i heard men are scarce maybe thats why. ,
but its not only nigerian girls . .i'll lock and chain my man to be when i find him

some ladies are just shameless

I dont see a big deal in this. i ve had a couple of shorties come my way asking me out : some direct and some indirect.
In all, if see wat u want , GO FOR IT. Ce finis

@topic

anything wrong with that?

Nairalanders,

I know my reply came a little bit too late, but are girls not human beings? Can't they go for what their hearts desire? We Nigerians have a little problem that needs a very big solution; appreciation. It is little but I have watched a show of appreciation give hope to a friend that once contemplated suicide. I did not show appreciation that a pure blood, well educated well bred, Fulani chic some 7 years ago wanted to go out with me. She was so enamoured with me that when I pretended not to notice she had to go through my mother. Can you beat that? (My momsie grew up in the North) Momsie did all she could but I had my fears, very unreasonable fears; one being that she is muslim, anything could happen and that her irate father might come after me with a sword. Her elder brother assured me that this is her only sister and to make her happy he does let her have anything she asks for. Infact, he told me that for the first time in his sister's life she can't have what she desired more than anything else; me. I was touched at heart but, my reservations would always pop up. It was not that I looked down on her, I was scared of any emotional excursions towards a muslim. It got so bad on her that she refused to eat, pined away and slowly broke down in health. One thing; her parents never knew why she got sick. She could never dare tell them what was making her sick. I visited her once at their house and she kept giving me that forlorn look. I stared back at her blankly and was monotonous throughout my stay. I thought I was being wise, I thought I was being protective of myself, I never knew I was being selfish and at the same time stupid, I never knew what I was walking away from was the very best thing that could have happened to me. Right now she is married (not so happily) with three kids and here I am, lonely with a string of heartbreaks trailing after me. She once told me over the phone that each time her husband makes love to her she would curse me from her heart. Right now all I am looking for is the ghost of the girl. Someone who will trully and deeply love me like she did. Come to think of it, if she did not love me she would not have waited three years for me to just give her what she asked of me; my heart.

Subaka (Her name, it means sunrise or dawn), I am very sorry for causing you all that pain and would live to regret not loving you back. I was very young then and would not understand what you wanted from me, or know how to give it to you. So guys, never take for granted love when it comes to you cause I discovered with my experience it happens only once in a lifetime.

inspiROHM

mukina2:

i heard men are scarce maybe thats why. ,
but its not only nigerian girls . .i'll lock and chain my man to be when i find him

Little Wonder Hmmm

stop wondering

oko won lode o
oko won lode o
toju ti e!
oro yi a dariwo be je n fe funke
husbands, not men are damn scarceeeeeeee in Nigeria
funke told me so

@thoniaslim

ThoniaSlim:

some ladies are just shameless

ssssssssssssshhhhhh when adults are talking go and sleep

pray oooo cos ur still young that u meet ur man b4 time pass u by

cos when it does u would join the prayer squad and begin to bind witches from ur village and ur cities that were never after u in any instance

I love ladies who have courage to go after a man of their choice,not those Village champions who will stay indoors waiting for men all their lifetime.

Ladies of courage please carry on 90% of today's men are with you.

I don't think it is just nigerian women, it seems to be a trend in all women.

However, there are still a handful of we traditional girls who like to let the man do the chasing, at least in the early stages.

I personally would find it quite hard to chase a man, especially in the beginning, i guess am a little old-fashioned.

I also feel it is quite unnatural as men are biologically the aggressors. a lot of relationships that begin with the women pursuing the guy generally do not last that long, yes it can be rather flattering for a guy to have a woman pursuing him, but after a while he is likely to get bored.

The man should initiate the 1st contact, he should set the first date, he should propose. Not saying that women can't do this, but having the woman lead all the time can be emancipating for the men.

men are biologically natural hunters, they love the thrill of the chase and the hunt, so give them something to hunt!

What men can do, women can do even better.

Let them do the buying and stuff although let

them know that men don't want Flowers. For once

let men play hard to catch, let them be taking to

the best Resturants the town can afford. Let the women

chase after a rib that they did not lost. May be at the end of it

all we will be able to convince the elders to up-turn the

Tradition so that the women can start paying the _{GROOM PRICE}

In India it is the women that marryb the men and give them a huge sum of cash to start off a business, maybe we should try it in africa

to all ladies out there, if really this days, you guys are desperately seaching for guys, then its cool. it isn't a bad thing. four years ago before i left home, i know what its like. how they bluff guys. they sail on a false colour, acting like they never went to ladies before since they were born. if this really occured, then i guess its time to come home and search for a beauty queen. ladies dont give up searching ok! but stuff those scrub out thre.

is not a big deal

I quite agree with eveseh. Men are hard to get, but boys are so cheap in searching for women. I consider ment that doesn't really hnow what they want from life as boys! Another point that must be butressed is that, most ladies throw away their mr right while they are still young and searching for mr. perfect that doesn't exist but in their imaginations.-SOLUTION- Ladies should take time to recognise guys that have great future ahead of them while their still not made!

A proper lady?

must be homely,smart,humble and highly intelligent.

Humourous 2.

Forget all those Nollywood movies where the right man always woo the right woman.

Some women are so unlucky that no man of their choice comes their way.

Since they believe men are the chasers they never raise their asses to go and search and they end up with just one managable.

As for me I believe in going for what I want.

Call me a hoe, shameless, undignified, whatever name comes your mind but I nor go put my life in someone else's hand.

Oh!! the scale on their eyes have finally falling off. that's nice to hear. So all those "yanger" will eventually stop. mmm!!
Please, people should start telling them to start asking men for marriage ooo! before we change our mind to help them overcome their loneliness.

Ladies chase ur guy of interest only if u have d nerve.

But i read in d Bible, "A man dat finds a wife finds a good thing" i think there's nothing like something being done d normal way. Ciao

The tide has change it's course people. Let give them hell just as when they are giving us hell in the days when we are chasing them.

Nigerian women now wear trousers these days. What about that?

amaikama:

The tide has change it's course people. Let give them hell just as when they are giving us hell in the days when we are chasing them.

Lol

I think its a new thing for Nigerian women, (although I have yet to see it), but its been that way for many European/American women, and the funny thing is, Nigerian men will say thats what they like about them, its only us who are supposed to remain traditional.

Some western women will even be the one to propose marriage.

There is really no biggie about girls chasing men and its not particular to Nigerian girls alone its a general thing !So why the shout mate!Chill and enjoy it,if a girl is chasing you !So it's not about Nigerian grils,its happening in the western world,cause there are some guys wey be slow coach so they need girls like that to get them thinking and acting fast

[color=#006600]well am new in this site,
well let me say some little things about that,
Dating an older women is not a Big deal, lets leave our women to choose who they like in the orderhand old men dating young lady, if they what they want they shuld go it,
like me no one can stop me
interested old women can contact me on falahcove_steve@yahoo.com and this my phone number +2348024039207
hope to hear from an interested woman, [/color]

what a thread

there is no problem wiff girls going afta men,
afterall its nt their fault,
In this our generation, men are better looking than girls , so don't blame them,

also in the case of black girls generally,they have more competition for black guys now from white girls who ll do anything to get a black dude

jennykadry:

what a thread

I greatly concurr 

@scopium

And that makes you feel better eh?

@Muki

i'll lock and chain my man to be when i find him

chei my muki is a warden. ok i will go and look for ashawo key
that will open any lock u will use to lock me.

[size=13pt]@ Naje Haje
Not necessarily feel better. I just feel women are now living up to expectation
How are you by the way?[/size]