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Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by MiKenny(f): 6:01pm On Nov 11, 2010
Have you ever dated a co-worker? What happened?
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by kokoye(m): 6:05pm On Nov 11, 2010
Not good.

we didnt really date . .we were just friends with benefits. But after all the craziness and her 'newness' died down and we stopped shagging, she started showing me. She tried everything possible to make my life miserable. I actually thot of quitting but then she got fired cos she was caught watching porn at work.

Bottomline, it becomes nasty when you break up and have to see or work the person everyday still. Especially if the breakup was not honestly mutual
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by r231(m): 6:12pm On Nov 11, 2010
yes and no
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by lajjy(m): 6:21pm On Nov 11, 2010
kokoye:

Not good.

we didnt really date . .we were just friends with benefits. But after all the craziness and her 'newness' died down and we stopped sleeping-with, she started showing me. She tried everything possible to make my life miserable. I actually thot of quitting but then she got fired cos she was caught watching indecency at work.

Bottomline, it becomes nasty when you break up and have to see or work the person everyday still. Especially if the breakup was not honestly mutual

So ur colleague was sacked because she was watching indecency during office hours,,,,,,,,,eh yah,,,,,,,,but in my office , my colleagus and some superiors talk raw and even view indecency in the office, is like a normal thing in my office
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by MiKenny(f): 6:24pm On Nov 11, 2010
different strokes for different folks
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by Nobody: 6:45pm On Nov 11, 2010
I dated a lady in the office and she started behaving like she owned me. I couldn't say hi to anybody else and she wanted to dominate control my life. When I told her it was over it was as if I suddenly became satan. She told anybody who cared to listen how I ruined her life and her chances of hooking up with other guys.
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by kokoye(m): 6:48pm On Nov 11, 2010
lajjy:

So your colleague was sacked because she was watching indecency during office hours,,,,,,,,,eh yah,,,,,,,,but in my office , my colleagus and some superiors talk raw and even view indecency in the office, is like a normal thing in my office

watching p0rn is normal in your office . . where do you work
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by omega25red(m): 6:52pm On Nov 11, 2010
it works sometimes and sometimes it's a disaster
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by medjai(m): 9:10pm On Nov 11, 2010
"Never get your meat from where you get your bread"- Machavelli
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by Moyola(f): 9:12pm On Nov 11, 2010
No No No!!!
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by Coolabbie: 9:15pm On Nov 11, 2010
A big fat NO! Familiarity breeds contempt.
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by Mygoldie(f): 9:17pm On Nov 11, 2010
yea but no but yea but no but yea but no, ummm maybe not. cheesy cheesy
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by yourangel: 2:42am On Nov 12, 2010
kokoye:

watching p0rn is normal in your office . . where do you work

Don't mind him. He's a P0rn Star
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by Nobody: 2:54am On Nov 12, 2010
For me is a no and NO.
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by Tinksh(f): 3:03am On Nov 12, 2010
No!!! Here there are very tight rules for that and if it turns bad either of them could get into a sexual harrassment mess!! Sexual harrassment laws here are very tight for the slightest thing. Soooooo not worth it!! Plenty of people outside the work place.
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by Nobody: 3:08am On Nov 12, 2010
It's not worth it,
You gotta be careful around women in the workplace. They can mess you up for real & for life.

Here, if you notice how these things usually go, it's always the woman that decides to start acting like an immature little runt when things turn sour. They generally find it harder to remove emotion from it.
The unstable, flea-ridden harpies that some of them are.
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by jneo(m): 6:53am On Nov 12, 2010
yes and no.
yes in the sense that i have seen it work a lot of times in my office.e.g. my former flatmate got married to his colleague in d office and they are still married.
and no in that i hav witnessed it get really messy. the girl was over bearing and d guy called it quits then all hell was let loose. she had to be threatened with a sack b4 she simmered down.
the bottomline is dat it depends on d maturity of the two parties.
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by segzicres(m): 7:04am On Nov 12, 2010
damn!!!i've always wanted to do office sex
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by Nobody: 7:30am On Nov 12, 2010
I would say its a big No No (my opinion though), tried it 1 time not knowing the big bosses had their eyes on her, to sum the whole thing it turned out not to be a very good experience, we were both transfered, i to a very remote location(offshore) wer i cldnt even call 4 three whole weeks, she to the bosses office as he's assistant, so your guess is as good as mine who got the babe at the end.
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by SALady(f): 9:30am On Nov 12, 2010
I'd say people should stay away from office romance. Personally I woundnt want my colleagues knowing whats happening in and out of my life. Iprefer to keep my business and private life separate.
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by SAGoddess: 9:37am On Nov 12, 2010
Office romance is only for mature individuals, some people can be vindictive and childish when the relationship ends, totally unnecessary and immature!
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by denony(m): 9:42am On Nov 12, 2010
i never fancy the idea, not only in the office but my residence area.
i am very secretive grin, that people kept wondering the kind of human i am.
I don't operate where i am well known wink
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by Yorisb: 2:15pm On Nov 12, 2010
medjai:

"Never get your meat from where you get your bread"- Machavelli

Word!!
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by Wumine(f): 3:34pm On Nov 12, 2010
segzi cres:

damn!!!i've always wanted to do office sex

It could be fun wink but never get caught! embarassed

Coolabbie:

A big fat NO! Familiarity breeds contempt.

Familiarirty could also breed fondness you know and fondness could breed love! It isnt that bad!!! cool
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by marjo: 3:46pm On Nov 12, 2010
I personally would not date a colleague or anyone who stays too close to me eg. same neighbourhood, if in school ( same faculty/dept) or in a place where we can bump into each other ever so often . It has been a policy of mine and has worked well - now i am married.  Such relationships  rarely end well and the lady is more often than not on the losing end as the guys usually move on faster and leave the girl feeling used. I also think that ladies get too clingy and emotional and don't know how to separate the relationship from the office setting. its usually the ladies that let everyone in on what is going on. I think it pains women more when the relationship has reached the sexual stage.
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by CArt(m): 3:51pm On Nov 12, 2010
@OP,
NO to office romance.The end of such relationship is always bitter.
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by Wumine(f): 4:17pm On Nov 12, 2010
CArt:

@OP,
NO to office romance.The end of such relationship is always bitter.

I stongly disagree with you on this. The end is not always bitter, there are some with happy endings you know!

I agree that it is risky but what is life without risk, boring i say. Honestly, if i fancy a hot guy in my office and he feels the same way, why not? Abeg abeg abeg, i only get to live once!
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by CArt(m): 4:30pm On Nov 12, 2010
Wumine:

I stongly disagree with you on this. T[b]he end is not always bitter,[/b] there are some with happy endings you know!

I agree that it is risky but what is life without risk, boring i say. Honestly, if i fancy a hot guy in my office and he feels the same way, why not? Abeg abeg abeg, i only get to live once!
From experience 75% of such relationship never ended well.There is no enough space for expression and manipulation.
There is never a total freedom.
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by EkeLucky: 4:51pm On Nov 12, 2010
Its absolutely NO to office romance.Its the highest point of irresponsibility.
Any man that does it is not a responsible guy.
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by pewekac: 7:02pm On Nov 12, 2010
experience has taught me this:

1) most ogas/bosses engage in this on an aristo levels; while most junior staff/young guys just do it to catch fun with all the IT and temporal staff babes. ditto for the chicks, just catching fun

2) a lot of female bankers are surprisingly pro-this; most especially operations staff. they believe since they spend all their life in the banking hall it presents the best possibility of catching and keeping a husband material.
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by 49cents(m): 8:34pm On Nov 12, 2010
its just gonna make you less productive and careful; if you must romance let it be with your office work
Re: Office Romance: Yes Or No To Dating A Co-worker? by playette4u: 8:42pm On Nov 12, 2010
cool Office romance can be fun if you have clear boundaries from the beginning.The fear of being caught and the fact that the affair and everything it represents is wrong,just adds to the fun factor!If my boss is available and i was attracted to him and i got the vibes he liked me too,i would definitely make my move in a subtle way,without triggering a sexual harassment case!

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