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Re: How My Sexuality Is Depressing Me by Sadteen: 6:01pm On Jun 18, 2020
machi25:
If truly your claim of being a Christian is true,then you should know that homosexuality is a sin and demonic.you would agree with me that d only solution u have is 2 open up 2 ur parents so that they can take you 2 a Godly church for SERIOUS DELIVERANCE that's d only way out..after which you should improve your relationship with God and be dedicated to rendering services to God in ur church u can jOin prayer warriors,choir and cleaners just keep urself busy and genuinely involved with God..he will heal you completely and u will become a survivor
Thanks dear but I have tried this before (except opening up to my parents) and it affected my mental health. I have gone for deliverances two times already and I am never going back!

The third one I was supposed to attend, I canceled and cried my way back home because the pastor preached vehemently against homosexuality and homosexual that made me feel like a worthless disgusting sick perverted loser. I came for help but it seemed as though God and the pastor had conspired to make to feel worthless and ashamed for bringing homosexuality upon myself which of course I know I didn't chose to bring upon myself.

I cried my way home and swore never to step either of my foot in a deliverance church again. I still cry when I remember that day. I was emotionally battered! My suicidal tendencies hiked up after that incident!!
Re: How My Sexuality Is Depressing Me by Sadteen: 6:20pm On Jun 18, 2020
bluefilm:
The evil gay spirit will surely leave you alone at once if I give you a collection of my Ebony porn library.

If you are really 14, then I must say you are really a genius because your English grammar is superb.

Although, I seriously and strongly doubt that.

On a final note, your sexuality is what you just have to live with.

I doubt if you can actually change it or wish it away.

My advice for you is to accept yourself as a gay.

And then try as much as possible to remain in the closet... most especially if you domiciled in Naija full time!

Because you won't like the homophobic backlash you will definitely receive should you try to 'come out' for sure!

Ndo.


Haha. Thanks. Truth is, I am tired of trying to change. I feel like if I channel the energy I'm using in trying to change into something else, I'll be the most successful person at that thing.

I was an early reader. My mom said I started reading at 2, my KG teacher said 3. Which ever one it is I just know that writing and reading comes very easily to me. I read anything I get my hands on; newspapers(cover to cover), novels(all kinds), journals, magazines. I watch the news with my parents, I listen to my parents discuss and argue about the news, and everything else and I ask questions. I go to a very good school, One of the best in Nigeria. I have met kids my age that my intellect doesn't hold a candle to theirs. One of them, my junior by one year was on TV some weeks ago for his innovation. So there's nothing spectacular about my writing for a kid my age. Its not something that should be celebrated.
Re: How My Sexuality Is Depressing Me by Nobody: 9:21pm On Jun 18, 2020
Sadteen:
Hello guys,

I just joined this forum to let this out my chest and seek help (just in case there's any possibility of finding one here). I am going through what I don't like to call (but I have to anyways) the darkest days of my life yet. I am going through severe depression. I am overburdened and overwhelmed by the human I have become

I'm a 14 years old, male, and I am attracted to the same sex. I found out about my attraction to the same sex when I was 6 after I grew very fond of one of my classmates that it went beyond what I knew everyone would call a bromantic relationship. It was confusing for me at that very young age to be experiencing that kind of feeling because I knew it wasn't morally or ethically right. I assumed my feeling an attraction for the same sex was one I would outgrow, so I didn't take it very seriously until I became a teenager and watched it surge.

I find that my attractions to the same sex is getting stronger like a raging storm. I have been to many church programs with hopes that my illness gets cured. Needless to say I always come back disappointed. This has left me feeling forsaken and too filthy to be redeemed

I am nothing but an outlier among my peers. Most of them have hit and are hitting puberty and are always talking about the opposite sex or fantasizing out loud about them while I am constantly feeling like the odd one. I'm constantly being called a Jew at school because I don't know how to woo girls nor am I seen rolling with them.

For the first time since forever, my grades have started suffering. I'm no longer interested in the things I used to be interested in. It seems the older I become, the more depressed I get. My parents think I am being rebellious and wicked failing at school because they know my IQ is at genius range. To them, I don't have any excuse to do poorly at school. But they don't understand the pain I endure being what I am. I cry myself to sleep most nights because I feel like a mistake, a filth, an abomination, a curse in human manifestation.

I am feeling suicidal but I can't leave my parents alone in this world; I am the only child. My mum waited 7 years before she had me due to infertility related issues. I was the miracle baby.
It is sad to see this is how I repay my parents. They have been my greatest supporters. I love them very much but I am losing my mind.

My faith is being shaken. I have asking God questions but I feel all alone, forlorn and abandon and left to carry this burden on my own. I had a normal childhood. I'm from a typical Nigerian home where morals and values of the bible are taught from childhood. I have been a devout Christian but my faith is trembling

And I have never being sexually abused at a young age. I don't attend an all boys school either nor have I ever attended one in the past. I was lucky to have a pretty normal childhood.

I just want to be like everyone else. I want to be like my friends. I want to be normal.

If there is anyone out there within or outside of space and time who's capable of rendering a helping hand or a shoulder to cry on please come to my aid right away.


Go visit ashawo house before you conclude you are gay.
Re: How My Sexuality Is Depressing Me by Nobody: 9:25pm On Jun 18, 2020
Sadteen:

I'm used to people doubting my age when they find out about my intellectual ability so it doesn't come as a surprise to me anymore. It is even adds to my depression when I am not understood or treated differently.

My teachers hate me -- not all though, I don't have many friends because everyone thinks I am arrogant which I know I am not. In school apart from being called a Jew, I am also known as the ITK boy. I learned a long time ago that people hate it when they think someone is insulting their intelligence, even when the person they think is insulting their intelligence is unknowingly doing it. No one likes to be reminded that they are less intelligent than others.

I can't help it but my intellectual prowess is congenital. I spoke my first words at 6 months, I started making complex sentences at 2 and started reading at 3. At 6 I was reading my mum and dads Stephen King, James Patterson, Agatha Christie etc. Even though I was warned not to read them, I'd sneak into their room to lift them off the shelf.

I was doing very well in primary school that my teachers asked my parents to promote me to a senior class. My mum suggested I got my IQ tested and on the two test I took I scored 168 and 175 respectively. My parents didn't tell me about my scores until last year. The school psychologist warned them not to tell me at the time I got tested. My parents just wanted me to to have a normal childhood but I went to a traditional primary school which I found extremely easy. School was dragging me back. I used to be called into senior classes to solve tough math problems. My parents are both gifted so its no surprise to me why I am like this

My mum and dad's friends love having me around because they believe I am well read above my age. They like to call me precocious. My friends don't understand me, I have to dumb myself down to be understood by my friends, relatives and teachers. I could write a book on how isolated and depressed I feel not because of my sexuality but my intelligence however I have put that on the back burner for now and am now focused on dealing with my sexuality.

I have also been asked which university I got my degree from several times both on and offline when I make contributions to topics most kids my age know nothing about...but I am just in SS3.





You took an IQ test in Nigeria?
Which IQ tests give scores above 160?
What standard deviation was used?
Re: How My Sexuality Is Depressing Me by Sadteen: 11:45pm On Jun 18, 2020
Squillaci:

You took an IQ test in Nigeria?
Which IQ tests give scores above 160?
What standard deviation was used?
It wasn't in Nigeria. I did study for a bit in the UK. The school psychologist administered the test. It was a Stanford Binet test. SD was 15. Mean was 100. I don't think that has changed as of now
Re: How My Sexuality Is Depressing Me by Nostradamus: 8:39am On Oct 30, 2020
Sadteen:

it's on my bucket list. I'll try this. Hoping it will reset me to heterosexual!!
if it doesn't change after the first attempt,keep doing it.

I have a feeling that several intercourse with a lady can re-condition an homosexual back to normality(my belief)
Re: How My Sexuality Is Depressing Me by Nobody: 2:07pm On Oct 31, 2020
you cannot know your sexual orientation at 14!!.

calm down and wait till 21/22 and you cannot put a tag on your sexual orientation.

many young people experiment with homosexuality without being homosexuals. Actual homosexuals/effeminate men/masculine women remain a minority group.

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