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Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by kristen12(f): 1:54pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
This is the best thread I've read on nairaland in a while.
Unfortunately, these things happen and are still happening around us. Parents need to educate their children. Listen to your children, let them trust you to tell you anything and everything.
I pray for everyone going through pains and hurt from molestation, that God will heal us permanently because healing and freedom can only come from God.
God bless us. 3 Likes |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by FuckHomophobes: 2:47pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
It happened to me ![sad](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/sad.png) 1 Like |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by revolt(m): 4:41pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
As a kid .... our househelps turned us to sex dolls. Once my parents travelled the house became a porn club. They'd feed us (we had about 3 living with us) then they'd bring us out one by one to the slaughter room, and while singing nagin the snake girl sound track bang the shit out of us. They once tried to fix me on top of my sister who was just a year then because they were angry my mum beat them. Thank God nothing worked. They even threatened to beat me. Now I remember I'm very pissed . They're all married or single mothers with big kids now. Our driver had a field time with those girls. 4 Likes |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by kendological(m): 4:42pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
tck2000: We have moved out of that compound for years now.I was 5/6 years old then,i'm almost 20 now.There's no way i could report him now.Surely,i'm going to use my experience as a lesson to protect my future kids.#SpitOnGays&Pedophiles! why not spit on heterosexuals too. This is a pedophilia matter not gay issue, some hetros also abuse children. 1 Like |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by delishpot: 4:43pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Good one OP. Male and female kids should be protected from animals |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by delishpot: 4:47pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
tunjilee003: [s]If you have been sexually abused as a male child, no one will believe your ordeal because many think female child do fall victim of sexual predators[/s],try to know the kind of person your male child is moving out with,how sane they are,today's society is full of homosexuals and paedophile looking for who to prey on, and also it depends on the kind of environment a male child grows up in, he might have been molested at a tender age.. False assumption. Its just that females are more protected because the world cherishes the hymen more than emotional balance. In the past a girl who loses her virginity before marriage when she gets married and found not to be a virgin will be disgraced and maybe killed for not being a virgin her story of being abused may not be listened to. This does not happen to an abused man. It was in the best interest of parents to guard their daughters virginity else she would become tainted good. This was also for the girls good(cos being tainted meant a crappy life for the girl) and for the parents pride that they raised a good girl. Parenting material 100 yards! So because of the love for hymens, girls are more closely monitored than boys. Also the fear of pregnancy outside wedlock makes girls to be more under their parents radar than boys. 3 Likes |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by tck2000(m): 4:55pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
kendological:
why not spit on heterosexuals too. This is a pedophilia matter not gay issue, some hetros also abuse children. Are you Gay? 1 Like |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by kenny160: 4:57pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Nice one Op 1 Like |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by Nobody: 5:54pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Chubhie:
Agu, Relax. We should be arranging for you to be interviewed by Daddy Freeze before we set up the gofundme account. This is non profit. Thunder fire your left nyash der ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by Nobody: 5:56pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
tck2000: Are you Gay? He is against the generalization. Some gays are nice, some aren't. The same way some heterosexuals are nice and bad too. You don't generalize 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by appreciate001: 6:21pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
This is educational and very informative. Thanks for this. 1 Like |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by sagitariusbaby(m): 8:35pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
DukeNija:
Are you being serious? This is not a topic to joke with bruh. How could I possibly joke with this? This is one painful past that I am still not able to share openly 1 Like |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by JerryQ: 8:50pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Good one op |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by meum: 10:10pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
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Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by Nobody: 12:38am On Jan 04, 2020 |
PointZerom: I remember how my stepsister sexually abused me for years not minding my age (below 10yrs). The memory has refused to go. How did it start |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by Adonis86(m): 12:46am On Jan 04, 2020 |
sagitariusbaby: This article reminds me of so many pains I went through and the secretes I had to keep as a child up to teenage level
It's shameful but I have had my uncle, male and female cousins sexually abused me. I never reported to anyone but I hate them "the culprits" till this very moment especially my uncle because he was older and should have never done so to me.
I naturally have a big d**k so three of my older female cousins where attracted my the site of it and would make me sleep with them severally. My uncle on the other hand would make me suck his d**k and choke my throat while doing so, he would also cum on my mouth and even try to force me to swallow which I never did. Again, my male cousin would do my lap all against my will and would threaten me should I thought of reporting him.
I can't explain the negative effects these experiences has had on me. We need to protect our children both boys and girls against sexual predators.
Inbox me. I have a private message for you. Be courageous just as I, same experience but I have moved on. |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by DavidEsq(m): 2:30am On Jan 04, 2020 |
Bassa1: I was 13yrs when my Islamic teacher had an Indian guest who he kept in his guest house, all 7 of them. I was asked to attend to them since I understood their English accent. Late in d night one of them abused me by repeatedly kissing and using my hands to handle his dick. I went with d flow realising that if he could risk trying this act on me without worries dat his colleagues could walk in, they are definitely in together.
I kissed him back and handle his dick after a while I told he to let me go dat d place was not private enough promising dat I was going to invite him to my house the next day when my parent are away. After he let me go, I was so angry by wat has happened that once I got home I grabbed a knife from d kitchen and headed back to d guest house. I met him lying down I walked towards him to slit his throat but luckily for him it was just a minor cut in his throat. I ran away while he was still bleeding. My Mallam sent them away d next day. I spent several year traumatized by d event. Untill recently am usually very uncomfortable when a friend is making body contact with me.
I really wished I had slaughter him properly dat day. Between ur propensity to slaughter someone, with the ease of killing a cockroach on the wall, and the terrible experience u suffered, I do not which shocks me the more. Most of u guys from that end are always angry. Dem spit ogogoro for una eye? |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by DavidEsq(m): 2:33am On Jan 04, 2020 |
HenryDion: My own experience is traumatizing. In fact, I was converted to a intimacy gadget. You see these female cousins and aunties, never allow them close to your boys. I repeat, never!
Today, most of them are married and with kids. Sometimes i wonder if they can remember what they did to me years ago.
send each of them a text, telling them to get ready that u are going to return the favor on their kids or pay someone else to do so. Kasala go jus burst |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by DavidEsq(m): 2:44am On Jan 04, 2020 |
Adonis86:
Inbox me. I have a private message for you. Be courageous just as I, same experience but I have moved on. I knew a guy back then in Uni days, who went through this at the hands of his mother's younger brother. Dude is now gay. He was my friend back then. I didn't have a problem with being friends with gay dude, when everyone knew me as a butcher (u know waramin). When I first asked asked when and how he turned gay, my heart melted for him. I also noticed he had a sense of rejection from females. His shoulders always drooped when he talked about it. 1 Like |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by edoairways: 8:23am On Jan 04, 2020 |
clarocuzioo: Honestly speaking this is the best article I have read so far in this forum, most especially as I was once a victim of this.
This is an angle the society does not pay attention to because the male child is involved but it's happening daily.
I remember then in our house, my mum had two adult maids, I was only in Nursery school then.
They will always be dragging who will come and pick me up from school, as they are always in the shop with my mum. Whoever that my mum permits that day, will come and pick me from shop, immediately we get home, she will strip herself stark naked, spread her legs wide apart and force me to be fingering her. They were taking turns in molesting me on a daily basis and my parents weren't aware of it. How do I even explain what is going on as I can barely understand and comprehend as a child.
After a while I got tired and started being resistive to the nonsense ongoing, one of the days, one of them brought me back and as usual spread her legs and told me to start fingering her, I vehemently resisted, that I won't do anything with her. She was highly infuriated, knelt me down and refuse to give me food.
While I was kneeling down, as luck and fate would have it, my Dad came back, unlike him as he usually comes back from work late in the evening. He saw me kneeling down and ask me what I did, when I explained to him the "crime" I committed, my dad went mad, almost killed the two girls that day, and sent them packing that day.
Because of my experience, I have caught about four females in the act molesting the male child, the last one in was a big, respected and wealthy Aunty in the neighbourhood, you won't even believe she can think of such, but yet it happens, immediately I notice the signs, I will be following them up and be observing quietly.
Please parents and guidance beware of people that call male children pet names like " my husband, smally, little boy, my baby" etc , that's the first act of suspision.
Please let us also protect the male child as we protect the female child.
Experience is the best teacher |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by Profgenius: 5:41am On Jan 05, 2020 |
This is from the author of this article: How to prevent the boy child from sexual abuse NEW BOOK ALERT! CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE PREVENTION TRAINING WORKBOOK Following my experience of teaching students how to prevent child sexual abuse, I have put together a workbook that is suitable for students in primary and secondary school. This workbook is one of the approved materials for the Children Against Sexual Exploitation (CASE) Project being executed by TotalChild Children and Teens Network The workbook is in two sections. The first section contains simplified information on child sexual abuse and practical ways to prevent it. The second part contains exercises on different topics on child sexual abuse. It provides space for the student to write down what they have learnt about child sexual abuse during a training/workshop session. This workbook aims to help students to know what child sexual abuse is and how to prevent it. While this workbook is perfectly suitable for students, the first book written by me on child sexual abuse: Understand and Preventing Child Sexual Abuse, is suitable for facilitators, parents, teachers, care givers and young adults. To get your copy please contact the author: CYRIL ISI Tel/Whatsapp: 08180495451 Email: talk2cyrilnow@gmail.com Follow, like and get more at: www.facebook.com/cyrilisimediafacebook | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin @cyrilisi www.cyrilisiblog.
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Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by OKUCHI11(m): 6:27am On Jan 05, 2020 |
Profgenius: SAVING THE BOY CHILD FROM SEXUAL PREDATORS by CYRIL ISI
When we talk about child sexual abuse, everyone seems to focus on the girl child. Hardly do we talk about the boy child. We somehow believe that the boy child is immune or naturally protected from sexual abuse. And because a greater percentage of child sexual abuse is perpetrated by older boys and men, we often conclude that the boy child cannot be a victim of sexual abuse instead he is a potential predator. Boys have been known to be sexually abused times without number. 1 out of 6 boys will be sexually abused before they turn 18 years. This sexual assault can come in different forms and majority of the perpetrators are male themselves. Though older girls and women also abuse young boys, but the men and older boys are the ones who abuse younger boys the most.
The worst part of male sexual abuse is that the victim hardly talks about it or report it to anybody. They can be abused for years and wonât talk until they save themselves from the abuser or are saved by external forces from it without anyone knowing. The victims find it difficult to talk about it. Shame and denial often do not let them speak up and most times they donât even know who to talk to. They cannot talk to their mother because it is like a âtabooâ subject. And their father who might understand them if they open up is often not available. Their father is very busy looking for what the family will eat and so spend less time at home to effectively communicate and bond with the boy child.
This issue of sexual abuse against the boy child is an issue we need to pay attention to. As a child life coach and counselor, I hear so much about sexual assault against boys and it often breaks my heart. Parents, teachers, care givers, guardian and everyone involved in a childâs life, please be at alert and safe the boy child from sexual predators. They are all over the place. Letâs be vigilant. It is our responsibility to defend and protect every child from sexual abuse including the boy child. Letâs not pay too much attention to the girl child and forget that the boy child still need the attention because he is still a boy and cannot protect himself from sexual abuse except we empower him to.
FORMS OF BOY CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
The sexual assault against boys can come in different forms. These include:
1. MouthAction: Most heterosexual men and women who sexually abuse young boys will make the boys perform MouthAction on them. The male predators will ask the boys to give them Mouth Action until they climax. The female predators will ask the boys to lick their vaginal and suck their breast until they climax. They might not touch the boy at all or force themselves on the boys but use the boys as a intimacy gadgets to satisfy their sexual urges.
2. Vaginal sex: Female sexual predators that abuse boys will make or force the boys to have sexual intercourse with them. They will sexually manipulate the boys to have erection and make them to have sex with them. This often happen between an older girl or woman and a younger boy.
3. Anal sex: This is the most terrible and devastating sexual assault against boys. It is painful, dehumanizing and a âtabooâ sort of sexual act that leave the victim traumatized. The perpetrators are usually homosexual men who are sexually attracted to boys. These sexual predators will usually forcefully rape the boys in their anus. It often leads to bleeding and tear of the anus because the anus is not a place where an erected penis is supposed to enter. This is a terrible form of male sexual abuse that can physically and psychologically devastate the boy child
4. handling: Here we have the sexual predators which can be male or female always handling with the private part of the boy. They derive pleasure in playing with the penis and buttocks of boys. Most times they will handle the boyâs penis until the boy climax before they will leave him. While they are doing this, they can be masturbating themselves to derive the sexual pleasure that they desire.
5. Other form of boy child sexual abuse includes exposing the boy child to pornography, masturbation, voyeurism, exhibitionism etc. Some even go to the extent of taking naked pictures of the boy child to be used for different purpose including commercial and even to blackmail the boy not to talk and always conform when they demand for sex.
WHO ARE THE PREDATORS?
People who sexual abuse the boy child can be found everywhere including schools, families, sport clubs, recreation centers, voluntary organisations, religious institutions etc. Most times the predators are not only adults, they can be teenagers and even children of same age with the child. The boy child sexual predators include:
1. Pedophiles: A pedophile is a person suffering from pedophilia which is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent is sexually attract to young children. Male pedophiles will be sexually attracted to young boys and try molests them sexually.
2. Homosexuals: Homosexuals are those people who are sexually attracted to people of the same sex. Majority of the reported cases of sexual abuse against boys are perpetrated by homosexuals most especially the once that involve anal sex. Homosexuals who are pedophiles will sexually assault boys because they are the ones that are easy to get and cannot physically defend themselves against the assault. These homosexuals can be found everywhere and can be teachers, doctors, care givers, pastors, imam, relatives, parents, guardians etc
3. Heterosexuals: These are males and female sexual predators that are sexually attracted to the boy child. They could be teachers, house helps, relatives, siblings, parents, coaches, spiritual leaders, doctors, nurses, caregivers etc
So the boy child sexual predators can be anyone. Parents have been known to sexually abuse their own boy child. Teachers include private home teachers have done worst. House-help are top on the list here. Master who younger boys are learning trade/vocationally skills from informally, are also on the list. We also have coaches who teach boys sport and those people who own correctional centres for young people. The list goes on.
PLACES WHERE MALE SEXUAL ABUSE ARE VERY COMMON
Parents please watch out for your boy child. There are some places where the risk of male sexual abuse is very high and prevalent. These include:
1. Boarding schools: Schools with boarding/hostel facilities, most especially the ones own by the State and Federal Government is a breeding ground for boy-child to boy-child sexual abuse. Here it is very common for students to be the predators. While teachers are also involved, the students are the worst here. You will have students who call themselves âschool fatherâ and âsenior prefectâ sexually abusing those in younger class. They usually pick their new victims from students that are newly admitted into junior class. They will threaten these JJC (Johnny Just Come) boys into silence and sexually abused them in manners words cannot say. In the process, these boys will become addicted to the sexual act and become predators themselves, abusing other (JJC) who are just admitted into the school. And the circle goes on. Parents if you have kids in public boarding school please educate them properly on the need to talk/report to you if anything like that is happening or wants to happen. Make them to know that it is not their fault and give them the necessary help they need to heal.
2. Camp meetings: Camp meetings organized by voluntary organisations, religious institutions etc are also a breeding ground for boy-child to boy-child sexual abuse. In the camp, the boys are made to sleep together, bath together and do other things together. While it helps them to socialize and build their social skills, it is an avenue for sexual predators that are much older and stronger to abuse the timid and younger ones. During the night while sleeping together or when they are bathing together, is when they perpetrate the crime. And often the victim will not talk and the perpetrators will go scot-free. Some camp masters who are pedophiles and homosexuals also use this golden opportunity to abuse as many boys as they can before the camp meeting is over.
3. Voluntary organisations like Boy Scout, Man âOâ War, BoysâBrigade etc are also places where the boy child are often sexually abused both by older boys and their instructors/masters.
4. Correctional homes/facilities: A correctional home is a place where they take children most especially boys that are badly behaved and involved in social vices like drugs, stealing etc. They are own by the government and some religious institutions. These correctional home has been known to be a place where boy are sexually abused by their teachers/correctors and guardians. In recent times, most correctional homes own my some Islamic organisations were shut down because of report of diverse kind of abuse meted to the boys kept there with sexual abuse topping the list. Parents if you have a child that has problems that you cannot handle and you take them to a correctional home, please from time to time, check on them to make sure that they are not being abused. Donât abandon them there.
5. Sports Club: Sports club like football clubs, tennis club and other athletic clubs for boys are also common ground where young boys are sexually abused. These boys are usually abused by their coach/instructors who might be homosexuals and pedophiles.
6. Orphanage/foster homes: Most of these orphanage homes that are not properly run and managed are also places where boys are sexually abused by their foster parents or guardian. In this case, the boys donât even have anyone to report to because they are orphans. Their guardian, who is supposed to be protecting them, will be the ones sexually molesting them. And this will continue until the boys grow up and gain their freedom by leaving the orphanage home.
7. Special need school/facilities: These are places where they provide assistant and professional support to children who have special needs or are physically challenged like the blind, deaf, dumb, crippled, autistic etc. In these kind of places where the boy child is physically challenged, the rate of sexual abuse is very high and the perpetrators are usually the owners and care givers who might be pedophiles or homosexuals
8. Other places where the boy child sexual abuse often occurs include: at home (most especially during holidays), in the school, in the neighbourhood where boys go to play etc
SIGNS THAT A BOY CHILD IS BEING SEXUALLY ABUSED
There are some signs that parents and others involved in child developmental activities can watch out for inorder to know if a child is going through sexual abuse. While it might be difficult to get the child to talk, these signs can be a pointer.
1. Bleeding and sore in the anus.
2. Physical pains associated with difficulties in excreting or sitting down.
3. Avoiding certain people or places
4. Start asking questions and feeling concern about sexual orientation.
5. Going back to younger behaviours e.g bedwetting.
6. Sleeping problems, nightmares, eating disorders, anxiety and depression.
7. Secrecy and always isolating oneself.
8. Unecessary outburst of anger and rebellion.
9. Falling grades in school
10. Cruelty to animals, bullying, self harm of any kind.
11. Use of alcohol or drugs
12. Chronic stomach pain and headaches.
13. Always mention a new freiend, older friend and unexplained money or gift items.
14. Sexually transmitted disease (STD)
WHY BOYS DONâT REPORT SEXUAL ABUSE
It is not common to have boys report or tell anyone that they are being sexually abused. It will take a boy-child that is well informed and properly trained on child sexual abuse prevention, to report an abuse no matter who it is coming from. This is one reason why parents and guardian must take time to train the boy-child on child sexual abuse and how to prevent it. If they are well informed and empowered to report it, there is every tendency that an abuse will be prevented before it even occurs or prevented from getting worse. The following are some of the reasons why boys donât report sexual abuse.
1. Remembering: Boys often tend to cope with the trauma of sexual abuse by trying to push the experience to the back of their memory inorder to forget about it. Talking about the abuse is like reliving it and feeling hurt again. This is usually the case when the boy-child is raped through the anus.
2. Loss of love: Children especially the boy-child worries about reporting an abuse because they donât want to loose the love of their parents or guardian. They feel that once they are abuse, they become âdirtyâ. If they now report the abuse to their parents, they will not love them again because they are now âdirtyâ. This often make boys to keep quiet and keep trying to endure an abuse or try to forget about it if it is a one time occurrence.
3. Separation from family: Most time the boy-child will not report an abuse because they donât want to be taken away from their family. They feel that if they report and it is found out to be true, their parents or guardian might take them to another home or place to stay. Because they donât want that separation, they would rather not report.
4. Shame and guilt: Boys do know that having any form of sexual act with an adult or older adolescent is wrong and shameful most especially if they are of the same sex. They feel shameful to openly say another boy or man rapes them or even a girl or woman rape them. They older boys will often feel guilty about the whole thing. Because of the feeling of shame and guilt, they would rather keep quiet.
5. Blame: Some boys do not report sexual abuse because they feel that if they report, they would be blamed for the abuse. They feel they will be blamed for allowing it to happen or putting themselves in the position or place for it to happen. Most adult do blame children when an abuse occur instead of condemning the act and blaming the abuser. This often does not make boys report.
6. Harm: It is always common to have sexual predators threaten their victims to harm them or even kill them if they report to anyone. They instill so much fear on the child that makes him to keep quiet because he does not want to be harmed by the abuser.
7. Blackmail: Most boys will not report sexual abuse because they are being blackmailed by their abuser. The abuser will look for a crime the child must have committed or something bad the child has done and do not want anyone to know about or they might have taken pornographic pictures of the child and use it to blackmail him and because the child does not want anyone to know about it for fear of being punished, he will keep quiet and allow the abuse to continue.
8. Deny of privilege: Most boys will not report an abuse because they do not to be denied some privileges they enjoy like special gifts, money and other form of assistance they might be getting from the abuser. Some abuser will threaten the child that if he report, he will not be allowed to be part of the group or participate in a competition or occupy a particular position etc
HOW TO PREVENT BOY CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
In preventing male sexual abuse, information and communication is the key. A child who is well informed about child sexual abuse and empowered to report when it occurs will likely not be abused. The best way to protect a child is to empower him to protect himself. And empowering them involves letting them know what they need to know about sexual abuse and how to prevent it. While no child is immune against sexual abuse, they can prevent it when it wants to occur. Here is how:
1. Teach the boy child the rules for personal safety against sexual abuse. These rules are:
Rule 1: It is NEVER all right for someone to TOUCH, LOOK or TALK about oneâs private body parts. It is never alright for someone older or bigger to ask you to TOUCH, LOOK or TALK about their private body part.
Rule 2: If someone tries to break this rule, say âNOâ and RUN AWAY.
Rule 3:Tell someone you trust and keep telling until you get the necessary help.
2. Talk to the boy child about body parts early. Name body parts and talk about them very early to your boy. Use proper names for body parts, or at least teach your child what the actual words are for their body parts. Feeling comfortable using these words and knowing what they mean can help a child talk clearly if something inappropriate has happened.
3. Teach them that some body parts are private: Tell your boy child that their private parts are called private because they are not for everyone to see. Explain that mommy and daddy can see them naked if they are still young, but people outside of the home should only see them with their clothes on. When they get older and become adolescent, mommy or daddy is not supposed to see them naked. Private parts for the boy child include penis, scrotum, buttocks, anus, perineum, mous pubis and groin
4. Tell your child that body secrets are not okay: Most perpetrators will tell the boy child to keep the abuse a secret. This can be done in a friendly way, such as, âI love playing with you, but if you tell anyone else what I did to you, I will not give your gifts again.â Or it can be a threat: âThis is our secret. If you tell anyone I will beat you or kill youâ Tell your boy child that no matter what anyone tells them, body secrets are not okay and they should always tell you if someone tries to make them keep a body secret.
5. Tell your boy child that no one should take pictures of their private parts: This one is often missed by parents. There is a whole sick world out there of pedophiles who love to take and trade pictures of naked children online. This is an epidemic and it puts your child at risk. Tell your boys that no one should ever take pictures of their private parts. Predators can even use these pictures to blackmail the child.
6. Teach your boy child how to get out of scary or uncomfortable situations: Some children are uncomfortable with telling people ânoââ especially older peers or adults. Tell them that itâs okay to tell an adult they have to leave, if something that feels wrong is happening, and help give them words to get out of uncomfortable situations. Tell your child that if someone wants to see or touch his private parts they can tell them that they need to leave to go use the rest room.
7. Tell your boy child they will never be in trouble if they tell you a body secret: Boys often tell me that they didnât say anything because they thought they would get in trouble, too. This fear is often used by the perpetrator. Tell your child that no matter what happens, when they tell you anything about body safety or body secrets they will NEVER get in trouble.
8. Tell your boy child that these rules apply even with people they know and even with another child: This is an important point to discuss with your child.
Source: https://cyrilisiblog./2020/01/03/saving-the-boy-child-from-sexual-predators/
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Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by Exodora: 8:20pm On Jan 08, 2020 |
Children this days fear them. Remember one spoilt brat then , his father was dam rich , he was 10 and I was 14 he wanted to have sex at that age but then nothing scares me like getting pregnant ,I was so scared thought I will become pregnant so I always object to his demand . It got to a time I told him that I will beat him if he tries those of his nonsense then he stopped coming over and collected all of his novels and other things from me. I cared less cause if one gets pregnant at that age without the traditional rite is a taboo in my place. 1 Like |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by Profgenius: 5:13am On Jan 13, 2020 |
Say NO to child sexual abuse in any form |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by Profgenius: 5:27am On Jan 23, 2020 |
At TotalChild Children and Teens Network, we have started our year 2020 training program for students on how to prevent child sexual abuse. This program is called CHILDREN AGAINST SEXUAL EXPLOITATION (CASE). The objective of the program is to train students on what child sexual abuse is and how to prevent it.
On Friday the 24th of January, 2020, we will be at ACCESS COLLEGE, IBADAN to train the students on STRATEGIES FOR PREVENTING CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE. It promises to be an educative, informative and interractive training session for the students. Please check the flier for more details.
If you own a school, run an orphanage or works with children/teenagers in churches, mosques or any institution, we can come and train them on how to prevent child sexual abuse. REMEMBER the more people are informed about child sexual abuse, the fewer victims there will be. If you are interested, please call us on 08180495451 or send an email to us at emailtotalchild@gmail.com
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Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by Profgenius: 7:35am On Mar 06, 2020 |
Share your experience |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by yeyeosoronga: 7:39am On Mar 06, 2020 |
This is such a great thread..
Wow, I'm impressed.
Thank you for this |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by SweetCunt97(f): 7:44am On Mar 06, 2020 |
All those female house helps and aunties are usually the culprits |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by yeyeosoronga: 7:52am On Mar 06, 2020 |
clarocuzioo:
Honestly speaking this is the best article I have read so far in this forum, most especially as I was once a victim of this. This is an angle the society does not pay attention to because the male child is involved but it's happening daily. Please let us also protect the male child as we protect the female child.
Indeed, this is one of the best articles on this forum, and I am so pleased a man decided to write this, and not wait for women to do it. Unfortunately, you last statement isn't true. Our society does not protect the girl child, so if you expect protection for the boy child because you feel it's protective of the girl child you will miss the mark. Thank God for a few vocal people especially women who keep shouting about the girl child and allowing their voices to be heard, as many were victims too as children. The impact would have been greater if more men lended their voices to doing the right thing and not asking stupid questions like what was a child wearing before she was raped, why did you visit this guy who is a friend etc. The victim ends up being the one at fault by the time some evil people will try to judge the matter. The OP has also lended his own voice to a societal issue. Many young boys are molested by aunties and uncles. Let us keep talking and shouting about it. |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by Profgenius: 6:41am On Mar 26, 2020 |
Lets read once again |
Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by Sixfeetbelle: 8:12pm On Mar 27, 2020 |
Child abuse on any gender is one of the reasons I'm scared of having children cause I know how guilt-filled and broken I'll feel if I ever find out they were abused by someone I paraded around them: be it an uncle, my friends, their father's friends or authority figures like pastors, teachers and mentors. I can't promise I won't kill that person. Let's learn now to be alert and watchful of the little ones around us. The world really is evil ![cry](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cry.gif) |