Exodora:
Why should he impregnant her if he has no intention of marrying her.Who will now marry baggage/second material, you?

ScotMisile:

What to do bruv? funny enough I don't really love her, but she set it all up despite all I told her about my relationship with my love... Now, I just pity the child because I won't commit abortion, never... That I ddn't commit abortion doesn't mean I must marry who set me up... For the child I have taken responsibility... Am employing a baby sitter soon.... Seen a very good school for him in lekki.... What to do bruv a man is got to be a man... But, I don't joke with my marriage... Never

vincentjk:


In most cases nothing like "come I want to marry you"

They're just two people who are deceiving themselves on loving one another just to have sex and get intimate. They both enjoyed the sex so why forcing the pregnancy of the dude when it wasn't rape??

wirinet:

Men don't go around having sèx with women with the intention of impregnating them. Most just want to have sèx. The unwanted pregnancy is usually a consequence of carelessness by both parties.


First it depends on culture. Many cultures in southern Nigeria like the Yorubas and many Niger delta tribes don't have illegitimate children. Once it can be proven that a man fathers a child, the child is accorded some rights as a son/ daughter. It's the igbos that the legitimate/illegitimate child dichotomy is practiced.
Besides, inheritance rights is only valid if the man dies interstate, whereby inheritance is subject to customary law. If the man writes a will, then he can will his properties to anyone he likes.


Not practicable. Men are marrying later because of financial stability. You want a man to remain virgin until his late 30's or even 40's, when his hormones starts fighting with him from his teens? The man physiology is not built that way.


Whether marriage or not abortion will still take place. I have many gynecologists as friends, and they tell me that married couples carry out as much abortions than single ladies, especially the rich ones. Many married couples don't want to have more children and see abortions as the last resort of preventing unwanted babies.
Abortion laws just like the bigamy laws are unenforceable. It is impractical for police to be policing private hospitals and other places to arrest doctors, women and nurses carrying out abortions.

lovchalice:
well in my case it was someone that have been disturbing me for friendship and when I turned him down, he proposed marriage. When pregnancy set in stories started. Tell me, can he go Scot free

lovchalice:
well in my case it was someone that have been disturbing me for friendship and when I turned him down, he proposed marriage. When pregnancy set in stories started. Tell me, can he go Scot free

lovchalice:
well in my case it was someone that have been disturbing me for friendship and when I turned him down, he proposed marriage. When pregnancy set in stories started. Tell me, can he go Scot free

MedicH:


The garbage collector go come marry am.

lovchalice:
well in my case it was someone that have been disturbing me for friendship and when I turned him down, he proposed marriage. When pregnancy set in stories started. Tell me, can he go Scot free

wirinet:

He disturbed you for friendship and you turned him down, only to open your legs for him once he mentioned marriage.

My sister, there is a sequence leading to marriage. First you must like each other, then love each other, then engagement to involve the 2 families and then finally marriage. You may decide to have sex pre or post marriage, but sex should never be a condition for marriage. So you can't have sex with someone you are dating. It's my fault that I trusted someone that's above 50 right. I wonder how you people find it so easy to judge. If you were in my shoes you would have done better right. Mtcheew

He can definitely go scot free, as he only has responsibility for the baby if you decide to born it. You should even be glad he did not marry by force, as he definitely was never in love with you. He would have made your life a living hell.

wirinet:

He disturbed you for friendship and you turned him down, only to open your legs for him once he mentioned marriage.

My sister, there is a sequence leading to marriage. First you must like each other, then love each other, then engagement to involve the 2 families and then finally marriage. You may decide to have sex pre or post marriage, but sex should never be a condition for marriage. So you can't have sex with someone you are dating. It's my fault that I trusted someone that's above 50 right. I wonder how you people find it so easy to judge. If you were in my shoes you would have done better right. Mtcheew

He can definitely go scot free, as he only has responsibility for the baby if you decide to born it. You should even be glad he did not marry by force, as he definitely was never in love with you. He would have made your life a living hell.

vincentjk:


Some guy really got you pregnant and wanted denying it?? So sad.

Hope you kept the baby btw, if you did how's he/she?

Jeferious:
So you gave in because he proposed marriage? Nna mehn. Wetin dey inside this marriage thing wey dey shack women sef?

People are different shaa. Personally, I'm not sure I can shake hands with someone of your mentality, let alone you seeing my nudity.

lovchalice:
still pregnant but we are doing fine. Decided not to involve him.

vincentjk:


It's fine, be strong for all will be well

Are you able to fully care for yourself and the coming baby btw?

lovchalice:
really, we dated for three months before having sex. And my dear you are not better than me in anyway. Before I dated him I've been celibate for 6yrs. Wonder how many girls can boast of that. Besides I'm not complaining, I'm only saying he won't go unpunished. For me I'm happy and eagerly expecting. And I've made sure not to ask him for anything cos he will never be a father to my child. He is not qualified to

lovchalice:
really, we dated for three months before having sex. And my dear you are not better than me in anyway. Before I dated him I've been celibate for 6yrs. Wonder how many girls can boast of that. Besides I'm not complaining, I'm only saying he won't go unpunished. For me I'm happy and eagerly expecting. And I've made sure not to ask him for anything cos he will never be a father to my child. He is not qualified to

Jeferious:
so how do you intend to punish him, if I may ask?

lovchalice:
I'm not going to do Karma's work. I've moved on

Ivebeenbanned:

Please, stop talking like an illiterate. Reply threads with sense. I'm concerned for you. How exactly are women sim cards? How?
If you had a one night stand with a girl, and got her pregnant unintentionally, so you'll marry her? Or you think she would want to marry someone she doesn't know? We should focus more on not shaming pregnant, single women and always expecting a husband because she "carry belle". Don't marry someone you don't love, no matter what. Men on this forum be acting like they don't have a brain.

Gordonz07:
what is this one saying

Ivebeenbanned:

Proved my point.
If you had a brain, you'd understand.