Good evening nairalanders , and happy new year to you all.
Not going to border you with lengthy sermon!!
l have bn dating this lady right from 200level and we agreed on no sex relationship!! God helped us we kept and abide with it, until l went for NYSC, on the long run l had an affair with a lady during my service year, l have bn leaving with this guilt for over 4years.
Now we r planning of getting married this year and one of the wedding criteria is to attend counseling in her church, and they will certainty ask about my sexual life!!! what should l tell her pastor, really scared of loosing her, she is a definition of vitreous woman. l wish l never commit such mistake..
please your advice is urgently needed and sorry for typo errors[b]Good evening nairalanders , and happy new year to you all.
Not going to border you with lengthy sermon!!
l have bn dating this lady right from 200level and we agreed on no sex relationship!! God helped us we kept and abide with it, until l went for NYSC, on the long run l had an affair with a lady during my service year, l have bn leaving with this guilt for over 4years.
Now we r planning of getting married this year and one of the wedding criteria is to attend counseling in her church, and they will certainty ask about my sexual life!!! what should l tell her pastor, really scared of loosing her, she is a definition of vitreous woman. l wish l never commit such mistake..
please your advice is urgently needed and sorry for typo errors[/b]Good evening nairalanders , and happy new year to you all.
Not going to border you with lengthy sermon!!
l have bn dating this lady right from 200level and we agreed on no sex relationship!! God helped us we kept and abide with it, until l went for NYSC, on the long run l had an affair with a lady during my service year, l have bn leaving with this guilt for over 4years.
Now we r planning of getting married this year and one of the wedding criteria is to attend counseling in her church, and they will certainty ask about my sexual life!!! what should l tell her pastor, really scared of loosing her, she is a definition of vitreous woman. l wish l never commit such mistake..
please your advice is urgently needed and sorry for typo errors

Better tell her so she would do away with your cheating as* faithful men is what we want this 2020

I don't support what you did but I think you should just keep that little secret, wetin hear don ear can't be unheard

No be everything them the talk Mr.. Keep your mouth shut that's what makes you mature..

Go and never sin no more...

Just open up and have a mind void of guilty conscience towards God and man, he that covers his sin will not prosper

Just tell the pastor you were once a sinner and let everything die there.

profolaolu:
Just open up and have a mind void of guilty conscience towards God and man, he that covers his sin will not prosper

best advice ever

Mistake but u cum...any sex wey u cum no be mistake, na intentional sex...confess to her.if she gets angry.come back for further advice.

If I were u, I won't talk on this.


Wow, u are about marrying someone u ja e not had sex with, thats massive but personally I can't do this.

Its one of the many things I ll do before marriage. Sex is too necessary in a marriage to be taken that likely.

What if this partner is sexually incompatible

Since she's a "definition of virtue" according to you, then please by all means tell her and let her decide if she wants to continue. Don't force her to continue.

If she was the anyhow type of lady, I would've advised you don't tell.

Plus your conscience has been bugging you for 4 years now. So free your conscience and tell her.

Somethings are better left unsaid. Go to grave with that secret bro. Don’t ruin your relationship

Thegeneralqueen:
Better tell her so she would do away with your cheating as* faithful men is what we want this 2020

Who is "we"

Bible says "and yhu shall say the truth and the truth shall set yhu free"..

Tell her the truth...the rest will be her decision..
Hope yhuve repented cause she certainly do not deserve a cheat...

If I'm gonna keep my virginity ...then I'm sure gonna marry a virgin too...
I no wan hear anything..

lebron7:

Who is "we"

We is women... ladies...

omokoginimi:
Somethings are better left unsaid. Go to grave with that secret bro. Don’t ruin your relationship

Nothing will remain hidden under the sky....

She'll find out one way or the other...and it will be worse then..

after u enjoy a hot fvck u call it a mistake, especialy when u ar about to cum? Is like oil stain ur brain.

if this secret won't pump out 2moro then there is no need

Do not listen to anyone who tells you to confess. I repeat. Do not confess. Doing that will not only hurt her irreparably, it will destroy all you have built with this lady.

And even if she forgives you and you marry her tomorrow, she'll never trust you again. The important thing is that you've shown remorse for your actions. You have learnt your lesson.

Man up and move on.

Jodha:


Nothing will remain hidden under the sky....

She'll find out one way or the other...and it will be worse then..

How will she find out? The girl she cheated with will find and tell her?

omokoginimi:
How will she find out? The girl she cheated with will find and tell her?

Who knows it's a small world...they might meet the girl he cheated with one day...

Or it might be through a friend he opened up to...or something ..

It's best he comes out clean... honesty pays..

Jodha:


Who knows it's a small world...they might meet the girl he cheated with one day...

Or it might be through a friend he opened up to...or something ..

It's best he comes out clean... honesty pays..

Until that happens, I’ll advise him to let secrets be secrets.

No be every cloth man dey spread outside o cos if sun touch those clothes e go spoil. If you don't want your wife to be to hate you, take your secret to the grave mehn!!!

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all these churchy people wey no sabi self I tire for una, don't u know d best words are d ones left unsaid? I can't even count d number of times I don cheat on my bae but as per coded guy I manage my shit n am still d best guy in the world

Mad Ooo! Nigga wants to toe the kiss and tell line...

Me I dey blow anything oo.. But I love my girl so much.. Praying to God to help me stop this year.. But I just blow one girl few hours ago.. God go help me oo..

People like this still dey our generation?

Keep quite about your secret

What do you hope to achieve if you tell her?

men like you are rare. How can i cheat and feel guilty when no be my wife

Jodha:


Who knows it's a small world...they might meet the girl he cheated with one day...

Or it might be through a friend he opened up to...or something ..

It's best he comes out clean... honesty pays..

See them, now na guy cheat, u r shouting with all ur brain that he shud confess


A lady posted such thing few months ago, many ladies like you were advising her to keep it a secret for life..


Hypocrite oshi....