bukatyne:
So you died and could still type this?

The die never finish na.

You married a man within one month of meeting him. You stayed in one of his houses at PH and managed the comestic shop he opened for you.

Do we need a sooth sayer to say you came for the money?

If you really wanted out, you would have left one day.

But no, you stayed put.

At least, we get to read a story from the other side.

Is your paper and biro the same?

yazga:
C'mon bukatyne& b3llo

Fountainofyouth:
Where is bukatyne that says there is nothing like rape and sexual assault in marriage? Oh she's here already, what say ye to that, ignoring the fact that the story is as fictitious as it sounds, I'm asking generally......

bukatyne:


I have explained over and over.

Rape is sex without consent.

[s]In the wedding vows, you automatically give consent to your spouse as a man and woman. Infact if the marriage is not consummated (no sex happens), it can be annulled. [/s]

There is sexual abuse like all other types of abuse in marriage. Examples of sexual abuse would include performing sexual acts the other partner finds humiliating, denying your partner sex, withholding sex for favors i.e. Using it as a bargaining chip, deliberately refusing to satisfy your partner etc.

There can also be physical assault where the husband or wife deliberately injures the other party in the course of sex.

bukatyne:


No amount of striking would distort my message dear

bukatyne:


I have explained over and over.

Rape is sex without consent.

In the wedding vows, you automatically give consent to your spouse as a man and woman. Infact if the marriage is not consummated (no sex happens), it can be annulled.

There is sexual abuse like all other types of abuse in marriage. Examples of sexual abuse would include performing sexual acts the other partner finds humiliating, denying your partner sex, withholding sex for favors i.e. Using it as a bargaining chip, deliberately refusing to satisfy your partner etc.

There can also be physical assault where the husband or wife deliberately injures the other party in the course of sex.

Fountainofyouth:



You are contradicting yourself here, you can't say one automatically gives consent as husband and wife in one breath, then say there is sexual abuse and rape in marriage in another breath, automatic consent means he can do whatever he deems fit to her body, so pick a side.

doitforyou:
I did it for the benefit of young impressionable minds that might stumble on this thread. Please post here the sick and warped vows you took that states rape (as long as there’s no physical injury) is allowed in holy matrimony. Your twisted message for your twisted household, should remain in your house not on the internet.

bukatyne:


I have explained over and over.

Rape is sex without consent.

In the wedding vows, you automatically give consent to your spouse as a man and woman. Infact if the marriage is not consummated (no sex happens), it can be annulled.

There is sexual abuse like all other types of abuse in marriage. Examples of sexual abuse would include performing sexual acts the other partner finds humiliating, denying your partner sex, withholding sex for favors i.e. Using it as a bargaining chip, deliberately refusing to satisfy your partner etc.

There can also be physical assault where the husband or wife deliberately injures the other party in the course of sex.

ImaIma1:


But it doesn't mean if someone is not up to it, the other person has the right to take it 0 agogby force

bukatyne:

So a husband has the right to manage your body mean he cannot abuse it?

Do you know the meaning of abuse?

And yes, there is rape in marriage.

bukatyne:

You would not know a twisted household if it hits you in the face.

It is the Glory Osei's of this world that fits you lots ranting how she is a strong independent woman while she is married to her co-founder.

Perhaps after you get married, we can discuss again.

doitforyou:




Go sit your ass down in your twisted household. Thank God your sick message was overwhelmingly rejected on NL by married men and women.

I see you’re now backpedaling. You give a man blanket consent to do as he wishes with your body, when he takes you up on your offer, you tell the woman she can seek redress in a phantom marriage court..lol that can only make sense to a brainwashed woman.

FYI, there is nothing wrong in being a strong independent married woman. Perhaps you needed those in your life growing up.

bukatyne:


So a husband has the right to manage the family's resources mean he cannot abuse it?

Do you know the meaning of abuse?

And no, I have never said there is rape in marriage.



You would not know a twisted household if it hits you in the face.

It is the Glory Osei's of this world that fits you lots ranting how she is a strong independent woman while she is married to her co-founder.

Please let us face the thread;

The prospect of a letter from the dead is more interesting than discussing martial sex life.

Perhaps after you get married, we can discuss again.

bukatyne:


@ImaIma1, you are married so we can have this discussion.

If someone is not genuinely up to it, the spouse knows in a sane marriage and would help him/her to get his/her groove back.

Even on this same NL, wives have been advised to spike their husbands' drinks, seduce him when he stops having sex with them.

Some others have been advised on all sort of concussions and drugs to give their spouses to get their MOJO back.

As a married person, if you understand that sex is a duty to your spouse, then you are able to negotiate when you are not up to it.

For instance, if a spouse is sick, the other party would definitely be more concerned about nursing them back to health before talking about sex. Some other times, the sick party might feel gentle sex would accelerate the healing.

I know a moniker who said after his wife had the second kid, she wasn't feeling sex any more.

Obviously, that would not fly so hubby asiisted in changing her diet, body positivity exercises and before you say Jack, she was back. (His account).

I remember a male friend who said he never knew sex could be a bore/chore till they were trying to conceive. Apart from the wife giving him all sort of concussions, she called him from anywhere when she was ovulating.

He was no longer interested yet he obviously could not say no till she was pregnant. Some colleagues complain that they have to do when they get home because madam will not take 'Lagos traffic' everyday before 'you are cheating abi' enters.

If a marriage has deteriorated to the point where a husband/wife is physically injuring the other party for sex or sexually abusing them, they need to seek help.

bukatyne:


First, stop editting my posts: There is nothing like rape in marriage. This is my original post:

@Bold, I am not surprised you have comprehension issues neither am I the cause of your bitterness towards men.

This consent is two way; a man and woman give consent to their wife and husband on the wedding day.

At last paragraph, still reeks of no comprehension. What is a strong independent married woman? Have you ever seen someone who is independent? How does it even tie into Glory Osei's case who pretended to be a 'single independent woman' with no use for men while she was very married.

Pardon me, I am losing patience for unintelligent discussions.

If you want to engage me, please bring your brains along.

ImaIma1:


Everything can be discussed and figured out. Because to call someone your spouse, it means there's a connection, there's love, understanding and a pact to work together for each other's benefit.

However, I cannot say for some couples who lack the proper bond and mindset that should exist between a husband and a wife.

If one person is not up to it at a point in time and the other person takes it by force, there is something definitely not right between them. If the "not feeling up to it" is too often, they need to seriously discuss it

Fountainofyouth:
Where is bukatyne that says there is nothing like rape and sexual assault in marriage? Oh she's here already, what say ye to that, ignoring the fact that the story is as fictitious as it sounds, I'm asking generally......

Graxie:
How can there be no rape in marriage? You mean because of the vow I had with my husband, he can come and have sex with me anytime he wants without my consent? You mean I lost my right to say no, I don't feel like having now. Hmmmm. I am married by the grace of God, 11 years now, thank God for my husband. I will teach my daughter to look for a man like the father that will not pounce on her just because of marriage vows. I know men like that will be available in her generation.

bukatyne:


First, stop editting my posts: There is nothing like rape in marriage. This is my original post:



@Bold, I am not surprised you have comprehension issues neither am I the cause of your bitterness towards men.

This consent is two way; a man and woman give consent to their wife and husband on the wedding day.

At last paragraph, still reeks of no comprehension. What is a strong independent married woman? Have you ever seen someone who is independent? How does it even tie into Glory Osei's case who pretended to be a 'single independent woman' with no use for men while she was very married.

Pardon me, I am losing patience for unintelligent discussions.

If you want to engage me, please bring your brains along.

bukatyne:
So you died and could still type this?

The die never finish na.

You married a man within one month of meeting him. You stayed in one of his houses at PH and managed the comestic shop he opened for you.

Do we need a sooth sayer to say you came for the money?

If you really wanted out, you would have left one day.

But no, you stayed put.

At least, we get to read a story from the other side.

Is your paper and biro the same?

ImaIma1:


But it doesn't mean if someone is not up to it, the other person has the right to take it by force

crackhaus:

Don't be baited too easily

Can't you see that handle came out of hibernation and complete inactivity for almost two weeks, just to restart an argument she has had with you previously on your thread?

It's an alternate.