No issues,just make more money

Curiouscity:


I am married to a 1st girl, but second child. They initially appeared down to earth. But like play, like play, I trained the last 2 siblings through the University. At the moment, she is expecting me to help set up her married brothers in one business or the other. Everything always falls on my head. It comes with too many responsibilities and expectations.
It is very challenging thing!

Dem put gun for your head?

seyigiggle:
Whether coincidences or destiny. I have only dated last born, and eventually married one.
Surprisingly it was never planned.

You must have subconsciously created your circumstances that lead to this.

Are you yourself a lastborn?

missimelda01:
So I get this awkward reaction when a man asks for my position in my family and I say I'm the first child. I really want to know what the issue is...is it just the bride price??

Are your siblings girls or boys? Boys are much easier to manage than girls. I think try to have independent thinking when conversing with potential suitors. They want to know if you can differentiate between necessary and unnecessary responsibilities.

missimelda01:
So I get this awkward reaction when a man asks for my position in my family and I say I'm the first child. I really want to know what the issue is...is it just the bride price??

The men, are simply not men enough...... A real man should have the abilities, to control all family dynamics.........

Curiouscity:


I am married to a 1st girl, but second child. They initially appeared down to earth. But like play, like play, I trained the last 2 siblings through the University. At the moment, she is expecting me to help set up her married brothers in one business or the other. Everything always falls on my head. It comes with too many responsibilities and expectations.
It is very challenging thing!

why won't they be down to earth,if it was the opposite ur name for be gold digger

My 1 cent advice is.

If u are a broke nigga, avoid first Born like a plague.

U are warned ⚠️

missimelda01:
So I get this awkward reaction when a man asks for my position in my family and I say I'm the first child. I really want to know what the issue is...is it just the bride price??

I did a video on this on tiktok. Just search JOSEPHOCONNORS99 you will find the video

missimelda01:
I don't really buy the idea of housing relatives though, I like my space

Then, you are yet to morning right?

Not just if you are the first child but if the prospective husband is marrying a woman who is the first to get married out of all of her siblings, wahala don land.

He go become LinkedIn by force

That's what I am about to enter now she's the first daughter and first child of 6children, her mother s trader and her Dad a driver but you know sometimes them go dey disturb her for this and that...

Firstly I will give the mum 300k to add to her business and her Dad I will gift him a mini bus since he drives for someone and I will give them my reasons for empowering them because me I like to be plain with people I don't want a Case whereby everyday send this send that

The problem with girls of nowadays be say dem no wan calm down respect man wey dem dey date. Why will he marry you when all you do is puff up?


Tell the nigga see guy, i know say i be first daughter but make you no fear, my family wont be a liability to you whatsover and i wont begin to cause unnecessary family financial issues for you to bear, but in whatever way you can assist, no matter how small, it wont be taken for granted and i will always appreciate your efforts.


Him head go swell, and he will do the needful knowing that he is marrying a first daughter wey no lazy and then wey dey appreciative.

First daughter from a well to do homes na wahala,na ur house her siblings go dey spend their holiday,play play they will become permanent citizens,the solution is to establish ur wife or look for a job for her with the agreement to settle her family needs

missimelda01:
I don't really buy the idea of housing relatives though, I like my space

Not just housing your relatives but also catering for their needs. I have a friend who also got married to a first child in a family of 17 children, and she's just 23 years of age. And they're poor, just imagine the unending demands from them.

My guy got angry of the whole thing because they're always demanding from him. So he sent her to learn tailoring so wen she's done he will open her own shop for her, then she can be catering for her family needs.

So my dear that's the main issue o.

I'm single but the truth is she will put her biological family first before her own family, her siblings will turn your house to like I can come to my Sis at anytime even without prior notification. You will cater for them with out complain but let just one of your siblings come around you will see the hatred and bitterness.

I mean you will not have rest of mind

Sorry am just saying oo

MrBrownJay1:


stop hanging around immature insecure men... there is nothing wrong with you.

Did anybody said something is wrong with her?

GBÉSÉ BECAUSE YOU WILL TAKE CARE OF WHAT YOU DON'T THINK OF

Curiouscity:


I am married to a 1st girl, but second child. They initially appeared down to earth. But like play, like play, I trained the last 2 siblings through the University. At the moment, she is expecting me to help set up her married brothers in one business or the other. Everything always falls on my head. It comes with too many responsibilities and expectations.
It is very challenging thing!

Omoh oga you try oo, so what about your own siblings??

zebszebs:
If she is the first born and is Igbo?

My brother run o!!!

Hahahahahahahaha

Curiouscity:


I am married to a 1st girl, but second child. They initially appeared down to earth. But like play, like play, I trained the last 2 siblings through the University. At the moment, she is expecting me to help set up her married brothers in one business or the other. Everything always falls on my head. It comes with too many responsibilities and expectations.
It is very challenging thing!

I hope you are doing for your family as well…

Allisgud:
why won't they be down to earth,if it was the opposite ur name for be gold digger

Fact not sentiment.

poshestmina:
It all depends on the family background.
I feel most men are scared of the responsibilities that comes with being a first daughter if the family is all relying on the 1st daughters or son's...and in most cases of daughters,the responsibilities become their husband's.


My eldest sister has being happily married for close to 7 years now.
Not like we are very wealthy ,we just don't depend on each other,no entitlement whatsoever not even our parents!!!

Every body is hustling and only ask for helps when it's an emergency.

The only sibling we are still training in school is our last born and it's a joint task...and our parents, anything and anytime you have to send.

No pressure on anyone and any in_laws.

It all boils down to family backgrounds .

my family pattern too
God bless us..

Curiouscity:


I am married to a 1st girl, but second child. They initially appeared down to earth. But like play, like play, I trained the last 2 siblings through the University. At the moment, she is expecting me to help set up her married brothers in one business or the other. Everything always falls on my head. It comes with too many responsibilities and expectations.
It is very challenging thing!

So, would you advice men to follow suite?

missimelda01:
I don't really buy the idea of housing relatives though, I like my space

Including your little sister or brother?

If you like your space and privacy to the point of nit willing to take in your young siblings if need be, it makes you evil more dangerous. If you reject your own, you won't have any qualm rejecting those from your husband's side and you are going to hand over the same belief to the children making them toxic and unaccomodating.

The Benefits You Have In Serving God.

Apostle Joshua Selman.

Listen And Remain Blessed.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fYXyfOx_7Eg?si=rF4-hF5hJWPAua1S

I married first girl child my problem is that she sees me as one of her little siblings she will control and micro manage. That's is the greatest problem I am having in my marriage now. It have been war

blaise26abj:


Not really the bride price but the responsibility that comes with being a first child. His house might just be filled with all your siblings if care isn’t taken.

By implication, women should also ask the same question for the same reason. So they too do not marry a guy who already has multiple responsibilities

Two things Are involved:
1. They are used to giving order which means they can be vauthoritative.
2. They have lots of responsibilities on their shoulders.

Mine is not just the first ,but the overall first child












And only girl ..


And we doing real great

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stop hanging around immature insecure men... there is nothing wrong with you.
U that is mature why not go after her
Mumu looking for validation
Woman wrapper

Curiouscity:


Sadly, this thread is not about me and my marriage challenges. But, my partner has a wrong view about money and responsibilities. She is yet to understand what family mean, or where her focus should be.

She works, but she expects me to run the house, and still take care of her extended family members.

Omo leave her ooo, for your own sanity!, her focus should be her immediate family once married!, finally when you wreck same family will bad mouth you and dump you, use your number 6!