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Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Nobody: 9:52pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Hello nairalander, I was counting hours to furnish you guys with my prewedding pics but the call I made to my parents just broke my heart. My wedding is first week of December and everything has been going on smoothly. I'm a Catholic and my bae attends pentecostal. I just informed my parents that the wedding will be in her church. My mum couldn't even wait for me to finish before bashing me. Telling me it will never work. My dad told me calmly to expect them only for the trad. I thought by right it is the ladies church that the wedding happens. We considered Catholic but they insisted wedding class must run it's course which is three months. And three months from now is January. We are not ready to wait till then. Guys please how do I convince my parents. Please I need advice. |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by carzola(m): 9:56pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Oga this issue can not boil beans... If u don't know the church to wed then Wed in church of Satan.. 1 Like |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Nobody: 9:59pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
carzola:It's boiling already. If not I won't put this up |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Esthered: 11:03pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Dear OP, how was it possible to fix a wedding without carrying both families along simultaneously? My parents insisted that it must be in their church and my proposed inlaws wanted theirs and we came to an agreement but at a cost consequence to myself and my fiance. I think you got it all wrong from the beginning. Go and plead with your parents even if the bride's church does the joining most times. Pardon my curiosity but were your parents in support from the on set or you slammed the wedding on them ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Nobody: 11:13pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Esthered:I've never seen this as an issue. I've always been open minded. I've been a Catholic from birth, it has never made my life any worse or better. My fiance too is indifferent. But the issue is the time. I don't want to do my wedding in January or February. It all ends this year. How did you get past your issue? |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Esthered: 11:31pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
henro4niger:Both parents fixed a date to meet and come to an agreement. You know your parents better, go and appease them. It's primarily your day and secondarily theirs. 2 Likes |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by midnighter(f): 11:43pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
And they seriously said theyre not coming? Wow You have to keep working on them since you dont want to move the wedding to a later date My orientation tells me that it takes place in the guys church but I need to think about it In any case it should be up to you since its your own wedding |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Nobody: 11:44pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
You guys really care? To be frank, it's pathetic that your parents don't respect your bride. Believe me your mother will come in one day during the marriage to slap her or do something humiliating. African customs made this matter clear. A wedding ceremony is held at the bride's place so after the ceremony when the groom departs, he leaves with his new wedded wife. Women have been made to value marriage and their wedding day is not just any other day for most of them but a day to bid their old lives farewell and take up the names and identities of their husbands. Your parents are deluded fanatics of a religion they know little about and your wife and yourself are brainwashed Israeli culture worshippers ( problem of Africa). This Western wedding thrives in Europe and North America because couples send cards to their parents a weekend to their wedding. Parents are not involved in planning, some even take it abroad and don't care who attends. You're a weak man . Your parents know you are weak, they probably sponsored your wedding. What stops you from telling them you wouldn't attend their burial when they die? Real guys just impregnate a lady until they have two kids. Lady's parents will plead with you if you have money and total control of their daughter to please come and see them, your parents wouldn't give such conditions because they know you don't care. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by mezarddinny: 11:50pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
then go ahead with the traditional. this is a trivial matter, from what you wrote, they have accepted your girl and the only problem they have with the wedding is the church. do traditional alone and forget about the church. I don't know why you people take shit from your parents in the name of seeking blessings, people without parents get married and nothing happens, don't let anyone tell you shit about your future except their reason is legit and sensible 5 Likes |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by midnighter(f): 11:55pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
mezarddinny: You're right but isnt church wedding quite important to some people? is it every time their parents disagree they will cancel their plans I have seen where the fight got so much that even the traditional was cancelled |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Nobody: 12:03am On Oct 15, 2019 |
Freehuman: You lack wisdom kiddo and please stop using the word “plead anyhow” 1 Like |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Nobody: 12:04am On Oct 15, 2019 |
mezarddinny: Must they do two marriages at once sef? Only traditional marriage or church wedding or court marriage is enough ... choose one 2 Likes |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Nobody: 12:05am On Oct 15, 2019 |
Plead: Son of a bitch, go suck your mama. |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by midnighter(f): 12:07am On Oct 15, 2019 |
Freehuman: This is not necessarily true... it only happens in those extreme cases A wedding in the western world is a big deal and the brides father is supposed to pay for it, while the mans family will sponsor their honeymoon If the family is not involved in the planning its because they are having issues |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Nobody: 12:09am On Oct 15, 2019 |
midnighter: Which part of Europe? Please provide evidence. Even in the British Royal famy, the custodian of ancient wisdom and norms in the Western Hemisphere had their prince choose to wed a divorcee of black descent and heaven did not fall. |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by midnighter(f): 12:11am On Oct 15, 2019 |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Nobody: 12:12am On Oct 15, 2019 |
midnighter: Quote my reply again, I've made modifications. |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by midnighter(f): 12:14am On Oct 15, 2019 |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Nobody: 12:19am On Oct 15, 2019 |
midnighter: That's what I'm trying to say, it's a subtle war between conservatism and liberalism. While doing a course in UK , I had an opportunity to witness the wedding of a colleague, few guys got inside the church after mocking that they haven't attended one for years, most waited outside for the reception. That guy sent a card to his parents the weekend before his wedding so don't believe what you read. Atheism has germinated into the UK and there is a totally different culture there. |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by blank(f): 12:23am On Oct 15, 2019 |
henro4niger: Do you mind me asking what part of the country you and your intended spouse are from? I know Yorubas marry in the wife's family church. Igbos generally marry in the man's church except Abians that marry in the woman's church. It can give some context to where this issue is coming from . 1 Like |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by midnighter(f): 12:23am On Oct 15, 2019 |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Nobody: 12:29am On Oct 15, 2019 |
midnighter: I'm totally Nigerian and pro African. I've mentioned in my first suggestion that it's a norm to conduct ceremonies for traditional marriages at the bride's community. The mention of a foreign culture somewhere in my long message was to support the proposition that Africans copy what they don't understand , in this case , a western marriage tradition. |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by midnighter(f): 12:48am On Oct 15, 2019 |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Nobody: 12:53am On Oct 15, 2019 |
midnighter: Exactly what I mean. The west are able to handle such issues with their tradition because of their open mindedness - what most Africans who imitate them lack. You're an exposed lady and definitely read. I know you get most of your knowledge through books and less empirical sources. Britain today is very different from the Victorian era. It's more of a "mind your business" society. |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by midnighter(f): 1:02am On Oct 15, 2019 |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Nobody: 1:15am On Oct 15, 2019 |
midnighter: Meghan is a woman who doesn't really want to associate with her root. She hates everything about poverty. How she was treated didn't matter to her. The Royal family called the shots and she obliged. I didn't use the Royal wedding as a case study for regular weddings in Nigeria. If you read my reply again you'll understand my intention to argue that if there could be a deviation from the norm in the Royal wedding which is supposed to be a standard for that very norm , it means the norm isn't respected by commoners who do not have an ethical responsibility to protect it. This is what I mean. If the Ooni of Ife actually receives brideprice for his son , then there's a swerve of the Yoruba culture because if you talk about the Yoruba culture, he is the first person to think of. On the first part of the question, I think you're sapiosexual because it's hard to find a random Nigerian lady discuss a foreign news that's not directly related to showbiz. 1 Like |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Nobody: 1:29am On Oct 15, 2019 |
Wedding should be in the man's church but people like me with no church will likely have mine in a garden with few family and friends. 2 Likes |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by midnighter(f): 1:41am On Oct 15, 2019 |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Nobody: 1:46am On Oct 15, 2019 |
midnighter: You're probably reading law and top of your class. A teenager for sure and an introvert. You're nocturnal hence your moniker. I give up, you won. 2 Likes |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by midnighter(f): 1:52am On Oct 15, 2019 |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by Nobody: 1:56am On Oct 15, 2019 |
midnighter: My dream job was to work for the CIA, I grew up and realized taking people's life and getting entangled in conspiracy theories was part of the job so I declined. Always trying to act like a detective. I just guessed you're one. |
Re: Which Is The Rightful Church To Wed? by midnighter(f): 2:01am On Oct 15, 2019 |
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