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Re: My Awkward Fiancé by frenchtoast(f): 9:47pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
She technically isn't bothering anyone, she has social anxiety so it's a trait that stems from a psychological issue and not her just trying to be 'difficult'. Give her a break and stop putting pressure on her all for your own comfortability. |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by KanwuliaExtra: 9:50pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
You have admitted she is socially awkward. She just needs to go out a little more. Loving her means accepting her the way you found her and loved her. Just make sure she does not have an underlying mental disorder. She should be encouraged to get a job to develop some social skills. Simple therapy. Next time, invite her sibling or familiar relative of hers' to go with her to large gatherings. That should help her to break the ice a little. A time will come, you will miss this side of her. People do change you know. 4 Likes |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by kushercain: 9:50pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
ginaolo: Guy it's not a fault abeg it's who she is. Aswr you dey vex me like this 2 Likes |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by 1stNumeroUno: 10:57pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
Dear Op, I think you have to 'know' your woman. Who's she, what's her past, what is her personality etc. If you don't get answer to all these, you'll only struggle until you either break her or loose her. |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by yeyeosoronga: 11:45pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
Perhaps it's time for her to get some psychological therapy. Social anxiety is truly a debilitating disease that can affect the quality of life of those who suffer from it. It's not something to be joked with. Perhaps hers is still a mild one, but if it progresses it will become something else. Let her go if you cannot offer your support . |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by baby124: 2:22am On Jan 02, 2020 |
She will default to factory reset when married. Just free her and find someone more social because being social matters to you. 1 Like |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by addicted268(f): 8:13am On Jan 02, 2020 |
ginaolo: Hi OP,I understand your fiancé because this is exactly who I am.I dread meetings and gatherings and get sweaty nervous fingers at parties(I almost fainted when my colleagues threw me a surprise party).introverts are usually very comfortable in their own quiet world but I married a very big extrovert. In d 11years I ve known him he has never complained to me about my socially awkward nature but I know that by association, I am better now than I was 11years back. What I'm saying is that if you marry her n get your mind off her nature,she will adjust with time around your people(not fully though cos I don't think I can ever be an extrovert). But if you keep criticizing her to her face she ll be awkward towards you and uncomfortable around you. So its left for you to decide if you can live with that without making her delve further into her "awkward nature" . 2 Likes |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by Ginaz(f): 8:16am On Jan 02, 2020 |
E just be like say make I slap the guy. Such a nag!!! 2 Likes |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by DrayZee: 8:38am On Jan 02, 2020 |
Guy, the fact that you are here asking the same stupid question is really disturbing. Maybe you should leave her alone. It's like that's what you want to do but you're using all these excuses to seek validation. Because I don't understand why other people's opinion on your fiancé is so important to you. 2 Likes |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by DrayZee: 8:39am On Jan 02, 2020 |
addicted268: If you know the number of people that have told him this same thing before. Yet he's here again asking the same stupid question. Thank you, at least you're a real life example. 2 Likes |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by Triniti(m): 9:23am On Jan 02, 2020 |
ginaolo:Dude you need to grow up, y’all should stop bringing in culture into everything. She’s a very reserved person, deal with it or let the poor girl be 4 Likes |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by thorpido(m): 9:52am On Jan 02, 2020 |
ginaolo:Taking an appraisal of your relationship,I think you should let this girl go. She's not going to change(or maybe just little) and 'what your family and friends think about her' matter so much to you it will likely affect your marriage. They won't understand her nature(maybe just the enlightened ones will do) and think she's a snob or doesn't like your family.That will bring about gossips and stir up unnecessary hatred. 3 Likes |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by Coded2(m): 9:55am On Jan 02, 2020 |
ginaolo:it is normal just encourage her when u have made her ur wife things will change |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by jamesbawa(m): 10:09am On Jan 02, 2020 |
ginaolo:Dude, just let her go. That's just exactly how I am. Wish I could find someone like her |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by jamesbawa(m): 10:18am On Jan 02, 2020 |
kushercain:Forget the mumu... |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by jamesbawa(m): 10:19am On Jan 02, 2020 |
KanwuliaExtra:She doesn't have a mental disorder, she's just very introverted 1 Like |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by Adewumi275(f): 12:35pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
U're taking her to meet ur family for the very first time, so u expect her to be talking like parrot abi |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by craleonic: 1:16pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
ginaolo: Oga, please leave her for someone who is okay with her nature. This is the 2nd time you are complaining about this on here. You will just end up making her life very difficult if you both get married. |
Re: My Awkward Fiancé by Yohans(m): 1:28pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Xavi2019:U are just like me and I like his kind of woman(reserved type) |
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