Am a 34 years old guy from Nigeria (IGBO), i came to Italy on 28 day of February 2008.I SOLD MY FATHER'S property to make this journey from Nigeria-Niger-Libya-Italy(ALL EXPENSE RETURNED AFTER 3 MONTHS OF MY WORKING ).I studied to integrate for one year and permanent resident in Italy.After one year i got a job of £24,000 ANNUALLY (£2,000 monthly). But now DEPRESSED, DEING INSIDE MY SPIRIT , indebted(my credit is crashed-£10,000 debt with the bank) and totally isolated myself from family and friends. PLEASE CAN the house help me in the sense that , i need to stop playing bet, gambling and other silly activities i got myself into which resulted to my poor and miserable life.ways to desist from these acts is the help i need. please its important to me cos am going down each day.WHEN I SAID DIEING I MEAN SPIRITUALLY , MENTALLY  ETC. For two years in Europe i ve nothing to account on. i even tried sucide twice trying to stop yet i could not. I STILL VE MY JOB BUT I GO BETTING IN GAMING HALLS  AND PLAYING IN SLOT MACHINES IN THE BARS,  SLOT machine HALLS AS SOON AS I RECIEVE SALARY. ALL VANISH IN 2 TO 3 DAYS. MY PROBLEM STARTED WHEN I SENT SOME MONEY TO MY FAMILY at HOME TO START MAKING A HOUSE  4 ME IN MY FATHER'S COMPOUND AND THEY TOLD ME COCK AND BULL STORY. THEY TOLD ME THAT GOD SAID THAT I SHOULD NOT BUILD HOUSE IN THAT COMPOUND then i stoped sending money again. I NEED NO GIRL cos all in italy sory to say are money MONGERS(u all know our girls story in italy)  and the white ladies i dont need anymore COS OF FEAR. i prefer to stay lonely even though  is the major reason why i indulged in this unwise acts. I BELIEVE I CAN GET HELP FROM THE HOUSE,

am sorry too read about ur plight y dnt u try d option of coming bck to nigeria and starting a fresh ,there are plenty of options in which u can make it down here

We all make bad decisions at times, it is how we learn as humans. Not a reason for a suicide attempt. Life is to precious to end it over small money. You are in debt but you an get yourself out, maybe you can get a second job or cut out all expenses to pay the bank off? There are always options you just have to find the right one for you. If you can't stop gambling then you need to get help for that as it can be an addiction, I thin they have support groups for those things in Italy? You should turn to someone you trust in your family & tell them what is going on with you. You need support & a person you an be accountable to. Above all I think you need to pray for God to lift up your sadness & help you correct your mistakes. Remember the poem called Footsteps in the Sand? It is when we are at our lowest that God will lift us up and make a way for us.

Young man.

You walked yourself into a shithole. you got weak from the shitsmell and you want some1 to pull u out.

No one can pull you out except yourself! get that into your weak head! you are even too weak to execute a decent simple suicide! that shows u don't really wanna die! you want to live! So get the fu-ckup and stop fooling yourself!

Its permissible to disappoint yourself. But man its a sin to disappoint others! mostly those that put their hope and their trust in you! Am talking about your family here at home!

fuc-king bas-tard! Get your fucking gambling as-s-up and do something reasonable for your self and your people at home!

You are looking for cheap pity!! Bleep-ing Ediet! you are lucky u don't hav the kind of my father for dad! He would buried you alive since long ago!

Fukng idiet! Fuking, !! Rub-ish!! idiet!!

I think you need to change your friends and try and be religious,but not the Nigerian type of born again stupidity ,just to create fear in your mind.Why do you want to die ,you are a coward you you dont want to fight your challenges.Its never to late for any man.you could restore all what was lost lost in few years when your time comes.

However i guess you are from Edo state,sorry but i can feel it,You have so many stupid guys who are very lazy and not creative,how can you sell and asset and go in uncertainty,you could create a venture in Nigeria,if you are determined.its not easy sha just focus your mind on postive things ,or better still get a nice lady as girl friend they help you,once she is nice and not all those ones that dont care .goodluck

You better join the next flight to naija and sort yourself out here.

valoval:

Am a 34 years old guy from Nigeria (IGBO), i came to Italy on 28 day of February 2008.I SOLD MY FATHER'S property to make this journey from Nigeria-Niger-Libya-Italy(ALL EXPENSE RETURNED AFTER 3 MONTHS OF MY WORKING ).I studied to integrate for one year and permanent resident in Italy.After one year i got a job of £24,000 ANNUALLY (£2,000 monthly). But now DEPRESSED, DEING INSIDE MY SPIRIT , indebted(my credit is crashed-£10,000 debt with the bank) and totally isolated myself from family and friends. PLEASE CAN the house help me in the sense that , i need to stop playing bet, gambling and other silly activities i got myself into which resulted to my poor and miserable life.ways to desist from these acts is the help i need. please its important to me cos am going down each day.WHEN I SAID DIEING I MEAN SPIRITUALLY , MENTALLY  ETC. For two years in Europe i ve nothing to account on. i even tried sucide twice trying to stop yet i could not. I STILL VE MY JOB BUT I GO BETTING IN GAMING HALLS  AND PLAYING IN SLOT MACHINES IN THE BARS,  SLOT machine HALLS AS SOON AS I RECIEVE SALARY. ALL VANISH IN 2 TO 3 DAYS. MY PROBLEM STARTED WHEN I SENT SOME MONEY TO MY FAMILY at HOME TO START MAKING A HOUSE  4 ME IN MY FATHER'S COMPOUND AND THEY TOLD ME COCK AND BULL STORY. THEY TOLD ME THAT GOD SAID THAT I SHOULD NOT BUILD HOUSE IN THAT COMPOUND then i stoped sending money again. I NEED NO GIRL cos all in italy sory to say are money MONGERS(u all know our girls story in italy)  and the white ladies i dont need anymore COS OF FEAR. i prefer to stay lonely even though  is the major reason why i indulged in this unwise acts. I BELIEVE I CAN GET HELP FROM THE HOUSE,

No one here or there can help u Mister,except urself.
Very funny story,though.
bla,bla bla . . look,dust ur ass and help urself jare.
Stop slavering on here,be a man and face life.

U no know wetin carry u enter Europe, betting games and all that, after selling ur dads house, is this how ur dad behaves to be able to built the house that u sold? sit urself and stop all this trash.
U are a man, no one can help u, u ve to help urself.

SOMEONE THAT NEED HELP AND YOU ARE TELLING HIM TO HELP HIMSELF, IF I CAN HELP MYSELF WHY THEN DO I VE TO ASK FOR A HELPER. MAYBE NOW I VE AN ADDICTION AND ALL I NEED IS YOUR WORDS. DOES THAT MEAN WE VE NO PHSYCOLOGIST IN NAIRA LAND. ME AM A BUSINESS ADMISTRATOR, GRADUATED FROM LAGOS STATE UNIVERSITY. STOP TELLING ME TO HELP MY SELF. IF YOU VE NOTHING TO TELL ME ON HOW I SHOULD STOP IN A MIND CHANGING WAYS DONT PUT YOU HURTING WORDS PLEASE.

thanks texasgirl, your the only one that said something reasonable, ok right now can you tell me ways that can make ma make a you turnm fromthese acts.

TEXASGIRL:

We all make bad decisions at times, it is how we learn as humans. Not a reason for a suicide attempt. Life is to precious to end it over small money. You are in debt but you an get yourself out, maybe you can get a second job or cut out all expenses to pay the bank off? There are always options you just have to find the right one for you. If you can't stop gambling then you need to get help for that as it can be an addiction, I thin they have support groups for those things in Italy?  You should turn to someone you trust in your family & tell them what is going on with you. You need support & a person you an be accountable to. Above all I think you need to pray for God to lift up your sadness & help you correct your mistakes. Remember the poem called Footsteps in the Sand? It is when we are at our lowest that God will lift us up and make a way for us.

TRHANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR WORDS BUT YOU ARE MISSING ON WAYS ON HOW I CAN STOP, A DIEING MAN NEEDS MEDICINE AND DOCTOR. SOME PEOPLE ARE TELLING HIM TO LIVE WITHOUT ANY ANY MEDICATION.

valoval:

SOMEONE THAT NEED HELP AND YOU ARE TELLING HIM TO HELP HIMSELF, IF I CAN HELP MYSELF WHY THEN DO I VE TO ASK FOR A HELPER. MAYBE NOW I VE AN ADDICTION AND ALL I NEED IS YOUR WORDS. DOES THAT MEAN WE VE NO PHSYCOLOGIST IN NAIRA LAND. ME AM A BUSINESS ADMISTRATOR, GRADUATED FROM LAGOS STATE UNIVERSITY. STOP TELLING ME TO HELP MY SELF. IF YOU VE NOTHING TO TELL ME ON HOW I SHOULD STOP IN A MIND CHANGING WAYS DONT PUT YOU HURTING WORDS PLEASE.

Do u think it's best to seek a PHSYCOLOGIST in nairaland than in Italy where u reside? why dont u go seek one face to face, that is what i mean by help urself. When we are sick we go straight to the doctor, not coming to a forum to seek cure! Na wao for u ooo.

valoval:

Am a 34 years old guy from Nigeria (IGBO), i came to Italy on 28 day of February 2008.I SOLD MY FATHER'S property to make this journey from Nigeria-Niger-Libya-Italy(ALL EXPENSE RETURNED AFTER 3 MONTHS OF MY WORKING ).I studied to integrate for one year and permanent resident in Italy.After one year i got a job of £24,000 ANNUALLY (£2,000 monthly). But now DEPRESSED, DEING INSIDE MY SPIRIT , indebted(my credit is crashed-£10,000 debt with the bank) and totally isolated myself from family and friends. PLEASE CAN the house help me in the sense that , i need to stop playing bet, gambling and other silly activities i got myself into which resulted to my poor and miserable life.ways to desist from these acts is the help i need. please its important to me cos am going down each day.WHEN I SAID DIEING I MEAN SPIRITUALLY , MENTALLY  ETC. For two years in Europe i ve nothing to account on. i even tried sucide twice trying to stop yet i could not. I STILL VE MY JOB BUT I GO BETTING IN GAMING HALLS  AND PLAYING IN SLOT MACHINES IN THE BARS,  SLOT machine HALLS AS SOON AS I RECIEVE SALARY. ALL VANISH IN 2 TO 3 DAYS. MY PROBLEM STARTED WHEN I SENT SOME MONEY TO MY FAMILY at HOME TO START MAKING A HOUSE  4 ME IN MY FATHER'S COMPOUND AND THEY TOLD ME COCK AND BULL STORY. THEY TOLD ME THAT GOD SAID THAT I SHOULD NOT BUILD HOUSE IN THAT COMPOUND then i stoped sending money again. I NEED NO GIRL cos all in italy sory to say are money MONGERS(u all know our girls story in italy)  and the white ladies i dont need anymore COS OF FEAR. i prefer to stay lonely even though  is the major reason why i indulged in this unwise acts. I BELIEVE [size=16pt]I CAN GET HELP FROM THE HOUSE[/size],

what kind of help?

List of Psychologists in Italy? Got this via google!!

http://www.therapytribe.com/Therapists/Italy/Psychologist