Nairaland guys, don't you people have friends and brothers you can talk issues over with? Is it the 'men don't cry' mantra that is causing all these or what? I am really getting tired of all these I love her so much and I don't want to lose her stories. Upon the ubanja guys help, una still dey cry like this. I don taya abeg.

tayooluwole:


Bro waiting u think say ah fit do nah

Pls don't do anything, it'd make her dislike you more

Please just have a stance that you wouldn't hi back to her, and cut all means of communication with her,and don't take her back

She neva loved u

Truth is bitter but I will be compelled to tell you.

Just use her for money rituals .

let her be, move on with your life, she has nursed this for a long time, it took her lot of courage to let you know ..and in case you missed it she's already got someone else .. Move on and don't try appealing the judgement ..las las you go dey okay...

HELP A SISTER ACHIEVE HER DREAM

*HELP COMPLETE MY EDUCATION*

Move on .period

Erediauwa:
I feel she's just using that sex talk as an excuse to quit the relationship which I feel is so childish of her.

You might have a good intention for the said daughter of a pastor, but..... Oh well, Just cheer up, drink a bottle of Fanta and delete every memory of her.


You'll find true love again.

Water should be better

Lalasticlala, mynd44, ishilove and dominique please warn this op and all these una childrens. This corner corner love and nonsense must stop in 2019. I don't want to see nor ear this nonsense next year

Kindly move on for the sake of your mental health. Try to forget about her and rely on God to give you your spouse

I mean,hw do guys fall inluv wit naija girls self?
Op, let me gv u my style:dnt kip one girlfrnd, its a taboo. Kip lyk 3 to 4.nd dnt luv any of dem much, jux fuckkk dem nd go.
Bring dat manly nature of u out, nd i promise u will enjoy ur life.Lemme tell u, girls luvs playboys. I can bet dat ur girl jux left u 4 a playboy. Playboys rules.
Who get tym 4 luv. Rubbish talk.

Lemme tell u hw to heal faster:Dnt eva dial her numba neither shuld u text or chat her up.Doing dis will make her dislyk u more. Block her numba frm ur fone nd from all oda social media platform. Avoid her completely. Dnt eva beg a girl dat broke up wit u.cos shes a killer.

okorotalkative:
The girl don go chop preek aswear, big gbola don reset her brain. You better move on.

I have no choice than to burst into laughter.

When you want use prick reset the girl destiny

tayooluwole:
PHOTO: Dilemma, This Is My Girlfriend's Christmas Gift For Me...

I have never been this confused in my life. I started dating my girl like 3 months ago. This is a girl that is committed to Gods things and firmly stands on christian value and principle in her dealings all around.

Shortly along the line of our relationship, she revealed to me that she is a virgin which I doubted until she allowed me to verify like I was taken child delivery for her. She is 24 years old, her dad is a deeper life pastor and a solder at the same time.

Funny enough, her dress does not suggest that she has anything at all to do with deeper life, though she doesn't wear trousers and doesn't put on hair rings. But in all of these, her look still doesn't bear semblance with a typical religious person.

She asked me if I can wait until marriage in terms of sex because she is not ready to give up her virginity for anything at all until official solemnisation, firstly because she doesn't want to disappoint her dad and secondly, because she doesn't want to betray her Christian value and believe. I was so happy to have a woman of such rarely found quality in my life and never thought it twice before striking a relationship deal of no sex with her.

All was going fine. Once in a while we passionately kissed when such opportunity presents it self. While doing this, I sometimes got carried away by stretching my hands towards the location of NO GO AREA clearly defined in the preagreement terms of our relationship. But her determination in protecting that area is second to none.

Honestly, I fell in love with this girl and even the scar of satisfying her is still visible on my body. I did all I could to make her persistently happy.

To cut it short, just this morning, she sent me a breakup message. It was unbelievable and came as a shock because breakup message is what I least expected from her at this nascent stage of our relationship.

Meanwhile, just yesternight which is barely 12 hours ago, we had a good conversation on WhatsApp like we used to have, in which she was asking me about my day, what I ate, my activities for that day and all that. The conversation was so mutual and ran smooth that it didn't suggest any hostility or preconceived plan of breaking up.

Since I saw the message, I have been muttering to my self about what could actually be the real reasons for such spontaneous decision. Though when I pressured her about the real reasons for this action, she told me that a guy broke her heart in 2017, and since that time she has been finding it difficult to love.

Pls how can I handle this situation ? I love this girl genuinely and at the same time, at this stage of my life, I don't want to waste anytime by making repetitive appeal and persuasion in hope that probably she is gonna change her mind...

have you heard of ubunja....search out his threads on nairaland

This is better than stringing you along and wasting your time. My man pick yourself up, dust yourself up and try all over again.

One man's meat is another man's poison. It is well. I appreciate her that she informed you via WhatsApp... Some will never say anything but place you at their own deception point... Make her your friend and continue with your life...

I am of the opinion that it is not only your sex drive that she is scared of... She may be afraid of the future - fear of unknown.

Happy New year in advance... You will meet your type soon. They are many out there

Weak men everywhere. When they tell una to be Alpha, masculine una go think say people dey tell una rubbish.

When you date a woman and she can't"bend her rules for you" there are two things involved

1. You're a pvssy nigga who can't dictate the terms & conditions of the relationship and can't break down her walls.
2. She doesn't love you and you were probably too blind to see this.

You putting this on a public space is a no brainer on why she dumped you, grow up.

Download any Westlife album.

You will need it in these turbulent moments.

[color=#990000][/color] it is well

Go and read that ubunja book and you will see that you are being played.


God bless ubunja for showing me somethings I never knew

She will come around ,just try to convince her you are not a freak ,..

She has said she don't love you. Move on.

pocohantas:
Download any Westlife album.

You will need it in these turbulent moments.

The girl will still come back but this time the relationship will be on her own terms.


Cc ubunja. The only deity that understand women and their tricks

She needs a virgin like herself to date and possibly get married to. She's gone for good

samdavjustin:
@op she has given you her why are u confused. She tried to love you but it just isn’t happening and she doesn’t want to waste your time. That’s a valid reason to me while you are in love with her she just isn’t loving you the same. She is a very matured girl and from a responsible home for her to tell you the truth and not sugar coat it. There are more fishes in the ocean my friend

Its that simple. OP Why speculate any y further? She doesn't love you, she said. Take her word for it and move on.

Eeya sorry oooo

Op deeperlife just concluded thier annual yearly retreat where she went to fortify herself spiritually from bad vices and immoral persons , I’ll give you a tip on how you could win her back firstly, get born again and start attending her church in order to be on the same page with her, lastly strive hard to keep her cos she’s a heart keeper

Nice message. Nothing is bad here. In fact I like her for saying the truth. Sorry bro. She can't cope and you just have to move on. Success ahead.

Ogbeni forget the girl. From reading her message and yours it shows she ain't on your level. Get a girl with good comprehension not this one that can't write simple English correctly.

She is seeing someone already