ABCthings:
1) Avoid anything that will trigger it.
2) Pray, pray, pray and keep praying till eternity.
If all fail, This last one cannot
3)Anytime you commit, confess it during the Sunday service to the Church

For me, I prefer the shortcut to simply "confess it during the Sunday service to the Church" and then I do it again and again and again. Thank God the finished work of our Lord Jesus has given us a license to sin.

Thank you.

whirlwind7:


Hehehehehe.

Negative energy? Me?
Says someone who put his dick in check for nearly a year, yet feels he's addicted to sex
Your problem isn't addiction; you're delusional.

If you think my comment will help build your resolve to be a better person, then I'm glad it helped.
As for sympathizing on your imaginary addiction, no dice from me.
In my late teens and early twenties, there are days I had sex twice daily. Nowadays, I can do thrice a week....and it has in no way interfered with my physical, emotional or spiritual wellbeing.

Perhaps you evolved from a lineage of low libidinous hombres, and having sex once in a month is considered an addiction among you
Which could be the reason you went 10 months without, and still believe yourself addicted to sex.

Take a back seat, man!

Let me add this: You don't fight such "addiction" by deciding to be celibate. Not saying you have an addiction, but for the purpose of this baseless thread, let's agree that you're an addict (at least that concession would make you happy )

An addict, apart from going for counseling, is not expected to become celibate. It is not like a substance addiction which is destructive. Sex is beneficial and even healthful for matured folks.
A sex addict is still expected to have a measured, planned sex life. Practicing abstinence isn't the logical route to counter it. No sire.

Anyhow, its good to fuel your imagination. A sex addict is what you are aspiring to become in 2020

Roadtorecovery:
Thank you.

You're welcome, oga sex addict

if you are having regular sex with one person (say your wife) cannot be considered an addiction, the annoying part of it is visiting prostitutes etc...again turn fully to God, settle down with your woman and over time you will calm down it is just being hyper active because you have a high libido like most of us, i like having a good bang at least twice or more in a week and if i do not visit the other room in a week or two my wife will start thinking negatively...it is a phase it will pass, there was a time i drank beer daily and always look forward to the chilling taste of cold beer everyday at times as early as 6 am! but now it is all in the past glory to God..so take a chill pill bro you are normal..but my advice give your life to Christ, marry your woman and with time it will go.

Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.

Me too have been in to this kind thing before and I prayed to GOD and HE answer my prayer, pray to GOD, HE will answer your prayer too, and make sure you are always with the people who have much fear of GOD in there Heart

No Therapy will heal you of sex addiction.

You made a very strong point: you said you have lost touch with God..... Brother I stand to say with all conviction and my experience. ONLY GOD CAN FREE YOU. you must return to God.

The sex drive is normal BUT it must be channelled in the right way, which is in marriage.

God put the drive there and Him alone can control it.

I would not want speak much here. You can contact me via whatsapp on this number (08069079336) so I can share my experience with you and it will work for you.

Roadtorecovery:
I am very serious with her and she is very open and ready to help. I just want to do the right thing before this ruins me permanently.

What are the things that makes you go after other women? Has she gotten those things?

soberdrunk:
Any man that can stay "10 months" without sex isn't a "sex addict". I don't know why some people just like to create imaginary problems for themselves, you are healthy brah, all you have to do is channel that sexual energy to your lady and a few side chics(if you are a variety man) or stay loyal to only your lady and your palms, you will reach a certain age and slow down naturally. Stop looking for what isn't missing, every "normal" man wakes up with erection every single day......

Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.

Prayer! Prayer!! Prayer!!! Is the answer. The target is your destiny in life. Some of these prostitutes might be agents of darkness.
And please the kind of prayer that you need is that in which you will develop an attitude of talking to God always about this situation.
It's going to be a battle. Don't just expect it to go away easily but if you are determined, you will come out victorious.

First stay away from any food that can increase your hurge, later give your life to Christ and start reading bible, be praying too. Ask for holy spirits, May God deliver u

What is happening to you is in your mentality.
John 8:36 says If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.
Firstly, you need to truly believe that Jesus has taken your sins and addiction away, when you do this, start studying and meditating in the word of God always.
Let your mind be occupied with the word of God and with praise and worship songs( likes of Sinach, Nathaniel Bassey and good Christian songs).
Know that you're the Righteousness of God.

Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.

I think you have started well by admitting you have an issue that needs to be taken care of. Secondly, you have recognized the place of God in this. So, prayerfully you can ask for grace to over the temptation with your self determination. More importantly don't expose yourself to situations or relationships that will make you readily go back. With God all things are possible. You already have wonderful support system in those you enumerated. God will see you through.

Just read 1 Corinthians 6, the chapter will open your eyes to what sex actually is, and will give you meaning why you should not look beyound one partner. It really helped me, am sure it will do same to you too. Particulaly Message Bible translation version of it.

Stay strong bro, you shall overcome it

Have faith in Jesus brother; Fear Him! Love Him! He'll set you free. But we've got to WANT to be really free. No amount of psychological gimmicks or religious pep talks can totally change anyone; it will be just superficial or unreal. If we do not Love, Fear and Obey Jesus, then we'll be bound to commit Sins. Let's deal with our hearts first before Jesus; it's what's in the heart that comes forth. Repentance should be total not just halfway. By God's grace, I can testify that the love and fear of Jesus has set me free from sexual immoralities of the Old; and it's been about 10 years now. Temptation or not; urge or no urge, it doesn't bother me because I've changed my interest. Never had a girlfriend because I'm more interested in being like Christ. I don't let them occupy my mind anymore; I consider it as Rubbish! That is the price, and the bible calls it the Narrow way that leads to Life. If we aren't willing to take that, then we'll continue in circles of church traditions, psychological gimmicks, self-deception and secret pet sins.

Matthew 11:28-30 KJV
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. [29] Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. [30] For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
Matthew 7:24,26 KJV
Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock: [26] And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand:
May Jesus Give You Light.

Goldenheart:
. Besides, the absence of desire leaves one free to pursue other things.

- Lord Varys


My advice.. Freeze your sperm and snip your balls...

But the absence of desire, is desire it self!!

Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.

My brother, what u need first is to accept Jesus as your Lord and savior. He will deliver you from the power of sin. You can never win the battle all by your struggle. Now listen, I am talking from the point of experience cos I have been in this position. Your heart is like a hard drive and u have stored in it sexual imaginations, pictures etc. The only way u can clean a hard drive is by formatting and installing new information. Now when u genuinely give your life to Christ, the Holy Spirit will do the formatting for you. Your own work will now be stuffing your mind with the word of God. This will be a deliberate action and a decision u have to make up ur mind to take. As u study continually, God's word will be purifying u and clear ur mind of old stuff. Note that it may not happen at once, along the line u may still fall into sin but the word of God in u will make u feel more remorse than u used to which will begin to make u hate the act. John 17;17 says; Sanctify them by your truth, Your word is truth. Now u see, it is only the word of God that can bring sanctification and purity in the life of a man. It is not by ur self effort. Prayer will also help you to be spiritually conscious of ur new position in Christ but it is only the word of God that can get ur heart cleaned from the old stuff. I will remember u in Prayers by God's grace. Regards

Thanks for the practical illustration used. It made a lot of sense and I can relate.

emmayoc:
My brother, what u need first is to accept Jesus as your Lord and savior. He will deliver you from the power of sin. You can never win the battle all by your struggle. Now listen, I am talking from the point of experience cos I have been in this position. Your heart is like a hard drive and u have stored in it sexual imaginations, pictures etc. The only way u can clean a hard drive is by formatting and installing new information. Now when u genuinely give your life to Christ, the Holy Spirit will do the formatting for you. Your own work will now be stuffing your mind with the word of God. This will be a deliberate action and a decision u have to make up ur mind to take. As u study continually, God's word will be purifying u and clear ur mind of old stuff. Note that it may not happen at once, along the line u may still fall into sin but the word of God in u will make u feel more remorse than u used to which will begin to make u hate the act. John 17;17 says; Sanctify them by your truth, Your word is truth. Now u see, it is only the word of God that can bring sanctification and purity in the life of a man. It is not by ur self effort. Prayer will also help you to be spiritually conscious of ur new position in Christ but it is only the word of God that can get ur heart cleaned from the old stuff. I will remember u in Prayers by God's grace. Regards

Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.

no mind my English ooo

My guy you're not alone, no mind this boys wey de rant for here according to my Guy 2pac " they never see your struggle, they only see your troubles"......it all begins and end in the MIND...your mind is what you can use to fight against anything in your life......., I understand you're trying not to go against GOD and what you believe but to abstain from sex for 10 months isn't the solution...

let me give you how I started to overcome sexual addiction in my life......

You must understand that there is a difference between TRUTH and REALITY.. The Truth is that anything related to sex outside marriage is wrong while REALITY is that we can't avoid them but we can only try to control them....

1) Remember prayer is the key to heaven but faith unlock the door..

2) Make up your mind about what you want.

3) Start avoiding porn....(once in awhile visit them my guy )

4) Have sex every 2 days, from there you can start growing.....don't just go on a long break from sex but remember it foundation have sex once a week......

Just know I believe in you and I know you can overcome it too

wiseone28:
And 14 Feb will take me 5years without entering the hole

do u play game

It's normal to feel awful when you relapse. The trick I always use to help with any addiction or bad habit: once you realise you have fallen back into bad habits. Just quickly start doing the good habit again irrespective of how you feel about betraying your plan.

Your positive actions should always be independent of how you think negatively about yourself. Action is what gets things done. Is what helps you develop new habit. Not your self-pity. Remember those days when although you know having sex was going to mess up your plan. But you did it anyway. You acted against your feelings which re-enforces your bad habit.

Use the same technique for good habit. No matter how you feel about yourself and how stupid and dump you are. Always act contrary to your feelings. They produce the good habit you want.

lekonso:
Give your life to Jesus Christ and be going to church regularly listening to the word of God, become a worker in the house of God. Then make a covenant with God that anytime you are involved with a prostitute again in your life God should kill you on top of her. You have power to control your body, except you are not using that power.

hahaha....prostitutes are women(some else so called girlfriends and wives who receive money from u to give u sex in return)

Which one is die on top of her.

Channel your time and energy to other productive activities... and your love for sex will die gradually... till you activate it in marriage


It all boils down to self discipline and your total reliance and submission to God to help you live a holy life.

proff010:
Am married for 11 years now dated for 9 years altogether 20 years and I have. Sex 3 times a week, even more at time and am enjoying myself. Will u call that addition no its just how my natural body is.

the world will want to make u look like dem

I really do understand you because I have been there my very self. Send me a private chat with your number lets talk. Many will not understand because it is deeper than one thinks.

Nooil:


Were you disvirgined by a prostitute?

Yes

Brother you don't know what your addiction is. You are not addicted to sex, your problem is that one woman cannot satisfy you. Over time, your brain has been hardwired to crave for a variety of women and now you are unable to control the feeling and you are not truly able to connect with any one individual in a spiritual level so to speak. My guy, many men and women share your problem. You are not alone! I agree with one of the earlier comments on this thread, that your girlfriend has a major role to play here. Most importantly, you need to visit a true psychologist who knows their stuff. Resetting the brain is no easy task.Although, the commitment that comes with marriage can do the trick as experience has shown, you still need professional help. You must remain determined though, because promiscuity is actually no harmless fun.

Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

This is my very first time of ever posting on this section. I actually don't visit it. But your post appeared on FP. I will go the spiritual dimension because that is where it lies, no matter how much people tell you to unlearn thebhabit naturally.

Listen to Derek Prince messages. A good place to start is here:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x0rUaQneH9E
(A good message to help you understand what you are dealing with)


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fe6wRXZYxVk
(A powerful prayer session)

Don't be scared if you start manifesting some stuff while praying. You must be sincere and the FIRST step in all of this is handing your life back to Jesus. He ALONE can save.

Roadtorecovery:
I have tried many times but failed.
I know a lot of things I can do. But I am still open to learning. May be to ensure that I don't relapse again.

I like the fact that you see and recognize the need for God in your life. The problem is half solved when there is that pull at least towards God despite the other pull towards the addiction. One practical approach you can take is this...
Go to a bible believing Church (I attend Dunamis and I will ask you to find a Dunamis Church), but there are many others. Make sure you attend all services and mid week services that do not clash with your work. Immediately join foundation classes (as we call it in Dunamis), other Churches like living faith also have WOFBI and so on. Proceed from there to the maturity classed, attend all Home cells (or home fellowship), lastly join a Unit in Church (personally i'd advice not to join the choir.. lol). These will help you greatly and with prayer, fasting and determination, that addiction will die even before you get to half of the processes above. It will be even more helpful if both you and your girlfriend can go this journey together.
The Lord is your strength brotherly!

Stop self guilt and pity first and see yourself as one that can never be plucked off the Father's (God) hand . Watch what you feed on ( media like erotic movies/ porn , lifestyle like alcohol/clubbing et Al, associates and finally be more focused on ur spiritual growth. ) . Avoid staying idle by all means .

My 1kobo counsel

Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.

Oga, go and marry. Sex go tire you when you kip seen pussy everyday, and you get responsibilities to take care off. By the time you are thinking of how to pay over 300k as school fees for one of your children, and take your family on vacations abroad. That your prick go get sense and stop controling you.

All am saying is that, more responsibility humble sexual desires.

According to what you said, you have a good job and a girl you proposed marriage then marry her channel your sex energy to her, secondly Invite a devoted/matured man of God to pray for you and your wife if possible create a house fellowship in your apartment that will draw you more closer to God.