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Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by midnighter(f): 11:01pm On Dec 22, 2019
Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by Ishilove: 11:03pm On Dec 22, 2019
Acidosis:


You acted rightly. Emphasize your view of TRUTH. When that fails, support him and wish him well. His failure to see your view shouldn't authomatically affect your physical participation. A time will come he would stop inviting you to his family business, and that's the way it should be.

There's more to friendship than buying asoebi upandan like masquerades.

Heh. Real masquerades cheesy

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Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by happney65: 11:05pm On Dec 22, 2019
His parents are Mad..Go support a brother Man..Nonesense!!!

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Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by mechanics(m): 11:05pm On Dec 22, 2019
MajorWarren:


But that’s his friend? He should abandon his friend cos the friend got someone pregnant and wants to marry them? Have you got any friends?
His parents who are not supporting the union, what do you have to say.
Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by Fayrouzz(m): 11:06pm On Dec 22, 2019
mikezuruki:



you made a whole lot of sense. Thanks.

I am particular about his parents giving their blessings. I have told him. We have been telling ourselves as friends the truth no matter the situation.

Going ahead without parents consent and blessings is wrong
Its not every time that our parents are right. It's not every time that doing without their consent and blessings is wrong.

Why are the parents not in support?

Why does he want the girl that badly?

Are you his friend or a friend to the parents?
Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by Vatod(m): 11:07pm On Dec 22, 2019
niaralandtopuser:
What kind of friend will ask this useless question? You should even be helping him plan stuff
Yes you're right boss, I remember me and my best always together in the same shit, I can never forget those days in Sec Sch. When they have to write my among noise maker because my friend is in class when I'm in hospital collecting drip, that's when I understand real meaning of friend, we ride and wine together...
But now I'm all alone with my thoughts with Oshogbo weed
Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by Noblefirstlady: 11:09pm On Dec 22, 2019
Why should this even bother you. If you are really a friend I don't think you should even be asking this question.
But you don't like the bride to be too right?

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Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by MajorWarren: 11:12pm On Dec 22, 2019
mechanics:
His parents who are not supporting the union, what do you have to say.

That’s between him and his parents. They are not his parents. Their decision shouldn’t influence yours when it comes to a friend, besides this is a trying time for the friend so he needs his mates for support dafuq. Can’t believe I’ve gone on and on about this

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Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by Penisman: 11:13pm On Dec 22, 2019
mikezuruki:



you made a whole lot of sense. Thanks.

I am particular about his parents giving their blessings. I have told him. We have been telling ourselves as friends the truth no matter the situation.

Going ahead without parents consent and blessings is wrong

You be big mumuu..

So you knew this already and you came here to ask for consent.

So the should abort the baby and perhaps refuse to marry because their parents are against the Union.

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Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by mechanics(m): 11:14pm On Dec 22, 2019
MajorWarren:


That’s between him and his parents. They are not his parents. Their decision shouldn’t influence yours when it comes to a friend, besides this is a trying time for the friend so he needs his mates for support dafuq. Can’t believe I’ve gone on and on about this
hnmmm, if your friend goes to steal, will you support him?
Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by Nobody: 11:22pm On Dec 22, 2019
What's your own with his parent's hang ups? Are you his friend or his parent's friend?

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Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by MajorWarren: 11:24pm On Dec 22, 2019
mechanics:
hnmmm, if your friend goes to steal, will you support him?

grin grin grin grin
This guy

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Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by E2000: 11:29pm On Dec 22, 2019
mikezuruki:
Is It Proper For Me As A Friend Attend This Engagement?

I will make this short as possible.

I will be attending a friend of mine engagement party today who happened to have impregnated the girl before marriage plan. That wasn't his plan. His parents didn't give their blessings hence they are not showing up for the engagement party.

Is it right for me as a friend to show up for something like this that was not blessed nor consented by the parents of the groom to be?

What do you think? mature ones please
which kind of yeye question do people ask nowadays. Its just goes to show the low level of IQ in the society
Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by Olugbenga1234: 11:34pm On Dec 22, 2019
mikezuruki:
Is It Proper For Me As A Friend Attend This Engagement?

I will make this short as possible.

I will be attending a friend of mine engagement party today who happened to have impregnated the girl before marriage plan. That wasn't his plan. His parents didn't give their blessings hence they are not showing up for the engagement party.

Is it right for me as a friend to show up for something like this that was not blessed nor consented by the parents of the groom to be?

What do you think? mature ones please
just do what u feel is right.
Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by Advancedman(m): 11:36pm On Dec 22, 2019
Acidosis:

If you think it is wrong to be engaged without the consent of both parents, then advise your friend in your own little way and let him know your principle.

Your principle and view about life should be prioritize above any friendship.

What yeye principle.
Parental consent is for toddlers while marriage is between 2 consenting adults in the presence of witnesses.
These days that expired parent will be the one tormenting the life of their children.
A word is enough.

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Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by ebunoyeyemi(m): 11:38pm On Dec 22, 2019
Why are the parents not releasing their blessings?
If it's because he got her pregnant, then I can assure you they'll bless them later, so go and stand by your friend.

Someone must have their reservation when you want to get married, and most of the times, parents are always very selfish, because of their own worth, their self esteem, the plan they have for the wedding, and all sort of selfishness. You need to identify if this is a result of selfishness or genuine concern for their son.

Those who are asking if my friend steal, if I'll support him. Your answer is simple - a good friend will not support friends to do such but will definitely be there to help such friend.

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Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by Advancedman(m): 11:39pm On Dec 22, 2019
mikezuruki:



you made a whole lot of sense. Thanks.

I am particular about his parents giving their blessings. I have told him. We have been telling ourselves as friends the truth no matter the situation.

Going ahead without parents consent and blessings is wrong

Like someone earlier said if you are contemplating you are never a friend from the beginning cos friend is deeper.

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Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by Advancedman(m): 11:41pm On Dec 22, 2019
freecocoa:
You just want to be the typical amebo and judgemental person that most people are, otherwise you have no business asking this type of question.
God bless you.
And it is today the deal day that he is posting it.
Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by jaxxy(m): 11:46pm On Dec 22, 2019
mikezuruki:
Is It Proper For Me As A Friend Attend This Engagement?

I will make this short as possible.

I will be attending a friend of mine engagement party today who happened to have impregnated the girl before marriage plan. That wasn't his plan. His parents didn't give their blessings hence they are not showing up for the engagement party.

Is it right for me as a friend to show up for something like this that was not blessed nor consented by the parents of the groom to be?

What do you think? mature ones please

Isn’t he an adult? At the end of the day it’s his decision not his parents. My only concern is is he getting married to a good lady or is he doing this just because he impregnated her? Cos marrying a lady just for that reason wud be a mistake.

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Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by Advancedman(m): 11:46pm On Dec 22, 2019
niaralandtopuser:
What kind of friend will ask this useless question? You should even be helping him plan stuff

Am trying not to react but this guy need a serious resetting slap.

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Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by enawt: 11:51pm On Dec 22, 2019
If it's in Lagos, drop location for the boys ooo... Make we provide papa and male for the day.
The place go full dieeee....
Plus you don't even have to be there, plastic friend
It's a no brainer bruh, drop location make boys plan movement
Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by pirazo: 12:14am On Dec 23, 2019
loyalty is to your friend and not his parents...let them deal with their family issues while your aligience is to your friend..



quote author=mikezuruki post=85133491]Is It Proper For Me As A Friend Attend This Engagement?

I will make this short as possible.

I will be attending a friend of mine engagement party today who happened to have impregnated the girl before marriage plan. That wasn't his plan. His parents didn't give their blessings hence they are not showing up for the engagement party.

Is it right for me as a friend to show up for something like this that was not blessed nor consented by the parents of the groom to be?

What do you think? mature ones please [/quote]
Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by Juliearth(f): 12:14am On Dec 23, 2019
Where does your loyalty lie? Your friend needs you now morethan ever, so do your best (if you can) to make that day a success. He can always make peace with his parents and all would be well because blood is thicker than water...same can't be the case for you.
Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by ussv: 12:30am On Dec 23, 2019
Before nko ? What are friends for ?
Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by doctorgold(m): 12:49am On Dec 23, 2019
Your friendship is with your friend and not his parents. Let him sort his parents while you play your role as a true friend who sticks through thick and thin. Afterall, you must have heard of his parent's refusal through him. You are not answerable to his parents.
Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by 100RSD: 12:58am On Dec 23, 2019
StrikeBack:
Wetin concern you with their parents. Don't let this decision affect your relationship with your friends.


Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by udemzyudex(m): 1:08am On Dec 23, 2019
mikezuruki:



you made a whole lot of sense. Thanks.

I am particular about his parents giving their blessings. I have told him. We have been telling ourselves as friends the truth no matter the situation.

Going ahead without parents consent and blessings is wrong

So you tell you parent about every decision you make in life?
Blessing or no blessing wetin go be go be abeg, what of those whose parents are dead and didn't have the chance to receive their blessings before marriage or those who received the blessings and didn't even last up to a year.


If it's against your principle then you can tell him you stand with his parents and stay back too.
I'm sure he will understand.
Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by Johnboom: 1:10am On Dec 23, 2019
If the person is a Christian, the action is wrong. It is wrong to do engagement without your parents approval. However pray God will direct you.
Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by AreaFada2: 1:18am On Dec 23, 2019
Well, I know it's a bit late now but it depends.

OP, is any of his parents your god-parent or blood relative?

Are your parents also the friends of your friend's parents?

Are his parents your in-laws?

If none of the above your duty is to stand by your friend.
Look, after the cute little baby arrives, his parents will be stampeding to see their grandchild. They will sharp sharp go and do the wedding.

And you? You will be left with the tag of a bad friend.

By the way, after their son impregnated another man's daughter, did they expect the girl to be left a baby mama? Would they accept that for their own daughter? shocked

Don't be surprised if it's about his parents' ego or position in the church, what neighbours would say, etc.

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Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by midnighter(f): 1:19am On Dec 23, 2019
Johnboom:
If the person is a Christian, the action is wrong. It is wrong to do engagement without your parents approval. However pray God will direct you.

Its not wrong in Christianity to use your brain and come to a conclusion that means that you disagree with your parents.

Its wrong in Christianity to leave your pregnant girlfriend in the lurch for spurious reasons.

People are quoting Christianity in this thread with a huge lack of perspective thats making them give funny advice. Being a Christian doesnt mean you go about hurting people because youre too rigid to think for yourself

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Re: His Parents Didn't Approve Of His Engagement. Should I Attend As A Friend? by UnknownQueen(f): 1:21am On Dec 23, 2019
czarina:
The above shows that you clearly already know what to do. Why ask?

I wonder ooo, and he still came here to ask.

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