ogawisdom:


Jeez they have arrived, ur money our money n my money my money crew

A good wife should even submit her entire salary to her husband and the man will give her sth for upkeeps from there n save the rest for the family

pocohantas:
Same bullshit,
Different day...

Mtcheew

Dalby:


Upkeep I not feeding money for the house, or money to run the home o. Let's not confuse the 2, now over to you...

YOUNGELDER1:
I can’t even imagine not giving my wife upkeep money.
Working or not maybe because of my pride as the man of the house lol.

Then again can’t trust this women they be needing the slightest reason to cheat on you & i don’t want a “stingy husband” to be one.

LordKO:




Provided that she is/remains submissive, she'll always have unrestricted access to available and accessible money at any time, whether or not she earns money directly/personally.

As a submissive/good/aristocratic/humane/virtuous/loving woman who's independent-minded:

- Her word is bankable, so there won't be any need to take up the task of monitoring and controlling an adult, because she'll always be altruistic and conscientious and knows how to deploy each where and when necessary. And that, broadly, means that one won't dissipate energy in the pursuit of oneness with her in particular, and peace of mind in general, because she understands that liberty doesn't negate decorum.

- With her, personal longing to achieve eternal oneness with an opposite sex of a nonkin automatically becomes an easy task.

So, she deserves the absolute best treatment.

bukatyne:


I am serious.

I grew up in an all Igbo community (we were just two Yoruba on a very long street) so I have first hand experience on some of their way of life.

We've had a similar discussion where I told you that housewifery or a man fully responsible for home financially is not a Yoruba thing.

In fact, an housewife or financially non-contributing wife is called alabodo (someone you feed to fvck). To not say that there are no outliners.

Igbos however pride themselves in fully financing the home (I see this even in my colleagues with working wives). Growing up, most of the Igbo wives literally did not leave the house except to market or parties while you saw the husbands hustling (legit and non). The downside was that the men's words were law and upon the breakdown of the marriage, the wives did not leave with a pin so the marriage must not break.

Comparing this to pre-colonial times when everyone farmed, where was the cultural shift for them?

Igbos can also pitch in.

loswhite:
so they should be willing to spend their hard earned money also

Ewuro4:
What is “upkeep”?

YOUNGELDER1:
I can’t even imagine not giving my wife upkeep money.
Working or not maybe because of my pride as the man of the house lol.

Then again can’t trust this women they be needing the slightest reason to cheat on you & i don’t want a “stingy husband” to be one.

crackhaus:

I agree.

In addition to that, I believe feminists, psuedo-feminists, SJWs, in fact, any woman who claims to be a strong independent woman by attaching herself to any of these listed labels, ought NOT to expect to be given "upkeep" as a matter of principle.

Oh how I hate this word, "upkeep".

For wives (working or not) who deserve it, I'd rather refer to it as an 'honorarium'.

Pussywar:

[s]The length y'all would go to try and destroy feminism.
First of all, you should know that a housewife can be a feminist.
Secondly, whether he want to give his 'feminist' wife upkeep is the mans business.
Thirdly, what the Bleep is " wives who deserve it "? Y'all toxic males need prayers.[/s]

crackhaus:

crackhaus:

Buka what are you typing?

Western women more open to being housewives?
Western courts provide for the needs of non-earning spouses from the earning spouse?

Lol

crackhaus:

Don't join in this gross misinformation which has become an anthem on the pages of the internet. It is a lie.

In the days of our grandparents and great-grandparents, women worked. There are more housewives today than it was in those days.
Farming was the major source of livelihood and who do you think did the harvesting and selling of farm produce in the markets? Women.
Most times it was even across villages miles apart, these women did those things and still handled chores in the home front when they got back.
The men only cultivated the lands and planted, lands which were usually in their backyards.

It wasn't until the missionaries and colonial masters began introducing menial/manual jobs in the form of factories, railway building, construction, etc that men began leaving home to work for salaries.

Don't take my word for it, ask about your ancestral history and confirm this. I know things about my great-grandparents and great-great-grandparents from stories that were passed down. There was NEVER anything like a housewife in those days.

BRATISLAVA:
now you are talking. Everyone was working. But what responsibilities lay financially on each party, if I may ask? And why is it that nowadays we hear silly things like man of the house and submission and emergencies and contribute and bring to the table if we all came from this equal ancestry? Men of the new age in Nigeria generally want to abscond their duties and the easiesr way is to insist that women are doing nothing and should work as they do, clean, provide advice, talk politics like pros, watch soccer, care for children, bring money to the table, while in return all the men want to do is go to work and bring money. Can you see the disparity? One person does all that whole another just goes to work and returns, occasionally helping when they feel they've been pandered to sufficiently. This is why the women don't want to do all that and still give respect and submission. What are modern men contributing to homes? Why is their burden the lightest while they preen like they are lords? The women seem to deserve some "upkeep" as the load is unfair.
Or perhaps this ancestry shows us that men have been lazy and incapable for a very long time. They only planted seeds but women harvested and sold and maintained the home front. What have men been doing down the ages apart from creating imbalanced, unfair and ridiculous expectations from women? Women need pills and to find their own way

BRATISLAVA:
yes, the West is open to housewives. It's the pseudo westernized Nigerians who think women must bring something to the table, after hearing that White women work without getting the full context, and make a big deal out of it. You either have a wife who is a housewife or a wife who works. When you have both, you have a slave and not a wife. I noticed in this modern world that it is only poor men who expect their wives to work and fuss about it. The expectations are unrealistic. Most men need clay to design women because they're never satisfied

crackhaus:

This is how I always know I'm on a Nigerian forum. I'd be hard pressed to find something like this on Reddit.

dollytino4real:
yes because she belongs to somebody, her money is just 4 her to show off as a working class

crackhaus:

The west before the women's suffrage/rights movement took off, or the west after that?

bukatyne:


After especially the conservatives.

Their major point is that a wife can't work and still be effective as a wife.

makavelli80:
well-done

crackhaus:

The west before the women's suffrage/rights movement took off, or the west after that?

makavelli80:
well-done

crackhaus:

I agree with this, at least there'll be peace

BRATISLAVA:
the f***n*zi pill

BRATISLAVA:
in both instances. Based on the premise that if you want the home dealt with, then that's a housewife's field.
Generally speaking if you want extra income, then you cannot have the house wife, you can have the working wife. Just like working men aren't house husbands-except those who work from home.