Good morning guys, so there's an issue that has been bothering me for a week now.

it's about my younger sister's childhood friend. so, I came back from school last month after finishing my 2nd semester 300l exams.

And anytime, my friends sister visited our house, she'll sometimes sneak into my room to collect my phone which she claims shes uses for assignments (she's currently in S.S.2).

So last week, she came as usual to collect the phone. after giving her, she decided to stay back in the room while she makes research on her so-called assignments. while putting on earpiece ooo.

unknown to her, even though I was busy on my laptop, I could still hear some noise from the earpiece. I had to pause what I was doing to listen carefully and found out that this girl was actually watching porn in my holy phone oooo.

I got angry and collected my phone after which I sent her out of my room. even after that event, she still visits our house and still comes into my room but I've denied her my phone sha.

So, last week Sunday, after church service, I tried to my Buddy who was a pianist in our church to seek advice from him if I should report the girl to her parents or leave her alone.

I was quite shocked at his reply as he said I messed up that I should have taken advantage of the girl. I was like, the girl is 16 oooo. and i also told him that I don't engage in such stuffs (At 20, I've never hugged a girl before because of my low self esteem as my friends would call it) He also told Me that age is just a number that he have been strafing the junior pastor's daughter who was his girlfriend (17year old girl ooo and dude is 23) i didn't believe him at first not until he showed me the nude pictures of the girl.

he said I should man up that he'll get me a condom this Sunday which I will use. I told him that he should remember that he is a Christian and that as Christians, we should stay away from all forms of immorality and that our body is the temple of God which should remain Pure and Holy at the same time.
the dude's defense was that Jesus has already died for our sins and that subsequent sins we commit will be forgiven.

Right now, I'm confused as to what to do as my younger sister's friend has been trying to seduce me. sometimes, she'll just come into my room without even knocking the door wearing what seemed like mini skirt. mind you, all the while that she has been coming to our house, my parents are not always around. also, her mom and my mom are close buddies.

Please I need an advice on what to do as my friend from the just has already promised to bring the CD on Sunday. also, is it true that Jesus really died for our subsequent sins? that is, the sins we commit later on in life will be forgiven? also, I need advice from those who had engage in premarital sex before. so far, have you had any regrets? please help a brother. please I'll appreciate if I get more views concerning this issue.

Lalasticlala
mynd44
seun

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My dear brother, I think you have made up your mind already...
Just remember, ur junior sister is observing in 3D

LoyalRccgMember:
Jesus has already died for our sins and that subsequent sins we commit will be forgiven.

Please, when will Pentecostal Churches stop feeding their members with this error?!

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS
The Bible advises people to “flee from fornication.” (1 Corinthians 6:18) This means that a person needs to stay as far away as possible from anything that could lure him or her into sexual immorality. (Proverbs 22:3) For instance, in order to remain morally clean, it is vital for one to avoid close association with people who ignore God’s principles related to sex. The Bible warns: “He that is walking with wise persons will become wise, but he that is having dealings with the stupid ones will fare badly.”—Proverbs 13:20.

Yes you will

Proverb 7:6-27.
6For at the window of my house I looked through my casement,
7And beheld among the simple ones, I discerned among the youths, a young man void of understanding,
8Passing through the street near her corner; and he went the way to her house,
9In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night:
10And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtil of heart.
11(She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house:
12Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner.)
13So she caught him, and kissed him, and with an impudent face said unto him,
14I have peace offerings with me; this day have I payed my vows.
15Therefore came I forth to meet thee, diligently to seek thy face, and I have found thee.
16I have decked my bed with coverings of tapestry, with carved works, with fine linen of Egypt.
17I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.
18Come, let us take our fill of love until the morning: let us solace ourselves with loves.
19For the goodman is not at home, he is gone a long journey:
20He hath taken a bag of money with him, and will come home at the day appointed.
21With her much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him.
22He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks;
23Till a dart strike through his liver; as a bird hasteth to the snare, and knoweth not that it is for his life.
24Hearken unto me now therefore, O ye children, and attend to the words of my mouth.
25Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths.
26For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her.
27Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death.



Jesus's death does not absolve us of future sin. It is not a case of once saved, always saved.
Work out your salvation with fear and trembling.

I can sense you are in a dilemma. Pray for grace because i also perceive you are a good soul

I will answer only your last question

I need advice from those who had engage in premarital sex before. so far, have you had any regrets? please help a brother.

No regrets at all

You can go to jail for having sex with an underage girl even if it's consensual. Also think of the consequences like getting her pregnant.
Look son, it's not worth it. Do not bow to peer pressure, at the right time you will have lots of sex without needing to come online for people to encourage or discourage you.

That at 20 u haven't hugged a girl is a thing to rejoice about. Listen attentively, you have a destiny God has arranged for you, a bright future. Too many have short changed their God's destiny for sex. Yes, sex can alter your destiny. Why do u think potiphas wife wanted joseph so bad? Do u think he still would have been prime Minister if he slept with her?

As you can clearly see, not everyone in church is saved, some are devils tools for destruction.

What should you do?
1) cut ties with that boy in church if u like urself. There is nothing wrong in being chaste even as a man. God will give you a good wife in future and u both can discover your bodies as God intended.(u can watch pastor kingsley okonkwos video on YouTube titled "must I marry a virgin" something like that Sha, can't remember)

2) REPORT THAT GIRL TO YOUR MOTHER. tell her to tell the girls mother. If you don't, that girl will ruin your life, also your sister is her friend, she will spoil your sister to pieces. Report asap.

3) stay very far, don't test your resistance skills cos the bible says flee from sexual sin cos it can consume your thinking process.

I am proud of u, keep being pure. God is proud of u.

"should we remain in sin because grace abound, God forbid"

content208:


Please, when will Pentecostal Churches stop feeding their members with this error?!

which pentecostal churches again, abeg

content208:


Please, when will Pentecostal Churches stop feeding their members with this error?!

Stop this generalisation. Not even RCCG will teach that evil doctrine

You joined nairaland on Nov 21 just to post this rubbish. Is that what they've been teaching you in rccg?
I'm sure this is your alternate account, you are just an attention seeker thinking you can ridicule the church you will just ridicule yourself.

As an elder, i'll advise you to stand firm on your resolution.

Just wondering if Joseph would have fulfilled his destiny as the first Prime minister in the world if he had taken advantage of the situation and slept with Portiphar's wife.... just wondering

That your friend will soon put you in trouble, you better stay away from him and report the young girl to your mother, she will handle it.

Lol! Jon snow

Flee all appearance of evil. 1thess 5:22

It's either u stop her from entering ur room outrightly (recommended)

Or u foolishly give in and after enjoying her coochie over and over again, u end up becoming a premature father with a truck load of guilt.

LoyalRccgMember:
Good morning guys, so there's an issue that has been bothering me for a week now.

it's about my younger sister's childhood friend. so, I came back from school last month after finishing my 2nd semester 300l exams.

And anytime, my friends sister visited our house, she'll sometimes sneak into my room to collect my phone which she claims shes uses for assignments (she's currently in S.S.2).

So last week, she came as usual to collect the phone. after giving her, she decided to stay back in the room while she makes research on her so-called assignments. while putting on earpiece ooo.

unknown to her, even though I was busy on my laptop, I could still hear some noise from the earpiece. I had to pause what I was doing to listen carefully and found out that this girl was actually watching porn in my holy phone oooo.

I got angry and collected my phone after which I sent her out of my room. even after that event, she still visits our house and still comes into my room but I've denied her my phone sha.

So, last week Sunday, after church service, I tried to my Buddy who was a pianist in our church to seek advice from him if I should report the girl to her parents or leave her alone.

I was quite shocked at his reply as he said I messed up that I should have taken advantage of the girl. I was like, the girl is 16 oooo. and i also told him that I don't engage in such stuffs (At 20, I've never hugged a girl before because of my low self esteem as my friends would call it) He also told Me that age is just a number that he have been strafing the junior pastor's daughter who was his girlfriend (17year old girl ooo and dude is 23) i didn't believe him at first not until he showed me the nude pictures of the girl.

he said I should man up that he'll get me a condom this Sunday which I will use. I told him that he should remember that he is a Christian and that as Christians, we should stay away from all forms of immorality and that our body is the temple of God which should remain Pure and Holy at the same time.
the dude's defense was that Jesus has already died for our sins and that subsequent sins we commit will be forgiven.

Right now, I'm confused as to what to do as my younger sister's friend has been trying to seduce me. sometimes, she'll just come into my room without even knocking the door wearing what seemed like mini skirt. mind you, all the while that she has been coming to our house, my parents are not always around. also, her mom and my mom are close buddies.

Please I need an advice on what to do as my friend from the just has already promised to bring the CD on Sunday. also, is it true that Jesus really died for our subsequent sins? that is, the sins we commit later on in life will be forgiven? also, I need advice from those who had engage in premarital sex before. so far, have you had any regrets? please help a brother. please I'll appreciate if I get more views concerning this issue.

Lalasticlala
mynd44
seun

Interesting story.

Others have advised you rightly.

And they say show me your friends and I will tell you whom you are.

You need to cut ties with the piano boy and others who think not hugging a girl is as a result of low self esteem.

You need to cut ties with your sister's friend too.

Also learn to read the Bible for yourself. And stop been a loyal RCCG member: be a loyal member of Christ.

content208:


Please, when will Pentecostal Churches stop feeding their members with this error?!

That teaching has messed up a lot of minds, taking God's mercy for granted.

That your friend na street disguised as a pianist.

Gakinola:
You joined nairaland on Nov 21 just to post this rubbish. Is that what they've teaching you in rccg?
I'm sure this is your alternate account, you are just an attention seeker thinking you can ridicule the church you will just ridicule yourself.

Read the post again. He didnt say he was taught that in church. That position was given by the pianist. Please read objectively before attacking

) He also told Me that age is just a number that he have been strafing the junior pastor's daughter who was his girlfriend (17year old girl ooo and dude is 23) i didn't believe him at first not until he showed me the nude pictures of the girl.

The end is here.....

Just before you finally make up your mind to nack or not, Use same energy and think through the possible consequences.

Condoms will likely give you the liver to proceed but what happens after that? Remember that she's a kid and her hormones are setting her up. She will bring a certain fire that would be out of your league at this stage to handle.

Why the rush? Focus on your dreams and become a better man and one day, you would finally realise that there was no good use rushing into it.

Looking back now as an old man who has lost the venom of youth, I feel those wasted sexual energies could be put into better use.

Flee from all appearances of evil
Why not get yourself busy? Are you in the university yet? If you are, look for other skills to acquire that will help your life post uni.
Get some certifications relevant to your course of study. Leave small pikin matter. If you want a girlfriend, get one who you can be serious with, and who has the same vision as you. Leave the 16 year old alone o.

Jesusjnr & Praivit0 come and see something the once saved always saved crew likes.

Come and see ‘grace’ at work in this story...

Pls report the girl to your mother and also caution your sis from associating with her.
Secondly, sternly caution the girl and stop her from coming to your room. Trust me, she will respect and be wary of you.

He also told Me that age is just a number that he have been strafing the junior pastor's daughter who was his girlfriend (17year old girl ooo and dude is 23) i didn't believe him at first not until he showed me the nude pictures of the girl.

Your friend is a childish asshole. Stay away from him.
Any man that shares with you what his woman shared with him in private Especially private photos , is a very disgusting person. You should be wary of such people.

As for your little lady friend. If you can wait until she turns 18, please wait. Then you can have all the guilt-free sex you want with her.

Me I don’t kuku engage in religious reasoning but...

You’re 20. You sound like you know the right thing, so do it. Stop looking for someone to give you the go-ahead to engage in statutory rape. Na you go pay later.

Sometimes to do the right thing, we need to fast forward our thoughts into the future.

Whenever you fall into this situation of temptation and it's seriously dealing with your brain, take a moment to put yourself together and contemplate on the possible outcomes of your actions moments later. Look into the future bro and the fear of what will see might go a long way in deterring you from making the wrong choice at present.

OP, consider how that girl is to you and your family. Consider your mom and her mom her close buddies. Even if you have sex with her and there's no problem; no pregnancy, no sex.

- How will you deal with the heavy guilt that will be stored up in your heart knowing that you smashed a girl that you are expected to do your bit in putting her on the right path considering your relationship with her family?

You are expected to do your bit in the girl's upbringing as an upright and virtuous girl. how will you feel when you are the one who eventually took her down into the deepest pit of the opposite of the virtues that you should be teaching her?

When her mum finds out or your mum finds out that such happened, how do you think they will feel? What kind of impression do you think her mum and your mum will have about you? Do you wish to disappoint your mother in the face of her friends?

even though, this girl may be the one seducing you, believe me nobody would want to hear that part of the story at all. The story is that you fvcked your sister's friend who is younger than you and that's how people will focus on the story and all eyes will be on you.

And in today's world, where people consider sex under 18 as statutory rape, consider how much people will look down on you and how badly affected your reputation will be when they find out.

And do not think for one second it's easy to keep it a secret. that girl seems to be a wayward girl who wouldn't find anything wrong if it happens and she will likely tell her mates and people who care to know how she fvcked so and so. That's how they roll.

And how do you want her or her friends or her mates that heard such a thing to show you respect in your neighbourhood?

So be careful. You are still young and you have a future. Don't let such transient pleasure adversely affect your future. The lady could get pregnant and you know what means. Many men in this world would have been great or more successful in life if not that they became a slave of their own desires and that held them back or brought them down.

Stand your ground and warn that girl severely against acting wayward in your presence and advise her to desist from her ways. She'll come to respect you more after that.

Then never allow her come into your room when you are alone and never allow yourself fall into a situation where you will be alone with her.

May God help you in the face of temptations bro.

my piece!!

ITbomb:
I will answer only your last question No regrets at all

Wow! thanks

Chubhie:
Just before you finally make up your mind to nack or not, Use same energy and think through the possible consequences.

Condoms will likely give you the liver to proceed but what happens after that? Remember that she's a kid and her hormones are setting her up. She will bring a certain fire that would be out of your league at this stage to handle.

Why the rush? Focus on your dreams and become a better man and one day, you would finally realise that there was no good use rushing into it.

Looking back now as an old man who has lost the venom of youth, I feel those wasted sexual energies could be put into better use.

Thanks a lot! I'm planning to report my guy to our pastor but I don't want to be seen as a snitch