"I DON'T WANT A HUSBAND THAT NOBODY ELSE WANTS!"

By Edosa Edobor

I came across the above statement sometime in 2015 - "I don't want a husband that nobody else wants!" - and it reminded me of a similar statement by another lady - "I want to get married to a man who will not cheat on me, not because he loves me but because he loves God."


Our dreams and desires help us to set standards for ourselves and to carefully select those we allow into our lives and personal space. They also help the people in our lives to set standards for themselves or to live up to our standards.


The statement challenges spouses, both male and female, to resist the temptation of becoming laidback after getting married, but to always be on their toes way beyond the days of courtship, honeymoon, as well as the early days and years of married life.


An interesting angle to this challenge is that while we strive to take up the challenge of being "want-able", desirable, relevant or significant at every point in our marital lives, we must also remember that despite our sustained relevance and desirability (or wantability), no one else should be allowed to encroach on our marital space by crossing marital boundaries - the exclusive rights and privileges of our spouses must be preserved and protected from any external party, no matter how much they admire,
adore or desire us! The sanctity of marriage must be preserved.


While I must also state the importance of the clause in the popular marital vows "...in all conditions of life", or "...for richer or poorer; in sickness and in health...", we still have to resist the temptation of becoming laid back, slack in our duties or allow ourselves go. Instead, we should make it easy for our spouses to keep to the marital vows by challenging ourselves to, first of all, be good human beings, and then better men, women, companions, husbands and wives, not just in our physical looks or financial portfolio, but also intellectually, spiritually, socially, in our duties and responsibilities to each other as well as in other vital areas of life.

To an ever increasing blissful married life!


#RevEdosa



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