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Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by awoo47: 12:20pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Biafrareform:its complete rubbish. She should just make the girl know the real father, that's all. What abt d husband taking care of her? he shld give her up? that will be d real injustice 2 Likes |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by texazzpete(m): 12:49pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
nanaman: There is no ‘what transpired’ there. The biological father has played no part in her life to date, for the past 16 years, and the girl in question is in a stable family at the moment. Unless the mother has no legal representation or has no money for a legal battle, no chance of anyone in Nigeria winning custody for the deadbeat dad. 3 Likes |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by BarryLondon007(m): 12:59pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Biafrareform:Which your baby girl? Na your pikin ni? |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by juman(m): 1:12pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
The man should do dna test to confirm he is the real father. |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Skepticus: 1:22pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Graxie: You talk ignorantly and you seem not to understand men. Do you think you can force a dead beat father to be involved with the child especially when the family of the dead beat father are as useless as the sperm-donating he-goat they call a son? Kikiofure, if the family of the dad is willing to be supportive in helping you raise the child, it's a good one and if they are not willing, you are practically on your own to raise the child, or give it up for adoption. Forcing a man who is clearly not interested is a waste of time whether he is financially capable of being supportive or not, is a sheer waste of time. If you are raising it on your own, perfect the legal requirements to have him bound with your family' s name or the name of your new husband (if he is supportive). 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by KIkiofure: 1:26pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Skepticus:They said since he denied me that they have no reason to accept me.. So I am on my own 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Skepticus: 1:30pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
lozanni: Dude, they really have nothing to be discussed. I'm not pissed at the irresponsible father because he may be scared and naive but to be supported by his family shows that the dead beat father and his family are useless and should never be associated with. My advice to Biafrareform is to tell his sister to reveal the truth to girl child, let her father meet her and expose the truth how she was rejected by her Father's family. The girl child can make a decision to see her father or completely ignore him (it happens in a lot of cases). Under no condition should the girl child be allowed to live with her biological father. A sperm-donor father from a useless family that can abandon mother and child for 16 years is not one to be trusted. She's better staying with the people who have shown her love all her life than some random stranger who is relationship with her is spraying cum everywhere. She may be abused by the new family of her biological father. I've seen this happen a lot. She better stick to her mother and foster father. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Skepticus: 1:37pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
KIkiofure: Wow! Trashy family. It would be a tough one for you, but you'll pull through. You have to take legal steps in keeping that baby as only your own and if you marry a responsible man who is nice to your kid, get him to legally adopt your child as his. Family and customary courts would be sympathetic to you. Don't let any idiot here deceive you. That he-goat and his useless family will show up some time later to reap where they did not sow. Don't reward the deliberate bad behaviours of people. Nigerians are manipulative that way. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Arijude(m): 1:41pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Biafrareform:The girl is not his as far as he didn't pay bride price on her mother's head. So, you should not allow him access to the girl. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by virginchaser(m): 1:46pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Be deceiving yourself. The girl will locate the father when the time comes. |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Sidmond: 1:47pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
GuyWise101: Totally supported, he can pay the cash but what of the physical efforts it took to train the child. If I were her mom, he must pay at least 500 million naira before he can meet that girl. That's my own 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Skepticus: 1:49pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Amiteye: One can excuse the dead beat dad's behaviour at the time but the way his family supported it, shows that they are all useless. I don't trust that guy a bit. He should be allowed to meet with his daughter but the daughter should never be allowed to live with him. A guy who disappeared for 16 years would never be as committed to taking care of her daughter as a foster father who cared all these years. Nigerians reward deliberate wickedness a lot and it's bad. 5 Likes |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by CaptainFM1: 2:55pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Apination: You are right, In the meantime she need to know her real father. Ultimately, the girl will have a decision to take as she grow older. |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Scottallen: 3:00pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Forumobserver12: Not necessary true! I have seen seen guys in their late twenties and even thirties deny pregnancy 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by smada13(m): 3:08pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
That's a big fat lie! It's not all men that donate sperm for pregnancy that is a father! In this case, this man is just a sperm donor and not a father. If it were me, I'll allow the girl know who impregnated her mum to give birth to her, make her understand that the man is not worth to be her dad since he never cared about her upkeep before she was born till now, I'll let her assume her father is dead that she should move on and I'll assure of a better life far more than what the supposed sperm donor will give her. The question now is, what if the sister has died during the process of child birth or what if the child turned out to be imbecilic, would he or they come out to claim the child? daddytime: 1 Like |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Scottallen: 3:09pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
nanaman: Easier said than done. The deadbeat father will lose in all circumstances. This is Nigeria and not England. We have customary laws. The customary court must preside over such cases as: marital cases, communal land disputes, child custody, and so on Unless, the OP wants to let sleeping dogs lie, the father of the said girl has no case. The girl doesn't answer his name. She may decide not to donate her specimen for DNA. The real dad is the one who took care of her when her biological father denied her 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Shollze: 3:13pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
I have a friend that this is still going to happen to in the future. Her so called boyfriend that got her pregnant disappeared, she went through the pregnancy alone and raising the child alone. Things like this happens a lot .... just let the child know the father, you have no control over that. |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by mrkings84(m): 3:16pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
I like Ikwerre ttadidition for this, all children born out of marriage belongs to the girl's parents..... Fulstop! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Caseless: 3:34pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Kylekent59:you think that girl can ever love her supposed father? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Caseless: 3:37pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
mrkings84:I heard ibo people do that too . |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by BRATISLAVA: 4:03pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
GuyWise101: LMAO. |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by BRATISLAVA: 4:10pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
theButterfly: Concerning C, do you think he will state his true intentions? Men don't suddenly grow remorseful after 16 years, unless they want to reap where they didn't sow. It is the formula for all deadbeats. Show up after all the work has been done. Cry and pretend to want to know the child; after all,her emotions will be all over the place to please and know you after you abandoned them. The child will want to give him a chance. He will be a being she will try to understand. And he will feed her 16 years of lies about his motives. This is the special talent of fathers and society has made them adept at it. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by tojahh(m): 4:24pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Biafrareform: She's not your baby girl Mr. Man Remove your hand. |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by BRATISLAVA: 4:26pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Chukapage:Lol. I don't know why females never learn. Maybe they think that a pregnancy would make the man love them. |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Biafrareform(m): 4:40pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
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Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Enice(m): 4:41pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
kingjrofficial:he will loose how, please explain? this is a man that openly denied paternity of a child in the presence of family members and witnesses. he did not show remorse for good 16 years, he did not spend even a kobo for her upkeep. now you expect the court to do what? just because he had sex? for your information, there are sperm banks where women can make a choice of what type of sperm they want. is it then right for the sperm donor to be accused of being the father? fatherhood is a matter of choice. the bastard denied the lady in question openly and accused her of being a prostitute. can he now come back to say he fathered the child? |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Biafrareform(m): 4:43pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
healthserve:. Remembered when She was sick and needed blood, I donated my blood to her. I dey for any court rubbish that the man will try to bring up. I dey wait for them. I fit cut person ear for this matter |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Azeeztaophic(m): 4:47pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Let him wait for the girl to be eighteen years, and conduct DNA, after which the girl will be given chanse to choose her father. |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Biafrareform(m): 4:47pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Slynation: They dont even know me. I have agreed to let him see her. But he must come visit me with his family and everyone that once made mockery of us when we went to talk about the pregnancy. I will so embarrass them ehhh. Make them come, i dey wait for them 3 Likes |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Crazybunny: 4:56pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
1) they should tell the girl the truth and let her decide 2) they shouldn't make it easy for him 3) there is always a hidden motive, they should find it |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by ericadianas(f): 4:59pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Yes, my last name was always my dad's. My mum solely made sure of that. No, i never stayed with him but we keep communication and visitation. Skepticus: |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by ericadianas(f): 5:00pm On Dec 30, 2019 |
Nothing unusual. We had deep conversations were both of us cried. He apologized, said he was wrong, young and stupid. And now we good. healthserve: |
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