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Re: I Hit My Wife by BRATISLAVA: 10:48am On Dec 16, 2019 |
freecocoahubby:did the wife make him bleed? Or what are you comparing? You wouldn't say this if she fell dead. Or maybe you would. You would want to hear his side of the story that justifies drawing blood or murdering her. I hope if a woman drew blood you would agree and not say she took it too far and lacks "respect." |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Darls247: 10:49am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Guy, is this the first time Youre beating her? If yes...my brother leave her alone, she has been looking for an opportunity to leave....her parents no better. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by 27Pushing30: 10:50am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ekene161829:Start paying child support and move on with your life. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Darls247: 10:51am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Guy, is this the first time You are beating her? If yes...my brother leave her alone, she has been looking for an opportunity to leave....her parents knows better. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 10:51am On Dec 16, 2019 |
patjane: since you want to play the upper hand card, what does a divorced, single dad have to regret in r/ship market. if op & his wife are to remarry today who has a higher chance. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by onadana: 10:51am On Dec 16, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: How about him receiving a slap to calm him down? 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Sammiejokes(m): 10:52am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ladycewhy: We don't have a sister with obvious anger problem or a spoilt brat. You choose not to assimilate where she was throwing her hand @ OP or where she turned to a dog barking, following him everywhere even when he left the room for the sitting room ( a sign of maturity). I do not support domestic violence and I do not pray to be in such situation. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by midnighter(f): 10:52am On Dec 16, 2019 |
spencekat: Yes, I said that in my post. He shouldnt have slapped her at all!! But - He has already apologised. At the end he cannot take the slap back, all he can do is apologise some more. So why not accept the apology or refuse to accept it UNTIL he agrees not to stay out until 2AM again instead of throwing the baby out with the bathwater? - Is she actually going to tell her mother and brother what transpired or will she just tell them that "we were arguing and he slapped me"? Because she too will be ashamed of herself if her family really gets to hear the story - Your mother and brother will still eventually come to see your presence as an irritation and ask you when youre going back The genesis of the problem is that he stayed out until 2AM and left her with the baby and NOT that he slapped her! At the point when he came back late, she was totally blameless and she should have kept it that way if she knew she was going to involve her family in their issue. I would have accepted it if she reported him to her family over that alone if it were a repeat occurrence. The golden question is, who pursued who here ? Did he go and look for her to slap her or did she go looking for slap ![]() And people saying that "she could have fallen, she could have died" etc yeah! And he could have developed hypertension from constant nagging and shouting. Thats why they should both apologise to each other and keep each other alive mbok 3 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by RuggedArab: 10:52am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Dear Op, sorry for the phase you are passing through. Firstly, you are wrong for hitting her. women know how to push you to hit them either through their mouth or they come physically to challenge you.The ability to hold yourself in such circumstance makes you the bigger winner. The moment a woman start their excess and quarrel or wants me to engage them with words I will just tell you that you have won already, no need for battle. If I were in your shoes I would have quietly leave the house and go to a nearby hotel to sleep till the next morning. I love my peace of mind and I would never trade it for anything. When coming back the next day I will buy her ice cream/Sharwama/barbeque fish to plead to the gods(my wife). If she rejects it I will eat everything without blinking my eyes. I am sure this will get to her. You still need to apologize to her once more, but trust me this is the best time to lounge in your house. lol. For the fact that the mother and the brother came to move her outta my house i will not go to their house to apologize. Women should should take it easy on men. You need to be out there in the street to pick the money. I have made good contacts(CEO's, decision makers, business men/women) playing snooker in some corporate bar/settings. For me staying out late sometimes is not bad, what is bad is making it a lifestyle or habit. Staying at home won't pay pilling bills; she will also be the one to abuse you and tell you how useless you are as a man. If you are a baller, let her know and understand that. Cheers!!!! 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by BRATISLAVA: 10:53am On Dec 16, 2019 |
RisenPhoenix:how do you know the apology is enough when it was not you whose mouth was hit and bleeding? I'm sure you wouldn't say this if it was the man whose face was hit. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by luminouz(m): 10:53am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ladycewhy:You make nice points but blood boil happens to everyone once in a while and while not everyone lashes out violently, they still react in some ways. I agree OP should have called his wife. To tell her he would be late. Lemme tell you a scenario that happened to me. I had this babe who was pretty,big assed and everything. But she smokes and drinks. I never knew on time. When she came to stay with me for a week, na when kasala burst. She went out one day and came back oozing of alcohol and shisha. I was disgusted and yelled at her. She went mad. Raised her voice and was shouting my house down. Looking at her with disgust, I left her. She followed me around the house and hooked my shirt(which was a taboo where I come from). I never knew when I pushed her away from me and she fell on the bed. She came right back at me under the influence of alcohol and screamed she would kill me. For the first time in my adult life,I almost beat her but I remembered my strength and I knew I may seriously wound her plus the fact that she wasn't in her right senses and left her in the room, slept in another room. Next day,she came to knock on my door and she was on her knees begging. I just smiled and gently told her to pack her stuffs and leave my house. She has been begging me since. I realised the logical thing was to let her go because a girl like that could potentially push me to beat her one day. Nobody would get my side of the story because I'm a man. Yet she came back drunk 3 times already,begged and I forgave her. The scenario I told you of, was the 4th time. I know OP gave her a slap and he was wrong but she did wrong too by inviting her mum and brother,not to reconcile but to leave the marriage. Two wrongs never make a right. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by lifestyle1(m): 10:53am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Guy go and talk to your wife's father... |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 10:53am On Dec 16, 2019 |
nairalanduseles:my parents correct me with the cane and I respect them. no one have the right to behave the way they like. this modern practice of making kids feel too special has ruined this generation. we know have selfish kids who are too lazy, too stupid and too proud to succeed in life. today kids have no regards for rules and superior authority. some people are now taking the stupidity they inherited from their parents house to marriage. it is now okay to behave the way they like. I forgot to add those with self-control don't nag aggressively |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Roozzaay(m): 10:53am On Dec 16, 2019 |
speed99: You're the man nikka How about henny this weekend? Bills on you tho ![]() |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Bigcowhorn: 10:54am On Dec 16, 2019 |
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Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 10:54am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ekene161829: From your write up, you have apologized but the truth is that your wife went too far, hitting a woman is a no no no. But right now she is very very angry. Let me equally remind you that you married an immature lady,she would have handled that situation since it's the very first time. Subsequently becomes abuse,so she went too far. Let her be for this week, don't call or text her,what you will need to do is by Monday or so, call her and apologize again and tell her about the sweet memories you both have shared. If she truly loves you,the anger would have melted,she will accept. If you have some change on you,get her one of the things she loves most, please next time never you raise your hand on any woman, good luck 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by IvoryFever: 10:55am On Dec 16, 2019 |
emeijeh: Thats d trash that has sent alot of women to their untimely grave, no 3rd party my foot..pls tell anyone that needs to hear..same applies to husbands..tell anyone u feel needs to know so as to intervene 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by hartson(m): 10:56am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Dupalmer:hi,plz where can I see these good character ladies willing to marry.I am ready and ripe for marriage. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Lekison(m): 10:56am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Seriously Bro u are wrong and u should continue to apologise what if she hits her head and die would u have the opportunity to type here? No....so please continue to apologise to your wife (real men do that). Don't listen to people telling you to leave her cos u will end up regretting it for the rest of ur life, as for your wife she shouldn't have involve your inlaws whatsoever happens between couples should be resolve between em....unless the wall is cracked, the lizard can not go in....May God restore your home....remember, never raise your hand on your wife again. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by masseratti: 10:57am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Mod which kain confusing front page topic is this, am having headaches reading it |
Re: I Hit My Wife by bluefilm: 10:57am On Dec 16, 2019 |
maryjames9: Exactly!!! Is it not better than entertaining nagging bitches all the time? |
Re: I Hit My Wife by nairalanduseles: 10:57am On Dec 16, 2019 |
[quote author=niaralandtopuser post=84953947]my parents correct me with the cane and I respect them. no one have the right to behave the way they like. this modern practice of making kids feel too special has ruined this generation. we know have selfish kids who are too lazy, too stupid and too proud to succeed in life. today kids have no regards for rules and superior authority. some people are now taking the stupidity they inherited from their parents house to marriage. it is now okay to behave the way they like. I feel sorry for you So you think you have the right to hit anyone It is assault It is criminal You think there is no law in Nigeria till u get arrested and charged to court Spend all your money in court and end up in jail Your life will so turn for the worst A word is enough for the wise |
Re: I Hit My Wife by ndidigood(f): 10:57am On Dec 16, 2019 |
[quote author=freecocoahubby post=84941418] Thank you! I'm so sick of women's double standards and victim playing. The woman kept following her husband up and down like a mad dog, shouting and insulting him - and he's expected to just sit there and keep silent like a veggie? He is a human being and he reacted just like most people would... so annoyed that he was begging her sef, like she's some diety. Nonsense! [/quote It could be he didn't even tell her |
Re: I Hit My Wife by BRATISLAVA: 10:58am On Dec 16, 2019 |
crackhaus:does shouting, screaming or yelling(not physical) equate to slapping/punching and drawing blood(physical violence)? In your haste to justify domestic violence, don't forget to use proper situations that are similar. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by spencekat(m): 10:58am On Dec 16, 2019 |
midnighter:Good counsellor. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Ladycewhy(f): 10:58am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Sammiejokes:oh well i guess you do have irresponsible brothers and violent beasts in your family like the op then, the ones who instead if calling their wives and informing them of the development of them staying out late will lock up, i am sure the wife must have be calling his phone and he refused to pick time he got home at 2 am, when he showed up at the door was smelling of alcohol, i mean the op didnt stay out late to be drinking coca cola or fanta ,lol. In a state of partial or full drubkeness he probably felt he didnt owe his wife any explanation and she didn't have the right to be upset,hence he kept ignoring her and when he couldn't bear the yelling he dicided to shut her up with physical assualt . |
Re: I Hit My Wife by midnighter(f): 10:59am On Dec 16, 2019 |
freecocoahubby: Thank you! So where did the slap materialise from if not that she went and looked for him..mtchew! 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Ogegod87: 11:01am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Two things would happen if she didn't react that way; 1. You would make it a habit to hang out with friends and come back home at odd hours thinking its cool. 2. It will become NORMAL to raise your hand on your wife. Na so e take dey start, (someone said "just a slap" ![]() Give her some time and try visiting her and talking things through with her. As a matter of fact, you owe her family an apology. 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by johnwell(m): 11:01am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ekene161829: There's no need blaming you, the deed has been done, learn from your mistake. Is your wife a nagging type? If I were you, I would ignore my wife and her mother, at least you apologize in their presence. Maybe she's her role model. Is your father Inlaw alive? Is he still with your mother Inlaw? Ignore your wife and her mom, find a way and contact her brother that came with them and hear what your wife told them. Plead with the guy. If that guy didn't say anything when they came and if after contacting him he still refer you to her mom then know that your mother Inlaw is a big time manipulator. It's unfortunate that they have drawn a battle line in your home. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 11:03am On Dec 16, 2019 |
[quote author=nairalanduseles post=84954029][/quote] not many people go to jail in Nigeria just for hitting someone and there must be many Nigeria rules you are breaking |
Re: I Hit My Wife by midnighter(f): 11:03am On Dec 16, 2019 |
spencekat: Thank you sir |
Re: I Hit My Wife by nairalanduseles: 11:04am On Dec 16, 2019 |
niaralandtopuser: Am not in Nigeria and I am happy I dont live with people like you who think it's ok to hit people ....it is sickening |
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