Ladies, would u be willing to be a stay at home wife/girlfriend

There was this american guy who was running behind me hard, he liked me alot, however he stated that anyone who he is to marry must be a stay at home mother, even at first if there is no kids he does not want her to work and would i be able to do this, I told him no because I am used to making my own money and not relying on someone, he said that he would open my own bank account and that money will be for my personal use and that the other bank account would be for the house, and i cannot even see myself staying home all day and not working and imagine having children, u will just be home all day and not even have any interaction with adults, i told him maybe i would want to work part time, and he declined, so i declined him,

yoris, leave me o , u act like u don't like my thoughts and questions

Amina, I suspect that your situation might have religious undertones. It could be a difficult thing for a working woman to accept but the guy just wants to fulfill his responsibilities as a would-be husband. You could work online now. Believe it child upbringing is a full time job that many women sacrifice to the detriment of society. Correct me if I am wrong about the religious aspect.

well i never thought about it as a religious reason, i just think giving up ur life and just getting income from a man can bring problems, question, what type of religious reasons could it be?

What you have just described is ideally what a Muslim man would say if he has the financial capacity. Is anyone of you a Muslim and yes I am one

that is very true, well i am christian but my grandparents are muslim, so are u married and is that your view also?

It was fashionable in years past for mothers to stay at home and take care of their children, at least till they attain the age of 12, some 14, and so on. . . . But as time went on, it was abandoned. But interestingly, people seem to be gradually going back to the old practice. An increasing number of men are interested in their wives being 'stay at home moms', at least until the kids have been well grounded. Talk about old fashions being renewed! Even my mom supports it. And i daresay elderly women. . . . Well, stil gonna see if my 'future future' is gonna say anythin about dat! *wink*

I am not married, very single. I would not want my wife to work too hard. I think I would encourage her to be more of an entrepreneur than a salary earner. I am pretty entrepreneural myself, check-out my blog http://olawriter.

I am a workaholic woman simply because I want to make and saved more money for my self and for my family,so hard though I can't resist.If I would have a husband that is capable of providing the needs of the family.I would love to be a simple house wife so I can take care of the family .Since Life isn't easy now a days,more and more woman are working to help their husband financially.In SOUTH Korea,Women are just a House wife  once they are married and it works!

@ Poster. If you still love each other,why not explain him about what you want,try to understand each other, remember,in a successful relationship isn't because of a Pride but because of Love.

Later,he will be the one to call you liability wake up amina

How about he gets a work @ home job and stay with u . . . . c me c human beings. . . .

You people have come with your gender equality wahala. The world has never been and will never be equal, what you should strive for is equity. I do not support that she should not earn her own personal income but if you cannot trust the one you want to marry then you are wasting your time and I daresay life.

@iice, what would the written agreement contain.

@ poster i understand where you are coming from u need personal fulfillment.
Every good thing comes with a measure of sacrifice the guy in qxn sounds capable.If you are sure you got a good man why would you lose him to your job?

Your job isnt going to keep you warm at night and who knws the next list of guys could be losers.Good,responsible men are hard to come by these days.

You may also really like your job and i never advocate for a woman to be completely dependent on a man it smetimes strains the marriage esp if she is ambitious.but if your man is a good guy this is the sacrifice you may have to make
As for me if the guy feels rt wt me i will take the deal.

I almost forgot Amina, let him provide a substantial financial gift before you quit your job. If you can trust him enough to quit your job, he should not have a problem with this proposition.

hey mac i checked ur blog, it is nice, also this staying at home was something he suggested a while ago, we no longer talk, i have since moved on as he

Okay, so you kinda sorta made us all waste our advice. I feel like suing for damages. It might be useful for somebody else though.

lmao sue away, africans always wanting to sue for something

You mean you are not African? Are you even black at all?

aminalib:

Ladies, would u be willing to be a stay at home wife/girlfriend  

There was this american guy who was running behind me hard, he liked me alot, however he stated that anyone who he is to marry must be a stay at home mother, even at first if there is no kids he does not want her to work and would i be able to do this, I told him no because I am used to making my own money and not relying on someone,  he said that he would open my own bank account and that money will be for my personal use and that the other bank account would be for the house, and i cannot even see myself staying home all day and not working and imagine having children, u will just be home all day and not even have any interaction with adults, i told him maybe i would want to work part time, and he declined, so i declined him,

RIGHT DECISSION.At least u demostated and eventually have ur demand known earlier before marriage as some ladies fall in this aspect ,They think they can change things or their Husbands demand '' Being Housewife'' after marriage.

of course i am african, now i will sue you for defamation

Be happy of being an African lady otherwise . . . . lol.
Defamation? Nah sweetie.As youknow dat therr re some dense ladies around,they don't think of changing things latest marriage or see the possibilty of its change after marriage so they just jump into conclusion and get married ,uLTIMATELY THEY START REGRETING .

hmm you speak truth

aminalib:

hmm you speak truth

Good.I'm sure u re not 1 of dem.

so what nationality, before I assume to be am AFROASIAN.

lol, why would you assume i am afro asian? i am liberian

Just joking. Cheers!

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