mediatrix8:

Girl,If you love your boyfriend sincerely,Try to avoid things that will lead him to be jealous ,instead try to win his trust by showing him that he's the only one,show him all your love be, loyal to him and limit your time with other guys.Keep a distance with other man .I wish you can get him back

mediatrix8:

Girl,If you love your boyfriend sincerely,Try to avoid things that will lead him to be jealous ,instead try to win his trust by showing him that he's the only one,show him all your love be, loyal to him and limit your time with other guys.Keep a distance with other man .I wish you can get him back

iaabc:

He's obviously dealing with issues from the previous relationship, so you can either be patient and hope he'll be back or simply move on and count it as an additional experience in life.

Georgette$:

I feel like a loser. He broke up with me because he said he can not trust me. I don't know what else i could have done. I have never cheated on him or crossed the line or boundary. His last relationship before mine, his ex girlfriend just left him and got married within few months.
The only things that happened was me getting a lot of attention from men which is not my fault but I never cheated on him. The painful part is him telling his friends, I am enjoying the attention from men.
Why do good people tend to suffer. He still claims to love me and calls me every now and then.

He ditched you and moved on? Well, on the account of highlighted lines I'm not sure he's moved on completely, and ergo you may still stand a chance of winning him back. GLuck!

1one:

my opinion may veer a bit off course in relation to the theme of other posters.so just be patient with me and indulge my creativity.
There was no mention in your post about your feelings past or present for this guy, If I may say I dont think you loved this guy, and that's why you used the word "loser" to describe how you feel, I think what you had for him was conscious commitment, you were commited to him and maybe the demands of the relationship that's why you feel like a loser having "invested" so much, so if my opinion is half as close as the shore from the sea,i'd suggest you just let him be and move on.

But this, as I said is just a product off my fertile imagination.I stand to be corrected

Yorisb:

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He ditched you and moved on? Well, on the account of highlighted lines I'm not sure he's moved on completely, and ergo you may still stand a chance of winning him back. GLuck!

kay177:

God himself said it that he is a jealous God, If he were to be the one enjoying the attention of other girls, its possible you would have gone to the extent of assaulting those girls, Its better you dance to the beat of his drum, rather than dancing and giving attention to side attractions,

mediatrix8:

Girl,If you love your boyfriend sincerely,Try to avoid things that will lead him to be jealous ,instead try to win his trust by showing him that he's the only one,show him all your love be, loyal to him and limit your time with other guys.Keep a distance with other man .I wish you can get him back

Osama10:

I think this would have saved your relationship.

apocalypse:

I see where the problem lies , you enjoy the attention you get from your admirers and you let your boyfriend know. Don't you see anything wrong in that , I mean how do you want him to feel comfortable with all the attention you give them. Do you even make all know you have the best man in the world , if he sees anytime makes a pass at you bring him up and let the whold world know you love him I know things wouldn't be the way they are now

I am a pretty young lady and would always be that way

Georgette$:

I feel like a loser. He broke up with me because he said he can not trust me. I don't know what else i could have done. I have never cheated on him or crossed the line or boundary. His last relationship before mine, his ex girlfriend just left him and got married within few months.
The only things that happened was me getting a lot of attention from men which is not my fault but I never cheated on him. The painful part is him telling his friends, I am enjoying the attention from men.
Why do good people tend to suffer. He still claims to love me and calls me every now and then.

Osama10:

I think this would have saved your relationship.

apocalypse:

I see where the problem lies , you enjoy the attention you get from your admirers and you let your boyfriend know. Don't you see anything wrong in that , I mean how do you want him to feel comfortable with all the attention you give them. Do you even make all know you have the best man in the world , if he sees anytime makes a pass at you bring him up and let the whold world know you love him I know things wouldn't be the way they are now

IyaBasira:

Are you guys serious?

She wasn't the one who went out soliciting male attention. The men come to her, not the other way round. You cannot blame the jewel for attracting attention if left out in the open. Why do you think museums guard precious jewels and paintings with round the clock security?
Let's face facts. I'm not saying that he should watch her 24/7. But the issue here is not her, it's him. If he was emotionally secure, what he would be doing is getting angry with the guys talking to her. But he's too scared to confront them for fear that one of them would probably say something like " Well , I'm sleeping with her anyway", because that would make him look like an absolute dunce.
So what he does is to blackmail her emotionally , blame her for being attractive because he resents the fact that she can leave him for any of the guys chasing her IF SHE WANTS TO.
What he's REALLY trying to do here is see where her loyalty lies.
If you have something pretty or valuable, other people are always going to want to take it away from you. It's a huge ego boost when you can take something that another person cherishes away from them. But you don't blame the item itself for being valuable. You guys telling her that she should minimize the time she spends with boys is just plain wrong. You may as well ask her to wear a hi jab just because you aren't comfortable with her being pretty.

1one:


^^^em, actually, you WONT, remember that three letter word that has a (st) -ING- at the end?
AGE-ING? Its a term common to every teresstial this side of existence or perharps i should be asking you, how's the weather, in JUPITER

D-sense:

Pls cheer up nd let it go jor.I know how u feel but to enlighten it ,It might be from the attention u get from men that laid him to the decision. but sometimes we '' men'' feel like being freed, Cause we just want to be alone though he might love u oo but will be like ''i just want to be freed for now. Which means he might come back to u asking for u for marriage .Yeah.U got it?
Or he's in love with some1 else nd felt like getting u out of his league.Take heart.

Are you guys serious?

She wasn't the one who went out soliciting male attention. The men come to her, not the other way round. You cannot blame the jewel for attracting attention if left out in the open. Why do you think museums guard precious jewels and paintings with round the clock security?
Let's face facts. I'm not saying that he should watch her 24/7. But the issue here is not her, it's him. If he was emotionally secure, what he would be doing is getting angry with the guys talking to her. But he's too scared to confront them for fear that one of them would probably say something like " Well , I'm sleeping with her anyway", because that would make him look like an absolute dunce.
So what he does is to blackmail her emotionally , blame her for being attractive because he resents the fact that she can leave him for any of the guys chasing her IF SHE WANTS TO.
What he's REALLY trying to do here is see where her loyalty lies.
If you have something pretty or valuable, other people are always going to want to take it away from you. It's a huge ego boost when you can take something that another person cherishes away from them. But you don't blame the item itself for being valuable. You guys telling her that she should minimize the time she spends with boys is just plain wrong. You may as well ask her to wear a hi jab just because you aren't comfortable with her being pretty.

Of course if i didn't love him, I would not be here posting. I said I felt like a loser because I did not do anything wrong. We did not fight or maybe nag or cheat or such. I was the best I could be even as he said but just because of insecurity and trust issue? What am I supposed to do. I am a pretty young lady and would always be that way. I was with him and not anyone else so why the insecurity?

Georgette$:

C'mon, I never said i was spending all my time with other men. No I wasn't.

chiteny:

I don't know if i should say you are wrong by saying you did nothing wrong? The truth is that since you took no action against men who flocking around you and showing you "attention", you loved every bit of it. IMO this is not very right if you are in a relationship. If you guy is not giving much attention, speak your mind to him so he does. Yes he is not secure because he went thru similar experience in the past relationship. Maybe this one would turn to be the same so he opted out before history would repeat itself. You don't need to nag or be caught cheating before a guy breaks up with you. Seeing you hang around men and they give u so much attention suggests a lot.

d bigrod:

Poster,mediatrix8 has said it all.i want u to know dat ifevery cute guy and babe give attention to every person dat seek 4 it,then no one would be comfortable dating them.

iice:

Story is too skeletal. You may have done something to trigger his breaking up with you.

IgadtSwag:




Whatever it is,from your post.u did no wrong(at least nothing tangibly wrong for the average mind).I would think that u loved him and to even come out here in the first place then u r not done loving him just yet.

'tell u what tho,if u don't want to loose him,i don't know what your religious background maybe but just pray, for him and pray for u.and also important is maintaining the communication like nothings wrong or amiss.I bet you in time he'll realize u r even worth his insecurities.

Good luck gurl and Puleez share testimonies when it works out.It may just save someone else

Ayowumie:

Let him go. U can never keep a guy that is bent on leaving you.

IgadtSwag:

his thots, "what if u meet another person", his insecurities exactly.As I said,keep on talking on phone or however like nothings wrong,he'll eventually come to his senses.buh dont forget to pray.there may be no testimonies now but there will be.I bet you!!!

Good luck!

NB.
sent u an IM on yahoo!