PuZZyNegro:


You're talking about the olden days and I'm sure your father's house and that of your maternal home are not too far from each other thus the reason it's possible for your mum to shuttle between the two places without much ado.

Depends on you though. Some men would gladly allow their wife to go and even ask them to stay longer just so they can flex themselves too.

Bro, use the opportunity to enjoy bacher life again

tabithababy:
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Are you saying that he should start cheating on his wife

NwaAmaikpe:





Ogbeni, she wants to go and hustle.
You know during Christmas many of us come from overseas with the sole intention of looking for an unfortunate man's wife to shag.
I wish you could see how they swarm us without caution like sugar ants on a day-old palmwine.

It could also be that her ex was from her village. If she must visit family, must it be during Christmas when numerous temptations abound?
She can videocall them or visit during non-festive periods.

Either way, you shouldn't let her travel unsupervised by you. Not even for an hour because the kpekus has no meter. To think you gave her 6 whopping days shocks me.

This is the major disadvantage of marrying from another state. That's why Abraham and Isaac ensured that their sons married from their hometown because of this your story.

If anything happens to you, your kids would never remember their paternal roots.

It's not too late to correct this anomaly. Call off her trip.
These women are so crazy. Christmas is like Vegas to them. What happens there, stays there.
Well, unless she comes back pregnant with another man's child.

akpunda86:


Anambra z fun during xmas so is my villa infacr iv warned her after this year i no wan hear i wan go xmas for my villa.she is free to go see d mum and siblings but not every xmas.she can go bf the holidays.besides our newborn just six months.infact she is not going anywhere.
I regret marrying from imo state their culture pissing me off now.

tabithababy:
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Are you saying that he should start cheating on his wife

akpunda86:
Every Christmas my wife wants to go home to their village.im not against but go ontime and come back so we all do new year togeda.

Its beggining to piss me off cos if im gone that means my kids leg fit no touch their papa village.

On that note i have warned her let this christmas be the last i hear you say you want to go home.

On my own ill say the disavantages of marrying from another state outweighs the advantage.
Every christmas u look foward spending with your family nd wife not knowing she z married talking of going to her maternal villa.

I gave her 22nd to 28th.wch is enuff.overstays hmmmmmm

foolbuster:


Thats not how its done. The main celebrations should be with you wherever you are whether its in your village or the city. However, she should be allowed to visit her people too but it should be after the celebrations.
if she must go during the festivities it is not right for her to always sleep over every year. She should realize that she is now married she has a new family now.

If you are the type that always travel home during xmas, then she wont have any choice than follow you. And if she decides to see her people at most 2 days is enough. The end of year festivities starts from 25th to 2nd that is exactly 7 days. Whats the point if she will spend the whole time with her people. She is free to spend time with her people before or after the celebrations.

NwaAmaikpe:



You know during Christmas many of us come from overseas with the sole intention of looking for an unfortunate man's wife to shag.
I wish you could see how they swarm us without caution like sugar ants on a day-old palmwine.

nlPoster:
@ topic

This is why people prefer to stay single these days. Nlers have very frightening and warped views of marriage.

nlPoster:
@ topic

This is why people prefer to stay single these days. Nlers have very frightening and warped views of marriage.

pocohantas:
You this Anambra man, you must be a serial nag.

In 2017, your wife betrayed your trust. She was irritating you. You wanted to go back to your ex-gf and bring in your daughter from another woman...

Same 2017, you were here to complain of the disunity in your family house. Yet you want your wife to go to same house.

Dec 2018, you wanted to return her bride price and you ran to tell us. Seems you must involve NL in all your family affairs. How old are you, Sir?

Nov 2019, you were here yet again! This time to complain of poor hygiene of some fat woman.

This is Dec 2019, you are here again. Oga, what is the problem? Were you both forced to marry?

Mindfulness:


She has a new family but he doesn't? They must spend the time with his family but not hers?

foolbuster:


No. Make the woman kuku change hers and the kids surname to her own father's name Since she has family too.

Because i dont know what else to tell you if you see nothing wrong in a wife spending the entire end of the year festivities with her people every year. When the husband is still alive.

Mindfulness:


How about spending one year with her family and the other with his family? It hasn't crossed your mind that her family is important too? Just because she changed her surname she must forget her family? See mentality ..

foolbuster:


Lolz. Online kid feminist, let them continue deceiving you.

Mindfulness:


Let your sisters shit on your family because they have a different surname.

foolbuster:


Whatever. Please run along now.
Its either you grow up one day or you go the linda ikeji way.

Mindfulness:


I will much rather live like Linda than with a boy like you. Only a sick woman can marry your kind.

pocohantas:
You this Anambra man, you must be a serial nag.

In 2017, your wife betrayed your trust. She was irritating you. You wanted to go back to your ex-gf and bring in your daughter from another woman...

Same 2017, you were here to complain of the disunity in your family house. Yet you want your wife to go to same house.

Dec 2018, you wanted to return her bride price and you ran to tell us. Seems you must involve NL in all your family affairs. How old are you, Sir?

Nov 2019, you were here yet again! This time to complain of poor hygiene of some fat woman.

This is Dec 2019, you are here again. Oga, what is the problem? Were you both forced to marry?

Skepticus:


akpunda86, you have been bursted ooo

Courtesy of my alpha witch, Pocohantas

Mindfulness:


Yeah, after one year in a foreign country where you have been occupying a little apartment with five other friends, you come back to demonstrate your power shagging someone else's wife feeling like a king for one month to go back to live a life at the bottom of a society for another 11 months so that you have some Naira for Christmas.

PuZZyNegro:


My friend, you are whining.

If your wife traveling to her hometown is the reason you're regretting marrying from IMO state, then you have a problem of not having problem.

It is expected that she travels to her village this season. Reason being that, this is the period her other siblings, cousins, friends, extended family, old school classmates, etc., usually come home. So, a great opportunity to meet with people she has not met for a long time.

In my family, we usually create a year that everybody would travel home including both my married sisters.

Mind you, my brothers married from the same state yet their wife spend the festive period in their fathers' house and we don't have problem with that.

You have her from January to December, it's just this few days that she wants to get refreshed and rejuvenated from the years worth of hard work before another hectic year begins that you know it's harmattan

Enyi a, behave yourself there

PuZZyNegro:


You're talking about the olden days and I'm sure your father's house and that of your maternal home are not too far from each other thus the reason it's possible for your mum to shuttle between the two places without much ado.

Depends on you though. Some men would gladly allow their wife to go and even ask them to stay longer just so they can flex themselves too.

Bro, use the opportunity to enjoy bacher life again

TheArchangel:
Stop whining. This is not about IMO culture but about you not becoming one with the woman you married. You still live in the 20th century if you compare your marriage with that of your dad. This is once a year visit and the whole cyberspace is hearing it. Your mother visited her parents daily so there is no justification for her to sleep for a week during the Christmas period.
Can you say same for your wife who has been with you the whole year without seeing her parents ,siblings and other extended family members? Your wife is family oriented and what you need to do is to channel it to your side of the family too. If you are fun to be with, I do not thing she will conjure the idea of traveling at all.
The whole adaption and sacrifice should not only be left for the woman to make. This is what she grew up with and will take time to stop. And I won't recommend she stops as I do not support delineating a person from families because someone is feeling uncomfortable. This is what she is used to and it will take a great deal of explanation and understanding for her to agree. What people do not understand is that an adult is an adult whether married or single. You cannot tell or command an adult to do your bidding especially if the adult has the means to do so. Rather you reason with the adult to see things from your perspective.


Have you sat her down to explain to her how you feel about her traveling this Christmas. Every individual deserves a change of environment, scenery and people at most yearly. If your alternative is staying back in your area with the same people and same environment, and if you are living in Lagos same pollution: then your solution is not palatable and will be very depressing for a fun-loving woman who enjoys a more lively Christmas celebration with family. If your wife has a vindictive persona, na you go drop them at her papa house for next year's Christmas celebration.
How about taking your young family for a one week vacation to somewhere more fun?