(S)?

The question you have refused to answer is why do we have girls demanding for helps(such as recharge cards, clothing, monthly subscription for using Black Berry which they or their parents cannot afford and payment of other bills which are not even basic necessities) from guys? Whereas if you see a guy asking for help, it would be for basic needs and hardly from a lady unless someone he is very close to.

Also, without attempting to tell a lie, how many people with whom you have no direct relationship have come to you for help and you helped them? If you are running a charity, post your phone number so that guys can be directing those parasites to you so that you can be helping them(start with the poster) like you have been doing and see if your bank account would not run down to zero in about 5 months while we do the normal help that we are pleased with

You are talking about banks MD sleeping with ladies b4 giving them job; if that is the case, what do they demand from guys that are working in banks? The question you should have asked yourself is that are they not the ones offering themselves to cover up for their qualifications deficiencies? Let me be frank with you, I work in a bank and I know how singles and married are dating the "ogas" just because they want to keep their jobs-reason why we have "corporate prostitutes".

Except you want to deceive yourself, majority of Nigerian ladies(employed and unemployed) keep looking for one favour or the other(even when they don't deserve it, believing that they can use their bodies) because of their high level of dependency.

Many of the ladies were saying the poster said family member! See what the op said:

[b[i]]you hardly see a man that can render help to you 4 free[/i], everybody wanna get down with you.

just imagine a family friend dat is as old as your father asking you out, even every young guy out there dont want friendship all thy're interested in is this honeypot.

i know im not the only one having this problem, babes abi wetin una think?

need your advise oh.[/b]

Why asking a family friend who is a man and not a family friend who is a woman? This is more of the reason why many of these parasitic girls around have so many "uncles" and may have no single aunt

I have asked myself time without number "guy, why cant u just be a friend to a lady?"

My frequent answer to myself is dis: girls many a times do appreciate friendship and somtimes d friendship may not even be mutual. So, i have resulted into following the preaching of one my friends. He would say "wat kind of friendship does a man have with a woman if not that they are . , . . . .

Ayowumie:

I have asked myself time without number "guy, why cant u just be a friend to a lady?"

My frequent answer to myself is dis: girls many a times do appreciate friendship and somtimes d friendship may not even be mutual. So, i have resulted into following the preaching of one my friends. He would say "wat kind of friendship does a man have with a woman if not that they are . , . . . .

See Ayowumie, being just friend is the best I have always advocated for but 2 be candid with you, Nigerian girls (thou not all of them) are like hunters that are not ready to be your friend if they don't get something from you often. As a guy, you need to understand what I'm saying; what they want is a ready made man that they burden with there problems and if you don't allow that, they call you all sort of names like aka gum, haradite etc.

If you want to understand what I'm saying, take a sample of married men that lost their jobs or biz is not doing well and see that about 99% of their wives become so disrespectfull compared to when things were rosy. I'm saying it because I know people that have shared experience with me and as I tried to confirm this by testing some of my female friends that I lose my job while on leave; people that usually come to spend time with me during weekend when working suddenly became very busy when I was around 24/7. Honestly, it is a very hopeless situation - people want 2 be ur friend in order to meet up with their wants in Nigeria. Sometime, I wonder if a lady can marry anyone for whom u are since a lady once told me that "brilliant or not/handsome or ugly; all a lady wants from a man is comfort".

My problem now is not comfortabilty but what happen to a friendship/relationship/marriage that was inspired by material things if economic/financial challenges sets in. Because of how rampant this problem is, I don't see any lady in this Nigeria as a gud one as they have failed again & again irrespective of whether they are born-again or not. IT IS A PATHETIC SITUATION THAT I DON'T THINK THERE IS A SOLUTION, SO LETS BE WISE & MANAGE/LIVE WITH IT.

I think this topic should be changed to why would people (esp most Nigerian gals) want to reap from where they did not sow

there is no such thing as a free lunch-----even while ur getting the so called free lunch , u cld be doing somin more productive----na which kind help u dey find---i hope it doesnt include---buying u recharge card-----pimpin u up with the latest blackberry----organising some small change for u, every now and then------taking u to the trendiest places i-e silver bird gallaria---taking u to the boutique to buy u baffs and things-----if thats the kind of help that ur seeking, then be ready to drop toto---every now and then---i think its a fair trade off

guys dey vex o, but really the lady can be of help later afterall sex is not everything,