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Is Divorce Forbidden by maingate1(m): 2:40pm On Nov 21, 2010
ur sincere advice is needed here. please can one divorce his wife for any reason? even fornication?
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Yorisb: 2:44pm On Nov 21, 2010
Biblically - NO, save for infidelity! undecided


"“It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery"—Matthew 5:31-32
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Tudor6(f): 2:48pm On Nov 21, 2010
Divorce is very much ok thats why it's an option in the law.

Marriage is a contract, if you feel your expectations aren't being met by your spouse you can always bail out.

Its not by force to be married to someone and no one should force you to remain married. Your happiness is paramount, everything else is non-consequential.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Dsense(m): 2:48pm On Nov 21, 2010
Yorisb:

Biblically - NO, save for infidelity! undecided


"“It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery"—Matthew 5:31-32
I got ur back. . .  .U re right.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by obowunmi(m): 2:58pm On Nov 21, 2010
Yorisb:

Biblically - NO, save for infidelity! undecided


"“It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery"—Matthew 5:31-32

This holds true only if and when the other party finds out --- most Nigerians who commit adultery, try to be discreet.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by obowunmi(m): 3:00pm On Nov 21, 2010
Tudór:

Divorce is very much ok thats why it's an option in the law.

Marriage is a contract, if you feel your expectations aren't being met by your spouse you can always bail out.

Its not by force to be married to someone and no one should force you to remain married. Your happiness is paramount, everything else is non-consequential.

I concur Tudor. One shouldn't get married if you cannot compromise as to what your important needs are. Marriage is about partnership and I certainly don't encourage divorce esp. when children are involved.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Specialist900(m): 3:19pm On Nov 21, 2010
I don't support divorce, thats the more reason why you need to be watchful before settling for marriage.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by 190: 3:23pm On Nov 21, 2010
No

I just drove away my 101 nairaland concubines away from my house

with broom

reason: they refuse 2 give me a baby Girl

so so boys!!!
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Ranoscky(m): 3:24pm On Nov 21, 2010
Specialist900:

I don't support divorce, thats the more reason why you need to be watchful before settling for marriage.

Enjoy broda.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by obowunmi(m): 3:27pm On Nov 21, 2010
Specialist900:

I don't support divorce, thats the more reason why you need to be watchful before settling for marriage.

Half of people pretend so that they can be married and when they get married, they show their true colors. No matter how watchful people are, when they get into marriage, true colors come out and most of the time, its not good.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Specialist900(m): 3:43pm On Nov 21, 2010
obowunmi:

Half of people pretend so that they can be married and when they get married, they show their true colors. No matter how watchful people are, when they get into marriage, true colors come out and most of the time, its not good.
very true. One's partner can only conceal about 50% of their character, more so there are times when they'll exhibit it unknowninly.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by johndoe200: 3:51pm On Nov 21, 2010
Tudór:

Divorce is very much ok thats why it's an option in the law.

Marriage is a contract, if you feel your expectations aren't being met by your spouse you can always bail out.

Its not by force to be married to someone and no one should force you to remain married. Your happiness is paramount, everything else is non-consequential.

Spoken like a true "small girl"
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Yorisb: 4:38pm On Nov 21, 2010
johndoe200:

Spoken like a true "small girl"

I thought I was the only one that got some issues wiv her post esp this:

Marriage is a contract, if you feel your expectations aren't being met by your spouse you can always bail out.

Nways I hope she plans to stay single forever, otherwise she's got more bailling-out 2 do than anticipated. undecided
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Mygoldie(f): 4:52pm On Nov 21, 2010
Yorisb:

I thought I was the only one that got some issues wiv her post esp this:

Nways I hope she plans to stay single forever, otherwise she's got more bailling-out 2 do than anticipated. undecided








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Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by vivaladiva(f): 5:52pm On Nov 21, 2010
same reason buildings have fire exits, its there to be used if the need arises-----
children or no children--if u try n e no work u walk
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Nobody: 6:03pm On Nov 21, 2010
From a Christin point of view, it is forbidden. But I have seen couples in turbulent marriage and I ask, 'what are they still doing together? Na by force?'
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Osama10(m): 7:51pm On Nov 21, 2010
Tudór:

Divorce is very much ok thats why it's an option in the law.

Marriage is a contract, if you feel your expectations aren't being met by your spouse you can always bail out.

Its not by force to be married to someone and no one should force you to remain married. Your happiness is paramount, everything else is non-consequential.

Are you for real?

Expectations can be likened to wants which are insatiable.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Tudor6(f): 8:03pm On Nov 21, 2010
Osama10:

Are you for real?

Expectations can be likened to wants which are insatiable.


Wrong. expectations are like needs.
Some are reasonable, some are not. Some are basic, some are not.

If the basics are lacking in your marriage, then bail out. There is nothing worse than an unhappy marriage.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Carolece(f): 8:05pm On Nov 21, 2010
Yorisb:

Biblically - NO, save for infidelity! undecided


"“It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery"—Matthew 5:31-32
This sums it up
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by ragdollz: 8:26pm On Nov 21, 2010
Tudór:

Wrong. expectations are like needs.
Some are reasonable, some are not. Some are basic, some are not.

If the basics are lacking in your marriage, then bail out. There is nothing worse than an unhappy marriage.


Tudor, Mr. Smelly Feathers, I mean, seriously, don't get on my wick! Do I really have to keep reminding you? You forgot your national anthem:


Tudór:

Yes that is better.
I decided to perform abortions on my future generations, HOW IS IT YOUR BUSINESS?

Chei! WE SUPPORT ABORTION, DEAL WITH IT!!!!!!!!
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Osama10(m): 9:04pm On Nov 21, 2010
Tudór:

Wrong. expectations are like needs.
Some are reasonable, some are not. Some are basic, some are not.

If the basics are lacking in your marriage, then bail out. There is nothing worse than an unhappy marriage.

Needs are basic things you can't do without like food, clothing and shelter.

Expectations may not be met but you can still make do with what you have on ground.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Tudor6(f): 9:27pm On Nov 21, 2010
Osama10:

Needs are basic things you can't do without like food, clothing and shelter.

Expectations may not be met but you can still make do with what you have on ground.
I didn't say needs are expectations.
I just tried to state there are basic things to expect in a marriage and if such are absent then the marriage is not worth it.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by kcjazz(m): 9:38pm On Nov 21, 2010
Divorce is never ideal. But any relationship that robs you of who you are in God. Limits your growth and potential, you must consider all options.

Sometimes there are deeper issues more than infidelity on its own. If a husband is terribly abusive and hurtful, that is a serious problem and if all means to solve it does not walk, maybe a separation or divorce should happen.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Osama10(m): 9:45pm On Nov 21, 2010
Tudór:

I didn't say needs are expectations.
I just tried to state there are basic things to expect in a marriage and if such are absent then the marriage is not worth it.

Everybody has what works for them.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Specialist900(m): 10:09pm On Nov 21, 2010
there is NOTHING in a relationship marriage that cannot be worked on. all marriages only work out when both couples want it to work.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by maingate1(m): 5:53am On Nov 22, 2010
@kcjazz dont u think one should endure the marriage and make it work?dont forget they sign a convenant (for better for worse and till death do us path)
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by kcjazz(m): 7:55am On Nov 22, 2010
^^^ Like I said both partners have to commit to make it work out and divorce is a last resort. Sometimes a partner might have serious issues that is too harmful to you. Example if Mrs Bin Laden chooses to divorce Osama Bin Laden, will you advice they work it out because they are married?
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by obowunmi(m): 8:00am On Nov 22, 2010
lol grin funny example @ mrs bin laden.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by freecocoa(f): 8:11am On Nov 22, 2010
Yorisb has said it all.i personally don't support divorce esp wiv kids involved cos often time it rubs off on the kids,and like someone said,a marriage can work if both parties want it to,its all about,love,patience and tolerance cos its not easy for two very different people to come together and live as one,even twins who shared the same womb fight,let alone strangers,so one has just got to endure and compromise.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Specialist900(m): 8:20am On Nov 22, 2010
kcjazz:

^^^ Like I said both partners have to commit to make it work out and divorce is a last resort. Sometimes a partner might have serious issues that is too harmful to you. Example if Mrs Bin Laden chooses to divorce Osama Bin Laden, will you advice they work it out because they are married?

if he agrees to stop bombings and killing i think they can work it out.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by maingate1(m): 8:47am On Nov 22, 2010
even if d man becomes a kidnapper all of a sudden can d woman divorce him? morally yes,but usn d bible NO. even d bible said only if she commit furnication.then can a married woman commit furnication?NO.
Re: Is Divorce Forbidden by Ranoscky(m): 11:39am On Nov 22, 2010
^^

And are you tryin to say that you have not expirienced a married woman that commited fornication before?

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