AdeeT:


I've betrayed her trust, I have really hurt her, I wish that I could undo all I've done. But it's too late, and I'm reek of guilt, it's all over me.

I just cheated on a beautiful lady that has stayed with me through thick and thin for years, a wonderful soul that anyone would dream to have. Cheating might be a common thing, but the moment you cheat on a pure soul, an innocent woman that gives you all, WITH HER BEST FRIEND, then it's beyond cheating.

I am charming, good looking working class guy, guys and girls easily comment how good looking I am, my fiancee is so proud of me, and my achievements that she easily shows me off at the slightest opportunity. She attended the same Uni with her friend, and ever since then, they've been a very good friend. They even served at the same place(worked out), to show you how close they her.

Now my fiancee works in the southern Nigeria, we planned to seal things up next year, and live together here in Abuja. Her friend came for a job interview here, and my woman advised that she rather stay with me for the period instead of her spending a lot on hotel accommodations since I live alone in a bedroom flat. I obliged, and she came down here, little did I know that things would get messy. Long story cut short, I fell in to her seduction the second night of her staying after some series of events. We ended up having sex couples of time before she left. I feel terrible now, though she felt nothing, I can't even flow well with my woman on phone again, guilt is all over me. I don't know how I will stand her whenever we meet. Of all girls in the world, she's the least anyone would want to cheat on.

I'm thinking of telling her. Mind you guys, I'm not a weakling, I've never been one. Before I met her some 3 years back, I was on the other end of life. She changed a lot for good for me, and helped stop many bad things, as well as starting several good ones. I don't know what her reaction would be after telling her. Her friend still communicates with her as if nothing happened.

I'm in pain guys. A serious one. I need advices.

borngeologist:
Just tell her it better to tell her the truth.. Last week my babe cheated on me.. She cried and told me how it happened.. I can't loose that girl because of just that single mistake. I forgave her and I even found out within myself that I love her than ever.. I can't leave that babe..

AdeeT:


For days I've been so weak bro, I'm so out of thoughts. I really bleeped up, I know.

I actually kept my distance from her, the first day, she slept in the bedroom, while I in the living room. I fell to some cheap plays, and she cornered me. I'm seriously regretting my actions.

This is a girl that have been praying with me(and for me) before I sleep or go to work the next day. I shouldn't have do this to her. It seems that I can't live with the guilt, neither do I wanna loose her.

Her friend is already ignored, both off and on-line.

bestabigaelever:
You had sex several times with the best friend of the person you claimed you love
You are a plaque, please leave that innocent girl alone and go for medical check up pls
But since u need advice, here is my own
Send a break up message, telling her how u are bad and foolish person, that you don't deserve her
If she calls back, answer the phone crying....dont day anything yet
After she persuade you, confessed what u did
If she forgive ND take you back, then go and sin no more

midnighter:


What are you talking about, did you read the write-up?

He said that the girl didnt have any qualms about sleeping with him, who is blaming anybody

I could never stay in a self-contained with my girlfriends man, never! At least if its BQ in a huge house we can understand that one though I would still be uncomfortable with it

funmisticqueen:
She didn't seduce you,, you allowed yourself to be seduced. You couldn't stay faithful for her? Guess she isn't as close to your heart as you thought. And it was more than once. Guess you didn't really know yourself

Dude is just discovering himself. Should the opportunity presents itself again, he'll cheat over and over again. All these "I love her with all my heart" blah blah blah are just tantrums. Once this 'guilty conscience' fades off, it's game time. We've all been there.

Viking07:
Dude is just discovering himself. Should the opportunity presents itself again, he'll cheat over and over again.

AdeeT:


No sir. This won't ever repeat itself. Thanks.

Of course it won't. That's what we all say. I don't know if you bet. But the odds of you cheating again is 1.01.

funmisticqueen:
keep your mouth shut

trappatoni:
'[b]she cornered you'[/b]weyrey gidi ni man yi sha, boy take responsibility for your actions because you will still do it again. I wonder how the few good ones end up with boys like you.That one wey corner you go still blackmail you more because she has successfully found your weakness already. OP grow up and appreciate a good woman.

Shugargal:
Bro don't write all Nigeria gals off, some of us are still good at least, it's trust, it depends on how far both of you have gone and what you share, I once helped my bestie do that here in Abj but I had to not always come back home, I left my apartment for the guy and always retire at another friend's house, I was forming too busy for him because I know he's a guy and will wanna make advances, I kuku let him alone in my house and everything for him to eat made available. bro just forget we all not same OK.

AdeeT:


No sir. This won't ever repeat itself. Thanks.

AdeeT:
Kick me, stab me, slam me, crucify me, I deserved all of them, and more. But remembers, I'm a human, an imperfect, my human side prevails me.

In response to few comments here;

1. I didn't take advantage of her, neither did she took advantage of me, because I'm a grwon up man. It was a mutual thing as a knife wasn't held on my neck to do that. Though she brought up a strange game which I reluctantly agreed to play(no 1 error) and that's the genesis of the whole thing. The act happening more than once is graphical, I wouldn't want to explain that on a public forum. Believe me, it wasn't my fault.

2. My fiancee isn't a dumb or a stupid girl, she was only been considerate as the cost of hotel accommodations for some 4 days around here would be too much for a job seeker, she was only trying to help out, I live alone in a room flat apartment, it's not as if we would be sleeping on a bed together. Even if it was like that, my girl trusted me to a fault. All the years we've been together, she's got no single reason to doubt me on anything. Though I fell, I never taught that this would happened.

3. Our relationship isn't a leech/parasitic one, we are doing fine on our own, she did helped me stop some things at the other end of life, like she showed me what life is truly is. I can't just afford to loose a woman like her in today's world.

Though many woman are secretive in nature, but trust, she is not many woman, she has never hide any part of her life to me. I do check up on her whenever I'm free, and there's no a single time I've got a reason to worry. Like I wrote before, she is a pure soul, the type you don't just meet everyday. I've seen many ladies before her, even in my undergrad years, so I fighting to keep her means a lot to me.

4. If I'm arrogant, I'm sorry, I didn't intend to be. And in all honesty, I'm not an arrogant being. That was just a mere description of my self, which I thought that it wasn't bad.

Thanks to everyone for your wonderful advice, and for righting my wrongs. I've decided not to tell her till we tied the knot. The friend has alreadu messaged me saying she's sorry for all that happened, that it shouldn't be her.

She already blamed herself in her series of messages, I'll keep that as a defense for future. Again, I'm so sorry, and thank you all.

borngeologist:
Just tell her it better to tell her the truth.. Last week my babe cheated on me.. She cried and told me how it happened.. I can't loose that girl because of just that single mistake. I forgave her and I even found out within myself that I love her than ever.. I can't leave that babe..

AdeeT:


I'm no mad/bad person. This is just an unfortunate incident. This won't repeat itself again.

And I fully accept the blame for all that happened.

bestabigaelever:
You had sex several times with the best friend of the person you claimed you love
You are a plaque, please leave that innocent girl alone and go for medical check up pls
But since u need advice, here is my own
Send a break up message, telling her how u are bad and foolish person, that you don't deserve her
If she calls back, answer the phone crying....dont day anything yet
After she persuade you, confessed what u did
If she forgive ND take you back, then go and sin no more

Cutehector:
The very very much single reason I dont like long distant relationships. Both parties keep deceiving themselves! If I can't be seeing you every week, then sorry, break up is imminent.

midnighter:


If the babe was concerned about cost she would have told OP to help with some money for the friend to lodge in a hotel.

What she did doesnt make sense

Xmen149:
if they declare open confession day dude will be hospitalized when he hears his girl has done such more than once..lol.

on A dudes story on Nl his most amazing and fantastic wife once collected money from him to lodge and f her highschool crush he. The husband was busy feeling guilty on his own mistake until both declared open confession day..lol

Na Dog we see shit for I'm mouth dey chop shit

Yes,girls fantasies when other girls tell them about their loving guy but only Luch for the said guy if she has been in shady activities together with the confessing girl or knows "after all her way no Pure too"

Clear your head homes,aim for the best in the situation but be prepared for the worse

mirexxx:
cutehector

Lexusgs430:


Oga, just keep mute and hope her friend does not spill the snail and cassava to her.....

If she eventually does, at that point you confess........

Once trust is dead, most relationships are dead........

May this be that secret you take to your grave.........


NB : On a sidenote, give me that friends number. I have something to tell her............