ngozi20:
My cousin came to the US and I introduced him to my friend. They really had a good connection and my friend really fell for my cousin. He asked her to marry him and the girl got pregnant. The issue at hand is that the man is already married. I know that my friend asked him if he was married, he put his hand on the Quran and told her that he was divorced. My cousin also promised to show her the divorce papers when he returned home. My cousin can have up to four wives according to his religion but the girl (non Muslim) does not believe in polygamy and was very firm with my cousin. My cousin deceived the girl and she eventually found out that he was married with a newly born baby. My cousin told the girl that he lied because he didn't want to lose her. Long story short... the girl ended the relationship, contacted the embassy and terminated the pregnancy. The guy lost the girl, lost his 10 year visa and lost his unborn child. Do you think the girl overreacted? Am no longer friends with the girl because of her disgusting behavior by contacting the embassy. I believe that she should have just moved on and not ruined his life. Do you think her behavior was too extreme? I now she is hurt but why do this to him? Is there anyway he get his visa back?

thorpido:
Unfortunately,when people are hurt,you don't know the extent to which they can go to express their anger and sometimes seek revenge.
Your cousin SHOULD never have lied.
About getting his visa back,I doubt.

tyup:
Thanks, but I don't see it happening because she thinks I helped my cousin to try to scam her for papers.

sorry to say this but ur ...... for breaking ur relationship with someone who might/ would have still been of a great help to you for a looser. you should even be glad she ain't shot him dead yet like I would have done to him if it were my sister

and No she didn't over react your cousin or whatever he's called isn't fit to stay amongst sane humans cause he's a cheat, liar and a pest infact a bleeping fraudster fugitive and so he should either rot in jail or get deported back and his passport sized for 20years minimum

my optional advice (if u like take it) for you is go repair the broken relationship with that woman, apologize to her and seal up good terms with her and not a looser as ur cousin

tyup:


sorry to say this but ur ...... for breaking ur relationship with someone who might/ would have still been of a great help to you for a looser. you should even be glad she ain't shot him dead yet like I would have done to him if it were my sister

and No she didn't over react your cousin or whatever he's called isn't fit to stay amongst sane humans cause he's a cheat, liar and a pest infact a bleeping fraudster fugitive and so he should either rot in jail or get deported back and his passport sized for 20years minimum

my optional advice (if u like take it) for you is go repair the broken relationship with that woman, apologize to her and seal up good terms with her and not a looser as ur cousin

tyup:


the cousin is an example of a person who gives this country a bad reputation worldwide. now she wouldn't want to have an encounter with a Nigerian anymore and any slight opportunity to devalue Nigerians she'll gladly do/take it

and the mentally slowpoked niece to instead of apologizing on the cousin's behalf, making sure they still have a good rapol together and ensuring the lady is okay, and still have the grace to have access to the baby after the baby is born. the mumu went to fight with her coz she overreacted. why won't she overreact

ngozi20:
She terminated the pregnancy.

tyup:


you shouldn't have broken the relationship with her at all even if she believe you did. if I were the one I'll rather keep visiting her, making sure she sees I'm not at fault at least if you continue visiting her, pleading to her/ giving her reasons to see why ur not an accomplice one day she'll definitely forgive you

but I must be frank with you ma'm you've really not done well at all. from the look of things the lady happen to be a good woman who is not someone to loose talking/ relating relationship with. she might definitely be of help one day if she sees ur a good woman

and to tell you the truth she didn't over reacted as long as ur cousin isn't in jail as we speak

tyup:


I'm sorry for the big words I used earlier don't mind me was just emotional how atimes Nigerians take advantage of white guys trust

I have some white ladies I tried to console on what's app about 3 of them sharing to me how Nigerian guys treated and left them all coz of papers. but the big question is why would you allow ur cousin to do such? ehn after you know how the people you live with relate/ behave when it comes to relationships

but my candid advice is you try in every possible way repair the broken relationship with the lady at least if ur going over to her place steadily she'll have no choice but to forgive you or anyone buy her gifts it'll really go a long way

ngozi20:
He's back home now but he is very angry with the girl for reporting him. Unfortunately, he doesn't think he is wrong because he is allowed to have 4 wives. I did explain to him that polygamy is illegal in this country but he thought that he could eventually change her mind. In regards to her helping me, you're correct. She has helped me in the past. I I just don't know what to say at this point because she's very devastated and I know she also dislikes me and will never trust me again for not telling her that he was married.

ngozi20:
No wahala and thank you. I understand your concern. I don't know why/how I allowed this to happen. I knew he wanted papers but we have friends in common that say I should dtay away because she won't stop crying. I don't want to disturb her.

tyup:


she's devastated that's definitely sure and yes she'll want to vent the anger on you don't be discouraged. she has helped you bfr she'll do it again which I'm 100% sure

best thing to do now is if you know some of her friends visit them, explain in details and be emotional so they'll feel for you and know ur not at fault, let them follow you to her house let some words follow and a constant visit if she doesn't agree 1st to the 5th time she'll definitely forgive you bfr the 100th time coz she'll see n know how serious you are

I'm very serious and I know the reason why I'm asking you to repair the broken relationship with her it's very important coz ur a foreigner there and it's worst to start keeping enemies with those hosting you. do this and thank me later

MrBrownJay1:
he got exactly what he deserve for his attempt in deceiving this babe who was quite direct about what she wanted or not!
the minute the babe said she was not down for polygamy OR dating a married man, that man should have bow down and left her alone.

then this man has the AUDACITY to be mad at the babe for doing whats RIGHT?!

this is the direct result of his OWN ACTIONS. let him solely blame himself!

ngozi20:
Thanks, but he was desperate to get his papers.

ngozi20:
Thanks, but he was desperate to get his papers.

ngozi20:
Ok. I will try to find away to repair this relationship. I didn't mention this earlier but she gave my cousin a large amount of money when he was returning home. He didn't ask her for it, she just wanted him to be comfortable back home until he returned to her. Maybe I will try to pay back the money to her. Thanks for the advice.

ngozi20:
My cousin.....
Am no longer friends with the girl because of her disgusting behavior by contacting the embassy.

ngozi20:
My cousin came to the US and I introduced him to my friend. They really had a good connection and my friend really fell for my cousin. He asked her to marry him and the girl got pregnant. The issue at hand is that the man is already married. I know that my friend asked him if he was married, he put his hand on the Quran and told her that he was divorced. My cousin also promised to show her the divorce papers when he returned home. My cousin can have up to four wives according to his religion but the girl (non Muslim) does not believe in polygamy and was very firm with my cousin. My cousin deceived the girl and she eventually found out that he was married with a newly born baby. My cousin told the girl that he lied because he didn't want to lose her. Long story short... the girl ended the relationship, contacted the embassy and terminated the pregnancy. The guy lost the girl, lost his 10 year visa and lost his unborn child. Do you think the girl overreacted? Am no longer friends with the girl because of her disgusting behavior by contacting the embassy. I believe that she should have just moved on and not ruined his life. Do you think her behavior was too extreme? I now she is hurt but why do this to him? Is there anyway he get his visa back?

ngozi20:
My cousin came to the US and I introduced him to my friend. They really had a good connection and my friend really fell for my cousin. He asked her to marry him and the girl got pregnant. The issue at hand is that the man is already married. I know that my friend asked him if he was married, he put his hand on the Quran and told her that he was divorced. My cousin also promised to show her the divorce papers when he returned home. My cousin can have up to four wives according to his religion but the girl (non Muslim) does not believe in polygamy and was very firm with my cousin. My cousin deceived the girl and she eventually found out that he was married with a newly born baby. My cousin told the girl that he lied because he didn't want to lose her. Long story short... the girl ended the relationship, contacted the embassy and terminated the pregnancy. The guy lost the girl, lost his 10 year visa and lost his unborn child. Do you think the girl overreacted? Am no longer friends with the girl because of her disgusting behavior by contacting the embassy. I believe that she should have just moved on and not ruined his life. Do you think her behavior was too extreme? I now she is hurt but why do this to him? Is there anyway he get his visa back?