Thanks to everyone that has added to the write up, no one has monopoly of knowledge and we all learn everyday. For my readers am glad you guys are enjoying the summary and finding it useful. This will encourage me to write on more topics. All comments are appreciated and welcome my motto is peace with all men.

Thanks for this post; I can relate. Being a FTM is a big business!

Mac12:



Thank you very much ma for this write up. I really did enjoy it.
I have a 4months old Babystill on exclusive breastfeeding. He weighs 10kg, I am really getting worried. I don't eat junks over eat. Is there something wrong or something that can be done to help shed this fat

I don't think anything is wrong and you cant really call a baby under 1 year fat . My first kid was big and everywhere I took him then his 2nd name was orobo, but as he grew older his weight adjusted . He is 10 now and at a normal weight. As babies become more active they tend to loose weight or rather their height catches up with their weight. Just continue to feed your baby like you have been doing and then reevaluate after the baby starts walking or after his first birthday. If you think he is still overweight by then you can now start looking for ways to bring his weight down

A good information but i need to also add that is not healthy on the child to breastfeed while you are sleeping just like you pointed out up there that you lay down and sleep while the baby breastfeed, it causes ear problems to that child.

Nice topic

Herroy:
Good job@OP.
Regarding the feeding part, I would not advise breastfeeding your baby whilst lying down or sleeping. This is because the breast can mistakingly cover the infant's nose (suffocation).. God forbid bad things.
I would advise the nursing mother to sit resting her back on pillows resting on the wall..that way you could also doze slightly.. yes, it is not easy..truth is once you become a mother, you can no longer afford to sleep deeply, you have to be alert especially to the baby. May God strengthen all expecting and nursing mums.

Thanks for this . Please mothers be careful if you decide to lie down and breastfeed. My write ups are mainly from my own personal experience. I tried sitting up and breastfeeding but my baby fell out of my arms one day hence the need to lie down. Once you have a baby the days of deep and sweet sleep are non existent for a while . Another option could be that while madam is breastfeeding the baby while lying down, oga or whoever is around to do omugwo could sit with madam and the baby and watch over them while madam catches some sleep.

welldone madam for this interesting and educative write up.I think the main reason why ladies refuse to exclusively breastfeed their babies is to prevent their bread from falling and sagging.How true is this beliefs and if true how can it be prevented

emeijeh:


Why?
What happened to maternity leave ?

Sure, my thoughts are after the maternity leave

beeijeoma:


Thanks I am glad you find the write ups useful . We all worry about what the future holds but it is best to have a positive mindset that everything will turn out alright eventually. As a FTM just prepare yourself mentally that it will be tough sometimes but you are strong enough to handle it. Taking care of a baby is something you learn and before you know it you will become an expert. If you have any doubts how to care for the baby google is there to guide you . You can also ask medical personnel or other experienced moms
Based on the current economy I would say try your best to keep your job. The expenses that come with having a baby is not something you can easily calculate. Having a baby is not cheap at all. I was a banker too when I became a FTM . I was always exhausted during pregnancy but I could not leave my job as my hubby was just doing small business here and there pending when he gets a job. I was so happy when it was time to go on maternity leave. I would say go on your maternity leave first, see how things work out. If possible during the leave start looking for another job that will not take up your time like banking does. After your leave if you are unable to get another job still resume back, try it out for a month and see if you can cope . If you cannot then you can decide to leave but put plans in place for a steady source of income.

Thanks ma'am, I do really appreciate.

futuremoma34:


Sure, my thoughts are after the maternity leave

Hope ur hubby has gotten a job?
Don't just resign if he has not.

Thank you very much ma, for taking ur time to put this up. I & my wife we expecting our 1st baby any moment from na. My question is the two scan we did we were told our baby is a boy, is possible for the result to be right? 2ndly. My wife do not seems to have any of this fears that some ladies talks about she's very lively which am happy about, is me that actually have some anxiety bcus of the pains I see her go through while she was still around and that of the delivery which do come to my mind most times. Though she have travelled to stay with the parents (my parents inlaw) since is our first baby so she can be well taken care of after delivery. Thanks

beeijeoma:

Thank you for enjoying my write up. Yes the thoughts are overwhelming . Fear of labor pain, fear of how to care for the baby , fear of if you will be a good mom. You are not alone it is the same for all FTM. Anytime I start getting scared back then I would just think of all the women that have kids and just be like this person did it, that person did it. Why would my case be different. You just have to push all those thoughts and fear out of your mind.

I am a realist and I don't like sugar coated information just give it to me the way it is. I don't know anything that can ease labor and delivery except epidural . If it is available in your hospital take it. My first two kids was normal delivery while my 3rd was with epidural. The epidural birth was completely pain free in fact I was watching TV till it was time to push. Labor and delivery is painful but it is not unbearable and it only last for some time. Its good to have a family member with you to help rub your back when the contractions come and in your mind just focus on the fact that the baby you have been growing inside you is almost here. As a FTM what surprised me most was not even the labor pain but the pushing part. I just felt the baby would slide out once you get to 10cm cervical dilation. Pushing the baby out is a bit tough as well and you have to get it right. I will do a write up on how to push during labor in a later post. Be strong and yow will be fine

from your judgement, how safe is the Epidural

Gavorche:
welldone madam for this interesting and educative write up.I think the main reason why ladies refuse to exclusively breastfeed their babies is to prevent their bread from falling and sagging.How true is this beliefs and if true how can it be prevented

Breast will sag whether you breastfeed or not . I know women who have breastfed 3 kids and still have firm boobs and so also women who breastfed only one and the boobs are completely sagged. It is all a matter of genetics that is why they say when getting married look beyond the physical. As women age the body changes the only way out is if one decides to do breast lift and augmentation.

AyosMan:
Thank you very much ma, for taking ur time to put this up. I & my wife we expecting our 1st baby any moment from na. My question is the two scan we did we were told our baby is a boy, is possible for the result to be right? 2ndly. My wife do not seems to have any of this fears that some ladies talks about she's very lively which am happy about, is me that actually have some anxiety bcus of the pains I see her go through while she was still around and that of the delivery which do come to my mind most times. Though she have travelled to stay with the parents (my parents inlaw) since is our first baby so she can be well taken care of after delivery. Thanks

Am glad to hear your wife is not anxious it just means she is ready and eager to see her baby. Pain is part of childbirth, all you can do is pray for her to be strong and for labor to be fast . If two scans say it is a boy then I believe its a boy. The scans for my kids were 100 % accurate. But I have also heard of cases where they get it wrong hopefully yours wont be one of them. Wish you and your wife a safe delivery.

Good job! weldone MA!!

beeijeoma:


I don't think anything is wrong and you cant really call a baby under 1 year fat . My first kid was big and everywhere I took him then his 2nd name was orobo, but as he grew older his weight adjusted . He is 10 now and at a normal weight. As babies become more active they tend to loose weight or rather their height catches up with their weight. Just continue to feed your baby like you have been doing and then reevaluate after the baby starts walking or after his first birthday. If you think he is still overweight by then you can now start looking for ways to bring his weight down

Thank you very much sis for this. I really do appreciate

rosalieene:

from your judgement, how safe is the Epidural

From my experience it is safe. Just like any other medical procedure once it is done a professional there should be no problems. The only side effects I felt after was a bit of weakness in my hips for a few days after delivery.

Rocktation:


It's what everyone speculates, but we don't know anyone who knows anyone that knows anyone, that has had the experience. The breast typically relaxes against the bed in this side lying position. So unless the mother has silicon round balloons for breasts, being very bubbly round and full to cover the nose of her infant is highly improbable.

I'm even more concerned with whether swallowing will be made into an awkward feat for the baby.

My guess though is that they always turn out just fine.

Thank you.Everyone i know bf while lying down.No baby has ever been reported dead of its suffocation.

AyosMan:
Thank you very much ma, for taking ur time to put this up. I & my wife we expecting our 1st baby any moment from na. My question is the two scan we did we were told our baby is a boy, is possible for the result to be right? 2ndly. My wife do not seems to have any of this fears that some ladies talks about she's very lively which am happy about, is me that actually have some anxiety bcus of the pains I see her go through while she was still around and that of the delivery which do come to my mind most times. Though she have travelled to stay with the parents (my parents inlaw) since is our first baby so she can be well taken care of after delivery. Thanks

https://www.nairaland.com/889053/pregnancy-pregnant-going-through-high/5242
This thread will surely help you

Thanks for this great write-ups.
Please, how long does tear heal up completely and how soon can one resume the oza room affair? . Delivered 5weeks ago, tho I started taking care of myself and baby from 2nd week, since there's no one to stay with me. My tear site seems to be healing slowly(or so I think as a ftm). All stitches has removed but d site still looks like a wound.

beeijeoma:

Thank you for enjoying my write up. Yes the thoughts are overwhelming . Fear of labor pain, fear of how to care for the baby , fear of if you will be a good mom. You are not alone it is the same for all FTM. Anytime I start getting scared back then I would just think of all the women that have kids and just be like this person did it, that person did it. Why would my case be different. You just have to push all those thoughts and fear out of your mind.

I am a realist and I don't like sugar coated information just give it to me the way it is. I don't know anything that can ease labor and delivery except epidural . If it is available in your hospital take it. My first two kids was normal delivery while my 3rd was with epidural. The epidural birth was completely pain free in fact I was watching TV till it was time to push. Labor and delivery is painful but it is not unbearable and it only last for some time. Its good to have a family member with you to help rub your back when the contractions come and in your mind just focus on the fact that the baby you have been growing inside you is almost here. As a FTM what surprised me most was not even the labor pain but the pushing part. I just felt the baby would slide out once you get to 10cm cervical dilation. Pushing the baby out is a bit tough as well and you have to get it right. I will do a write up on how to push during labor in a later post. Be strong and yow will be fine

Thank you so much Ma'am. Your messages are easily relatable as I experienced them in my first pregnancy. I'm currently pregnant with the 2nd. and in my 1st trimester but it hasn't been easy at all. I feel really exhausted, nauseous, vomiting, salivation, etc. I can barely do anything at home cos of the weakness and odour sensitivity that makes me throw up at the slightest offensive odour... What can I do to ease this tension and become useful in my home. I'm just tired cos I feel people around me don't understand and are getting exhausted too.

I also want to ask about the epidural because they offered it to me in my first pregnancy and I declined cos I was scared of Complications and stuff like that. Thanks

Good

Thank you ma'am for this, I'm keenly following and learning. God bless you and everyone who has and will contribute.

Please help i am in my first trimester,vomiting is not allowing food to stay in the stomach...nauseating feeling is so strong...I can’ do anything

I think I did exclusive breastfeeding for 4 months but in total, she breastfed till 13 months.

Although breastfeeding is good and advisable, I believe children who were not breastfed for one reason or the other, (e.g lost their mum during the birth) still grow up as strong and healthy and some even stronger.

Wooow! Such an educative thread. @op, God bless you ma. Now I can't wait ooo... But will calmly follow and learn sha oh how sweet!!! but thought of it all scares me at Dame time!

Highly educative. The best thread I've seen today

moyin29:
Please help i am in my first trimester,vomiting is not allowing food to stay in the stomach...nauseating feeling is so strong...I can’ do anything

So sorry ma'am, I had same symptoms in my first trimester.....I always drink milk in the morning before any solid food.....then I support the meal with apples...it keeps me okay

Zizza:
I really needed this right now. Can't wait to meet my bundle of joy

Wow, same here. Congratulations to us in advance.

Hmmmm

Weldone ma for these pieces ... I must tell you it's not easy as a first time mom.. I do ask if everything is normal... Everything is total strange to me despite I have nurse my niece

Nice, educative thread, following bumper to bumper as I will be a ftm in few months.
Thanks for putting this together