I crave approval and affirmation. No matter how much I get, it seems like it’s never enough.

I want to hear:
“I love you.”
“I choose you, even on your bad days.”
“I like being with you.”

“You’re A-OK in my book.”
“You don’t need to change, I like you just the way you are.”

“You make me smile.”
I want to feel affirming arms around me and to be understood and validated.

Can you relate to any of this?

Think back to when you were in grade school and the teacher singled out two team captains to pick their teammates. Do you remember how good it felt when you were finally chosen? We all want to be chosen. The next time your husband approaches you for some “fun” and you’re contemplating turning him down, remember: all your husband wants to do is love you. He is choosing you. He is choosing you above everything else, above anything else he could be doing. He’s choosing you. Maybe you were the last one chosen back in grade school. Well, now you are being chosen first.

When you say yes, you are choosing to feel closer to him, to feel loved, to feel chosen. I promise you there will be times when the last thing you want to do is a bit of tumbling, but once things begin to heat up, you’ll feel completely differently. Give things time to heat up. Allow yourself to be chosen. Fully accept all the affirmation and approval he wants to give you and embrace this love as God’s gift to you.
It’s through God’s mystery—the mystery of two becoming one—that we will experience exceeding joy, limitless pleasure, and divine exhilaration, both spiritually and physically. Indulge, receive, cling, and bask in love committedly and devotedly.

God fashioned us into beautiful images of Him and created us for pleasure, for relationship, and for His glory. Embrace the way God made you by being sensual and responsive.

So what? Is there something holding you back from fully indulging in physical intimacy? Two becoming one is a gift from God. Receive God’s gift and allow yourself the joy that comes with it.

Let's Pray.
Dear heavenly Father, please help me to erase all the bad programming I may have about intimacy and embrace the love, enjoyment, and pleasure You created.
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